11. Boundaries and Breakthroughs: Lessons from a Year of Transformation

 Boundaries and Breakthroughs: Lessons from a Year of Transformation

In this episode of 'Becoming Sunshine,' the host reflects on her personal journey towards self-discovery and growth while navigating friendships, relationships, and career aspirations. She shares insights about the importance of treating her podcast and side hustles with dedication, the transformative power of painful experiences, and the necessity of alignment in achieving sustainable success. Through her narrative, she dives into the significance of discerning where to invest energy, maintaining boundaries, and cherishing periods of solitude for personal evolution. This episode aims to inspire listeners to align their lives with their highest selves, manage relationships wisely, and approach their goals with renewed commitment.

00:00 Introduction to Becoming Sunshine

00:26 Rediscovering Passion and Commitment

02:27 Life-Altering Epiphanies

03:33 Transformative Relationships and Friendships

05:59 Self-Discovery and Personal Growth

09:24 Navigating Friendships and Boundaries

13:03 The Power of Alignment and Authenticity

19:35 Lessons from Pain and Disappointments

32:46 Conclusion and Encouragement

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Madeline: 0:00

Welcome to Becoming Sunshine. For those of you that know me, you know that Sunshine has been an alias of mine for almost a decade now, and sunshine also is me becoming my highest self, and that's what this podcast is about. I'm here to help you understand yourself better and maybe learn some more about myself along the way. Thanks so much for joining me. I'm excited.

