MOM'S EMOTIONAL DETOX

Join me, Lamia Pabion, a certified coach and hypnotherapist, as I discuss the invisible emotional burdens we mothers carry daily and why an emotional detox is essential. In this episode, I explore the heavy mental load we manage, share personal stories, and provide practical strategies to find balance and reclaim our well-being. Discover how to prioritize yourself and transform your emotional health with actionable insights.

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Episode One to a 7 years Journey in Saudi. this is the beginning to a story to whoever wants to know how I freed myself and to feel radiantly joyful. i am a mother, a coach, a hypnotherapist and I master the art of Reprogramming the subconscious mind.

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EPISODE 1 SEASON 2 : 

The Invisible Burden: Why Moms Need to Embrace Their Emotional Detox!

Salam 3alaykoum, bonjour

I am Lamia PABION, I am a coach hypnotherapist, 

I master the art of reprogramming the subconscious mind.

Welcome to my podcast 7 years in saudi

What is it about…i have one word for you: 

Emotions

After 7 years in this incredible country, I just landed into a new dimension of myself, that I was totally unaware of..

This podcast is about sharing my experience, a growth experience into perspective, that only Saudi Arabia could bring to my attention.

TODAY I have a very special subject I want to talk about. To day I want tell you about an  Invisible Burden a burden that every mom feels and that led me to understand the answer to it: an emotional detox. 

I have been studying the question for a while now. First it came to me from my own experience. Having 4 kids doesn’t give you any other choice but to look for an alternative.

Every single mum I met,  From any country, from any culture, from any age, from any socio economic background are exactly the same prototype of leaders. 

And the reason I am making this analogy is simple. Because we are all feeling, more or less the same mental burden, the same emotional charge, the same amount of guilt, the same kind of trap.

I felt for a very long time trapped in a maze where I couldn’t figure out how to escape from it.

A trap of putting everyone else first. Everyone needs to get cleaned up, fed, nurtured, healed, pampered, advertised, and hugged before me. Although, I couldn’t ignore a simple fact: if I am not around, it’s not working. The family entreprise is not working well. The KPI’s are extremely bad looking. A small audit and we can quickly draw an alarming fall. 

Second, where does this freaking guilt come from. I am doing all I can and it’s never enough. Moreover, I am taking classes to improve my productivity. I am trying to make it smoother. Using more technology, more human help…still, this guilt never stops.

Third, I can hear that. You know,  In the elephant cemetery,  I met some old mums. Those ones who finished the job. You know, when your kid is settled, married, has a job and gave you the badge of grandma! They all tell you. And by all, I mean every single veteran mother I met: “don’t do too much, they are ungrateful !, they will never thank all the sacrifices you made “ 

Sacrifices, #victim+++++, resilient survivor mothers have made it clear. 

Not to mention all the mothers that attribute to themselves every single success of their child.

Can you imagine yourself, as a mother, in this no man’s land, where you do, you do, you do, and at some point if you succeed, it is because of your own mother! Because she is actually  responsible for your wins, as she made all the sacrifices so you could thrive! Feels like no one ends up recognised during his time…as we were artists: only recognised when we die.

Lately, I met an intelligent saudi lady. An entrepreneur. She told me that before she was stupid. So she made kids. She uses stupid for the herculean job it implied to be a mother. The reality is flipping the coin of that trait brings you obviously to the super brave side. 

Because clearly, if you receive the job description, with the pay check: who would freaking accept the position!? 

Even one of my best friends, a brilliant mind. One of those you keep talking too because just breathing the same air makes you smarter. She settled for a “checkmate” outcome. Like it is lost anyways.

I even heard an Indian leader saying that it is screwed anyways because the biological clock is coming right in the same time than the carreer ladder. The moment you are ready for a leadership job, you are stuck between the diapers and the teenage hood. 

So checkmate man! Or woman would I say.

Now, if I stay on this stupid game board, I am for sure not going to change the game in my favour. Right? 

