Silver Bullet Survivor
When going through a custody battle, a "silver bullet" is when someone makes false allegations of domestic violence against their spouse to immediately remove them from the home and to start alienating the children against them.
I went through this ordeal in 2022 and now have 50% custody of my children and, more importantly, an extremely strong bond with them. This podcast contains stories of resilience and shared wisdom learned through my journey as a father in navigating an abusive marriage, false allegations of domestic violence, parental alienation, and post-separation abuse.
Silver Bullet Survivor
18. How to (un)manipulate your kids
On this episode, I outline several steps I took in order to undo the brainwashing and alienation my children were exposed to. The general steps I took are below. All links to websites do NOT have affiliate links so I'm not getting paid for any of them. This is just what I've done, and what I bought.
The most important thing to do is to start getting overnights. Then you can do these things a lot more effectively.
- Buy children’s books that focus on parenting (whatever gender you are). Bonus points for focusing on the specific relationship (father-daughter, mother-son, etc).
- Buy custom books. I used Wonderbly. https://www.instagram.com/wonderbly/?hl=en
- Buy custom-shirts. I forget the vendor I used, but this is the shirt I got. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1706642294/custom-the-legend-of-dad-shirt-best-dad
- Listen to your children’s favorite songs. Sing along with them.
- Play video games, especially one-player games where you figure things out. Don’t play 1v1 or games where you fight each other.
- Go outside, go adventuring. We look for acorns, go fishing, go hiking.
- Buy them gifts. Doesn’t have to be expensive. Examples of things I bought my kids that they loved:
- https://www.amazon.com/Treasure-Multicolor-Diamonds-Drawstring-Decorations/dp/B093LJ2PX9
- https://www.amazon.com/Metal-Pirate-Coins-Doubloons-Realistic/dp/B0821QY292
- Make them friendship bracelets.
- Let your kids see you do grown-up things.
- Do things that show your kids you’re thinking of them when they’re not with you.
- Talk to your kids about general things in life.
- Read them bedtime stories. Anything from children’s books to Lord of the Rings.
- Buy them a stuffed animal, something they can sleep with.
- Most powerful thing I've done ==> Sing them lullabies and caress their hair while they’re falling asleep.
- Volunteer at their school. And let them see you volunteer.
Email me at jack@silverbulletsurvivor.com.