Ep. 80 June Recap, Bucket List & Officially Summer!

Let's catch up on what happened this month and what I am watching and some random thoughts. 

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Hello, hello, hello, and welcome back to She Designs Her Life. This episode is the June recap. This is me discussing everything I went through this month or did or have advice on because I have show notes. Technically, they are from the episode that did not even record um verbal, like sound-wise. So I'm going to incorporate a few things. I am I am caught up on a few things, especially for what we're watching. Um, but I'm gonna go over everything I did, and I'm even gonna look at my calendar to remember all the things that I did. So I am slightly OCD. And if you hear me echoing, it's because I have things on really loudly. In the event because I've tested this already and re-recorded something else, but I was like, no, I had a different idea and I want to try something different. You're gonna notice I no longer have long hair. I took out the extension weft for no other reason than it's too hot. It is too freaking hot. My hair is growing, it is this is its natural length. I do have some like little pieces of K-tips in. But to be quite honest, it's summer. If my neck and my like back is not sweating, I'm happy. So we're gonna stick with this do up until I get tired of it. But I kind of like my color. I did just tone it myself, did my roots because my grays were graying. Um, so let's jump right in. Hello, June, and goodbye, June. You've been one busy freaking month. It came in so fast, and I just was like shocked on how quickly it came right in. I was like, whoa, talk about busy. And I did a lot of clients this month. Um, so that's why it was really hard. And I haven't like established like a yes and a no. So, well, I I have, and I have a life. I am actively dating, I am actively um enjoying concerts, busy weekends, busy times with my mom, with my friends. Um, so let's jump right the hell in. So the weather this week, we're getting a heat wave. It is gonna be 4th of July weekend. It is gonna be a busy one, but I have tried a ton of new restaurants. So, my bucket list that I have, I am so excited that I am going through it so fast. Where it's like I'm trying new places, I'm going to new, like see new areas of the shore. Um, me and my friends are making like date nights. We're doing a lot of fun stuff. There's a lot of fun stuff that's coming up in July. Like I am super excited. And then the vacation that I was thinking about going on, I went to go look into it for this weekend, like a last-minute like runaway. Couldn't even do it. There was a plate, the concert I wanted to see is sold out. So that's when you know it's not meant to be. So there's another vacation that I'm planning for towards the end of the summer, like end of July, um, end of August. I am debating about something. So, and that will be really me wanting to get away and just unplug and get out of, even though I live somewhat not far from the beach, I kind of want to like enjoy, and it's a part of my bucket list to go and see the beach in different areas and kind of get to know other beach towns. So, and my friend Rachel, hometown hello, she actually has a template. I did not get it because I already had the list going, but do it. She it looks like she may have made it on Canva. She's amazing. So, and I do her hair. So we had discussed it. I was like, I made a bucket list. She goes, I'm making one. So it's keeping her organized. So maybe that's more you. Me, I have one on my notes app so I can like cross it off. And I also have one in a notebook so I can cross it off. Um so it's just keeping me organized. Hi, Bun. I have a cat at my foot. All right, so did that. NYX won won the championship. Congrats to them. FIFA is on its way, it's going. And then there's baseball, and that's on my bucket list. I want to go to a Yankee game, and I fully intend to get myself to a Yankee game because we just we love that. That's just the way we're gonna go. Because we love, I'm sorry, but it just it is what it is. So I have been challenging myself as much as possible because I work from home on Fridays, so I'm waking up either at 7 a.m. or 8:30 and going to spin class, and then I do every single morning. The one weekend I did not was the solstice weekend, which if nobody knows what the solstice is, it is the marking of the first day of summer. It is there's a whole definition of what it is, it happens every single there's a solstice, the uh equinoxes, and the solstices. They basically mark the changing of the season. So if you don't notice, it's the longest, lightest day of the year, and then it slowly starts to go backwards when you hit fall, and then that's when we start to get a little dimmer. It's a natural progression, it is nature, not witchy, even though people sometimes sometimes think it is. I mean, it could be it depending on what you want to set as your intentions and the things that you want to do. It could be, you know, just internalizing the things that you want. My biggest intention, as I just got water all over myself, was honestly my health. I want to make sure that I hit the gym more often, go on more walks. I hit my 10,000 steps a day. I have