Why They Don't Apologize (And Why It Hurts So Much) // Just Nona

Do you keep getting hurt… but the apology never comes? Not from your partner. Not from your family. Not even from people who know they hurt you.

It makes you question yourself. Why didn’t they acknowledge it? Why do they apologize to others—but not me? Why does it feel like my pain doesn’t matter?

In this episode of Just Nona, we’re not just answering the surface question. We’re going deeper. Because the real question isn’t just: “Why don’t they apologize?” It’s
“Why does it feel like I don’t matter?”

And that’s where healing has to begin.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

- Why your brain is wired to need relational repair—and what happens when you don’t get it
- The real psychological reason people avoid apologizing
- How to stop internalizing someone else’s silence as proof of your worth
- What Scripture actually says about your identity—even when people overlook you
- How to start healing without waiting for closure

You can’t build your identity on someone else’s ability to take responsibility. And if you do, you’ll stay stuck… waiting for something they may never give.

This episode will help you take your power back. Not by forcing an apology, but by refusing to let their silence define you. If you’ve ever felt unseen, dismissed, or like your hurt didn’t matter… This one is for you.

Transcript

For the past three years, I have met with you on an almost weekly basis to host conversations with
friends and thought leaders under the banner of the Nona Jones Show. But today,
I want to share something very important. After prayer and instruction from God,
this show is evolving, not because the mission has changed, but because the moment has.
I've really enjoyed hosting conversations with people, but something kept showing up in my inbox,
in my DMs, and even after live events. It wasn't requests for more content. It was questions like
deep ones, painful ones, questions that people were carrying quietly about God,
about trauma, about identity, about whether healing is even possible after certain experiences.
And after bringing all of this to God, I felt led to rebrand this show and change the format.
So as of today, welcome to Just Nona, a place for the heart questions,
questions beneath the questions, the ones that live in the unsettled places of our souls and the
stories that our bodies still remember. Now, each episode, I'm going to take a question from a real
person like you. a member of my viewing and listening audience, and I'll answer it by grounding us
in scripture, scientific research, and real life. Together, we're going to hear what God would have
us understand so we can create room for truth, healing, and transformation. You see,
neuroscience tells us that when trauma goes unprotected or unvalidated, especially in childhood,
it doesn't just live in memory. It wires itself into belief. And one of the most common beliefs
trauma leaves behind is that something must be wrong with me. So through this show, we're going to
talk about where that belief comes from, how it hides in faith language, and what it looks like to
begin healing it biblically, psychologically, and honestly. So let's get into it.
Welcome to Just Nona.
For our very first heart question, I am very excited to get to welcome Sia to join me.
Sia, what question is on your heart? Hey, Nona. I hope you're doing good.
My name is Sia Charles. I'm originally from Cape Town, South Africa, and I'm currently based in New
York City. There's something that I've been... battling I guess since childhood instances where I
was maybe involved in some altercations or disagreements with people and I often found that people
would never apologize. I give an example of my dad who was very hurtful in the words you know that
he would use towards us and he never quite apologized and I feel like this is a pattern that's
recurring in my life even in my work environment I had a situation with bullying with a person who
was acting like a bit of a bully never quite apologized and so it made me wonder why is it that
people hurt me and they never apologize thank you No,
thank you for asking that question, Sia. And first of all, I'm sorry that you even have to ask that
question, but I appreciate the gift of your vulnerability because I can imagine that there are
other people who are watching this or listening to this who have wondered the same thing. The
question that you asked is, why is it that people can hurt me?
and not feel the need to apologize for it. And while I know that is the question you asked me,
in praying about this question, I discerned that there's actually a question beneath the question
that you're asking. The question you're asking is essentially, why is it that my hurt doesn't
matter to people? But even that... is just a bit of a surface question because the deeper question
is why don't I matter to people? So the very...
top question, the triggering question, the catalytic question is, why is it that people hurt me and
they don't feel the need to apologize? The question beneath that question is, why does my hurt not
matter to people? And the question beneath that question is, why don't I matter to people?
And so I want to deal with that question because I think addressing that question will help you get
to the triggering question that you asked me. First and foremost, We as human beings are wired for
relational repair. We were actually created. to be in community with other people.
