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Why Tantrums Seem Random (But Aren’t)

March 24, 2026 • Jess • Season 3 • Episode 31

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5 Systems That Stopped 90% of Our Tantrums (It's Not What You Think)

Tantrums aren't a discipline problem — they're a nervous system problem. And the solution isn't about getting better at responding in the moment. It's about building predictable systems that prevent meltdowns before they start.

In this video, I share the 5 practical systems that transformed our mornings, evenings, and everything in between — backed by developmental neuroscience and real-life parenting experience.

📖 Book mentioned: Parenting A House United by Nicoline Peck

TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 - The Morning Chaos Problem

0:20 - The Upstream Shift

0:57 - Why Predictability Matters

2:01 - From Theory to Practice

3:28 - System 1: Family Rules You Can Quote

4:19 - System 2: Teaching Regulation Language

4:55 - System 3: Predictable Consequences

5:51 - System 4: The Morning Routine

6:33 - System 5: The 10-Minute Reset

7:11 - Why Systems Regulate Parents Too

🔬 Research referenced: Bruce Perry on rhythm, predictability, and the developing brain

Next video: What to do when meltdowns still happen — and why co-regulating and giving in feel almost identical in the moment.

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