Why You Keep Choosing The Wrong People | Just Nona

There are some relational tensions that don't have clean answers.

Not because you don't want resolution — but because the path to resolution isn't fully in your control. And if you have ever experienced a strained relationship with a parent, you know the weight that comes with it. The history. The repeated attempts. The hope that this time will be different — followed by disappointment when it isn't.

And then grief happens. And you simply don't have the capacity to keep showing up the same way you always have. So you pull back. Not as a statement — but as survival. And over time, that distance starts to raise questions: Should I be doing more? Am I wrong for not reaching out? Is this a boundary — or is this disobedience?

In this episode of Just Nona, I'm answering a heart question from a listener named Candy, who went no contact with her mother after the death of her youngest son — not as a decision, but as a response to grief. Two years later, she is carrying guilt and shame for not initiating reconciliation, while also holding a quiet word from God to be still.

This is one of the most layered conversations we have had on this show. And it deserves a real, honest answer.

We talk about:
Why grief diminishes your relational capacity in ways that are neurological, not just emotional
The critical difference between reconciliation and repair — and why confusing the two keeps people stuck in cycles
Why the absence of repair is actually the absence of repentance — and what that means for the relationship
How guilt and shame distort identity by convincing you that access equals obedience
What Romans 12:18 and Ecclesiastes 3:7 actually say about the conditions for peace and the wisdom of silence
How to discern the difference between conviction from God and conditioning from your past
And what obedience actually looks like when God says be still

You are not a bad daughter for having limits. You are a grieving person who ran out of capacity. And distance is not always disobedience — sometimes it is exactly what God ordered.


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SPEAKER_01 0:00

Hey friend, this is Nelna, and I'm so glad that you're here. Uh this podcast exists to provide a safe space where people can ask the hard questions that they're carrying in their heart and receive biblical wisdom from me, a friend. Uh in order for this podcast to be distributed as far and wide as possible. Ratings and reviews really, really matter. So when you can, please leave a rating and also leave a comment because I love to read your feedback. I hope that you give it five stars, but whatever rating you give it, it really, really matters. So please just take a minute and let me know what you think, okay? I'm so glad you're here. Enjoy the show. There are some prayers that feel brave in the moment and then cost you everything shortly after. Prayers like, God, remove anyone in my life who is not aligned with your will for me. You meant it when you prayed it. You believed it. And then life started answering that prayer in ways you did not expect. People you loved disappeared, relationships you were holding on to loosened, things you thought God was going to repair, he removed instead. And somewhere in the middle of that, you found yourself wondering Did I pray the wrong prayer? Did I do something wrong? Why does this keep happening to me? Because here is the part that nobody talks about. It's one thing to believe in love. It is another thing entirely to understand why you keep reaching for the wrong version of it, why the same kind of person keeps finding their way into your life, why you can love God sincerely and still find yourself in relationships that don't reflect that love. Today's episode is for anyone who walks around with a smile on your face so nobody sees the hurt. The person who believes in what God has for you, but privately wonders if it will ever actually arrive. Let's talk about it. Welcome to Justin. I cannot tell you how many people have either commented or messaged me saying that they have found their way back to hope in Jesus because of the answers provided on this show. Up until now, this show has been entirely funded by me. But God has placed a really big vision in my heart to expand it globally. And I simply can't do it without you. So if you have been blessed by this show, would you consider partnering with me by giving a gift of any amount to help us grow the reach and impact of this ministry? If yes, there's two ways to help. If you're watching on YouTube, just click the donate button, or you can head over to nonajones.com and click the give button at the top of the site. Now, when you go to nonajones.com and give there, you can either give a one-time gift of any amount, or if you really believe in this ministry and want to support in a deeper way, you can become a ministry partner by signing up to give monthly. I would be so, so grateful. May God bless you for your generosity. All right, back to the show. For today's heart question, we are joined by a beautiful sister named Ebony. Ebony, welcome to the show. What's on your heart?