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Hey friends, welcome back to Becoming Sunshine. I haven't recorded in a while, and I think whenever I take a step back, it's the best thing for the podcast. I think I really needed to just regroup and realized some stuff, and I had an epiphany recently. And basically I realized that if this is really what I wanna do, I need to show up as if it's what I already do for a living. If I want my podcast to be My main priority, I have to treat it like it's my main priority. I discovered this creator recently and he said that, before he became a content creator and before he really popped off on social media, it was just like his side hustle and he gave his leftover energy to his content and therefore got leftover energy results. And that really struck a chord with me'cause duh, of course. But I think that's what most of us do. Like our side hustles, our side hustle until it becomes our main hustle. But I think that might work for like business or like e-comm or something, but I think when you're an artist or like a creator, you have to put your full passion, like your full self behind it in order for it to pop off. Duh, of course. And so I realized that no one's gonna take my podcast seriously unless I'm taking it seriously. Like I'm not gonna build a community and audience unless I'm consistent. And I think part of me needed time away to figure out my voice and rebrand a little bit. And I think this brand has evolved with me and every time I take a step back, it's for the best. Like it's so much better when I come back to it. But I think a big piece is just staying consistent and letting it evolve as it goes instead of taking these breaks. Like I think that was the last break I need to take. And from now on, I just need to be consistent. I've done a lot of manifestation work and a lot of inner work for years and everyone always says that the life you want is gonna cost you the life you have. And it sounds so cliche, but it's so true. Like it's crazy. So a year ago I had a really big shift in my life. Now it was probably like almost a little over a year ago. A year, maybe, almost a year and a half ago. I had a really big shift in my life. My life had been going the same way for a really long time. I had been in the same friend group for a really long time. I was dating the same guy for a really long time, on and off. And my life was just staying stagnant. I wasn't unhappy. I think part of it was I was a little bit too content in my situation and I also just didn't really know what I wanted to do next and I think sometimes something big, usually negative has to happen. we have to be like rock bottomed out of a situation in order for it to change. Nothing changes if nothing changes. So about a year and a half ago, I lost pretty much 80% of my friends, like all my best friends, all my best girlfriends that at one time I thought were like my sisters. The guy that I was dating slash in a situationship on and off for the last six years obviously it was never really right, but it was just like comfortable. Finally I like got rid of that. A lot of things shifted in my career. I started to take a different direction with stuff. I took a risk and did something I'd never done before. Made a lot of mistakes early, but that's life. And someone else came into my life that had a huge impact, was definitely a cannon event. he definitely pushed me outta my comfort zone. He caused me to think differently. He helped change my habits and my patterns and he was a really positive influence in that aspect. He encouraged me, supported me. To an extent. Early days, definitely. But he also brought a lot of pain. And of course, like this person wasn't perfect, they had their own insecurities and I think they really saw a lot of potential in me, but I think it also scared them a little bit because of their own insecurities. And, that's like a story for another episode, but I think sometimes things have to be painful because, if they're not they're not gonna have the same kind of impact. Artists have created some of the best music, the best movies, the best books from sources of pain. artists and creators have been alchemizing their pain for years, like for decades. and it's changed and shaped mankind more than anything else. Sometimes I think it has to be that way, unfortunately. Yeah, and I think, if I hadn't have gone through the things that I went through, my life might have just stayed the same for so long, because after everything that happened, my life's completely different and it could never go back. Like I'm on a new trajectory with my career and my life and I could never go back. I have a whole new friend group. I can never go back the way I engage with people in friendships. I can never go back. What happened with my relationship in the last year, like completely changed the way I engage with men for the better. I think there had been some patterning that was going on for a while, and this was finally the relationship where I was like, okay, we're not doing this anymore. We're doing things differently. And I really did a deep dive into like relationships and attachment styles and like interpersonal dynamics more than I ever have. And I've done a lot of work when it comes to interpersonal relationships and neuroplasticity and behavior and like cognitive therapy and stuff like that. But I find things at different times and I found different creators at different times because I needed different things and I just learned so much about myself and about you know, other people and like our healing journeys. And I think if my friends hadn't have betrayed me, I might still be in relationships with people and rationalizing friendships that weren't right for me and that weren't aligned. And if I hadn't got my heart broken and was celibate for almost eight months, I probably wouldn't have had the time to. Date myself again. Like seriously, not for just a month or two.'cause I feel like I've always, been talking to someone or seeing someone, or flirting to someone or dating someone or in a situationship or something. There's always something, right? There's always something. Even if you're not like onto the new person. There's like that old person that you still entertain just'cause you need someone. And I think because of my job that I've had and the career that I've had, it was really important for me to have somebody, even if the situation was not ideal, because when you're like a sex worker you do OnlyFans or you do dancing or like whatever. I've always kept something for myself, but like giving that part of you over using that for like a job or like entertaining