a co-host that has just joined who I need to cut his nails. And he does the biscuits, so it's like oh my god, bro. I love you. But also ow. So yes, so not for nothing. It has been, I lost my train of thought completely, by the way. So well, it'll come to me. So basically, oh, health, wanting to work out. So me doing three days a week in a row is great. The last time I didn't do it was just solstice. I went one day. I had it was the weekend that I actually went away to Riley Green to see my friends. We went together, and then I had seen him twice. So me going to as many concerts as I really want to has been a big thing. I try to take myself out on my bucket list. It has been to one to every one week or every other week, taking myself out on a date and doing something different, not just the same restaurants, but trying different things. I had gone to get my nails done and I had said to myself, Oh, I'm hungry. I know I have therapy, but let me go get something to eat. And then I was I started noticing, like, I think I had heard Jimmy Eat World was in, and I was like, oh, I was like, I love Jimmy Eat World. I was like, hmm. So then I saw tickets were affordable, bought my ticket for the same day, went and saw my boys. I've seen them probably at this point at least five times. Maybe six, three times out here. I know in the early 2000s I did see them at uh it was the old exit, but it's called Terminal 5 now, or what? It's a concert place or like a show place. I've seen a bunch of concerts there. Um, I've seen, I feel like I've seen Jimmy World there at least twice. Um, and it might have been like early 2000s-ish managing myself because it was their 25th anniversary um of Bleed America. Honestly, best date night ever. I had a lot of fun um for myself. I did I had two drinks when I was out to eat at Porta, and then I just was happy to be at the concert, had some water, stayed, and then left. It was wonderful. Um, I'm sorry, you have to see this face. Look at his face. Say hi. Say hi. Oh, that was cute. Say hi. Hello. No, he's over me. Yet he's up on my lap creating havoc. Um, so yeah, that was fun. I did that, and then it's honestly been an amazing month. I will touch on dating stories ever so slightly without a tail hitting me in the face at the same time. So basically, I have been going on multiple dates. I have been meeting guys out, or I am on a dating app. I'm not gonna say which one because I really don't want people to know what I'm doing. It is not that one that's from out-of-state duet. I deleted that a long time ago, but I am on an app. I basically don't pay attention to it like I should. And there was somebody that I basically we went on a few dates and we have been chatting. He does not live in the state, but he's here often for work. Hold on, my cats are about to fight. Hey, all you have to do is scare chip with just like moving something and he runs. Um, so yeah, so he doesn't live here. We're taking it as we go and basically just seeing what happens. That's with anything and anyone. I am not anybody's girlfriend, so it means I could still date others, which I do. Um, and if somebody doesn't like that, when you are both actively dating, you have to understand that two people are actively dating you and them. You have to be okay with it. If you are not, don't date. Wait till you're exclusive. Like, I don't know what to tell you, but I am the type that I am learning as I go, and I am dating with intention. I am finding my person. And this leads me into as well. I did a reading with my medium that I normally do, and she is fantastic. Like I have spoken about her. Her name is Cindy. She knows it all. It is wild how close and how amazing she is with timelines. So she was saying that I it's all gonna start happening, I'm gonna meet people, it's gonna be different, and all of that. I am not putting an emphasis on any one person I meet until they prove to me. When you are out of a relationship, you don't want to repeat patterns. I am adamant that I will not repeat patterns. I will give people grace, but I will not date someone who says some type of thing or certain type of thing. I will see behaviors in myself. And if I see negative like any type of like bad habits coming out, it's gotta go. I am also looking to have a lot of fun this summer. I want to go and do stuff. I have an entire bucket list to go and do stuff. I want to make if I'm I have always said, I will not settle for someone or a relationship just to settle. I want it to be different than what I've had before. I want hopeless romantic. I want shooting for the stars. I want sparks. I want something that's different, especially if I'm so happy and I give myself that. I want somebody to do it for me as well. So neither here nor there. It's something, particularly with me, that I want. I am content with my life. Somebody is an added bonus if they get brought into it. That's just the way it's gonna be, always and forever. And I am perfectly fine with staying single if I have to be. I don't mind the idea of not having somebody in my life just to have them. That doesn't seem appealing whatsoever. So dating with intention is very important. You write down exactly what you want. So with the medium, I I know exactly what I want and what I don't