And even those of us who may consider ourselves to be introverts, we may consider ourselves to be
loners. We have also been created to be in community. And so when we find ourselves in a scenario
where another person who perhaps we are in relationship with, whether it's professionally,
or of course, if it's romantically, or if it's because we are family. When we find that that person
can hurt us and not feel the need to repair the rift that their hurt created,
it can create a lot of dissonance. It can create a lot of dissonance because, again,
we are wired for community. I have also found, if you do any research on attachment theory,
and attachment theory deals with the way that we build relationships through our formative years,
including even in the womb, how we attach to our mothers as our primary caregivers. And then,
of course, after we're born, whether or not we're able to form a secure attachment where we feel
protected. seen, we feel loved. If we can't do that, there are a number of issues that emerge out
of that as we grow into even later childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood and adulthood.
And so if we don't address those relational ruptures, there are all types of wounds that get
created that can create sensitivity later in life to being rejected or even the perception of being
rejected. You mentioned that You know, going back to even a relationship with your father and how
it seemed like he could hurt you and not apologize. That is deeply, deeply wounding because. you
should be able in those primary relationships with your mother and your father, like we're not even
talking about siblings, but your mother and your father, like you should be able to know and trust
that if a hurt happens, that their love for you will prompt them to want to repair whatever rift is
created. And so when that doesn't happen, what it can do is it can actually cause you to look at
yourself and try to discern what is wrong with me. Like,
why is it that I don't matter to these people, to this person? And the truth is,
when we think about just social relationships, An apology is not just about recognizing the wrong
that was done. An apology is really about affirming worth and affirming value.
People apologize because they care about the relationship. They want to actually restore
relationship. So when that doesn't happen, there can be an interpretation.
of the fact that this person didn't apologize because something is wrong with me, because I don't
matter, because I'm not good enough. And so I think that what you're really experiencing,
and I think it's been additive over the years with the examples that you've given, you are
experiencing rejection. and the wound of rejection. But it's not even something that's just a
present experience. It's something that seems like it has its grounding in your earlier formative
years. And now these experiences with colleagues and friends and others have simply just piled onto
your earlier experience. What I do want to note though is because again,
the internalization of other people's responses to our hurt, it can cause us to believe that
something is wrong with us. That if only we were they would have cared. If only I had accomplished
more, then my hurt would matter. If only I was like whoever person that they seem to care more
about, then they would really care about the fact that they hurt me. What I want to make sure you
understand though, is another person's rejection of you is not an indictment on your worth. And it
certainly is not proof of your insignificance. I do want to deal with however,
what may be happening on the other side of the fence. I want to kind of,
if I can lift you out of your individual experience and open you up to what's possibly happening
within the people who are not apologizing for hurting you. Because in my experience,
when a person knows that they've hurt you, if you've even told them that they've hurt you and they
don't feel compelled to repair the rift that they caused, usually that's a sign of emotional
immaturity. Because again, remember, I said at the very beginning of this, we are wired.
for relationship. We are wired for community. We are wired for connection. And so if someone is
doing something that actually ruptures that connection, ruptures that relationship, ruptures that
community, and they don't feel, or they at least don't act. in such a way as to repair that,
chances are there are things happening on their side of the rift that you may not be aware of.
And I want to touch on just a few of these things, but I want to do it by way of kind of inviting
you into my story. So for those who have been... watching me and listening to me for any length of
time, you may be familiar with what I am about to say. But for those of you who are new, I want to
make sure I share it just so you understand that everything I'm saying to you doesn't just come
from research or an abstract understanding of like social psychology and the theories of
psychology. It's not that, or even sociology. This is truly coming from lived experience.
I'm an only child. I was born to a mother who did not want to have children.
She was actually married to my dad for 13 years when she found out she was pregnant with me. She
told him she didn't want to have children. She felt that children would be a burden on her.
So when she found out that she was pregnant, she was actually very upset. She was angry.
My father was elated. because he loved my mom and he agreed with her in terms of her decision not
to have children, but he always wanted to be a dad. And so he was elated. He was so excited to be a
dad. And halfway through her pregnancy, he had some stomach pain and he went to the doctor to have
them run some tests and figure out what was going on. And he ended up getting diagnosed with
terminal stomach cancer. And my dad was 34 at the time. I can't even begin to imagine.
grappling with your mortality, not only at 34 years old, but while your wife is pregnant with a
child you always wanted. And he was given six months to live. And so he also had to deal with the
fact that he may not even see his child. So he fought against that diagnosis as hard as he could.
And he lived until about two months before my second birthday. And he would not let other people
change my diapers.
loved me so much. And he was just so determined to imprint his love on me.
