Selfcare Not Selfish Ep. 7: Do THIS, and you’ll quit-proof your business as a mom.

Because it’s not about how hard you can go for how long and where that’ll intersect with your no-doubt-wonderful-and-amazing 5-year plan.

Or pushing yourself to meet every deadline, every timeline, every “would be great if our company hit this marker” for clients or course students.

It’s about giving yourself the fuel you need for success – and I don’t mean the “quick gas up so you can get running again” kind of fuel.

No, I’m talking the “so lit up about my purpose I can’t see myself quitting in 15 years from now” fuel. The personal family life that’s a complement to your CEO-self’s ambitions. 

That’s your life.

‘Cause if you don’t, you’re accepting that burnout is real and that you deserve to go through it.

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

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Transcript

This is the Unbusy Mom, and today we’re talking about the one thing that if you do THIS, you’ll quit-proof your business as a mom.

Do you know how to quit-proof your business? What that even MEANS for your CEO legacy, 5 years from now?

I’m thinking it means “gave myself the energy reserves to continue, and actually LOVE this job, 5 years down the road” as opposed to “got myself through the scaling, and enough team, to hit my 5-year revenue goals.”

You with me?

Because it’s not about how hard you can go for how long and where that’ll intersect with your no-doubt-wonderful-and-amazing 5-year plan.

It’s not about pushing yourself to meet every deadline, every timeline, every “might be nice if our company hit this marker” client or student or subscriber goal.

No. 

It’s about giving your SELF the fuel you need for success – and I don’t mean the “quick gas up so you can get running again” kind of fuel.

No, I’m talking the “so lit up about my purpose I can’t see myself quitting in 15 years from now” fuel. And the client stories that drove you there, all 15 years along the way. The transformations they’re getting, that you KNOW they wouldn’t if YOU weren’t here.

The personal family life that’s a COMPLEMENT to your CEO-self’s ambitions. That lets you let down your hair (or stuff it into a mom bun), relax, drink some more coffee lounging on the sofa with your husband and just chatting about the day, or snuggle (with no particular plans for when you have to stop) with your kids, then go off to pick your outfit for the day ‘cause you’re taking your friend from small group out for a birthday lunch. That’s your life.

NOT, how much work can I cram in and how few kid events can I attend or how many workouts can I skip (to fuel the business marketing machine) and still “make it”?

Listen - you’ve GOT to quit with the “oh, I don’t deserve to take the afternoon off” thinking when you’re stressed and tired and you just know your body’s needing a nap. 

Stop telling yourself you’re lazy when you want to rearrange your to-do list so that team takes care of 3 more things for you next week while you go for a business retreat with your mastermind (instead of staying home because you “need” to to oversee the launch prep and plans).

No more “I can’t handle it all as the CEO” self talk when you’re starting to get that resentful feeling again, and it’s toward your business, and you know that the fastest way to love your work-from-home life again would be to hire a full-time social media manager and client success coach so that YOU could quit thinking about all the scheduling and the daily check-ins and just stay working in your zone of genius.

But. All these feelings of ease. All these visions of enjoyable multi-six-figure day-in-the-life success. YOU’RE the one holding yourself back from there.

Because you keep acting as if it’s you HUSTLING for weeks or months or years down the road that’s going to get you to that “someday” reality.

When no, it isn’t. All it does is train your brain that you can NEVER take a break (longer than the 2-day weekend); NEVER hire someone to take things off your plate (when it only takes you an hour a day, so why are you complaining); or never take the week off work (except for client calls) because that wouldn’t be going full bore on your business and people might think you’re treating yourself too much. (Um, what? It’s YOUR business! It’s YOUR life! You take that break whenever you darn well please!)

I mean, really - what’s all this “push through the tired” getting you? 

You HAVE to be able to give YOURSELF a break by working fewer work hours than the hustle culture twentysomethings – and do it no matter WHAT your “add $20k of revenue in 2 weeks or 2 months” ambitious goals are – because no one else is going to give you that permission FOR you. 

It’s up to you. That means it’s your mindset.

And mindset is ALSO how you’re going to stop yourself.

Last time I overworked, for 2 days straight, I caught myself. And you know what my top takeaway was? I was *choosing* to do that amount of work. I could have stopped. So after 2 days of keeping up that (crazy!) pace, I decided this was nuts, knocked it off, and slipped back to my normal routines with a renewed appreciation for my rest times, podcast time, and even just “flop and read a book in the evening” time. 

But more importantly, *everything* necessary was still getting done, and I held myself through that. I was not skipping exercise, or body scans (my go-to de-stressing tool), or brain dumping or workouts. *None* of that was going by the wayside here. And me continuing to do all of that, *even* in a self-proclaimed busy season, is what let me move through it in a sane and accomplished fashion - only to end up declaring it NOT a busy season at all. 

Because that was pure mental self-pressure.

So what happens when you switch to treating your SELF as the asset? The one thing that can’t be burned out? That has to be nurtured, and given breaks, and little sabbaticals to recharge?

What changes about your work week, and monthly schedule, and yearly launch plan when you operate from THAT perspective?

Journal on that a little (don’t talk to your team yet!) and see….

• Would you re-simplify your weekly content production process, stripping out two more nice-to-haves one more time so that you can batch content ahead quickly and easily and it becomes way less of a mental chore?
• Would you throw a few more podcast management admin tasks onto your VA’s plate as a temp solution, then dialog with her about whether she’d like to lean into this extra role or you start paying for the smallest podcast management agency support package?
• Would you give yourself one extra week off a quarter (except for client support), as a “take a break whenever I just want to be outside” play hooky week?

What’s going to support YOU to treat yourself not like an expendable asset, but as the creative genius behind your entire business program who needs to be cherished? (‘Cause you are!)

Noodle on that a little, check in with wherever YOU feel resentment towards your launch plan or offer delivery tasks or just plain what’s on this week’s to-do list - and make some changes.

‘Cause if you don’t, you’re accepting that burnout is real and you deserve to go through it.

When that’s false, false, false.

Where are you releasing the hustle expectations and giving yourself MORE time off than you think you need today?