Silver Bullet Survivor
When going through a custody battle, a "silver bullet" is when someone makes false allegations of domestic violence against their spouse to immediately remove them from the home and to start alienating the children against them.
I went through this ordeal in 2022 and now have 50% custody of my children and, more importantly, an extremely strong bond with them. This podcast contains stories of resilience and shared wisdom learned through my journey as a father in navigating an abusive marriage, false allegations of domestic violence, parental alienation, and post-separation abuse.
Episodes
40 episodes
40. The Healing Journey - Letting Yourself Feel
In the episode, I discuss the unsavory aspects of healing. I also read and respond to a listener's letter about going through a similar situation.
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Episode 40
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39. The documentation strategy that got me custody
In this episode, I outline the documentation strategy that helped me get custody of my kids. In summary:Take lots of pictures. Get a voice recorder and record visitations.Get a dash cam and record exchanges.
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Episode 39
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11:58
38. Ask for broad shoulders
In this episode, I talk about the mindset of overcoming obstacles vs removing obstacles.
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Episode 38
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12:01
37. Weaponized Therapy
In this episode, I talk about how people may weaponize therapy against you.
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Episode 37
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24:40
36. Christmas Calamity
In this episode, I talk about my Christmas holiday and the coparenting issues that arose.
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Episode 36
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21:02
35. Gentle Parenting and Discipline
In this episode, I talk about the concepts behind Gentle Parenting.
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Episode 35
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20:23
34. Thankfulness
In this episode, I talk about the things I'm thankful for.
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Episode 34
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14:44
33. Overcoming the stigma of false allegations
In this episode, I discuss how I overcame the stigma of false allegations.
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Episode 33
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11:49
32. Emotional recovery through self-care
In this episode, I talk about the importance of self-care through your emotional recovery.
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Episode 32
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16:28
31. Overcoming Trauma
In this episode, I talk about the process of overcoming trauma from your ex and your kids.
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Episode 31
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27:52
30. Countering counter-parenting
In this episode, I discuss all the ways I was able to counter my ex's attempts at counter-parenting.
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Episode 30
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13:27
29. Navigating and avoiding co-parenting traps
In this episode, I talk about how to navigate co-parenting conflict and avoiding traps. In summary: 1. Avoid verbal communications. 2. Stick to written communications like emails. There are co-parenting apps like Talki...
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Episode 29
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17:55
28. Getting over your ex
In this episode, I talk about ways of getting over your ex. 1. Take off the rose-colored glasses. 2. Respect and love yourself. 3. Realize your ex is not who you think they are.
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Episode 28
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27. When kids are angry
In this episode, I discuss ways to think about and talk to your kids when they are angry. The coach I reference in this episode is Dr. Amy J.L. Baker. Her website is https://www.amyjlbaker.com...
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Episode 27
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14:39
26. Talking to your kids about divorce
In this episode, I talk about how to talk to your kids regarding the divorce and the situation in a way that makes sense to them and to establish yourself as the strong and stable parent.
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Episode 26
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17:00
25. CPS Investigations
In this episode, I talk about CPS investigations and how to prepare for one.
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Episode 25
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12:06
24. A deep dive into the Discard
In this episode, I do a deep dive into the "discard" and why it is so destructive.
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Episode 24
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29:20
23. The silver lining of silver bullets
In this episode, I talk about the silver lining of being a silver bullet survivor. I'm so much happier now than when I was in the marriage, and it's a lot easier for me to be grateful for the positive things in my life and to look forward to so...
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Episode 23
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15:53
22. Father wounds and Toxic Masculinity
In this episode, I talk about "father wounds" and its correlation to toxic masculinity.
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Episode 22
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22:16
21. Things I wish I knew about family law
In this episode, I talk about the things I wish I knew about family law before being in this horrible situation. Disclaimer: I am not a lawyer. I am not your lawyer. This is not legal advice. These are just things I wish I knew. If...
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Episode 21
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23:25
20. Reflecting on my journey
In this episode, I reflect on this journey I've been on, and what I've learned from it.
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Episode 20
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17:17
19. How to get revenge against your ex
On this episode, I share the best way to get revenge against your ex. You need to do 2 things:Be the best version of yourself. Be better than your ex. Not just slightly better. Your goodness has to co...
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Episode 19
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18. How to (un)manipulate your kids
On this episode, I outline several steps I took in order to undo the brainwashing and alienation my children were exposed to. The general steps I took are below. All links to websites do NOT have affiliate links so I'm not getting paid for any ...
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Episode 18
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21:13