The Gay Monogamy Coach (formerly Empowering Gay Men).
The Gay Monogamy Coach podcast is hosted by the ICF-accredited life coach, workshop facilitator and author Alan Cox.
He supports gay men in understanding the emotional, psychological, and practical aspects of transitioning from casual dating to a committed, monogamous relationship, while fostering clarity, confidence, and alignment with authentic relationship goals.
Each episode will investigate an area that surrounds monogamy and is reinforced by practical life coaching techniques.
Alan can be contacted via:
gaymonogamycoach@gmail.com
Website:
www.lifecoachingempoweringgaymen.com
The Gay Monogamy Coach (formerly Empowering Gay Men).
4. Redefining masculinity in gay relationships.
Episode 4: Redefining Masculinity in Gay Relationships.
Hosted by Alan Cox – The Gay Monogamy Coach.
Are you tired of the cycle of hookups and emotionally unavailable men? Do you crave deep connection but find yourself pulling away just when things get serious?
In this powerful episode, gay life coach and CBT practitioner Alan Cox breaks down how toxic masculinity sabotages emotional intimacy in gay relationships—and what you can do about it. Drawing from both personal experience and years of coaching successful, intelligent gay men, Alan exposes the unconscious scripts that keep us guarded, distant, and ultimately unfulfilled.
Key Topics Covered:
- Why so many gay men fear commitment, even when they deeply desire it.
- How toxic masculinity teaches us that vulnerability equals weakness—and why that’s a lie.
- Real client stories (like Martin, David, and James) who broke free from emotional walls.
- The “Vulnerability Gradient”: a step-by-step method to open up safely and authentically.
- Weekly Emotional Check-ins: a practice that strengthens connection and trust.
- Practical tools like “Feel, Think, Want” and Emotional Mirroring to express your needs clearly.
- How emotional openness makes you more attractive to the right kind of partner (The Intimacy Paradox).
- The liberating truth: your authenticity is your superpower.
Your Challenge: Have one truly vulnerable conversation this week. It could change everything.
For Listeners Ready to Transform:
If this episode hit home, it’s time to take the next step. Alan works with gay men who are ready to overcome fear, embrace intimacy, and finally build the relationship they deserve. His 1:1 coaching programme dives deep into emotional healing, attachment dynamics, and personalized relationship strategies that create lasting change.
📞 Book a free discovery call by emailing: empoweringgaymen@gmail.com
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