Ep. 78 Summer Bucket List!

Let's Chat about my Bucket List! This is what I want to make sure I do this summer, it is a longer list, but these 10 things are pretty damn cool! 

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I filmed this and made all my own edits. 

Transcript

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Well, hello, hello, hello, and welcome back to She Designs Her Life. So last week I lost my voice a bit. I was not wanting to record. I did not want to record the or distribute the one I had recorded already. Um I forgot to turn off my laptop on DD. I was just like, if you can hear the ding, you can hear the ding. It is what it is. I really don't feel like shutting off my messages. Um, because in case something comes through, because you know things are just important. But cheers to Memorial Day coming up. Uh, this is not Fanta or Fanta, as some people say. It's a spritz. I made myself a spritz at home. Cheers to all of you and the upcoming uh holiday weekend that we all have. It is a little soggy sounding, or it might be soggy. Let me fix my light. That was a cute face I just made. So I have my show notes. I hope everybody's having a lovely May. I can't believe it's literally gonna be Memorial Day. This to me is like insane how quickly it's all going. Like it's just damn. Damn, damn, damn. So today's episode, I felt really, really, really, really, really, really, really called to discuss this. The summer bucket list. Like me and my okay, so this was inspired um by my friend Steph. She actually had told me that she wanted to make a bucket list. I said, oh my god, what a great idea! Like it's summer in New Jersey for like three to four months. Yes, we've gotten little spurts of heat. Yes, we've gotten little spurts of stuff, but it has not been like super warm. Granted, these past couple of days we've had like 80s and 90s, like it's it's aggressive what we have going on. So all in all, I thought to myself, for the months that we have, I want to make a list and make sure I check that off. For me, with friends, without friends, I everyone knows I like to do stuff on my own. So it could be it could be either way with friends, without friends, whichever thing we decide, right? So now I'm gonna go over with you 10 things off the list, not the whole list, 10 things. We're gonna keep this short, sweet, and fun and light. So alrighty. I'm reading my show notes to make sure I didn't fuck up anything. I have something in my eye, and I can't get it out. So if I twitch my eyes, this is why. Okay, so I've lived in tune, I've lived in New Jersey like 10 years about, and like for the past couple of years, I'm single. So I haven't been able to do stuff. I used to do stuff with my ex, I did stuff with some friends, but now I want to do stuff, and honestly, like I feel like I should. By the way, if you're noticing something's different about me, I got a newbie. So now I'm not off kilter. Although this has color on it. We know. I should have never gotten color. It's not a regret. I just don't prefer color anymore. The only color that looks good on me is this one, and this is one of my oldest tattoos, so go figure. But this is all my things that I love: flowers, books, crescent moon. I'm actually gonna get it fit uh finished this week before Memorial Day, and then I'm done for a while. I may actually, we did discuss that we're gonna cover maybe this um because I don't like sharing tattoos, and the person I got this from, they had a sheet and they didn't cross out the sheet and gave it to somebody else. So I think that's kind of shitty. Anyway, so I digress. I have lived in New Jersey for about 10 years now. I think it's 10 years. I think I moved here in 2016 or 27, 2016, yeah, because I bought my house in 2018. So 2016, yes. So I did stuff with my ex, I did stuff with friends and couples and all the things, but there's things like I didn't get to do. And like last summer, I did some of these things and I was like, oh, I really want to like tap into it and do more. So these things are kind of maybe a little weird to some, but if you lived in New Jersey and experienced the Jersey shore, then it's not that weird. Um, so the first thing I love LBI, I know that there's multiple sides to it. I want to get either an Airbnb or get a hotel room, and I know it's gonna cost a small fortune, but I want to do it and I want to get on a beach cruiser and I want to like explore as much as I can. Like it's just beach country. So I feel like why not? Like, let's do this. So that's number one. Number two, I want to take a day trip or a weekend trip in Cape May. Now that's a little further south, I believe. Um, I've heard I've seen on Instagram, like, this is all stuff, by the way, that I've gotten ideas from on Instagram because I like follow all these influencers or all these people that like explore places. So this idea came from the fact that I would like to explore certain places of New Jersey. So that'll be fun. Um, and then that could be like a day trip or like maybe like an overnight stay, like nothing crazy. I don't know. It could be probably a day trip for all I know. My cat is gonna probably jump. Oh, all right, he's already owed, his little nails. Okay, so that could be something. So that was number two. Number three, attend as many concerts as I can. So I'm excited for all of the bands that I'm gonna be seeing and all the ones that are coming into the area. To be quite honest, there's a lot, and there's like old school ones. So a lot of them are heavy metal, a lot of them are rock, a lot of them are emo, a lot of them are like poppy. Like my first concert to start the season off is MGK. Love me some MGK, go with my girl