want. Things I'm releasing and things that I'm keeping. So that's my little PSA on dating. I will have a whole bunch of dating stories probably in July, because I feel like that'll be fun to divulge in. It'll be super fun. Um, so yeah. Basically, and I also saw MGK and Wiz Khalifa earlier in June. I was gonna say, I don't know why. I was gonna say March. Um, possibly one of the TEP top top 10 concerts. He is amazing. Both of them are amazing. MGK, though, really knows how to put on a show. And not for nothing, he is like fun. He like, oh, I didn't know I needed like an emo boy to set off this, like start the summer off completely, right? Like it was just oh top tier. And then Wiz Khalifa with all the classics. Oh, we love ourselves some good rap music. Like, mm, just perfect. Um, so then I have not done yoga by the water. It's just, I feel like on Sunday nights at 6:30, I'm gonna try my hardest. Like, if it's not this Sunday, then it's gonna, I I'm gonna try my hardest for this Sunday because it made me feel so good. And after working out so much at spin, I've noticed such a change where it's like I miss it. And I want to get into yoga. And I know the gym that I uh do my cycle, my spin classes at, they offer like hot bat and all that. So I need to look at their schedule too. Um, because I really want to try it. Another thing to put myself out there to literally try new things. That's that's it, that is the theme of the summer. There's two themes go with the flow and try new things. Stop going to the same places. Jersey Shore is huge. Try new things, like that is my goal. I have a cat hair on my nose. Got it. I just got it. Okay, so if you're watching this, it's a hot mess. Anywho, all right, so and I I already messed up on my bucket list. I didn't do the summer solstice yoga like I wanted to. I was actually dying that weekend, coming home from a long weekend, and all it there was just a lot. There was a lot that happened that weekend. Um, so basically, it was just a lot that weekend. I regret not going, but it's also like you have to listen to your body and know when it's no longer time to go and move yourself too much. Um, okay, so with June winding down all of the shows that are on, all of the things that are happening. First of all, the American Wedding is happening. Taylor Swift and Travis Kelsey. I am so excited. Like this whole weekend I'm gonna be like refreshing, be like, I want to see, I want to see, I wanna see, I wanna see. Like, I am so excited. I think it's a good idea that they're getting married at MSG. So there's no, they can have intimacy, they can have their family and their closest thousand, a thousand friends witnessing what their happiness is. That's just me. I think it's amazing of what they're doing. Um, because on their own time and their own ways, they can express and share what they want to. I think that's amazing for the caliber of celebrity status that she is. It's good. I'm the hope that goes along with what the medium said because my dad was a huge Knicks fan before he passed away. So he grew up in Yonkers, New York, uh, born and raised. He basically was a basketball fan. He was 6'5, you know, 300 pounds back then. He was maybe uh 200-ish. He played basketball on the lower west side. He was very, very active. My dad taught me how to play basketball when I was little. I was a Heat fan because I loved one of the players, Dwayne Wade and Birdman. There's just a few, I just don't love basketball anymore since Dwayne Wade retired. Um, but like I loved Michael Jordan. I grew up in that era, but my dad also gambled. So for me, sports have always been a love. He taught me all my sports that I know. It's a matter of don't love basketball. My dad used to gamble on it a lot. It was always a weird thing. So, neither here nor there. But the medium had said, Did your dad love the Knicks? And I'm like, Oh yeah, I was like, he was a New Yorker, he would have loved this win because every time he ever lost money for gambling, it was like, Well, shit, I wish they would win. So the message that I got given from my dad, because yes, I was called on, was that if the Knicks can work as hard as they do and miracles can happen, don't be discouraged. You will have your person, you will find whatever you really want truly in life. That is one of the messages I love when my dad comes through. I haven't had him in a while since I first became single, was the last time he had come through. Otherwise, it's usually my grandmother. So for me, for him, it was really nice for him to come through. And I'm a woo-woo kind of girl. So if this is too woo-woo for you, fast forward like 10 seconds, it's gone. So basically, when it comes to um anything like sports and all of that, I love the Yankees. My dad was a Mets fan, but see, I go against the green. Um, it's just one of those things that you kind of give hope. And I have completely lost the train of thought that I was talking about. Oh, Taylor Swift's wedding. So see, like if it can happen, it happens to her, and she gets the things that she wants and she gets the magic and she gets the happiness. Like it's just something that being happy for others is really nice. I know people think that it's terrible, but being happy for others is fantastic. Like, you want