SPEAKER_00 3:57

Hi, Nona. My name is Ebony Davis. I'm from Wisconsin. I do appreciate you so much for choosing my question. I asked this question because I have been experiencing a lot of things in my life, but I'm still grateful, right? I'm grateful for um just life. A couple years ago, a few years ago, however you want to frame it, went through some things in my marriage. I thought that I had got this whole thing right. I have made some poor choices in my life by allowing the wrong means to be a part of my life. One day, before all this happened, I remember Marways on the Bible app reading different devotions, and I was reading one of your devotions particularly. And at the end, when you were getting ready to close out, she said, why don't you pray sometime and ask God's will to be done in your life? It's not gonna be easy, but it's gonna be working. And at first I was afraid, and I remember that night. I remember that night, and I said, Lord, I just want your will to be done in my body. I'm the one that you have to do. And I want you to remove idiots, everything out of my life that does not allow yours. Everything just has to instantly. Like my husband, my cheating, doing all kind of stuff, and I just was like, wait, hold on. But I'm appreciative, right? And so, no, no, I asked you a question. I asked, why is it that I allow the raw people to be a part of my life? Like, I walk around with a smile on my face, but nobody noticed that I'm really broken in the inside. And so that was my question that I asked, and I'm so appreciative once again where you pick up my question. That's what I wanted to know. And I appreciate you so much. Thank you.