Lauren, can't wait. Um, I have an array of concerts this summer. Like, I literally have MGK, emo, rock, metal, country. It's a mixture. It's a mixture, kids. We're all over the place. Keep your friggin' options diverse. You never know, right? I just like every type of music. Like I can literally be listening to soft music like Taylor Swift or like Gracie Abrams or like Sabrina Carpenter, and then the next thing I'm listening to like a heavy screaming song. I actually made a reel. I'm probably gonna put it out this week where it's like what people think I'm listening to in my car because I'm like just relaxing, and then all of a sudden it's like really going. My friends all think I'm crazy. So that's that. Um, and number four, I want to do this. So I've seen it. My friend Amanda sent it to me. It's like a tiki boat. I think it's in Point Pleasant, or it might be a little further south in Lavalette. I don't really know where, but it's like a tiki boat that you bring your alcohol onto and it like drives around for the day or however long you want it to. You could jump in the ocean, or you could see like I've heard you could see dolphins. This is the main reason I'm going. And if I saw a whale, my life would be complete. Okay. I want to do whale watching so badly. My excitement is ridiculous. I'd probably die internally, but I really want to. If I saw a dolphin, I would jump in. Okay, that's all I'm saying. So that's on that. And then it's a day of drinking. So, and eating, because you can bring food. I think he cooks food. Actually, I don't know. I have to look into particulars. I heard about it. Then there's like this to go with this, there's this thing called Ecove that if people have boats, you can go like have like a day party. It's like DJs, but on the water. And if you don't know what DJ's is, it is a place like a black hole on the beach. It's a beach club. Once you go in, you lose time and matter in life, and you just don't know what happens to you, but you dance your ass off, you drink drinks, and you can go get food next door, but it's just like a New Jersey staple that you have to try. There's also like Leggett's um uh Osprey. Like, there's a bunch of places to just go to. Not just your usual go to Jenks and Tiki, there's other places, so those have always been on my list. Um, and I will be getting to all of them, especially columns, because I love columns. I've actually eaten there and I love it. Um, so that's that. This is another one. I am a Yankee fan. Okay. There is a ferry, the seafarer, I think it's called, and it goes directly to Yankee Stadium. I am in love with the idea that I can take a boat and not drive to Yankee Stadium and then come back.

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That is literally number five. Number six, take the ferry to Rhode Island. It just feels like something I want to do. I've been to Providence, I've been to a few other places. So I feel like this is pretty important for me to go and do, to be quite honest. I love the island. There's a ferry, the seafer, it goes that way. Why not? I know it goes to Nantucket too. I just know that I think it sells out really fast. So this is like something I have to really like dig into. And I know I have to get a hotel, and my mom actually said she wants to do the Rhode Island with me. So as long as I'm not putting miles on my car, I am perfectly fine with that. Um, so that is that. Uh, then there is also spend an entire day in a beach town, be a beach bum, and learn maybe how to surf. Yep, I said that. Um, I may turn it into body boogie boarding because your girl surfing. It's a goal. I'd like it's a bucket list item. I'd love to do it. I'd love to do it. I'd love to do it. Will I do it? I don't know. Gonna have to wear a sports bra so these girls don't come out. But we'll see. It's on the list. It's something to try. Um, okay, so another one is to visit a winery in South Jersey. There's so many of them, and I've seen such cute videos, like farm winery kind of place. I am dying to try this. Like, dying to try it. And I feel like it's just something to do. Like, why not? We love wineries. I've been to Larita, I don't love Lorita. I'm sorry, like a lot of people do like it. I don't really give a shit for it. Like, I didn't like the wine, it was too fucking sweet. I went last year for my friend's birthday, didn't love it at all. Like, mm-mm. So, yeah, that's that. Um, so I did that. Uh, and I want to go to the aquarium in Philly. I don't think people know this about me. I used to be a docent, and if you don't know what that is, it is a helper at the aquarium. I did it all throughout junior high school in New York. I love the aquarium. I love sea life. I don't know if you guys picked up on that yet. Like, I did grow up in Florida and I used to jump off of like our paddle boats and like our little like um paddle boards into the ocean and just swim like a fish. Um, I love swimming. I mean, for God's sakes, last year when I went to Key West, I jumped off of a catamaran boat into the middle of the ocean. Yeah, and snorkeled and saw nothing. Did it though, but I did it. Terrified, as an adult, you realize you could be the shark food. Okay, just remember that. And I still did it. Also, uh on that same trip, I met a gal, which I should text her because she's from Savannah, Georgia, and I'd love to get me and myself to Savannah, Georgia. Not in the summer, though, because it's hot as hell. But we were on the evening sunset cruise on the catamaran and we saw a giant black thing underneath swimming next to our boat. So earlier that day, when I flew into the water, just imagine if whatever that giant black thing was, I'm pretty sure I would have died