to make sure that those people around you, or even if they're not around you and they're no longer your friends, or they're people that you know as acquaintances, be happy for those people. And who gives a shit? And if they're not happy for you and they're sitting around talking shit about you, fuck them. In all honesty, it says more about them than it says about you. I think I said that in the last episode, may have, but we love when that happens. Like when we can care for others and they don't care for us, shit happens. And it's just it is what it is. So, more on the notes. So basically, I am gearing up for July to be a little bit on the slower side for me. I am doing this intentionally. I am not taking on as many clients. Usually June is crazy because we're at the summer. It's always a thing in June. July is gonna slow down a smidge bit. August gets a little quiet, which I am welcoming because I am so excited because then I know that fall might gear up. I am still actively taking some clients. I am enjoying it. It's great passive income. I am able to make my own schedule. They adhere to my schedule, and I really feel seen and heard by the people that are still my clients. So it's like a win-win for me. And it just makes me happy, to be quite honest, to do both. It keeps my energy going. So, yeah, so while summer slows down, I am gonna remember that come July, we are doing our dream board and vision board for the remainder part of the year. This is the something that's amazing where I get to dream and figure out what I want for the trajectory of the remainder of the year. Because my dream board, I got half of the stuff that I wanted that was listed on it. So now I'm gonna sit in my uncomfortable and say, what do I really want get to get done? And these are the things that I'm really gonna work towards. So that'll be the July episode where it'll be like the second to last week of July where I go over that and I'll share everything. Um, but June TV and books. I am taking a pause on books. I'm starting a new one soon, but I'm still working on reading my friend Steph's book. I am obsessed with it, and I'm taking my time because she wants me to give her my thoughts. So I'm taking my time so I could really divulge in my thoughts. And I can't help it because I really love just reading her book. So that's that. Now to talk about TV. Summer house. Oof, that was rough. Amanda's just a freaking punching bag to everybody on that stage. I'm happy that Wes is not coming back. It's really kind of unfortunate that Amanda isn't, but it's fine. Hopefully she Stays on the city because that show needs to keep it moving and make it good because honestly, it is a snooze fest. It really is like. Um, I have been watching shows four seasons on Netflix. Amazing. Um, letters to Isabel. I'm watching that movie this weekend because I'm gonna have a little bit more time and I hear it's very cry, and it's like, let me cry over the weekend. I'm don't want to cry during the week. So that's that. And then on top of it, I am also watching Love Island. The toxicity on this show is disgusting. The men on this show, I shouldn't even call them men, these guys, these boys, they're fucking horrific. The way they talk about these women who are also younger, everybody is younger except I think two people. It's disgusting the way they talk about the girls. Like, I can't stand Corbin and KC and Sincere. Horrific. All of these women deserve better. And they I hope they leave single at this point, those ones. Bryce and Trinity. Trinity, first of all, is so articulate and so intelligent. I love her. She is the sweetest person. And she will say some shade, but she'll also be like, and but I love you, and you're pretty and you're cute, but I freaking can't stand you. And I'm like, yes, girl. That's a nice way to put it. So yeah, that's that. Um, so that show, and I don't understand why Sierra is at all doing the after show, but I guess I fully kind of understand why she's doing it. It's weird to me, but whatever. Um, so that's that. And then the other shows that I'm watching, I am catching up. Oh my god, Real Housewives of Rhode Island, the reunions. Woof. That guy Brian the husband, why is Rula still married to him? That the what? Be better to to be divorced. Be better to be divorced in that situation. And Jo Ellen, yo, she's got the she got the T. She got it all. Home girl can find out anything and everything. That's freaking amazing. You go, Joel. Yeah. And I love Rosie. Love Rosie. She's my favorite. Because I just love her dorky husband. He's awesome. But yeah. Oh, so funny. It's just one of those funny things where it's just like shows really can bring out so much in you. Um, I know there's a new below deck. I completely am like not in it. In this city, don't love it. The guy, it's just weird. Um, what are the other shows that I'm watching? Um I don't even remember what the other shows are. I'm like, I could just open them because I watch Peacock more than anything. Netflix. Oh, besides four seasons, I am watching that other show that's on there. Um, oh my god. There's a whole bunch of them that I'm just like probably forgetting. But I do want to discuss more things that I did this month from my calendar specifically. Um, so let's see. So