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Untapped Confidence
Untapped Confidence is a podcast for high-achieving women who want more than just surface-level self-improvement; they want to feel powerfully secure in who they are, no matter the situation.
Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression not by waiting for confidence to appear, but by building it with intention from the inside out.
Each episode explores what’s really going on beneath the surface when your confidence shrinks and offers science-based tools to help you let go of pressure, self-doubt, and performative patterns.
Authentic confidence isn’t one-size-fits-all. It isn’t about becoming louder, tougher, or more polished. It’s about becoming more you, feeling at home in yourself, and learning how to live, lead, and simply be from that place.
If you’re ready to reclaim your voice, your presence, and a deep sense of peace - this space is for you.
Untapped Confidence
63: Your Relationship Blueprint - How Your Past Shapes Love And How to Heal It | Adam Hudson
In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the concept of relationship blueprints, the subconscious patterns that shape how we connect, love, argue, and attach.
Together with guest Adam Hudson, we explore the anxious-avoidant trap, what drives hyper-independence, how to identify your own blueprint, and the exact tools you need to rewire old emotional habits.
Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or somewhere in between, this conversation will help you take radical responsibility for your patterns without shame, and offer hope that deep, stable connection is possible.
What We Cover:
- What a “relationship blueprint” is and where it comes from
- The real difference between attachment style and attachment blueprint
- Why anxious and avoidant partners are so often drawn to each other, and how it plays out
- The myth of hyper-independence and the cost of emotional self-protection
- How to self-soothe and regulate when you're triggered
- Why avoiding conflict doesn't keep you safe - it keeps you disconnected
- The specific steps both anxious and avoidant types can take to build security
- Why healing your attachment wounds in partnership can be the most powerful growth work you'll ever do
Quote Highlight:
"You’re not unlovable - you’re running a blueprint that you didn’t consciously choose. But once you see it, you can change it."
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Raffaela Marie is a leading coach in holistic healing from chronic skin picking and other body-focused repetitive behaviours (BFRBs). Through her skin picking podcast, social media, and coaching programs, she provides guidance for high-achieving women and others seeking recovery from skin picking. Her approach goes beyond surface fixes, focusing on the root causes of BFRBs, emotional healing, and holistic recovery.
Listeners and clients learn strategies for overcoming skin picking, reducing urges, building resilience, and creating lasting freedom from body-focused repetitive behaviours. By combining tools for confidence, authenticity, and emotional well-being, Raffaela helps people achieve long-term healing and transformation.