people as part of your job and entertaining men. it almost has made me feel at times like my body doesn't belong to me or it's not for my own pleasure. And so I think having someone. That I am like choosing to engage with, whether it's like a boyfriend or like a situationship or like whatever. Even if the situation was not ideal, it was just important to have someone. And I think over the years I let a lot of stuff slide or I ignored it or I overlooked it or I didn't put enough emphasis on it because the other part was so important to me. I needed to have someone, even if their behavior was not the best. They weren't treating me the best. And I think having this time where I'm just by myself, I've healed that, like a lot. Like I don't need that anymore. So I feel like me putting up with stuff because I just needed someone like, we're not doing that anymore. Like that's healed, that's done. And I think those were patterns that I had for a really long time. Not just that, just like other things in general, like not having strong enough boundaries, being a doormat in relationships, putting other people before myself and my relationships with other people before myself. And yeah, we're not doing that anymore. This has really been a good time. Like this past year has been such a whirlwind, but the lessons that I've learned, like in relationships with friends, in relationships with romantic partners, i'm completely different in the way I show up in these relationships. I feel like for a long time I would get my feelings hurt or I'd feel taken advantage of, or I would just feel taken for granted because I was overextending myself and I was putting other people before myself, and now I don't do that anymore. I'm not saying I don't show up for friends anymore. It's not what I'm saying. I'm just saying I give things genuinely, but I don't overgive. If I don't have the capacity for something I'll just say no. And I'm a lot more comfortable saying no, scarcity creates value. Not always being available for people makes them value you more. Being nice doesn't make people value you. Being a force does. So you know, if I'm busy or I need to work on my content, or I need to work on myself, or I need a rest day that's what I'm doing. Like even if someone invites me to something, if I already made plans with myself, it depends on what it is, but it's like I already had these plans, even if they're like the most boring plans ever. Especially if it's a guy like we don't do last minute plans like no, but like even with friends, it's like no, I told myself like I was working on content today or that's like a non-negotiable, and I feel like lately I've really been looking at my goals and like locking in the trendy thing these days. But it's true. Like I really have, I had a friend who told me not too long ago that whatever output you want whatever output you want, like whatever your goal is, it's gonna take three times the amount of input that you think it is. If you're making content like batch it, do three times the amount, take three times the amount of what you normally would. He's like, you're only stressed out because you feel behind and you're not gonna feel behind if you stay on top of it. And it's like, I get it. Like life is lifeing, we're busy, but why are you so busy? Look at where your energy's going. Is it going towards people that don't value you, people that don't prioritize you? I had another mentor tell me recently, I was on his podcast and we talked about this and he was like, people will support you. Like friends will support you oftentimes up until the point where you're about to surpass them. And then, even if it's subconscious, like they'll start to distract you. They'll start to get you to break promises with yourself. Let's say, you were like oh I'm gonna work on content today, or oh I'm gonna film this today. Or oh, I'm writing a book or, oh like blah, blah, blah. So you don't wanna go out or you don't wanna do something.'cause like you know, you're working on your goals, you're working on yourself, and like they'll start to make you feel bad or put you down or something. I had a friend that I was pretty close to. We haven't been friends for that long. We struck up a friendship like six to eight months ago and I yeah, we seemed like super compatible at first. We had a lot of fun together. I think a big part of it too was that I never really had friends that liked to go out. My old friend group didn't really like to go out. They weren't super social, they weren't super outgoing. Honestly, they were like the kind of girls that make you feel bad for wanting to go out or like drinking alcohol yeah, those types of girls. The mean girls. Yeah. I was friends with the mean girls. Yeah. It's okay. Yeah. And so it was fun, it was fun to go out. It was fun to make new friends. It was fun to be in the scene. I'd never had that before, like at this old age, like I'd never like really gone out and had friends that knew what was going on downtown or got invited to stuff or wanted to go to festivals or any of that. It's fun for a little while and it still is, but it's like, I have my goals too. And they should too. It's like, why don't you have goals? Why don't you have ambitions? Why don't you have things that you're working on? I'm not trying to be mean, but at this old age, what are we doing? Like we have to have a plan here. Yeah and so it was really fun at first. And then it started to not be so fun. It started to be a little bit like clingy. It started to be a little bit like backhanded and I feel like there's like covert mean girls, there's the girls that are like just mean and like straight up about it or make you feel bad and are just like very blunt about it. And then there's the girls that frame it in a way that is like a little trickier to see, or they'll frame it in a way like, oh, I'm just being protective of you. Like I just care about you so much. Like I just feel so and so doesn't really like you. It's so and so doesn't have a problem with me. So and so maybe has a problem with you. People might have a problem with you. You might not have the best reputation, but no one has a problem with me. And it's these little like insecurities that they would plant in my head. And it's like, that's not a friend, like that's not a friend that I wanna have. It even got to the point where like she would make fun of my voice. Like she would say people don't like my voice, and my voice is like obnoxious and like blah, blah, blah. And that I should just take like speech classes and stuff. And as someone who's like trying to start a podcast and build a brand around like their voice, that's pretty