Even after he passed away, he wanted me to know that I was loved and he was successful. He was
absolutely successful in that. But shortly after his funeral,
my mom moved us to the other side of the country and she eventually met a guy.
who became her live-in boyfriend. And he was someone that I did not like.
From the very beginning, I told my mom he scared me. But she told me just to give him a chance that
he was a good guy and that he would warm up to me or I'd warm up to him. And so I was like five,
so I don't have a choice in this, right? So he moves in and I don't know,
maybe like nine months, maybe nine or 10 months after he moved in, My mom's sister passed away and
she had to go back up north for the funeral. And I remember just standing on the side of the bed as
she was packing her suitcase. It was this like gray hard shell suitcase that she was packing.
And I was begging her to take me with her. And it wasn't even that I just wanted to go on the trip.
I did not want to stay with that man. But she said she couldn't afford another plane ticket,
that she would only be gone like a couple of days and she would be right back. And the very first
night that she was gone, he sexually assaulted me. And after it was over,
he told me, you better not tell your mom what happened because she'll get rid of you. She doesn't
want you. She never wanted you. And so he not only broke my body, but he also broke my spirit.
And so I dealt with that. I dealt with that,
which you would think would be enough trauma. on its own. And I don't laugh because it's funny.
I laugh because what I'm about to tell you is incredible to me as a mom. But two years go by,
he repeatedly abuses me. And I finally work up the courage to tell my mom what he was doing to me.
And she had him arrested. But on the day of his release from jail,
she took me with her to pick him up and brought him back home.
The abuse picked up where it left off. Not only that, she became physically abusive. I couldn't
believe that she brought him back home because before she even brought him back home, she asked me,
she took me out on our back porch. I remember it like it was yesterday. And she said, what would
you think about his name, man, coming back home? I said to her,
I don't want him to come back home. I couldn't even believe the question was being asked. But I
said, I don't want him to come back home. And she looked at me and she said, well, this is my house
and I make the rules and he's coming back home. And she got up and she walked in the house and she
slammed the sliding glass door behind her and left me outside by myself. And that is truly a
metaphor for my childhood, is just kind of being left outside by myself.
And so he comes back. Abuse picks up where it leaves off. My mom becomes physically and verbally
abusive. And I'm giving you all this detail for a reason.
I felt like and I knew that I wasn't wanted.
But then my mom decided to also tell me that she wished she never had me, that I was a burden. She
told me. that things would have been better had I not been born. This was a constant thing. So all
of this is happening to me. I'm growing up in this environment where I know for a fact I'm not
wanted. It is evident in the behavior, in the choices, in the words. It's very clear. I know I'm
not wanted. But as I get older,
I ended up going to church and I'm in church and people are talking about the need to forgive
people for how they hurt you. And, and, you know, I want to be right with God. So I'm like, okay,
I'm going to forgive. I'm going to forgive. And, um, when I was, uh, I think about 22,
I had been married. I got married like a year earlier and my mom and I were estranged at that
point. I kind of stopped. talking with her because there were just some things that she was doing
and saying that were very hurtful, but I kept trying to make it work. I kept trying to make it work
because everybody was like, you only get one mom, you gotta make it work. So kept trying to make it
work despite what she was doing. And I drove to her city. I was going to bring her back to my city
to let her stay the weekend so we could do some mom-daughter things, which we had never done. But
on the drive, to my house. It was like about a two hour drive. I said to her, I said, you know, I
really want us to talk about what happened in my childhood. And she said,
well, there's nothing to talk about. And I said, well, we've never talked about it and it still
hurts. And I said, you know, we don't have a typical mother-daughter relationship because of what
happened. And she looked out of the window and she didn't say anything. And I said,
you know, it really hurt me. that you let him do that to me. And it really hurt me that you also
were abusive to me. And my mom said to me out of her mouth,
well, it wouldn't have happened if you would have just kept your legs closed.
It started when I was like five, six at the most. And it continued until I was about 11.
And she said, That it wouldn't have happened if you would have just kept your legs closed.
That broke me. That did something so deeply wounding to me.
And I give you all of this detail because it all matters. Because the things that happen to us,
especially when it's from people who are supposed to protect us, supposed to care.
about our hurt. They're supposed to want to be in relationship with us. When those people don't,
it can create a core belief that I don't matter.
It can create a core belief that something's wrong with me.
So that as you move along in life, when you have experiences where people hurt you,
and they don't apologize, it just kind of piles on the already cracked foundation of your identity.