SPEAKER_01 5:50

Ebony, first of all, thank you for asking that question. Um, I think that's a question that lives in the heart of many people. There have been seasons of my life where that was absolutely a question that I had. And as I was thinking about and praying into your question, the stated question you asked, um, I think what you're asking is, you know, why do I seem to be choosing the wrong people? Um, but then there's a question behind that question, and that's really what I want to deal with. And that is um, is there something within me that keeps attracting this? Is there something broken within me that keeps attracting this? So um, as usual, I want to start by just dealing with the pattern. I think that there is an experience here that is a human experience. It's not specific to you. So please do not feel like something is is wrong with you. Um, I think that what you're talking about in terms of your relationships is a pattern that is not um accidental. It's actually um an evidence of an attachment issue. And what I mean by that is uh there is a psychological theory, it's called attachment theory, which deals with um how we make relationships with people and the degree of uh safety we feel, the degree of care we feel. And attachment theory really looks at how we presently attach to other people, whether we avoid those types of connections, whether we are anxious about those connections. Um, and then uh it maps the way that we presently connect with other people, attach to other people, um, to our early experiences in childhood and our formative years. And so um the way that we build relationships in our formative years really kind of becomes the blueprint. It becomes the scaffold for how we build relationships in um into adolescence and adulthood. And even though we did not have time to talk about um your primary relationships, I'm going to go out on a limb and I'm going to bet that um there may have been some dysfunction there. There may have been some instances where you experienced inconsistent um attention and affection. Um, you possibly experienced painful and even um emotionally damaging types of relationships. And uh those experiences, those experiences do not just happen and then go away. Um, they actually get embedded into our understanding of ourselves and other people. And so the way that we relate to other people presently is very much so a byproduct of how we were taught to relate to people as children. Um I think that what's really unfortunate is, and I've experienced this myself, is that a lot of times the relationships that we choose, um, even if they are dysfunctional, we choose them because they are familiar to us. Um there's something about them that that we understand that we know how to navigate. This is also why I've seen many instances of people who will sabotage healthy relationships because they're not used to it. It's unfamiliar to them. And so people will be absolutely shocked. They're like, how could you let that good man or that good woman go? It's because their um their attachment style was such that it could not deal with what's considered a secure attachment, somebody who is used to consistency, somebody who's used to giving and receiving care, um, somebody who's used to emotional predictability, uh, that becomes very uncomfortable for people who have either an anxious or an avoidant um or even a disorganized attachment style. And I'm not going to get into all of the theory here, but I do think it's important to mention that because um what we may not understand in our relationships is that um familiarity can feel like home, even if that home is not safe, even if that home is not healthy, even if that home is unpredictable and is painful, um, it can just feel like home. And so what that means is a few things. Um people that we tend to feel most comfortable with are people who are typically repeating um and replicating a past relational pattern, even if that was dysfunctional. Um attraction to people who are unavailable or inconsistent or people who may be harmful as partners is typically rooted in um an unresolved attachment pain. So something that happened that um you either accepted as normal or was taught to you as normal, um, it again becomes familiar. And so when we end up in a relationship with a partner who essentially reminds us of our past, even though it is dysfunctional and even though it is painful because it's familiar, we become comfortable and we are tolerant of it. Uh and then also I do want to say that the pattern that you're experiencing is not really a character flaw, it's a wound. What can happen is we can experience these patterns and we can think something's wrong with me, something's broken within me, and therefore I keep choosing these bad people. When in actuality, it's not a character flaw. It's simply a wound that has not been treated, it has not been healed, and it hasn't been acknowledged because it's possible that you simply were not taught that what is familiar may not be healthy for you. So to be clear, um, repeating a pattern does not necessarily mean that you're broken. It could mean that there is something beneath the pattern that has not been recognized and has not been healed. Uh, I want to share a personal story with you that I hope will kind of illuminate this because this is something I've lived. I'm not just teaching on it. It's something that I've actually walked through. And um, the question that you asked, like, why do I keep letting the wrong people in? I think really is the second question behind the bigger question, which is what is it that I believe that is keeping the door open in the first place? So it's not just about who I'm letting in, it's why is this door open in the first place? Uh it's not about blame at all, it's about awareness. And I want you to really receive that because when we experience um these patterns, again, we can we can kind of assume that it's because something's wrong with us. We can assume that it's because, you know, we're immature, because we're just bad decision makers, when in reality, uh we just need to be aware of it because it's a pattern that we're simply repeating. So uh until we understand what it is that we're drawn to, why we're drawn to it, um, we're gonna keep making the same relational choices. We're going to keep making very poor decisions, not because we're bad people, but just again, because this is what's familiar. This is what we know how to deal with, this is what we know how to navigate. If you ever look at studies of women who um have been victims of domestic violence, people will often blame them to say, well, you should have left. Like the first time he hit you, you should have left. And to a person who is um, you know, used to safety, a person who is used to being valued and validated, that makes a ton of sense. But