or been its meal. One or the other. You never know. When the ocean, you are. Oh, my legs are falling asleep. Sorry. Um, you never know what you're gonna get in the ocean. You are at its mercy, and you are also a visitor in the ocean. Our sea legs are visiting. I've learned to respect the ocean. I have learned to respect the rules. That's just that. So that is that. So, yeah, I want to go to the aquarium in Philly. Long-winded reason to why I want to go, but I would like to go to the aquarium in Philly. So, also to go with that, it's also explore the day in Philly. Like me and my friend Steph have discussed this that we want to go spend the day in Philly. So it's a part of maybe like a weekend thing, maybe, maybe. Thought process in this is like make day trips and stay the night if I want. So this is another one. This is tense. So, me and my friend uh Carly have spoken about this. I have been dying to go to Maine. It is a drive, but in the summer, it's the better time to go. In the fall, their fall is like August or September. So I want to go before their fall. I want to see it in the summer. I want to experience it. Like, this year is all about me doing my experiences. That's what I'm noticing. Like, I want to experience things. I want to because traveling is gonna happen towards the end of the month, the end of the year. The end of the year, I've decided that's when I'm gonna do all of my big traveling because we only get three to four months in this nice weather, nice-ish weather, I should say. Um, so yeah. So basically, gonna take advantage of it while I'm here. Um, and I think it'll be fun. So that's my bucket list. And I'm gonna go over with what I am listening to because what I am watching is gonna be probably long-winded. So, what I'm listening to is call her daddy. I know she announced she's pregnant. I absolutely am so happy for her. She has been having some really good interviews, and then then she's like had like this amazing therapist on. I actually want to talk about it in one of my episodes about relationships, and it falls into friendships and romantics. So, to me, I'm like, I was fascinated by that episode, and I think it's really something important to discuss and talk about because it's just, you know, it is what it is. So that'll be probably up, not it'll probably be up because I am gonna put another episode out next week, even though it's like the end of the month, but I'm still gonna do it because I only fell behind once. Um, so call her daddy. Uh, let's be honest, because we love Kristen. We know this. I love her. Duh. And also I've been listening to a book, The Summer Storms by Sarah McLean. Steph recommended this to me. I am obsessed with it. I listen to it all the time. I'm probably gonna be done with it by the end of this week. Um, I also have um, I'll go over what I'm reading because the watching one I really want to talk about. So, what I'm reading, um, obviously the audiobook, but it's on audio, so it goes with listening. And then my friend Steph gave me a draft of her book. So I'm starting that. It is big because I printed it in big. It's not little, so it carried around. It's pretty heavy. Um, and then I'm also on the last book, the fifth book, I believe, of off campus, uh, The Legacy. So that's that last book of that series. And then there's a whole like it goes into more. So I'm like, oh god damn. I'm like, I really I'm gonna have to decide if I'm just gonna move on to summer reading, um, like summer books and stuff, because I want summer reading, like I want summery books, like on beaches, in like Cape Towns, in like Jersey towns, in like something with summer included. So once I finish The Legacy, I think with Seth's book, because it is summery, I am going to move on to a summer book, and I have a whole slew of those, and they're gonna be perfectly in my beach bag and all of that. Um, and by the way, at the end of this episode, I'm gonna summarize why I decided even more of a bucket list, and I think that everybody's gonna understand a little bit more because they're probably like, what the hell? Um, so what I'm watching, okay, so off campus, I posted about reading these books. It is normally when people make movies or shows about a series or books, it doesn't translate well. It doesn't. What's who the people that have done it well is Bridgeton. Um, they did it phenomenally. I think it's gonna fall off in the next season, but they did great. Um, I understand social cues, social norms, the shit they gotta keep in, the shit they gotta do. I get it, okay? But keep the book true to it is if you're gonna make the book into live action. That's all I'm gonna say. Excuse me, the prosecco is making me burp. I'm sorry. So immediately when I watched this show, I fell in love. I have never felt more how true to the character in the books on how they put it on camera and on a show. Yes, there are some things that are missing, but they put it effortlessly together, and these characters are portrayed perfectly by these actors. The only one that I'm really pissed off about is John Tucker. I'm sorry, yes, his name is John Tucker, okay? Yes, John Tucker in this show must die. I'm sorry, you need to be recasted because in the book, you are a giant, beautiful looking man. Giant. You are now short and Spanish. It doesn't translate. Because John Tucker in the book is amazing. So I vote recasting. Sorry. He's a great actor, though. He's very sweet, but he's gotta go. And if you read the books, you're gonna understand why I say this. And if you have read the books, I hope you agree with me. Because I'm sorry, Tucker, Tuck, the man that takes after the house, not only is he big and burly, but he also, you know, yes, he