did a ton of spin. Um, Jimmy World hung out with some of my friends. Oh my god, I finally tried Angelica's. Holy shit, it was so good. I've never been there. So good. So I did Angelica's. I did this place Rhea in um Long Branch. I have done um, oh my god, there was another place. Well, Porta. Everybody knows Porta's good. Then I did um Driftwood. So I've kind of been like toying around with different places. I also have a um a reservation at like the new restaurant called Elizabeth's. So I have that, and then it's basically like just seeing what is out there, to be quite honest. And it's like getting to know the new shore towns. And I did want to share more of my bucket list because I only shared 10 things. So I'm gonna go to the next five, and I'm not gonna put them in order because I do want to keep some stuff to myself personal. So I just figured I would uh hand that over and say fun stuff. So beach towns get lost in. I thought this was great just to like promote small businesses and stuff. Avon by the sea, Lavalette, Brick and Bradley Beach, Manisquan, everybody knows about Spring League already, and Brielle. Um, I do want to go see a sunrise and a sunset. Could be in the same day or it could be in a weekend on the beach. And then I want to uh go to a summer farmer's market or local bazaar. There's a bunch of them that I saw happening, but there's a new one that's down by LBI, and I really want to go there. Um, and then I want to do a happy hour in the city. I know that the shore is nice, but sometimes doing a happy hour in the city is really nice, and I tend to um kind of I can go right into the city from work. So for me, that's fine. And I know a bunch of my friends still work in the city. Um and then I would like to, well, I already said date myself once or every other week. So I've already said that. So setting up my patio for the rest of the summer and into the fall. I want to organize it. It is kind of bland right now, so I kind of want to decorate it to be a little bit more pretty. Um, so that's on my list. So those are the few things that I've added to the list. I would love to hear everybody's thoughts on what they're doing for a bucket list if they do do it. Um, and then also I'm noticing I'm doing a lot of stuff unapologetically and more for me than anything. And I'm really liking that. I'm really liking the fact that I don't have to do things with the thoughts of for other people. Like it's all about me and all about the things that I want to get done. Like it's what's gonna make me happy. And I really think that some people need to look inward and see what they can do for themselves to make themselves happy. Whether it's like going and making plans with a group of girls to go hang out at the beach just to sit there and watch sunset, get some ice cream. Honestly, you don't always have to be going out drinking, you can go out and do other things. Go out to a bookstore together, go shopping. Me and my girlfriend went shopping. Granted, there was a glass of wine before that at lunch, but we literally went shopping. I bought a new pair of Levi's jeans that I love, and I got a side Jimmy World Record, which was coincidental at Levi's. They were giving it away if you spent $150, which is not hard to do with a pair of jeans and a tank top and a t-shirt. Can I get a free bag? Yay! So, yeah, so there's certain things that I'm noticing lately that I'm doing more for myself and completely unapologetically. Like I'm going out doing drinks for myself, going out and having fun, going out by myself, going for walks. Like, honestly, dating is taking up a good portion of my nights sometimes, but going out on weekends are for me and if I want to be with friends. That I'm noticing it could switch for sure. But I think when you start to do things for yourself and you start to do things unapologetically, things come to you. And when they come to you, it's basically like you're opening up doors to things because you're willing and able to have these things brought to you, if that makes sense. I don't know if it really does, but it might be a little woo-boo. But I truly think that's the way it goes that things come to you when you're not expecting it. And don't say no, but just go on the date. If the date sucks, or just go do something. If it all sucks, it all sucks. But at least you tried. It happens. Not every date is amazing. There's a lot of shitty ones, but there might be some good ones, and maybe the one that least you least expect becomes the most amazing one. So by all means, enjoy the dates, go do the things with your friends, enjoy the summer because we have it for July, August, and September, you know, Indian summer, and then in comes fall. So get your shit together, book the flight, book the hotel, get in the car, do the road trip, have fun, unapologetically live your life, and you will honestly make you won't regret a thing. That's basically the motto that I'm living at the moment. And ignoring responsibilities is my other one. So this is the episode. I hope everybody loves it. And let me know. I might add a sprinkle in another one before the July one, but I mean one that before the end of July. But I really like the idea of doing a monthly recap. Alrighty. And have an amazing month of July. Bye.