We are stuck because we carry 2 important things: we know exactly how to take care of the kids. So we do the job. Second, we also take care of a much more important one. An  invisible one: it’s the emotional mission.

that part of the job description is simply not mentioned. Because it is simply invisible! 

Invisible to anyone who is not a mother. 

A new mum will hardly see it. 

I couldn’t see it before my third kid. And guys I saw it because I was burnt out. 

It is only after my forth kid that I could understand the truth behind it.

Are you ready for the news:

We are not only mammals who are here to make sure to send their kids to expensive universities so they can stamp their self worth on a pompous prodigious degree! On which they can also go on the matrimonial market, find a nice social match through a spouse, sell their precious time to another kind of entreprise to produce added value, buy a house, a car, a Rolex and go for a nice ski trip.

No, my ladies. 

Our first mission is related to laundry machines.

We are emotional laundry machines. We are very complex sophisticated integrated emotional cleaning system unit plants.

And we are wired first with all our kids. With our spouses, with our parents, with every single person we interact with. We have this super power to feel, to treat and relieve our loved ones.

This is why, all mothers  in the world, suffer from this heavy mental load. We think too much, we carry on our shoulders all the worry of our kids. Especially our kids.

Another super strong lady I know. She is an athlete. And a very good one. She won a gold medal that day in jiujitsu. Yes, you read well: she fights like a gorilla, and she is very strong. she has one beautiful daughter. Even though she can fight with her hands and is not afraid of it, she told me she couldn’t have another kid because it is like handing over a piece of her heart outside of herself. 

It is freaking risky guys! It’s like depending on someone else for your survival!

We are wired emotionally with our kids. We gave them a part of our heart. If their heart stops beating: a part of our heart dies! And we can die of it!!

Who would take such responsibility? 

Who would take this risk?

Now, in a scientific stand point. And honestly, I spent 20 years in the recruitment business,  I can tell you this: bigger the risk, bigger the responsibility, and bigger the leadership position! I’m not even mentioning the benefits guys!

Mothers have the most difficult job in the world. The most important and the most under valued! 

I repeat : mothers are the most important people on this planet. Not the kids, not men, not even the president of the united states!

Yet, as a super leading position in the family entreprise. Mothers tend to miss the point of their job.

As a leader, your job is not to make things done right. It is to make things done right through other people!

So, when it comes to the visible mission…as mothers, it is easy! This is why with child number one: you can do it. Do everything right.

But when you add up kids number 2 or 3…you have to put up with a carreer, with a larger family, with multiple schedule, …then things start being tough.

And mainly not because of the first visible part, but because of the second mission: the emotional laundry machine!

Mothers carry the whole emotional field of the family. The worry, the stress, the anxiety, the fears…they take it, they clean it, they transform it and send clean energy in the house.

I would add, the menstrual system is the perfect endocrine sewage system ever created.

Each Emotion have a biochemistry counterpart. You are angry, you secrete cortisol. You are happy, you are flawed with dopamine. That is now very popular. 

This biochemistry load has to be evacuated otherwise the body is unbalanced. 

Too much poison makes the body unhealthy…

Have you noticed how much knee injury mothers suffer from. I hardly met men with this trouble.

Or shoulder pain. As if physically we were carrying the weight of an invisible load. The emotional load. 

Doesn’t mean we don’t see it, that it is not tangible.

And please, don’t even ask validation from a man. They don’t know!

My father was a very successful professor in Gastroenterology. And he was a very sensitive man. He could feel emotions miles away. He had the shoulder pain. But he did not suffer as my mum with his knees. Or like my grandmas.

If my mum was too overwhelmed with her emotions it was Nagasaki day at home! It was chaos. Hope gets out of the house. We felt depleted. Joy was on strike and no one wanted to have fun. 

So I tell you what most honorable members of the human community: the key to this unsolved puzzle is within the second invisible job we have.

If we are handed the emotional cleaning laundry: better take care of our machine.

If we are bound with our kids and spouse emotional wellbeing: better keep our emotional health on good shape.

