Sustainable Mompreneurship Ep. 6: Resentment is the flashlight of change on your daily work-from-home schedule. Are you using it?

Resentment is actually the best spotlight you could ask for.

It’s going to show you right where to look for your overgiving, overscheduling, and flat out overworking… if you’re willing to let yourself feel those uncomfortable emotions.

Because it’s not a matter of maturity here. 

It’s that you can’t keep functioning as a wife, mom, business owner, special needs caretaker, homeschool educator, taxicab driver, and STILL put in enough energy reserves for your own tank to keep serving your clients and your family for the next 15 years….

….While doing it from a state of LOVING the work-from-home life you have (as opposed to dreading when the kids wake up each morning).

You’ve got this!

Alyssa

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Transcript

This is the Unbusy Mom, and today we’re talking about resentment being the flashlight of change - but are you using it?

Resentment is actually the best spotlight you could ask for.

It’s going to show you right where to look for your overgiving, overscheduling, and flat out overworking.

But the key is you have to be willing to let yourself go there (to those uncomfortable emotions).

• Yes, it’s uncomfortable to feel like you lowkey hate your husband every Wednesday night when it’s time to take the kids to youth group but the house is a mess and no one’s eaten food yet.
• It's definitely worrying to realize that you’ve been fantasizing about not homeschooling anymore because your work life would be SO much easier if you had a blissfully empty house for 6 hours to take client calls.
• And you’re right, it IS shame-inducing every time you catch yourself wishing you didn’t have on-the-spectrum kids ‘cause you’re SO tired of working around their every meltdown-triggering issue.

But what’s REALLY being highlighted here?

It’s not you and your supposed immaturities (for expressing an ounce of complaint at what life’s dealt you this week).

It’s actually that responsibility scope creep has been taking over your life, and you’ve just now realized it - hence the frustration.

• You didn’t ask for help the first Wednesday you started the “go to youth group”, and now everyone expects you to do everything for them. Because that’s the pattern you’ve set.
• Or you’ve been laboring under a super-heavy homeschool schedule (that would turn out the most amazing homeschool graduates ever), but it’s not actually realistic given that you’re also a money mindset coach during work hours.
• And you can’t change whatever sensitivities your kids have been born with - THOSE you just have to work around - but you don’t have to be the ONLY person who anticipates their needs and how to get through each family gathering or why that “simple” road trip is going to take three times as long as supposedly normal.

You get to have HELP.

You need to make changes. 

It’s not a matter of maturity here. It’s that you can’t keep functioning as a wife, mom, business owner, special needs caretaker, homeschool educator, taxicab driver, and STILL put in enough energy reserves for your OWN tank to keep serving your clients and your family for the next 15 years.

And do it from a state of thriving, not surviving. Of LOVING the work-from-home life you have, not dreading when your kids wake up each morning.

Because you get to have that recharge time every single day - AND take it, no guilt - but that’s going to take some schedule adjusting and mindset rewiring.

• The schedule, because you can’t keep on doing everything for everyone on Wednesday night - you KNOW it’s not fitting in.
• And the mindset, because until you GIVE yourself free and clear permission to ask for help… you won’t do it. (Or you’ll ask, but then back down and apologize and take the chore back.)

Like me, when I was getting really sick and tired of cooking mac’n’cheese (‘cause we do it from scratch, not box) for the kids on Saturdays, and then one of my teens suddenly offered to do it one night. (Of course, I took her up on it!)

But then I went back and analyzed it later - what if she wouldn’t mind doing this more often? Because nothing about my schedule changes if she says no, but a whole lot does if she says yes - meaning I should just ask! 

And sure enough, she actually LIKED making it and was even happier to do so more often if that meant she got to eat it every week. 

Disliked cooking chore: solved!

So in my work/life balance program, I’m going to spend the time with you to fully rewire each and every one of these limiting beliefs (of the “I have to provide a 5-star homeschool experience before I can even think of running a coaching business” variety), THEN redo your schedule to match your new self-concept (of a CEO plus home educator), so that you can actually experience that “can’t believe how lucky I am to live this kind of life” feeling again (or for the first time, if you’ve never felt it).

Because that’s what I’m here to change for and about you. 

The willingness to see what’s wrong, ASK for help, and then take it - no mom guilt strings attached.

Just pure gratitude and joy.

So for your homework today, what two spots in your week absolutely drive you bananas every time you experience them?

(It could be the after dinner bathtime routine, or how much you have to do to get everyone in the car on Sunday mornings, or the way your kids aren’t staying quiet during client calls, or even your extremely-inconveniently-timed weekly team meeting that you don’t want to bother everyone else by moving.)

Find those two things. 

Then promise me you’re going to stop putting up with them.

Because everything changes when you commit to “no resentment” living.