And because that foundation is already cracked, the weight of their actions and inactions,
the weight of their words or the words they didn't say, like, I'm sorry, the weight of that
actually creates even more cracks in a foundation that was already cracked. And so I want you to
understand that your feelings, of course,
I'm speaking to Sia, but I'm also speaking to anyone watching this or listening to this who
identifies with this. Your feelings are real. That's the process.
That's how it happens. You are not crazy. Even if there are people who are like, you should just
get over it. You just got to forgive. You just got to move on. Well, you can't just move on from a
cracked foundation. And I want to make the analogy as clear as possible by thinking about it in
terms of a house. If the foundation that your house is built on is cracked, It doesn't really
matter if you ignore the cracks. It's going to show up in other places in your home.
You may see cracks on your walls. The door jams where doors are supposed to be able to close,
they may get misaligned because the foundation has created a rupture. It's created a shift.
And so I just want to affirm the fact that, no, you're not crazy for experiencing that and you're
not crazy. But again, people who refuse to acknowledge the hurt that they've caused you,
chances are very, very good that they also have their own issues of emotional immaturity.
So here are a few things that I want you to consider about why it is that people may hurt you and
not apologize. One, they may lack emotional awareness. There are some people who themselves are so
wounded. They are so traumatized. Maybe they... not have their own hurt affirmed by the people who
mattered to them. And so what they did is they created some kind of emotional blinders where it's
like, since you didn't acknowledge my hurt, I'm going to either act like my hurt doesn't exist or
I'm going to essentially deny that I'm hurt. And when we do that,
we actually become emotionally blind to the hurt of other people because the way that we are
created. And this is why the Bible tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves. We cannot love
another person beyond how we love ourselves. And so a person who they've had their emotional
sensitivity damaged, they can't be aware of your emotions because they aren't even aware of their
own. So a lack of emotional awareness. Number two, they may be struggling with their own shame and
defensiveness. One of the things I had to realize even about the situation with my mom is that The
reason why she essentially blamed me for what she allowed her boyfriend to do and the reason why
she blamed me for what she herself perpetrated is because her own sense of shame is so deep that
she couldn't take accountability for it because doing that would require her to look at herself and
see her own deficiencies and see her own wrong. And take ownership of that.
And some people, their shame is just so, it's so vast that they don't have the ability.
Because see, in order to apologize, you have to be able to humble yourself beneath the weight of
your wrong. In many ways, shame acts almost like a, it acts like a protective shell.
This is why people who are deep in shame. are typically the first to blame other people because in
order to accept responsibility, I have to be humble enough to acknowledge that I am not perfect and
I have flaws. But what shame does, if we're not careful, is it'll create a protective shell that
will actually cause us to dismiss our flaws rather than deal with them and own them and get free
from them. So they may be struggling with their own shame and defensiveness. Sometimes people fear
losing power. And so sometimes people will not apologize because they are afraid that if they
apologize, that somehow their apology will be used against them and they will lose their leverage.
They will lose their ability to control you if they admit that they did something wrong.
This is another big one. Sometimes people don't apologize because they don't perceive you to be
somebody who actually requires accountability. Maybe you're the kind of person who you're quick to
dismiss what they did. You're quick to excuse what they did. Or you're the kind of person who you
don't have any consequences for the hurt that they caused you. And so because there are no
consequences, they don't feel the need to apologize. We apologize because we don't want the
consequences of our actions. Or we apologize because we hope that that'll minimize the consequences
of our actions. Sometimes people don't apologize because they don't believe that you'll actually
hold them accountable.
There are some times that people don't apologize because they perceive you to be strong.
So they just assume you're fine. They hurt you and they're like, yeah, but you can take it. You're
fine. It's no big deal. And so sometimes we can come across as in many ways being impenetrable.
The kind of people that we don't need an apology because we're just going to roll on without it.
And then lastly, I would also say that sometimes people don't apologize because we over function so
well that people underestimate our hurt. You know, they do something that deeply hurts us.
And we just kind of keep the circus moving. You know, we don't stop.
We don't pause. We don't cry. We don't do anything. We just keep the circus moving. We keep
operating at a high level. Maybe we compartmentalize the pain, but we just keep on trucking. And so
they're kind of like, oh, yeah, they're fine. No big deal. Yeah, that didn't hurt them that bad
because, you know, they're still functioning. So sometimes our over-functioning can actually
create a hindrance to another person apologizing because they're like, oh, they're okay. I think
it's really important. Again, I want to emphasize this. I said it earlier, but I'm going to
emphasize it again. People apologize when they fear consequences.
