Podcast 37: 1 Corinthains 13 Dating

We all want a 1 Corinthians 13 marriage. But are we willing to sacrifice our ego and selfishness while dating? 

Listen in for how to love like 1 Corinthians 13 commands from the early stages of dating.

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Transcript

Michelle Joiner (00:01.154)
Heihei says, love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others. It is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered. It keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects.

Always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.

Michelle Joiner (00:41.677)
Sis, this is what we're called to. This is what God wants us to be from the beginning. We are called to a 1 Corinthians love from the beginning. And today I wanna talk to you about 1 Corinthians 13 dating, love from the beginning.

When we show up with 1 Corinthians 13 dating, we don't show up selfish. We don't show up as the verses say, self-seeking or easily angered or keeping track of who did this and when did you do this and da da da and the tit for tat that often happens while we're dating. 1 Corinthians 13 dating doesn't do that. So wanting him to make the first move, why? Just for

ego and validation and just our own pride most of the time. Wanting him to plan everything and serve us and take care of us and do things for us. Again, just more selfishness. And a lot of it is wrapped up in our desire to feel like we're valuable when that knowledge of our own value needs to come from within. It doesn't come from how a guy

makes you feel special. I can never make you feel special enough for you to believe and know your own value. And at the end of the day, that's not 1 Corinthians 13 dating. That's not love as 1 Corinthians 13 describes it. What if we could stop thinking about ourselves so much? What if we were more giving and more generous from the beginning? What if we stopped keeping track

of who did what and just loved. I like to think of love from the beginning as acceptance, not wishing someone were different from who they are. So for instance, if you like a guy and he doesn't like texting, you don't catastrophize it. You don't say, woe is me, he doesn't like me. You don't just stop texting him.

Michelle Joiner (03:05.454)
and say, what a jerk, like, a jerk. He never got back to me. No, if he doesn't like texting, you talk to him in person. You offer grace and tell him not to worry about it because that's love. First Corinthians 13, dating love. Again, if you like a guy and he's been messaging you for months, say thank you. Say thank you. Let me buy you a coffee for all the laughs you've given me. I love getting your messages.

That's just love from the beginning. That's 1 Corinthians 13 dating. If you are dating someone, he doesn't need to pay for everything and plan everything and constantly be at your beck and call and entertain you with texts all through the day. He doesn't need to do that because you have love and grace and generosity and selflessness in your relationships with the men that you're talking to.

If you want a marriage like 1st Corinthians 13, you need to start now.

You need to start making the interactions you have with men less about yourself and more about selfless love that Christ had. The selfless love that Christ had. Ditch your ego, ditch the selfishness, and just love more.

Michelle Joiner (04:38.978)
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Michelle Joiner (07:03.716)
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