many times these are women who grew up in very unstable environments. They grew up in environments where there was chaos, there was abuse, there was violence, uh, whether emotional or physical. And so, in some ways, they were primed uh to live in a scenario where they were unsafe. And so when their abuser um abuses them and then apologizes, they're used to that. There's um a book called It Ends With Us. It was adapted into a movie. I think you can find it on Netflix, but um it it chronicles this young woman who she's a florist and she opens this flower shop and uh she gets into a relationship with this like really handsome, wealthy neurosurgeon, um, and it becomes physically abusive. And people looking at that situation would say, just leave. Like, why uh like why wouldn't you just leave? But then the backstory is she grew up in a home where her father was physically abusive to her mother. And so while the abuse uh in her present situation was certainly horrific, it was familiar. It was something that made sense to her. It was something that uh that she understood how to deal with and how to navigate because she saw it. I would highly recommend that you either read the book or watch the movie because I think it's it's a profound uh reminder that um we tend to live out patterns that are handed to us unless and until we recognize that this is not healthy for us and we actually make an intentional intervention to change it. Um, in my case, so I know what it's like to choose um unhealthy, dysfunctional, and toxic relationships because I've actually walked through it. Um I remember I had a boyfriend once who uh was verbally, verbally abusive, very selfish. Um, I now know that he had uh or had traits of narcissism. I didn't have labels for it then, but I remember we were in a conversation one time where I was bringing up to him something that bothered me. And uh what he said is he said, you know, this relationship can't be hard for me. If this relationship's gonna be hard for me, then I'm not gonna be able to do it. Looking back on it now as a healed, whole grown woman, um, the idea that he thought me bringing up to him something that bothered me was making the relationship hard for him. That in and of itself was a bright red flag that was like waving while uh the Star Spangled Banner played. You know, it was like, woo! But, you know, being that I was young and I didn't know, I just simply took that as an opportunity for me to not make the relationship hard for him. I took it as an opportunity for me to just not bring up my hurts, not to bring up the things that bothered me, not to bring up um anything that might um upset or disappoint him. And in the process of doing that, I ended up um essentially allowing my mind to convince me that what my eyes were seeing wasn't true. Um I was seeing things that pointed to uh him cheating on me. I was seeing things that pointed to him being unfaithful. And I also knew that I couldn't make the relationship hard for him. And so instead of bringing up what I was seeing and having a conversation as you would with a normal, healthy person, um, I made the decision that the only way to have a good relationship, the only way to have peace in the relationship was that I just had to keep what I was seeing to myself. And I had to convince myself that, oh no, uh it's it's not it's not what I'm seeing. It's not what I think it is. Like it's it's not that. And I remember some years later, this was many years later, I once heard a man, he was being interviewed, and he said something so profound to me, and I I totally resonated with it. Um, he said, Um, if a woman loves you enough, you won't have to lie to her, right? Because she will lie to herself. If a woman loves you enough, um, she will dismiss all of the evidence of your unfaithfulness because she will convince herself that she is mistaken, that she is the problem. And I absolutely um walked through that. And so I carried the weight of a very obviously toxic, dysfunctional relationship. I even had friends who were just like, why, like, why are you with him? Like, I don't understand. Um, but here's the thing it was familiar to me. I was accustomed to keeping my feelings to myself because that's how I was raised. I was raised in an environment, in an environment where, you know, my mother chose my abuser over me. She allowed her boyfriend to abuse me, knowing what he did. She had him locked up for sexual abusing me. And then on the day of his release from jail, uh, she took me with her to pick him up and brought him back home. And that taught me that my voice didn't matter. That taught me um that it didn't matter what I said because people are just gonna do what they want to do anyway. And so I essentially learned that dysfunction had to be okay because I had to exist in that type of an environment. Um, and so fast forward to the relationship with uh that ex-boyfriend, him saying that he didn't want to be in a relationship with me if I made it hard, mind you, I was bringing up issues that he created. But um saying that to me essentially made me carry the full weight of the relationship. It made me feel like I was wrong for bringing up something that was a legitimate issue. And my takeaway from that whole era of my life, and I really hope that uh this resonates with you, Ebony, and anyone else who's watching this, um, is that when you don't know your worth, worthless and priceless are synonymous words. When you don't know your intrinsic God-given value, a value that um was given to you before you were even formed in the womb. If you don't know that, then you're left to be valued, your valuation is left to the eye of the beholder. It's almost like um there have been so many stories where somebody went to an antique thrift store or something like that, you know, a store where people just kind of took their junk and uh they they went and they bought something very inexpensively, you know, maybe you know, ten dollars. And they later come to find out that it was worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. And it's always fascinating to me when I read stories like that because what that means is the person who originally had the item did not know how valuable it was. And so in their minds, it was worthless. But in the world of antiques, this was priceless, same object, different beholder. And so I had to learn the very, very, very hard lesson that I was priceless despite the fact that I was being treated like I was worthless. And so so much of our decisions when it comes to relationships, especially when we're in relationships where we're devalued and relationships where we're dishonored, where we're disrespected, so much of that happens because we don't know our worth. I was having a conversation with a group of young ladies, um, this was maybe, I don't know, four or five