Is this Normal? Perimenopause Symptoms That Make You Feel Like You're Losing It

This episode is different.

No talking. No explaining. Just a song.

I wrote "Is This Normal?" because I kept hearing the same things from women. Waking up at 3am. Snapping at people they love. Forgetting words mid-sentence. Crying at commercials. Going to the doctor and being told their labs look fine. And then going home and quietly wondering if they were losing their minds.

They were not. And neither are you.

Perimenopause does not show up as one neat symptom. It can move through your brain, your sleep, your mood, your joints, your gut, your metabolism, and your heart all at the same time. That is why it feels like everything is falling apart at once. And that is why so many women spend years thinking it is just stress, or just age, or just them.

It is not just them. It is never just them.

This song is for the woman googling symptoms at 3am. For the one who sat in the bathroom and cried after snapping at her daughter. For the one who used to run meetings and now cannot find the word she was looking for. For the one whose doctor said everything looks fine and who drove home feeling more alone than when she walked in.

You are not broken. You are not too much. There is a name for what you are experiencing, and you are not alone in it.

If you want to see the full video this song was written for, including all 100 symptoms of perimenopause laid out one by one, head to YouTube at @EMBRwithKimberly. Watch it and notice what resonates. You may recognize more than you expected.

And if you want to understand what is actually happening in your body hormonally, and why it feels so random and so relentless, my free guide "Why Your Body Feels Off" is linked below. It is a calm, clear starting place.

Share this episode with a friend who needs to hear it. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do for someone we love is let them know they are not alone.

Free guide: Why Your Body Feels Off 

Full YouTube video: 100 Symptoms of Perimenopause youtube.com/@EMBRwithKimberly

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Kimberly Hoyt is a physician assistant with two decades of clinical experience who helps women navigate perimenopause and menopause with clarity and confidence. Her work focuses on midlife health and education, helping women understand what is happening in their bodies so they feel prepared, informed, supported and empowered. 

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Have you ever felt like your body is breaking in a hundred different ways all at once? You are waking up at 3:00 AM, snapping over nothing, hot one minute, freezing the next, your heart races and someone tells you it's just stress and you start wondering, is this normal? Is this just me? Perimenopause doesn't show up as one neat symptom. It can affect your brain, your mood, your sleep, your heart, your metabolism, your joints, your gut, your intimacy, and even your skin and hair. That's why it feels like everything is going wrong at once. In this video, we are walking through the full scope of what perimenopause can look like. Not just the obvious symptoms, but the weird ones and the ones no one warned you about. As you listen, I want you to notice what resonates. You might recognize more than you expected. And as something clicks for you, I want you to drop it in the comments. Tell me which symptom made you think. Wait, that's me. All right, let's get into it. Woke up at 3:00 AM again, staring at the ceiling like an. Cried a commercial for dog food last night. Burned the same pan twice, turned off every light, walked into the kitchen, forgot what I came for. Stood there a minute, then I walked back out the door. My jeans don't fit the way they did in May. I snapped in my husband for breathing the wrong way. I used to run meetings. I used to have a plan. Now I'm googling symptoms with a Cooling fan. My doctor said my labs look fine, but nothing in my body feels like mine. I'm not depressed, I'm not just tired. I just feel like something got rewired.Nobody warned us about this part Not the 3am, not the brain fog, not the frozen shoulder You're not too much, you're not falling apart There's a name for everything you felt in the dark you're not broken. You're just in the fire, sitting in a meeting suddenly on fire, praying no one notices A very convincing liar. My best friend said, just walk it off. Drink water. Get some sleep. Easy for you to say, honey, I haven't slept in weeks. I snapped at my daughter for leaving on a light, Then sat in the bathroom and cried half the night. I know who I am, I just can find her some days. She's in here somewhere, lost in the haze.. My doctor said my labs look fine But nothing in my body feels like mine I'm not depressed, I'm not just tired I just feel like something got rewired Nobody warned us about this part Not the 3am, not the brain fog, not the frozen shoulder You're not too much, you're not falling apart There's a name for everything you felt in the dark You're not broken You're just in the fire Nobody handed us a map for this Nobody sat us down and said Somewhere in your forties Your body starts rewriting everything You ever thought you knew about yourself Not the sleep Not the weight Not the way a whole afternoon Can just disappear But there are millions of us right now tonight staring at the same ceiling, typing the same things into the dark in it has a name and you are not alone in this. Nobody warned us about this part Not the 3am, not the brain fog, not the frozen shoulder You're not too much, you're not falling apart There's a name for everything you felt in the dark You're not broken You're not broken You're just in the fire. Still up at 3:00 AM, Phone in hand seven tabs open and somewhere out there. So is she. If you saw yourself in that list, you are not alone. Perimenopause can show up in ways no one warned us about. That's why it feels so confusing, and that's why it feels overwhelming, and that's why so many women think it's just them, or it's just in their head. It is not. I'd love to know in the comments, which symptom surprised you? Which one have you been experiencing, but never connected the dots to perimenopause? If this helped you feel seen, share it with a friend who needs to hear it too. And if you want to understand why your body feels off and what's actually happening, hormonally, I have a free guide linked below. Make sure you subscribe so we can continue having real conversations about this. You are not broken, you are becoming I'll see you next time.