can cook and yes, he can clean. Because he was raised by a southern mom. But you know what? I don't feel like she's being portrayed in this show. That's all I'm just saying. Carrying on from that, I digress. So I am I've only watched it once. I do want to watch it a second time because I always feel like I can I'm missing some things on the first time because I'm always like, oh my god, this is amazing. I did do that. I got very excited, and I was always like, oh my god. So I have to watch it a second time. It is what it is. So I do think that this was this show was executed so far top-notch. I know they are filming the second one. I am so happy they're not wasting any time. They are doing lovely, and I think that if you have not watched it, man or female, please watch it because there is certain parts in that that show that a man has emotional intelligence and he's just in college. So emotional intelligence is what women love. And if you have that, like these characters, and I know they're characters, and they were written by a woman, but god damn it, let a guy have an emotional stability thought and let him, even coming from a fucked up background, somehow be normal. Okay, that's all I'm saying. So that's that. Um, but Real Housewives of Rhode Island may have been the reason why I want to go to Rhode Island, okay? But these women are perfect, they are TV gold, okay? TV gold. They are ruthless. And they're all brunette. I love that they're brunette. Yes, I know. But I'm also gonna get a new little look coming your coming your way next week. So I will probably fuck, I'm getting my hair done on Wednesday. I the episode might be a day late just because I want new hair on camera. Don't judge me. Okay? Maybe it'll come out next Thursday or Friday. Okay. So these women are just obnoxious and I love them. So just watch the show. Uh reunion of Summer House next week. Actually, that is on Wednesday, and I want to be able to discuss it. So I'm probably gonna record and put the episode out next Friday. Is what it is? I've just decided. Okay. Um that show fascinates me though, because they're so all so not normal or who you would picture as roommates, but yet it works, but they're all chaotic. So I don't know. But Carl's not okay, but he's okay. Don't ask. Uh, of course, watching Below Deck, and I'm also watching Ladies of London. Ladies of London is really a slow burn for me. I don't know about anybody else, but I'm not really loving it. They're kind of like a slow burn. But Jersey, Jersey House vibes are recording. Yay, we're gonna get that crazy back. So yeah. Okay. So the reason I did the bucket list, I have noticed that I always say I want to do something. I always say I'm gonna have a goal to do something. This is for me to hold myself accountable, record it if I want, not recorded if I want, but also life is so short. Things change. Things happen, people get sick, people don't talk anymore, maybe people pass away. There's so many things that you have this one life. So, with this one life, make it everything you've ever imagined. Romanticize your life and your decisions. Romanticize the summer. The summer is coming. Romanticize what you want to do, how you look, how you're gonna be, what you're gonna do, how you feel when you do it. It's literally the happiest thing to make yourself feel good that you've done something and make a list. Make a list, you know, and get it done. It's something like if you've never rode it, rode a bike in one of the shore towns on a beach cruiser, but you want to do it. They have rentals. That's one of mine. Like it's a part of the beach day, spending the day at the beach. There's things that putting yourself in places that you've never been, don't go to the same beach bars that you've always been to. Go to new ones, research them. There's pages on Instagram and TikTok that show you new places. Go to them. You know, all in all, we and I'll say it again, we have one life to live. Just one. And do what makes it amazing. Romanticize the shit out of it and have the best time doing it. Have the people around you that you love, that love you, that talk up and happy to you. Nobody needs to talk down to you. Nobody needs to tell you what you're feeling and what you're not feeling. Do what you want to do. And when you do it, you'll notice what's coming to you, which is the true authenticity and authentic things that are meant to happen for you. And I started to notice that the moment something is no longer working for me and I remove it, that huh, things all start to fall into place and things just are good and things are happy. And you make a list of things that you want to do and accomplish, and you're gonna romanticize the shit out of your life. And guess what? It's gonna attract all the goodness that's gonna come to you. And it's gonna be deserving, authentic, and it's gonna be true to you. And that's my TED talk about making a summer bucket list. Make the summer bucket list, do the damn thing, and make time. And if you're working a nine to five, take PTO. If also you're not and you're an entrepreneur, there's cheaper ways to get these things done. So, all in all, get that shit done. Make the list, tell me about the list, share what you do, and I will share what I do. And then maybe it's something that what you've done, I want to try. Life is all about trying. It's how you see and what you figure out, what you like and what you don't like. Just do it. Try it. And besties, thank you so much for tuning in. I'm gonna try to get the video on Spotify because I heard I could do that. So I hope to see you and I hope to hear all about your bucket list. I can always share with you guys what I do. All right, bye.