Podcast 35: 5 Reasons You're Missing Out on the BEST Way to Connect with Christian Men

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Transcript

Michelle Joiner (00:01.356)
Hey, hey, sis. I am here today to tell you about the five reasons that you are missing out on the best way to connect with Christian men. Now, I know you hear that and you're instantly wondering, okay, yes, I want to know this. I want to know what the best way is to connect with Christian men and like, why? Why am I not doing it? Michelle, tell me how.

I can change this. I am here to tell you that today before we fix the problem, let's diagnose the problem and figure out the reasons why this is happening. But before I tell you that, I am just going to let you in on the juicy 411 as to what I think is the best way to connect with Christian men. It is so obvious. is so like, of course, of course the best way to connect with Christian men.

is to meet them at church or church events. And I know before you stop me, I know what the reasons are, why it's not happening for you, why you're not making this happen for yourself, why you're missing out. I know what the reasons are, and I'm going to share them with you today. I'm going to share the reasons why you are missing out, okay? So first of all, I just wanna say that when I was single, I truly did think this was the best way

to connect with Christian men. I would go to churches that were definitely like along what I believed, my personal stance on doctrine and theology. I would go to those churches and I would always leave with men giving me their numbers or them taking my number or as connecting on Facebook. And I would always do this. And I realized that I was sitting on gold because this wasn't happening for my Christian sisters.

You go to church events and you walk away with nothing if you go at all. I bet sometimes you just don't go. So I want to tell you the reasons why it's not happening for you so that we can change it. Okay, so here are the reasons. It's incredibly important to be able to connect with Christian men at churches and church events. And here's the reasons why it's not happening for you. Okay. Here's a first like really, really basic one, a really

Michelle Joiner (02:27.967)
Basic one, it's just that there's kind of a thought error in your mind that they'll think you're weird, you're in a new environment, you're the new one, and there's just a little hint of being too shy. Like you're feeling like, they're gonna think I'm weird. You know, I just, I can't do it, I'm just too nervous. I'm too nervous to talk to new people. And this will hold you back. This will keep you.

from connecting with Christian men, if you're just thinking to yourself, I'm too shy, I can't do this, they're gonna think I'm weird, something along those lines of like, this isn't gonna go well, something along those lines. So that is one of the first things that I always hear, I'm just too shy, it's not gonna go well, they're gonna think I'm weird. That's one of the first things that I hear from women and that's

stops them from connecting with men. If you think you're too shy, you're just not gonna do it. You're just not gonna do it. If that is your thought, your thought is creating a feeling of fear and your action is gonna be that you don't go talk to them. You're not even gonna start.

The second thought error that I hear a whole lot, the second reason that would keep you from, keep you missing out on connecting with Christian men, the best way to connect with Christian men, is that you're too embarrassed because you don't know if the guy's married or in a relationship.

and you're all up in your head that you can't talk to a guy who's married, that you can't, if he's in a relationship, his woman is gonna think you're trying to steal him. And like, there's all this drama in your head because you're worried that he may be unavailable. You're worried that he may be connected to someone. So you're telling yourself, I can't talk to someone who's you know, unattached, who's attached. can't, I just couldn't. And like, you're telling yourself that it's disrespectful to his woman and all these things. And it's like,

Michelle Joiner (04:33.167)
Just chill. Just take a chill pill. There's nothing sinful about talking to someone who's married. Like if you allow this thought error, if you allow this reason to stay in your mind and to take up space in your mind that if he's married, it would be the end of the world if you talk to him, then that's gonna keep you from connecting with Christian men. You're not gonna do it. You're just not gonna do it. You're gonna be held back by this thought.

Okay, then the other thought that's gonna happen that'll keep you missing out on the best way to connect with Christian men is that you are telling yourself that there's not enough men in churches that, especially not eligible men, they're all gonna be, here we go again, they're all gonna be married or they're gonna be no single, there's no one my age, know? And you're telling yourself that there's no point to visiting new churches, there's no point to.

going and checking out new places, there's just no point because there's no eligible men for you, right? I know, I know I've heard this so many times. There's only going to be women there. Have you heard that one? Have you thought that one? I bet you have. If you tell yourself, which is a total lie, I can tell you from experience, yes, some churches, there's more women than men, but not all churches and

There's so many churches to visit. I know, I talk to people from all around the world in my client business and I know that so many women from all around the world listen to this podcast. There are churches available for you to visit and make connections there. There are churches that have men. Now, maybe not all, maybe not the first church you go into, but there's a lot of churches around.

