Ego

In this, the last of the 12 podcasts in the Amazing Mindset “summer series”, Ged looks at how our egos often get in the way of us moving forward, and he considers just how much attention we give to what other people might think about us in what we do or what we say…or even what we think! Too much attention to what others might think brings about a fear of doing or saying things that we really would like to do. It leads us to being over self-critical, self-conscious, and self-doubting. And yet, as we have already discussed in the early episodes, there’s absolutely no way that we can know what someone else is or might be thinking.
Enjoy! 

Ged Roberts is the author of 4 books:

1. “Amazing-A voyage of self-discovery”
2. “The Amazing Sequel-A sojourn into self-awareness”
3. “Think Amazing-A guide to Mental well-being” &
4. "The Amazing Mindset Podcast Series"

All 4 books are available on Amazon.co.uk.

If you would like to know more about Ged & his Amazing Mindset mentoring and coaching, you can visit his website, www.amazingmindset.co.uk, you can connect with him on LinkedIn, on Facebook/Meta at his 'Amazing Mindset' page, or you can simply email him at gedroberts@hotmail.com

The music that accompanies this podcast series is composed, arranged and performed by Ged Roberts.

The music playing during the introduction and ending of the "Summer" & "Autumn" Series is an original recording entitled "Arran", from Ged's instrumental album called "Celtic Dreams".

The accompaniment to the podcast itself is part of a recording entitled "Night Rain", featured on Ged's album, "Night Dreams".

The music in the introduction to the "2025" & the "2025-26" Series, "Night Hunter", is also from that album.

The music that accompanies the '8 Japanese Concepts" podcasts is entitled "Mantra", and is featured on Ged's other instrumental chill-out album, "Oriental Dreams"....

Transcript

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Welcome to the Amazing Mindset podcast series. I'm your host, Jed Roberts, and together we will be going on a journey to explore our thinking and just how that thinking from moment to moment creates the world as only we see it. I like to describe the podcasts as tapas or quick bites. Welcome to the twelfth and what will be the final episode in the summer series of my amazing mindset podcasts. In today's podcast we are going to explore how our ego is responsible from time to time for standing in our way and preventing us from moving forward. To explain this I'm going to choose the two major culprits in our thinking and the attachments that go with these culprits. Remember the mind reader thinking trap? Here are the culprits. What will they think about me? And what will they say about me? This should read, what do I think they will think about me? And what do I think they will say about me? And it could read, what do I think they might think about me? And what do I think they might say about me? These questions which we ask ourselves both have a negative connotation. They both imply that what someone might think or say about you will not be positive. There'll be something wrong with you. In other words, your ego may take a blow or two. And this fear of one's ego taking a blow is enough to stop you doing or saying what you are about to do or say. Now, there's nothing wrong with being curious as to what someone might think or might say about you. That's natural. But along with that curiosity of what someone might say or think about you, it must be balanced by the possibility of what someone might not think or say about you. As we've mentioned before, there's no way that you can know what someone might think or say about you. But your mind reading, fortune telling and doubting, along with your ego being in a state of fear of some kind of rejection, can create a situation where you are stuck. You can't move forward for fear of what might be. Your ego can prevent you from just trying something for fear that you fail in some way. But isn't failure necessary now and again? Is it not part of a learning curve? Is it not, as Alan Watts suggested, absolutely necessary in order that success exists so how about we drop our ego a little perhaps let's stop taking things so personally especially when it comes to the world of what might be let's tell our incredible imagination to get a bit more balanced we've somehow managed to lose the innocent imagination we had as children and we have managed to replace it with an imagination driven by life's rules and regulations and our own self-awareness. As we have grown, we've become the centers of our own imagination. That feeling of wonder when we are young has simply become more complicated and self-consciousness has eventually kicked in. As soon as we begin to think about ourselves, we begin to think about what others think about us. This is where the imbalance of that thinking started and where the ego began to ensnare us. What if they don't like me? Well, how about, what if they do like you? And what reason would they have anyway not to like you? Especially if you were the best version of yourself. Especially if you are true to yourself. Especially if you're not trying to be someone else. Especially if you are authentically you. You can't be liked by everyone. You can't be accepted, respected, trusted, appreciated and lauded by everyone. The balance of life doesn't allow that. But it does allow you to be simply you. drop the ego and move forward thank you for joining me on today's podcast hope you've enjoyed today's journey enough to join me on the next one and perhaps share this podcast with your friends colleagues and connections if you would like to know more about me and my amazing mindset mentoring and coaching You can visit my website www.amazingmindset.co.uk or you can connect with me via LinkedIn or simply by emailing me at jedroberts at hotmail.com