If I see THIS at the end of your day, you’re off track for being a great mom AND a thriving business owner.

Have you bought into this? 

Are you constantly fighting against that pull of “I’ve got to tire myself out today”?

Here’s what this mentality robs you of.

• It steals the joy of sitting down when you need a break (‘cause “you’re not done yet”).
• It takes the end goal of “I did my work, now I get to rest” away from you (because the only rest you get is bed).
• It robs you of every single ounce of enjoyment of your family, because hey – you’re supposed to serve till you drop, remember? (And it’s hard not to resent them for that.)

Mama, let’s do THIS instead and turn this whole (false!) cultural narrative around.

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

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Transcript

This is the Unbusy Mom, and today we’re talking about what I see at the end of your day that means you’re off track for being a great mom AND a thriving business owner.

This is a really common myth in the mom space, and it has SO many things wrong with it that we’re going to do a whole episode about it.

Yes, I’m talking about this theory that “I was a good mom today – I know because I’m exhausted every night” (I’ve paraphrased this from Allie Casazza).

Have you bought into this? Are you constantly fighting against that pull of “I’ve got to tire myself out today”?

• It steals the joy of sitting down when you need a break (‘cause “you’re not done yet”).
• It takes the end goal of “I did my work, now I get to rest” away from you (because the only rest you get is bed).
• It robs you of every single ounce of enjoyment of your family, because hey – you’re supposed to serve till you drop, remember? (And it’s hard not to resent them for that.)

That’s not how you were designed to live. That’s not what God wants for you!

(He rested, right? Remember that from the creation story?)

So why won’t you allow yourself to kick back? Take time off every quarter? Enjoy mini breaks every few hours?

It’s because you feel like you’re not being a good mom or business owner by resting.

It’s an insidious voice in your head guilting you into getting back up and dipping into your energy reserve.

It’s that false cultural narrative of “the only good mom is an overworked one.”

But you know what? Sometimes I still start my afternoon work block drained from interacting with needy preschoolers. 

Which is why I still use all my tools to rest and reset and refresh myself. Whether that be lighting a candle, getting a cup of coffee, doing a body scan, or going over some affirmations to reset my mindset - I have to do *something* to get out of this “too many little kids too much noise” funk. 

To get back to “I love my job” kind of thinking. So I do.

So for today, I want you to get out your journal and bring this to the surface.

• What triggers you when I say “you need to rest”?
• What do you automatically push back on when I suggest “exhaustion does not equal a good mom”?

Let’s peel back the surface of these auto-worries and find out what’s going on underneath. So go take that journaling break, or pause this podcast for 5 minutes while you think, and come back.

What did you find out? 

What aha moments made their way to you via pen and paper?

What closely held beliefs, guilt trips, or unconscious modeling did YOU discover about the intersection of work and being a good mom?

I know you’ve got something, because looking beneath our auto-resistance to certain thoughts always brings up something deeper.

And if your response is, “that just kicked over a whole can of worms – I found so much I don’t know what to do with it all,” let me help you. 

Because the *mindset* of “I don’t deserve a break” is what’s keeping you from truly hitting the *sustainable* momentum you need - both in terms of your business income as well as your parenting reserves home life - and *that’s* what I want to change for you.

Because so long as you think your worth is defined by your output, and you don’t “deserve” any taking breaks input, then you’re keeping yourself - whether you know it or not - on the burnout track.

And I *know* you don’t want that. You just didn’t realize you were still on it.

And that the *key* to getting off - for good, not just for now, mind you - is to slip into the mindset of “He rested, so I’m going to” and resetting your business from a whole-person-oriented, not productivity-robot-centric, way of operating.

It’s what’s going to save both your business passion and your kids’ memory of you as a mom.

So with that kind of weight riding on your ability to rest, let me walk you through the actual nitty-gritty process of it. *How* to do it when you’ve got 3 plus kids, a flourishing business, and a human body you need to take care of.

Because I’ve got 5 kids’ worth of experience handling motherhood and mompreneurship, and I’m going to get you that “yes, life is easy for me” unicorn level blend of the two.

And I’m going to do it by resetting your schedule, your outsourcing, and your personal mindset. So that you can work *less* in your business, enjoy *more* time with your kids, and cut *way* back on the housework.

Are you ready?