And it's a complete lie that they're only filled with women. God is faithful. God is powerful. And he has followers everywhere. His church is being built. And you can find a Christian man in his church that is single. There's so many people in God's church. There's one for you.

Michelle Joiner (06:54.569)
All right, so then of course if you're having all these thought errors that you're just too shy, they'll think you're weird, it's too embarrassing if he's attached, what if this woman comes up and yells at you and close your eyes out or there's only gonna be women there and all these thoughts, hey, tell you what, you're just not gonna go. I know this is like a very simple reason that it's gonna keep you missing out on the best way, you're just not going.

Now, like I said before, what I want you to do is be visiting multiple churches. Like I think it's important to be faithful to one church where you're serving at and you're receiving fellowship from. But it's okay to visit churches at other churches every once in a while. We travel a lot. We can visit churches when we travel. We can go to conferences. We can go to Bible studies. We can go to retreats. We can meet other Christians in the church world and the church.

in the church arena and you're missing out if you're just not doing it. you're just like, no, I'm just not gonna do it, then you're gonna miss out. And then lastly, if you do go, if you do go, if you manage to haul yourself out of bed or haul yourself after work to go to church or to go to a church event, here's the problem.

Why you're missing out on the best way to connect with Christian men if all of these reasons are Not true for you. Then this one is true for you You don't know what to say you don't know what to say to create a meaningful connection where he will exchange numbers with you and You just don't know what to say. Like it's just it's out of your mind. You're not sure how to create a connection

you're not sure how to keep the connection after you leave. Like you may talk to them and say, that's a nice tie or good morning. Hi, my name's Sophie, but you're not going to do more than that. And so you don't know what to say. So that's how you're missing out. You're missing out because you're now at the church talking to the guy. You met the Christian guy, but you're still missing out on the best way to connect with Christian men because you don't know what to say.

Michelle Joiner (09:15.049)
You don't know what to say to create that connection.

So listen, if this resonated for you, I know how you feel, because I used to be the same way, but I learned. I got myself a dating coach. I studied how to talk to men. I studied how to just be more spontaneous in what I said and how to think in the moment. And I also got in a ton of practice. I would go.

to new churches all the time. I would go swing dancing, I would go to different events, and just I was always practicing talking to men. And so I am here to save you years of learning and practice, because I have done it for you. And I can tell you how to solve all of these problems. This is what I help all of my clients solve. I give them the tools.

for them to be able to walk into any room and feel so valuable and to leave with a number or to leave with him having your number and texting you. So that's great, right? Like my clients get guys taking their numbers and then they text them, which is what you want. And I can help you with that. Now I have to tell you that my clients are getting married.

Three of my clients have gotten married this year. Four have gotten engaged. I just talked to one client this morning who got engaged this morning. And she, I have six clients that have gotten into relationships. I just heard from one, I think it was probably last week who told me she started another, new relationship with an amazing guy that she's been waiting for. Listen, my coaching gets results. It helps.

Michelle Joiner (11:12.799)
with all of these problems and solves them so that you can find your person. Now, the only way to work with me for the rest of 2024 is my luxurious, elite, premium, one-on-one, private mentorship coaching. So you work with me for six months and you are transformed. You have an

confidence with men and with yourself. You're building connections where you're meeting men in person. Your online dating game is working because you're going to help you build an amazing dating profile and you're learning how to create chemistry with men when you talk to them. Chemistry just means that you both are feeling the magnetic pull of falling in love instead of having boring small talk going on.

How are you? Good morning. I'm fine. How are you? No. You're talking to each other where you start to feel that spark.

and you learn how to talk to men, how to communicate with men, how to create chemistry with men and how to feel it yourself. I know that sounds amazing to you. I know you were listening to those five reasons like, yup, that's me, yup, that's me. How do I fix it? Come and join me in private coaching. I am here for you. I am here to help you find the man of your dreams and it can all start right now. Go to my webpage, thechristiandatingcoach.com, the

christiandatingcoach.com. Don't forget the the christiandatingcoach.com slash coaching. Book a call and answer my application questions and I will see you at your own consultation call and then we'll get started coaching. If you're the right fit, we'll get started coaching. Sound good? All right, sis, let's get you married.