People say they're sorry when they fear consequences. Listen, I have two sons, 16 and 13.
And I know for a fact that There are certain things,
if my boys do something that I dislike or they break a rule, there are certain things that I can
take from them that they really don't care about. I can tell them they can't watch television.
They really don't care. I could even tell them they can't play their video games and they'll be
like, yeah, I prefer to play my video games, but that's okay. But if I say I'm going to take their
phone, that's when it becomes a problem. That's when it becomes a problem because the television
and video games like that doesn't matter as much to them because see their phone is their lifeline
to their friends. If they have to choose between watching TV or playing video games and staying in
connection with their friends, they're going to choose staying in connection with their friends.
that is the thing that will lead them to apologize. That is the thing that will make them see the
error of their ways so that they can get their phone back. And so I wanna encourage all of you to
consider if someone has hurt you and they haven't apologized, what has been the consequence of
their actions? Just a question for you to consider.
Proverbs chapter four, verse 23 says, keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it springs the issues of life. The word that's translated issues there is actually the
Hebrew word totsah. And it means a few things. It means number one, outgoing or extremity of a
border. It means the source of life. It means the escape from death. So this scripture says you
have to keep your heart. You have to guard your heart with all diligence. You have to observe it.
You have to observe it because out of the heart springs the border,
the extremity, the boundary of your life. You know,
our heart has to be guarded because not only does it contain the boundaries by which we live,
but it also contains the key to the source of life, vitality,
joy. peace, the fruit of the spirit. Our heart is like the hub of our life.
I can typically tell the condition of a person's heart by looking at the condition of their life,
their state of joy, their state of peace, just their state of kindness and goodness and love.
I can tell the state of their heart, whether their heart is broken, whether their heart is healthy.
I can typically tell it just by looking at the life that they live because your life is always
gonna be an outgrowth of the condition of your heart. And so what this means though for us is that
when someone acts in a hurtful way, we have to be vigilant. and ensuring that our heart is not
affected and infected by what they did to us.
We have to be very careful because there's this saying that you may have heard, hurt people hurt
people. This is why when I tried to explain why it is that somebody may not be apologizing,
Every explanation that I gave, whether it's shame, whether it's emotional immaturity, lack of
emotional sensitivity, every explanation I gave, it goes back to something that happened to them
that caused an issue for them, caused a hurt for them, that they are then essentially projecting
onto you. And so we have to be careful that we don't allow our heart to get infected by another
person's decisions. You know, you are not. cold or guarded. You are not bitter or withdrawn or a
people pleaser. But the story that we believe in our hearts is what actually creates that
expression in the world. That's not who you are. That's not how you show up. And you even know it.
That's not who you want to be. I mean, if you really think about it, it's like, no, I don't want to
be cold. I don't want to be isolated. I don't want to be this way. And I don't know how not to be
because of the hurt that other people are causing me, but I want to give you a truth.
Psalm 27 and 10 tells us, though my father and mother forsake me,
the Lord will receive me. Though my father and mother forsake me,
though my father and mother don't care about the hurt that they've caused me, though my father and
mother can see me crying and not feel moved to apologize for it,
the Lord receives me. The antidote to all of this is understanding that God does not validate your
worth based on a human apology. God does not say that you are more worthy of his love,
of his kindness, because other people apologize for what they did. No, your value was established
before you were formed in the womb. And so no matter who says I don't need to apologize or they're
not worth that or I don't care about the consequence, no matter who says that, God decided that you
are worthy, period. People may overlook you. They may overlook your hurt. They may overlook your
pain. God does not. He cares. He cares so much that he said he made a promise that if your primary
relationships, the people who should be the most important people, the people who should never,
never, never forsake you, the people who should never reject you, the people who should care the
most about how you feel, even if they don't, God says, I do.
I want to give you just a practical reframe on this issue, because again, even though the question
that was asked is, you know, hey, why is it that people can hurt me and not apologize for it? Even
though that was the question that was asked, I think that the real heart question, the question
beneath the question beneath the question is why don't I matter to people? Instead of asking why do
people hurt me and not apologize, I want you to say, may I never become the kind of person who
doesn't feel hurt by the hurt I cause others.
So it's no longer about why do people do this to me? It's about here's a declaration I'm making
about who I'm not going to become just because of what they did to me. I refuse to become the kind
of person who is so cold. I refuse to become the kind of person who is so wounded that when I hurt
someone else, I don't feel the need to apologize for because I'm just so dead. I'm so numb inside.