fucked, honestly. And it's crazy because no one has ever said anything to me about my voice. I don't like not get invited to stuff or people don't not like me because of my voice. that's just so strange and odd, I don't know, maybe that was like the one thing she could pick on. I don't know. I just think. I'm not saying this like iconic or anything, but there's like women, especially that have voices that are a little bit more like mine, that are a little bit more high pitched, a little bit more feminine, they stand out a little bit more, like Marilyn Monroe, Pamela Anderson, jennifer Coolidge, like all these women that I look up to, and I think it's important to look up to people and have role models that remind you of yourself and all these women are iconic and famously known for their voices.'cause they're different. Like it's okay to be different. I don't have to be super polished. I don't have to take speech classes. I don't have to feel bad. I've talked like this my entire life and yeah, a friend that's trying to make you feel insecure about something that you can't control or something that is unique to you is so ugly. Trying to start drama where there's no drama is so ugly. Yeah. It was just little things like that. Like I would go get a coffee without her or, cancel plans and then I'd end up like hanging out with someone else like the next day or something and she'd be like oh my God, you blew me off and it's no, I'm actually just busy. And I have other friends, like I'm allowed to, and I feel like people maybe had an issue with her and was jealous that I would get invited to stuff and she wouldn't, or that people liked me and she didn't have the same reputation. But it's just think of the way you carry yourself. Like we don't carry yourself the same at all. We actually are not aligned at all. We don't have the same values at all, and we don't have the same goals. So yeah, once I took a step back and realized all these things and realized that they're actually like a super hater, I was like, okay. So that's something I've definitely learned recently and if I hadn't have had this huge. Falling out with these girls that I was super good friends with, like a year or so ago. I wouldn't have been able to recognize these red flags right away, and I wouldn't have, I don't I move differently now in friendships and relationships. Another thing too that I learned is not everyone has the same heart and the same loyalty as me. you really don't need to vent to people. You really don't need to tell your business. I don't anymore. I think for a long time. Especially with girls, I would vent about boy problems or stuff I was stressed out about with work or whatever. And I feel like it was a way for me to like bond with them. I almost felt like I had to be like, oh yeah, like I'm struggling with this. I'm having a hard time with this in order to get them to like, like me. Like I couldn't have it all together and they wouldn't like me. I don't know. obviously there's some trauma there that I'm recognizing now and healing, but it's like I don't have to lower myself or show where I'm hurting or my weaknesses in order to get people to like me, especially girls. That's weird. Like I wanna have girlfriends where we're lifting each other up and supporting each other and happy for each other and sharing our wins. If someone is only there for you when you're down, that's not your friend, they only wanna be around when you're low. That's not a real friend. Yeah, I remember this past year when I was having problems with my relationship and I would tell some of my girlfriends about it and then they would go slide into his dms and knew we were having problems and try to be with him, crazy. There was actually one girl, that I vented to about my relationship. And we were like stuck on a boat together all day. So of course we're like talking about boys and like bonding or whatever. And there was like something that had just happened I was upset about and she was like, oh my God, that's so horrible, blah, blah, blah, blah. And mind you I was nothing but nice to this girl. Like we had mutual friends. We hadn't really spent a bunch of time together before this, but she literally didn't wanna carry a bag on the boat, so I carried all her stuff in my bag. I literally still had some of it up until a week ago when I found out about this because I always thought I was gonna give it back to her. And now I realize why she never reached out or like really tried to hang out with me, probably outta guilt. But yeah, she like ran into my ex out one night and she was like, oh my God, you're so and so, you're Madeline's ex, blah, blah. That's literally how she like met him. Like she like introduced herself to him. Like she's like, I know of you because of her and what she's told me about you. And then she like proceeds to go home with him, which is not just a reflection on her, it's a reflection on both of them. Like obviously they're both gross, but yeah, for her to like pretend to be my friend and then be like, oh my God, don't tell her I don't wanna hurt her. How about you just don't do the thing to hurt me. How about that? And the fact that I still had her stuff like at my house, like just shows all of our characters. Like I'm the person that's like holding onto your stuff'cause I wanna give it back to you even though it's nothing of value and you're gonna snake me the first chance you get. So yeah, look at where your energy's going because oftentimes you might find that it's going towards people and you're prioritizing people and time with people, that will snake you and have snaked you the first chance they got. Yeah, lesson learned. Sorry, this isn't supposed to be a super negative episode. It's just sometimes you have to learn lessons the hard way in order to learn them. And yeah, time is the most valuable thing that we have and the most valuable thing you can give someone. And so be very selective with your time. And again, scarcity creates value. The less I go out, the more people want to hang out with me. People are not gonna stop inviting you out. If you stop going out, of course the people always invite you and you're like no. But if you're like actively working on yourself and making your life better, like people are only gonna wanna be with you more, your value is only increasing. And people wanna be around people that are valuable, not people that are just like nice and pushovers and yeah, I don't know. I had a friend. And I used to think oh, I have to go out, I have to stay relevant, I have to network. And he gave me this advice. He literally stayed inside for 10 years and built an online community and an empire