months ago. And I told them that one of the greatest, um, it's not really regret because I couldn't control it, but one of the greatest deficiencies in my life is that my father died before my second birthday. And so I didn't grow up with a father. I didn't grow up with a man to um affirm me and to tell me I was beautiful and um to to speak life over me. I didn't have that. And so what that meant was I grew up and I grew into a woman who I didn't know what it was like to have the male voice validate me. And so I ended up in relationships with people that I should have never been in relationships with, people who were nowhere near. Near the level that I was on, uh, intellectually, spiritually, financially, emotionally, like all of it. But um because they paid attention to me, that became the currency for my worth. And I I want to just share that transparently because, you know, I want you to know, Ebony, and anyone else listening to this and watching this, who's found yourself in scenarios where you've been in relationships with people who have just really devalued you. Um you have to know who you are, not based on what another person has said, not based on what they didn't say, um, but what your creator has said, your heavenly father has said about you. That is absolutely critically important. I want to deal with the identity distortion that happens when we are in a relationship with the wrong person, someone who devalues, disrespects, and dishonors us. Um, so wrong person enters our life and we get into a relationship with them. Um, we try to make the relationship work based on their terms. That's typically how it goes. Um, we try to make the relationship work based on their terms, um, but maybe they betray us in some way, they cheat on us in some way, uh, they are uh verbally or physically or emotionally abusive to us. And so the relationship fails. And um because that relationship fails, we can begin to think that something was wrong with us. If only I was different, if only uh I was prettier, if only I was more handsome, if only I had more money, um, then they would have wanted me, then things would have been different. And so um, we can begin to see ourselves as unworthy because the relationship failed and think that therefore something is wrong with us, that we are defective or deficient. That is identity malformation. When we begin to define ourselves based on the choices of another person, based on the words another person speaks over us, uh, that is malformation. The fact that the relationship failed does not mean that God was not listening to your prayers. Sometimes the relationship failed because God removed them from your life as the fix. We think the fix is that the relationship will work. Well, sometimes the fix is that the relationship actually fails because God is more committed to your wholeness than your comfort. You may be in a relationship that is very comfortable, but you are broken. You may be in a relationship that feels very familiar, but you are not living into the full purpose and potential that God has on your life because that person is diminishing who you are. Um, I want to read a pretty familiar um verse of scripture in the Bible. Uh, it's found in Jeremiah 29, uh beginning at verse 11. It says, For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. The reason why this passage of scripture is so important to me and why I believe that it's so salient to even this conversation is because sometimes the reason why God removes people from our lives is because God doesn't just want the majority of your heart. He doesn't just want most of your heart. He wants all of your heart. And the parts of our heart that are not surrendered to God are parts of our heart that we have given to other people, which means that those people have become idols. They have become little g gods. And whenever that happens, and you have the courage to pray and ask God to strip away anyone or anything that is not aligned with his will for your life, I can promise you the first thing he's gonna strip away from you is your idol, is the person, the relationship, uh, even the opportunity that you had your heart set on, the thing that you um filtered your choices and your decisions through apart from God. God's gonna strip it away. Um, and the reason he does that is because he wants your whole heart, because there's a promise connected to your whole heart, and that is that he is near you. The promise connected to your whole heart is that, hallelujah, that when you seek God with your whole heart, that you will find him. He said, You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. The promise connected to God, stripping away the people who are not aligned with your life is that when you seek him with your whole heart, you will find him. Because he knows the plans that he has for you. These are not plans uh to harm you, these are not plans to destroy you, but plans to prosper you, to give you a future and a hope. And you cannot have a hope and you cannot have a future when you're connected with somebody who is diminishing you, when you're connected to people who are cheating on you and betraying you, when you are connected to people because the attachment that you learned as a child is anxious. You know, when people start to pull away, you start to lean in more because you feel them pulling away. Well, the reason they're pulling away maybe because they're not good for you. And so the anxiety that's being triggered instead of leaning into them should actually draw you to God. It should draw you to seek the Lord. Um, Psalm 46 and 10 says this be still and know that I am God. This is not a call to passivity. Being still is not a call to passivity. It's actually an invitation to trust God. It's an invitation to stop forcing what God may be redirecting. It's an invitation to stop allowing anxiety to rule your life and instead to know that you can just pause and breathe. That you don't have to run after somebody. You can be still and you can just know that Jehovah is with you. Hallelujah. That Emmanuel is with you, that Jehovah Rapha is with you, that El Roy, the God who sees, is with you. That's your invitation to trust him. Being still means to stop pursuing what God is redirecting. Being still means to stop performing wholeness that you have not yet walked into. Being still means to stop filling the space that God is trying to create by keeping that door open to the next distraction, keeping that door open to the next relationship, keeping that door open to the next compliment. Being still means making space for God. So here's the reframe that I want to offer to you. Instead of asking, why do I keep letting the wrong people in? I want you to ask this, which is a hard question. What have I been calling love that is actually just familiarity? What have I been calling love that that just feels familiar to me? It feels like home, but it's actually hurting me. It's actually pulling me away from God, it's pulling me away from purpose, it's actually pulling me away from identity. Instead of asking, why didn't God fix him? Ask, what is God trying to fix in me in this season? Instead of saying that nobody notices my hurt, I want you to say, God sees what I've been hiding and he is not moved by my smile, he is moved by my heart. God sees what nobody else sees. God sees the pain, he sees the brokenness. Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart. And so when he starts to remove relationships, whether romantic or platonic or whatever their nature may be, when God starts to move remove relationships, it's because he sees that your heart needs to be repaired. And it can't happen when those people are connected to you. So Ebony, I really want you to know that you are not broken, my dear. You are absolutely not broken. Uh, you are not too damaged to be loved. Uh, God has made a promise to you. He's going to keep that promise to you. Um, but healing is not going to happen in a new relationship. It has to happen before that relationship. You have to invite God into what you're experiencing before you invite another man, or if this is a man that you're listening and watching before you invite another woman into uh your heart. So a few reflection questions that I want to leave you with over the next week. There's four of them that I want you to consider. One, what patterns keep repeating in my relationships and where did I first learn them? Ooh, this is important. Um, because when you figure out where you first learned the pattern, you will be able to pinpoint the place where the enemy gained ground in your life. And it could be, hear me when I say this, it could be that you learned the patterns from a pattern that was passed down to you generationally. Look at your mom, look at your dad, look at your grandmother, look at your grandfather, look at your aunts, your uncles, your siblings. And notice if there is a pattern that has happened in your family line, that there is ground that needs to be reclaimed. There is ground that needs to be recovered in your bloodline. It's not just through a decision that you made. There is actually a predisposition for that type of dysfunction that is actually encoded into your DNA. And we have to turn off those genetics through the spirit. That's where deliverance comes in. Second, what have I been calling love that is actually just familiarity? Third, what did God remove that I am still grieving? And have I allowed myself to grieve it honestly? Whether it's a friendship, whether it's a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, whether it's uh a job opportunity, what is it that you have not been grieving honestly, that you've been pretending that you're okay? We do not heal over injuries that we pretend don't exist. We heal when we treat the injury, because injuries that we do not treat become infected, and infections eventually lead to amputations. And some of us have the emotional equivalent of an amputation in our heart because we have not properly grieved what God removed. Last, what would it look like to be still, like truly still in the Lord, to trust God, to trust his removal, to trust his redirection, to trust his sovereignty? Um, what would it look like to just exhale into God's decision for your life? Listen, I need you to know, Ebony, and anyone watching this who this uh or listening to this that this resonates with, um, no, you did not pray a wrong prayer. You prayed a courageous prayer. Because when we invite God to remove anything in anyone that is not aligned with his will for us, we are inviting God to take full control of our lives. We're inviting God to have the final say. And that is a step of incredible obedience. That is a step of faith. And the beauty of it is that faith is what pleases God. Without faith, it's impossible to please him. But with faith, you can please God. And so um just take heart in the fact that anyone or anything that gets removed from your life is simply not connected with the purpose that God is calling you to in the future. You did not make a mistake. Um, just trust God, He knows what's best for you. And I want to pray over you and anyone watching this who um you're walking through this right now, where um, on the one hand, you're questioning, man, why do I keep inviting the wrong people into my life? And on the other hand, you're like, okay, well, God stripped away everything, and now I think something might be wrong with me. So let's go ahead and let's let's pray over that. All right. Um, Father, I'm so grateful for the question Ebony asked. And I recognize that many of us either have, are, or will walk through situations with people that cause us to question our decision making. And sometimes, Lord, we allow ourselves to enter into relationships because of trauma, because of um false beliefs about what we are worth. And I come against that now uh in the name of Jesus. I come against it with the authority of Jesus. Uh every lie that the enemy has planted in your mind that has caused you to believe that you have to settle, that you have to compromise, um, that what you have is the best there is, or what you lost is the best there was, I come against that lie now because the Lord is very clear that his plans for us are good, to give us a future and a hope, to prosper us. His plans are good. And we stand on the promises of God. Lord, we accept your sovereignty in our lives. And Father, if that means that you have to continue to strip away, that you have to continue to chisel away at uh the parts of our heart, God, that are not fully submitted to you, we invite you to do that, Lord, because we want to be like you. We want our heart to please you. We want our relationships to please you, God. We want our alliances and our allegiances to please you. So anything that does not please you, God, we invite you to strip it away. And I would simply ask that you give us the grace, Lord, to receive your decision with gladness, knowing that your word is true, that you work all things together for the good of those who love you and are called according to your purpose, God. We love you. And we pray, Father, that that you will say, Well done, daughter, well done, son, my good and faithful servant. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen. Amen. Listen, thank you so much for watching uh and listening. I hope that you received uh wisdom from this uh episode. And I'm so grateful that you're a part of this community. So I want to leave you with these very simple words that I leave you with every week because I want you to know that if no one has told you this, God so, so deeply loves you, and so do I. I will see you next time. Bye.