If we want to understand how this machine works, we need to understand which emotion’s we are processing.

The only way is to be emotionally free. And that implies that we have understood ourselves. That implies that We learn the emotional language. 

Learning the emotional language is like learning a foreign language. We need to practice it, to listen to it, to speak it and to feel it.

And 10 years of study and self healing have taught me this. It is no surprise why we missed this important part of our job description. It is because of the emotional damage we received from our parents, our ancestors, our cultures, our economy…etc.

We are just dissociated from our biological nature.

Healing these emotional baggages has been quiet quick for me with hypnotherapy. I tried several techniques, but this one has been the most effective one. To the point I understood my job description. And since then, everything have been much smoother.

Feeling emotionally free has given me the self compassion I need when I needed it. It gives me more clarity with my kids. Even fear and stress lowered tremendously. 

Emotional freedom is the key. It is the key to a healthy body. It is the key to be a good mother. For it is the most important job I know. 

Freedom was a very important word in my values list. I thought for a long time that my top value was freedom…I found out that joy was more important for me. I also understood that freedom comes naturally with another word: choice! 

Because I tell you what: true freedom is having a choice. It is simply a conscious awareness of that choice. 

It is true that in essence we all have the choice. instead of binge watching a tv show, we could go to the gym. Instead of a big giant junk meal, we can choose healthy. Instead of bursting into anger, we can choose a peaceful way to talk. 

That, in essence it is true. But as my friend spinosa said: there is no freedom if there are affects. True freedom is by essence an emotional freedom. 

If we can have a control over our feelings… If we can master our emotional state and make it equanimous. Make it serene, make it calm. That is true mastery. 

And that mastery gives you the space to take decisions, to make conscious choices. 

Emotional freedom implies a total detachment from any outcome. You become an observer. And you are like Neo in matrix, seeing bullets coming toward you and stopping them with your mind. 

Those bullets are the words that can hurt us, wound us. Only word can truly break hearts. I practice also martial art, and I can tell something, a word bullet harms much more than any component you face physically. 

As a mother, I now understand how important it is for my kids, for mu husband to take care of my engine. My cleaning engine. So I can help them better. It is not because my husband can’t handle difficult stress, it is because he relies on me to keep the house peaceful. Our family sanctuary that he needs also to relax from the outside world. And boy, it is not easy outside. 

Mums have this ability to multitask because they are wired to sense more information. If you use extra ability with your senses, you will process much more information. That gives the extra push to our intuition, which is just another way to name absolute intelligence. 

Intuition is by definition, the ability to understand something instinctively, without the need for conscious reasoning.

That means that our intuition is just a set of extra sensors that intercepts extra information. And to that the motherhood sophisticated brain adapts to extra processing. 

And as a computer, if the memory is full. The hardware starts heating. If you don’t empty some extra space in your memory stock, your computer will slow down, will process less rapidly and be obviously less effective.

Moms need to empty the memory space. A true memory detox. And guess what, each memory file in the brain is linked to an emotional tag. 

The subconscious stores the memory by emotions.

And they add up. So if you don’t reboot the system: it get clogged. 

This is why you hear moms everywhere in the world saying they are tired. Have mental load, feel exhausted etc etc etc.

Considering that observation…what else becomes more important than the mothers emotional wellbeing? What is more sustainable than that?

Honestly, in my humble opinion…I can’t see anything more important. 

And you know what: my dear mothers: no one else than you will understand what I am talking about. 

Only you can relate to what I am saying. 

I believe that if we could offer a real tangible, smart way to help mothers…that would be a huge step toward serenity and toward the wellness of our children.

Thank you for you attention,

Have a wonderful day,

I love you all,

I am lamia pabion. I am a certified coach and hypnotherpist. 

I will be happy to tell you another story in my next episode about my 7 years in saudi. My dearest saudi.

Thank you for your attention.

I Love you all,

Have a wonderful day.

Love you all

Lamia pabion