and like a bunch of businesses. And he was like you don't have to go out. you can build an empire and a network from inside your house, like all the black sheep and the misfits in society growing up that didn't find their people like out there, they went online and built some of the biggest communities and like huge amounts of wealth. that's what's so great about social media and the internet is like you can find your community. Anyone who's ever had a huge impact on my life, anyone who's ever been like a huge like rainmaker in my life, I've never had to go out and seek them. I've never had to go out and find them. Like whether that was like a best friend, a boyfriend, a mentor, like when I'm in alignment, everything just comes to me and with ease. Like everyone will find you, like people find me. I don't ever have to go out and find them. It's not about time and how long it takes. It's about authenticity and it's about alignment, and sometimes, you will have these periods of isolation. You will have these periods of like loneliness. I heard a creator talk about how you know, before, I love a metaphor, you know, before a wave crashes onto the shore, it pulls back first. And this is a phenomenon that a lot of creators talk about. And it's like this weird in between, like right before things really pop off and right before things really are set in motion. Things really start to change. it'll feel like everything's crumbling apart. And I think that's part of the, your old life has to fall away or crumble away before your new life takes off. And I think that's so true. Yeah, you're gonna lose friendships, you're gonna lose people. You might have periods of isolation, you might feel lonely, yeah, it might suck for a little while, but it's like you need these periods of time to reflect and grow and integrate everything that you've learned and then you can take that and it'll propel your life forward. I really do believe that. I heard a creator and she was like the longer you have to wait, the bigger the blessing. And I agree with that to an extent. I think sometimes when you have had to wait for a while, it's'cause you're integrating and learning stuff and that means like the bigger the blessing, like the universe is always conspiring in our favor. So it's like if the universe is asking you to wait, It's because there's lessons you still need to learn, but I don't think it necessarily needs to take a lot of time. If there's anything I've learned, your life can change overnight. one video could pop off, you could get one opportunity, you could meet one person, and then your life is different forever. That's how everything happens. It starts with one day, one person, one opportunity. It happens one day. People are like oh there's one year that changes your whole life. But usually that started with one day, and that happens when you're in alignment. So getting aligned with yourself and your values and your goals, and getting rid of everything that's not in alignment, that's the key. And I think too, when it comes to friends and people that are doing better than me and like people that I look up to or people that have more than me or doing more than me, and I'm inspired by them. I see them as expanders, and I think there's some people that I don't know if it's just like a really low level way to feel better about yourself or like really insecure people that just, I don't know, it's crazy. I don't know if this happens with men. I'm sure it does. I think with women though. It's if you're pretty and nice and funny and talented and creative, like girls are gonna just hate on you. Like they just are not even girls. Just like people in general and instead of using you as like an inspiration, if they can take something that you had or have something that you had or had something that you wanted and they can try to have it, even if it's for a night, like they can feel superior or like they're on your level for a night. It's like super pathetic and sad, but unfortunately, I think that's something that people do. I think that's what was happening with this girl, honestly. whatever. It's like, how does it feel to cross me for a guy that never called you again? Can you imagine? I don't know. Anyways. Yeah. Crazy. But yeah, obviously this says a lot more about like these people than it does about you, and yeah, I think that's a real thing. I think when people are insecure or jealous of you, or envious of you, like trying to snake you somehow makes them feel better about themselves, like they're on your level or they're better than you in a way, even though it couldn't be further from the truth, but lesson learned. And that's why we have to be better about discerning who and where energy goes and who and what is worth our time. And instead of getting upset about stuff and like crashing out like I used to I realize this is all just like lessons and content and stuff I can share with y'all and you can learn from what I've gone through so that something positive at least comes out of these bad experiences or these painful experiences, something constructive. And that's like really the best case scenario, honestly. It makes me feel like there's a purpose behind some of the bad things that happen. There's always a reason for everything, even if it doesn't make sense at the time or doesn't seem like it at the time. I feel like whenever people disappoint us, it's really a gift. It's really an opportunity to see where we weren't in alignment and to pull back and just be like, okay, like why did this happen? What were the red flags? What were the things that I rationalized or I made excuses for and how did it get to this point?'Cause Usually there's red flags So taking these opportunities and disappointments as gifts and learning to discern and move differently, and I if things aren't in alignment with who you wanna be and who you wanna be surrounded with,get it the fuck away. Like I feel like I've held onto relationships because there were good things about them. Like we had a really good connection or I was really intellectually stimulated by our conversations or we had a lot of fun together or whatever. But it's just if you think about like the pieces of the relationship that you value. Don't you think if you were with someone that was like fully, truly aligned, there would be more than just like pieces of them and the relationship that you value, like you could make space in your life for someone that the whole relationship brings value and peace to your life. And I think trusting the universe and yourself and knowing that oh if this person can make me like marginally happy, there's probably someone out there that