When a Trigger Becomes a Glimmer: A lesson in Self-Trust

In this Shower Sprinkle episode I share a personal moment of being triggered by a conversation in the coaching and podcasting space — and how that discomfort became a powerful invitation to look inward.

Rather than reacting or placing blame, I paused and reflected on what the trigger was revealing about my own alignment, integrity, and core values. With honesty and embodiment, I explore how triggers can act as mirrors — and how, when met with curiosity, they can transform into glimmers that guide us back to self-trust.

This episode is especially relevant in a season where trust feels shaky in the coaching and online business world. I remind listeners that while external systems may shift, staying rooted in your values and inner guidance is what creates steadiness, confidence, and peace.

You’ll hear reflections on:

• How to recognize triggers in the body
• Why discomfort is often an invitation, not a problem
• The difference between reacting and responding
• How to reconnect with your core values
• What it means to be led by self-trust and faith

This Shower Sprinkle is a gentle yet powerful reminder that your inner alignment matters — and that triggers don’t have to derail you. They can lead you home.

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Music by: Jason and Ashley Scheufler
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Transcript

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Hey friends. Welcome to the Enter Spark podcast. I'm your host, Casey Caton. If you're looking to hear stories of transformation and personal growth, this podcast is for you. My guest and I will be sharing those sparking moments that has changed the mental living a more fulfilling authentic life. I'm so excited for you to hear each unique story. So sit back, relax, and let's get started. Hey friend. Welcome back to the Enter Spark podcast. I'm your host, Casey Taton. This is a shower sprinkle on something that came up for me this week. And it really hit me bigger than I thought. In the podcasting world and coaching world, there have been some big coaches that are just completely shutting down their programs and rebranding, and I don't really listen to a whole lot of that, but I was listening to some conversations and then later on. There was a conversation being had, and I realized the conversation that was being had was really, really making my body feel uncomfortable. It was honestly triggering me, and I thought, oh my goodness, why would that person do it that way? I don't understand That doesn't feel right. And honestly, who am I to question what someone else is doing? Right? But here's what really came up for me. It was actually kind of upsetting me, made my body feel really tight, and I knew that I did not feel okay with what was happening. However, it is not my job to control what else someone is doing right. And I really had to go n word with this, and I wanna thank a dear friend for actually helping me through this because when we get triggered, a trigger is really like a mirror. And if we reflect that N word to ourself. What is it telling me? Why am I getting triggered by what someone else is doing? The reason was is because it was reflecting back onto me and am I staying true to my core values? Am I staying true to my beliefs? And it was really bothering me. But I wasn't getting the breakthrough right away of what they were saying, that it was like, oh, I don't understand why they're doing that, even though I have no control over what they're doing. I just disagreed with it, but it made my body feel uncomfortable. But the real reason was is because it made me look at my core values and say, what are my core values? Am I staying true to what I believe in? Am I staying true to what I speak and what I tell people? And sitting with that for a while was a big thing for me, and I just wanna bring it up because there's always so many lessons. To be learned on every conversation and people will just say, oh, that triggers me and goes on. But really if you're triggered in a conversation and you can notice it and your body by your emotions, if you can not react and pause, and that is what I had to do, is not allow myself to get frustrated and angry. Because I did for a second, and with the help from a friend, I realized I needed to look n word at myself and say, where in my life am I feeling like I'm not staying true to my word or to my values? And so it actually made me go back and write a list down of what are my values? And also I encourage you to make a list we think it's really easy until people start saying things, or maybe we get put in a situation and we act upon, and then we're like, I, that wasn't right for me. But if we know what our values are, then we are perfectly fine when a situation happens and just saying, you know, that that's not okay for me. And being able to speak up about it. You know, being up to stand up for myself of, okay, they can do what they want with that. And I don't have to agree, but I need to turn into my values and say, where in my life am I not staying true to myself? Where in my life am I being pulled away? Which is really interesting that this all came up. Because my word of the year, I finally did pick it, and my word of the year is lead. I want this year to be a year where I feel open, free, and just led where I fully trust that the next steps are happening for a reason for me. And so isn't it interesting that I chose the word led, which led me to turn N Words and say, after some conversation, it led me to turn N words and think, why is this bothering me? How can I turn this trigger into a glimmer? Because it's a very good teaching lesson for myself of this is where in my life that I don't feel like I'm staying true to myself. And you know, there's a lot of us that have very strong values that we stick to. And sometimes it's easy to get away when you're in a big conversation. And things are happening and it's not aligning with your values. And so this on a deep level was truly, truly bothering me. So I just wanted to bring it up with you guys because I felt like this was such a good lesson for myself. And when good lessons come up for me, I think it's very important to share with you all of what are your core values. Are you able to turn your triggers into glimmers? Are you able to sit down and ask yourself, what is this trigger trying to show me? Because it's really easy just to say, this is a trigger and I'm walking away and being done, and not look at our part of it. So I just wanted to really share this personal experience of this. You know, there's a lot going on with the podcasting world, the coaching world, and I'm not gonna get into all that what really matters is where we're staying true to ourselves, where we're staying true to our core values, because that is huge. That's what it's really about. If we can stay true to what it means, especially if you own a business, and when I'm speaking on a podcast, if I'm gonna speak from my heart, I need to be able to speak to you guys about this, and I'm gonna tell you this is just flat out honesty. My new year, new me, I'm over it episode. I had people that did not like it, that disagreed, it triggered them. They were like, wow, you definitely used some strong words. You really have strong thoughts about that, which is, that's totally fine, because if we were all here in this world agreeing. With everything everyone said, and all the same. It would be such a boring world. We would be bored out of our mind if everyone was like, yes, yes, yes. Perfect. I love it. It would honestly get boring and that's what makes good connections is we can disagree. And see the value in each other and see where each person is coming from. And so I just wanted to share this experience that happened to me that really led me to turn inward to myself this week and say,, question, what are my values? What do I stand by? What am I no longer okay with? And then I get to make the decision myself on how I take action with that. But the big part is how I handle my values going forward and staying true to myself and my heart. And in this crazy world, there's so much beauty. I always say that. And so much light. But I do believe that you have to stay true to your values and your values can shift over time. I just wanted to bring it up because it hit me and I wasn't able to shift that at first. And I'm great that I have friends that I can lean into and say, this is what happened. And I could feel the reaction in my body and I could actually feel myself getting angrier upset about, I don't agree with them. That's not okay. How can they be okay with that? Then I had to look inward and say, okay, those are my values, right? Also, where am I in myself? Am I allowing those things to slip? And I was able to recognize in my own life. Where there's some things where I'm not speaking my truth, and so this shower sprinkle is really just about getting clear on your values and I really, really want you all to sit down if you're gonna take something away from this and say. The next time something is triggering you ask, what is this trying to show me? And what does staying true to myself look like right now? And if you can sit down and write those out,, I would love to know your thoughts. I would love to know if you can write those out and how you feel about it, and if you can turn the next trigger into a glimmer. I would love your feedback. I always love the feedback. I loved it when someone said I triggered them when I spoke last time. That's fun. I spoke my truth in that podcast and I am completely fine with someone not liking it. All right, friends. I would love to know your feedback on making triggers a lesson and letting them be a glimmer in your life. Thank you for tuning into another episode. I hope today's story inspired you to embrace your own journey of growth and change. Remember, transformation isn't always easy, but it's always worth it. If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe. Share it with a friend, and leave a review. If you found something that sparked you in this episode and may spark a friend, I encourage you to go share with them. If you have your own story you would like to share, I would love to hear it. So please reach out to me. Until next time, friends, go have some fun and let those sparks lie.