Untapped Confidence

69: Parenthood, Personal Power & the Myth of the Perfect Self - A Raw Conversation with Matt Lavars

Episode 69

What does it really take to break generational cycles, build emotional resilience, and feel at home in yourself?

In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching mentors, Matt Lavars, to talk about the often-ignored depths of healing, parenting, and personal responsibility.

Whether you're a parent, future parent, or someone navigating your own inner work - this one will stay with you.

We explore:

  • How parenthood becomes a mirror for your deepest unresolved wounds
  • The pressure of modern self-development culture and the danger of victim labels
  • What true self-care looks like (hint: it’s not bubble baths and Bali)
  • Why compassion, not perfection, is the highest goal in personal growth
  • Tangible advice on emotional attunement, relationships, and breaking the fantasy of “having it all together”

This episode is a grounding, perspective-shifting invitation to stop waiting for healing to be easy, and start listening more deeply to yourself.

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Raffaela Marie is a leading coach in holistic healing from chronic skin picking and other body-focused repetitive behaviours (BFRBs). Through her skin picking podcast, social media, and coaching programs, she provides guidance for high-achieving women and others seeking recovery from skin picking. Her approach goes beyond surface fixes, focusing on the root causes of BFRBs, emotional healing, and holistic recovery.

Listeners and clients learn strategies for overcoming skin picking, reducing urges, building resilience, and creating lasting freedom from body-focused repetitive behaviours. By combining tools for confidence, authenticity, and emotional well-being, Raffaela helps people achieve long-term healing and transformation.