can make me way more happy and that I'm way more aligned with and could help me grow that much more. Oh, I have so much fun with this person. The X, Y, Z is an issue. Don't you think if you're fully in alignment, there's somebody that has everything, like what a concept. But it's also like crazy it's like what you want, the life that you want and who you have to become, like a lot about success is about becoming the person that has that level of success in the process. I've had a friend who had a huge level of success, but he hadn't caught up internally with the type of person that has this level of success. He didn't have the habits, he didn't have the discipline, he didn't have the regulated nervous system. And we see this all the time. That's why people win the lottery and then they lose it all. It's Kind of what happened to this person. They were making like millions and millions of dollars and then pretty much lost it all. And it's because they weren't in alignment. And when you're not in alignment, even if you do have huge levels of success, it's not sustainable. It's not going to be that way. And alignment really is the key. Yeah, you might have success without fully being in alignment, but it's not gonna be sustainable. It's not gonna last. And it's also just not gonna be right. It's not gonna be authentic to you. You're not gonna have the community, your nervous system is not gonna be supported and grounded It's just like all the dysregulated mess in your life is going to cause it to all fall apart at some point, like sooner or later. And I had this realization recently, it's if my brand was already popping off, if I already had the platform, if I already had the audience, if I already had the business, if I already had X, Y, Z, would I be carrying myself in this way? Would I still be entertaining these low vibrational relationships? Would I still be caring about or stressing about the things I'm stressing about. I feel like a lot of stuff that people stress out about. It's like little girl shit. Little boy shit. And it's like when you're on these bigger levels, you're not sweating this little stuff, like the problems seem really petty. The drama seems really petty. And it's just until I was actually busy enough, I never realized like how ridiculous some of it was. And it's just like the stuff that some people are worried about, I'm not worried about these things. Like I'm worried about such higher level things. Like I'm worried about like my brand, I'm worried about my business, I'm worried about making money. I'm worried about being a good person, being aligned. I'm worried about taking care of my parents one day. Like I'm not worried about the drama that happened last weekend downtown. Like what? I'm not even out downtown, and I'm not saying that going out is bad. It's just if that's your whole life and you have nothing else or like you're upset that I couldn't get coffee, I couldn't go to the pool. I'm glad that's your biggest issue on a Tuesday afternoon that like your friend couldn't go to the pool with you. Like what? Crazy. But yeah, it's if you knew that, you know your brand was gonna pop off, or you knew that you were gonna meet your soulmate, your person. Next week, would you still be entertaining that situationship? Would you still be posting like that? Would you still be doing the things that you're doing? What are the habits that you would have if you already had it? People always say that you have to vibrate at the frequency of what you want. And it's so true. you have to act like you already have it. The creator that said, he was giving his leftover energy to his content and he was getting leftover results. If you want the brand. If you want the business, if you want the relationship, you have to show up like you already have it and move the way you would and have the habits that you would have if you already had it. Like I wouldn't be entertaining this situationship if I knew I was gonna meet my dream person next week. That's crazy. That's so weird. That's such a weird thing to do. If I knew my brand was gonna pop off. And my business is gonna pop off. I wouldn't be sweating these little petty arguments with friends. I wouldn't be worried about these things. they say, lions aren't worried about the opinions of sheep. And it's so true. It's so true. So much of the stuff that I used to sweat or worry about or like I've had friends that sweat and worry about and stress about, it's like it really doesn't matter. Your attention and your energy and your time are the most valuable and important things and where they go and what you spend it on. energy is not created or destroyed. We only have a certain amount and it has to go somewhere and we get to decide where it goes. And discerning that is what's gonna get you everything that you want. Energy is the most powerful thing. our internal world dictates our external world, and your reality is created by your mind and the 5D creates the 3D,we're so powerful. And when you realize that everything flips, everything changes, everything switches. And being in alignment and being locked in on your goals and your values is really the key. if it's not in alignment with who you are or who you wanna be, it doesn't matter if it's in alignment with who you were yesterday. It doesn't matter, who do you wanna be? Where do you wanna go? Is in alignment with that. If not, get rid of it. It's gotta go. Anyways. Thanks guys. I hope this episode wasn't too much of a downer. I feel like I've just integrated so many lessons lately and I've learned so much and it's just like really helped me shift my perspective for the better. I hope that this also helps people who are going through a hard time because the last like year and a half or so was definitely a challenging time for me. But I hope it gives you a little bit of perspective that even the hard stuff, not even, especially the hard stuff, that's the stuff that you're gonna learn from the most and the stuff that's gonna move your life forward the most. Anyways, if you guys enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, share it with your friends, leave a comment. DM me. I love hearing feedback from you guys. I have had so many girls come up to me, guys too, but girls especially, and they have come up to me and told me how much that my podcast relates to them, how much it has helped them. And that really makes me feel so good. it really encourages me to get back to this because this is so much bigger than me and even, when I'm feeling busy or I'm feeling unmotivated, like it really, I know it really does help you guys. And so that is all I want anyways, thanks guys. Love you. Bye.