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Untapped Confidence
Untapped Confidence is a podcast for high-achieving women who want more than just surface-level self-improvement; they want to feel powerfully secure in who they are, no matter the situation.
Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression not by waiting for confidence to appear, but by building it with intention from the inside out.
Each episode explores what’s really going on beneath the surface when your confidence shrinks and offers science-based tools to help you let go of pressure, self-doubt, and performative patterns.
Authentic confidence isn’t one-size-fits-all. It isn’t about becoming louder, tougher, or more polished. It’s about becoming more you, feeling at home in yourself, and learning how to live, lead, and simply be from that place.
If you’re ready to reclaim your voice, your presence, and a deep sense of peace - this space is for you.
Untapped Confidence
66: Why You Feel Worse After Trying to Be Better
We’ve all tried to punish ourselves into better behavior. Telling ourselves, "You only get to have or enjoy this thing if you DON'T do that." But does it ever actually work?
In this episode, we explore the deeper cost of self-punishment and how it silently erodes our confidence, worsens chronic skin picking, and holds us back from true growth. If you've struggled with perfectionism, this ones for you.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
- Why punishing yourself doesn’t lead to lasting change (and often backfires)
- How childhood conditioning around mistakes wires us for shame
- The link between shame, perfectionism, and chronic skin picking
- What radical self-responsibility really means and why it’s not the same as self-blame
- A new, grounded way to handle mistakes that builds confidence instead of eroding it
🌟Learn more about STRENGTH and apply to join us here!
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Raffaela Marie is a leading coach in holistic healing from chronic skin picking and other body-focused repetitive behaviours (BFRBs). Through her skin picking podcast, social media, and coaching programs, she provides guidance for high-achieving women and others seeking recovery from skin picking. Her approach goes beyond surface fixes, focusing on the root causes of BFRBs, emotional healing, and holistic recovery.
Listeners and clients learn strategies for overcoming skin picking, reducing urges, building resilience, and creating lasting freedom from body-focused repetitive behaviours. By combining tools for confidence, authenticity, and emotional well-being, Raffaela helps people achieve long-term healing and transformation.