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Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling is a podcast for high-achieving women who want freedom from their BFRB*; they want more authenticity, deeper confidence, to feel powerfully secure in who they are, so they can do more of what they love.
Hosted by Raffaela Marie - speaker, mentor, and creator of the STRENGTH Method - who overcame chronic skin picking, selective mutism, social anxiety, and depression, not by forcing willpower, but by healing from the inside out and addressing the true root causes.
Each episode offers a no-fluff look at healing from body-focused repetitive behaviours through the lens of self-confidence and authenticity. Raffaela blends psychology, neuroscience, and real-world experience to uncover what’s truly driving the urge to pick, and how to find lasting freedom from it.
Listeners walk away with tangible tools they can apply immediately to reduce urges, regulate emotions, and build emotional resilience. Beyond symptom management, this podcast helps you reconnect to your authentic self, feel grounded in your worth, and create lasting freedom from BFRBs*.
If you’re ready to stop performing, start healing, and build confidence that feels real, you’re in the right place.
*BFRB = Body Focused Repetitive Behaviours like chronic skin picking, nail/cheek biting, and hair pulling.
Beyond Skin Picking & Hair Pulling
69: Parenthood, Personal Power & the Myth of the Perfect Self - A Raw Conversation with Matt Lavars
What does it really take to break generational cycles, build emotional resilience, and feel at home in yourself?
In this powerful and refreshingly honest conversation, I sit down with one of Australia’s most trusted coaching mentors, Matt Lavars, to talk about the often-ignored depths of healing, parenting, and personal responsibility.
Whether you're a parent, future parent, or someone navigating your own inner work - this one will stay with you.
We explore:
- How parenthood becomes a mirror for your deepest unresolved wounds
- The pressure of modern self-development culture and the danger of victim labels
- What true self-care looks like (hint: it’s not bubble baths and Bali)
- Why compassion, not perfection, is the highest goal in personal growth
- Tangible advice on emotional attunement, relationships, and breaking the fantasy of “having it all together”
This episode is a grounding, perspective-shifting invitation to stop waiting for healing to be easy, and start listening more deeply to yourself.
🌟Click here to connect with Matt Lavars through his website and socials
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My name is Raffaela Marie. I'm a holistic BFRB coach who has healed from 15 years of chronic skin picking myself and dedicated my life to helping driven women do the same. Through my podcast, free resources, and programs, I teach strategies to overcome urges, build emotional safety, and expand into authenticity. My approach goes beyond quick fixes, focusing on root causes and long-term recovery.