That's how that happens. I guarantee you those people have been hurt and instead of actually
choosing to not become the thing that hurt them, they decided, you know what? If they're going to
do it to me, then I'm going to do it to everybody else. That's not going to be your testimony. It's
not going to be your testimony. Once you make that declaration, I want you then to just allow
yourself to feel the hurt. Feel the hurt. Don't be numb to it. Allow yourself to feel it and bring
it to the Lord. How you're feeling the pain, you know, and allow the Lord to minister to you
through your pain. And then I want you to ask honestly, what story am I telling myself about what
their silence means about me? This is where the enemy operates is he causes us to.
define ourselves based on the choices and the behaviors and the words of other people.
And that's not how we're supposed to define ourselves. We're supposed to define ourselves by what
our creator has said about us. But instead, we define ourselves based on what people do to us,
even what they don't do to us, what they say to us, and even what they don't say to us. So I want
you to just really expose that. What is the story that I'm telling myself about what their silence
means about me? And then finally ask yourself, is this story true according to my creator?
You know, I shared my story earlier and the thing that hurt the most,
I think, in what my mom did, both in bringing her boyfriend back and then in blaming me for her
choice, is It told me that I didn't matter.
It told me that nobody cared about me. It told me that I wasn't good enough. And I carried that
throughout my life into all types of relationships, into my career. Similar situations happened
where people would hurt me and they didn't apologize. And I just took it almost as like a
reaffirmation of my understanding that I didn't matter, that I wasn't good enough, that nobody
cared about me.
But I do want to just share this with you that if you're listening to this,
if you're watching this and this is resonating with you, I don't want you to harden your heart just
because someone else won't humble themselves. The Bible tells us that God resists the proud,
but he gives grace to the humble. He gives grace to the humble. He even told the apostle Paul in 2
Corinthians chapter 12, he said, is sufficient for you.
When you're going through these hurtful situations, and there will be more, there will absolutely
be more. When you're going through these hurtful situations, just remember God's grace is
sufficient for you. How they treat you is not an indictment on your worth. How they treat you is
not based on who you are. And you have to know that. So three reflection questions I want to leave
with you this week that I want you to just think about. Grab a journal.
Think about it this week. The first question is this, where have I equated a lack of apology with a
lack of worth?
I want you to think about that. Number two, who am I waiting on to validate my pain?
And number three, what would change if I believed I mattered,
even if they never say they're sorry? I want you to kind of wrestle with those questions this week
and don't wrestle with those questions alone. Invite the Holy Spirit into those questions because I
can assure you he is waiting to be a part of your healing process. So know this,
you matter not because somebody apologized to you for hurting you,
not because people validate you, not even because they see you clearly.
You matter because You were seen, you were named, you were known, and you were loved before you
were even formed in the womb. God, your creator, loves you completely.
And he's loved you before anyone mishandled you. And that's exactly what has happened. People
mishandled you. But God wants to restore you. God wants to restore you.
What I would say is sometimes healing comes not... from waiting for an apology, but being willing
to heal in the absence of it. And so I want to take this moment to pray for you.
I'm going to pray for you specifically, Sia, but I also, I want to pray for everyone watching this,
that this resonated with you. So let's take a chance to pray.
God, I'm grateful for everyone listening to this, everyone watching this. I'm grateful,
Lord. Because within all of our hearts, there is the question of why do people do what they do?
And what does it mean about me because of what they did to me? And your answer has never changed.
Your answer has never changed, God. You've been so consistent in saying that it doesn't matter what
they did. It doesn't matter what they said. What matters is that I thought that you were worth
dying for. Not when you were perfect, but while you were yet in your sin,
while you were still my enemy, I decided that you matter so much that I want to spend eternity with
you. And God, we receive that now. We receive that promise. We receive that declaration.
We receive that truth in place of the lie that a person's lack of apology is because something's
wrong with us. God, I pray that you will surround each person with love right now,
with peace, God. Let them know that you are real. Help heal the hurts,
the heart, the heart cracks and crevices, God, that have emerged from being mishandled.
Heal those hurts and be glorified through all of us. In Jesus' name I pray.
Amen. Thank you so much for joining me for this. first episode of Just Nona.
And I invite you to join me again next week when we tackle another heart question.
So until next time, I want you to stay anchored. And I want you to know that if nobody has told you
this, God so deeply loves you. And so do I. I'll see you next time.