The Unbusy Mom: Because you’re ambitious, you want to grow your business, and you still want a life.
You're ambitious. You want the money, the challenge, the launches, the strategy, the satisfaction of figuring out a hard problem and thinking, yep, I nailed that.
So how did we end up here?
Working all day and still not getting to the thing you actually wanted to do. Feeling pulled in a million directions. Putting your own projects off again. Being the CEO of your business and somehow also the COO of everybody else's life.
‘Cause you can make the launch work. The kids' schedules work. The team work. The Sunday night work. The vacation-with-the-laptop work.
You can make almost anything work.
Until you look up and think... wait. Why am I doing all of this?
I'm Alyssa, and I've spent a lot of time figuring out how to build a business I love without making my entire life revolve around keeping it running.
On The Unbusy Mom, we're going to question some of the things you've probably accepted as just how business works.
We'll talk about motherhood, ambition, Human Design, time management, delegation, productivity.... And the invisible responsibilities that make your business feel heavier than it needs to be.
I.e., what actually has to change when you want a business AND a life. Because I don't think you're here to prove how much you can carry.
Because I don't think you're here to prove how much you can carry.
You wanted it all - business AND kids.
So you’re going to have to make some changes to the structure of the one you've already got.
Episodes
583 episodes
Inside the chart: Your Human Design wants a schedule. Just not THAT schedule.
She already knew time blocking worked - she just wasn't using it.And the question wasn't really, “How do I make myself be more disciplined?”It was: What would make this feel like something I get to do?Because her cha...
Real life vs. Human Design: Your Human Design wants more tabs open.
What do you need to feel more secure about this?That’s the question I want her asking when she feels stuck.Because her brain is naturally going to look around the corner.Do we have enough money?Do I hav...
Inside the chart: Your Human Design has opinions about your desk.
What if you're actually supposed to choose what you work on?Not have every single priority decided three weeks in advance.Not follow a perfectly pre-planned schedule.Not force yourself to focus on one thing just beca...
Real life vs. Human Design: Your Human Design needs a dog walker.
Someone told her to focus on ONE thing.Which was probably terrible advice. 😂Because she's a Manifesting Generator. She's meant to have a normal work day and a bunch of different things that actually light her up.So w...
Inside the chart: Your Human Design can't take a nap for you.
She needed to work less - which sounds obvious when you're talking about a Projector.Except she also needs to delegate a LOT to make that actually possible.And then we got REALLY specific about her work style. ‘Cause she wa...
The Real Problem with Your Balance… Isn't Your Business
What if you're actually really good at business?Like, you could solve the team problem. Figure out the webinar. Fix the conversion issue. Have the hard conversation.….IF somebody would just give you the problems one at a time....
Real life vs. human design: She was trying to fit her business around her kids
What if you aren't supposed to work all day? Seriously. 😂Because we spend SO much time trying to make ourselves be consistent like little productivity machines.But what if that's actually the problem??This readi...
Inside the chart: What if you need structure AND freedom?
Okay, this one was interesting. Because she clearly needed some structure.But the more we talked about how she actually works, the more I started seeing… the problem is the KIND of structure she's been trying to create.You know th...
Real life vs. human design: Your toddler doesn't care about your work block
What if you don't actually need more time?Because this woman had a pretty specific question about how to fit everything in. And I kept thinking….Do we actually NEED to fit all this in??Or, should we look at how she's USING ...
Inside the chart: What if your schedule changes every 24 hours?
Some people's weeks are predictable.Some people's weeks are…. Yeah.This one is for the woman who makes a plan on Sunday, and by Tuesday morning it's basically historical fiction. 😂So what do YOU actually need when your sche...
Real life vs. human design: She kept circling her top 3… and stalling out
She knew what her top three were.She had the list. She'd circled the things. Matter of fact, she'd stared at them WAY too long.And somehow… she was still stuck.So I started asking a few different questions.Because wh...
You Can't Just Hope This Biz Setup Works Itself Out
You don't just hope your funnel works.You don't just hope your team knows what to do.So why are you hoping your kids behave, your husband knows what you need, your routines somehow settle down, and your life magically gets streaml...
Inside the chart: What if you don't need to get your fire back?
She thought she needed to get her motivation back - which immediately made me curious.Because what if you don't actually need to get yourself fired up again??What if there's something about this particular season that we should pa...
Real life vs. human design: She had the perfect work schedule - but wasn’t getting up
What if you're not actually avoiding the work?You know the thing.You KNOW what needs to happen.You sit down to do it.And suddenly you need to reorganize something, check something, think about something, possibly mak...
Inside the chart: Apparently I needed my own reading.
Okay. I've been doing these little chart readings for everybody ELSE…. 'Til I thought, “Hang on. What happens if I do it for MYSELF?” 😂So that's what I did. And I got to hear myself say all the things I tell everybody else. Like...
Real life vs. human design: She was trying to make every idea work.
What if you stopped needing the next thing to work?What if you could just… try it? What if you didn't have to know whether it was going to work before you started??What if you could treat the whole thing like a little ex...
Inside the chart: She couldn't stop looking for the next thing to fix.
Some people look at a business and go, “Wow. This is working.”She looks at it and goes, “Okay, but what's missing?” 😂What are the gaps? What could make this better? What else needs to happen?And whe...
For the Love of God, Just Have the Darn Coffee
Where did our moment-by-moment enjoyment of life go?Somewhere along the way, we started making our own happiness conditional on the next revenue goal, the next launch, the next metric, the next thing we can prove.And meanwhile, th...
Real life vs. human design: Maybe you're not supposed to stop fixing things.
This woman sees problems EVERYWHERE.Gaps. Things that could work better. Processes that could be cleaner. Ways to improve the whole darn thing.And I don't think the answer is to get her to STOP doing that. 😂...
Inside the chart: Her brain was doing exactly what it was supposed to.
She was trying to figure out why she kept wanting to do so many different things.And underneath that was this constant little voice going: “But is this actually safe? Do we have enough time? Do we have enough support? What if....
Real life vs. human design: Her chart said one thing - her life said another.
Okay, this one was FUN.Her chart said one thing - her actual behavior was telling me something else.So I started asking questions.Because if you've been told “this is your Human Design” and you're sitting ther...
Inside the chart: She didn’t hate her business.
She LOVES one side of her business - the coaching.That's where her energy lights up.Then there's the agency side…. And suddenly we're having a very different conversation.So…. What if the answer isn't “you need more ...
Real life vs. human design: She didn’t know why she kept starting new things.
She told me she tends to have 4-8 projects going at once - but that meant a focus problem.I was like… “Let's slow down here.” 😂Because there was something really interesting happening underneath that....
Inside the chart: What if you aren't supposed to work every day?
What if you aren't supposed to work every day?? Seriously.What if there are days when you're supposed to be completely lit up and getting EVERYTHING done…. And days when you basically want to do nothing??We got into ...
It’s Not the Business - It’s the Rest of It That’s Killing You
It’s probably not the work itself that’s draining you.It’s the constant pressure around it. The endless to-do list. The “if I hurry, I can fit something else in.” The skipped workout, no lunch, rushing to the next kid event.You ca...