Silver Bullet Survivor - A Father's Guide to Surviving False Allegations, Parental Alienation, and High-Conflict Divorce
When going through a custody battle, a "silver bullet" is when someone makes false allegations of domestic violence against their spouse to immediately remove them from the home and to start alienating the children against them.
I went through this ordeal in 2022 and now have 50% custody of my children and, more importantly, an extremely strong bond with them. This podcast contains stories of resilience and shared wisdom learned through my journey as a father in navigating an abusive marriage, false allegations of domestic violence, parental alienation, and post-separation abuse.
Episodes
44 episodes
44. Understanding Flying Monkeys and how to deal with them
In this episode, I describe the psychology of Flying Monkeys (people who enable your ex) and the strategy for how to deal with them.
43. Healing through humor
In this episode, I talk about finding humor in life as a way to heal.
42. Why I prefer 50/50 custody with a high-conflict coparent
In this episode, I talk about why I prefer having 50/50 with a high-conflict coparenting as opposed to having full custody or primary custody.
41. Narcissistic supply, and why gray-rocking is the way to go
In this episode, I discuss the concept of "supply" and outline why gray rocking (or being emotionally inert) is the way to go when dealing with our co-parents.
40. The Healing Journey - Letting Yourself Feel
In the episode, I discuss the unsavory aspects of healing. I also read and respond to a listener's letter about going through a similar situation.
39. The documentation strategy that got me custody
In this episode, I outline the documentation strategy that helped me get custody of my kids. In summary:Take lots of pictures. Get a voice recorder and record visitations.Get a dash cam and record exchanges.
38. Ask for broad shoulders
In this episode, I talk about the mindset of overcoming obstacles vs removing obstacles.
37. Weaponized Therapy
In this episode, I talk about how people may weaponize therapy against you.
36. Christmas Calamity
In this episode, I talk about my Christmas holiday and the coparenting issues that arose.
35. Gentle Parenting and Discipline
In this episode, I talk about the concepts behind Gentle Parenting.
34. Thankfulness
In this episode, I talk about the things I'm thankful for.
33. Overcoming the stigma of false allegations
In this episode, I discuss how I overcame the stigma of false allegations.
32. Emotional recovery through self-care
In this episode, I talk about the importance of self-care through your emotional recovery.
31. Overcoming Trauma
In this episode, I talk about the process of overcoming trauma from your ex and your kids.
30. Countering counter-parenting
In this episode, I discuss all the ways I was able to counter my ex's attempts at counter-parenting.
29. Navigating and avoiding co-parenting traps
In this episode, I talk about how to navigate co-parenting conflict and avoiding traps. In summary: 1. Avoid verbal communications. 2. Stick to written communications like emails. There are co-parenting apps like Talki...
28. Getting over your ex
In this episode, I talk about ways of getting over your ex. 1. Take off the rose-colored glasses. 2. Respect and love yourself. 3. Realize your ex is not who you think they are.
27. When kids are angry
In this episode, I discuss ways to think about and talk to your kids when they are angry. The coach I reference in this episode is Dr. Amy J.L. Baker. Her website is https://www.amyjlbaker.com...
26. Talking to your kids about divorce
In this episode, I talk about how to talk to your kids regarding the divorce and the situation in a way that makes sense to them and to establish yourself as the strong and stable parent.
25. CPS Investigations
In this episode, I talk about CPS investigations and how to prepare for one.
24. A deep dive into the Discard
In this episode, I do a deep dive into the "discard" and why it is so destructive.
23. The silver lining of silver bullets
In this episode, I talk about the silver lining of being a silver bullet survivor. I'm so much happier now than when I was in the marriage, and it's a lot easier for me to be grateful for the positive things in my life and to look forward to so...
22. Father wounds and Toxic Masculinity
In this episode, I talk about "father wounds" and its correlation to toxic masculinity.
21. Things I wish I knew about family law
In this episode, I talk about the things I wish I knew about family law before being in this horrible situation. Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer. I am not your lawyer. This is not legal advice. These are just things I wish I knew. If...