Podcast 44: A Date for Valentine's and Beyond

Valentine's Day is right around the corner. Wouldn't you like to create a date for Valentine's especially if it becomes your Forever Valentine?

Listen to this podcast where I invite you to my annual Valentine's Prep Party. Then use the link below to come live or get the replay.

  www.thechristiandatingcoach.com/valentines 

Transcript

Michelle Joiner (00:01.087)
Hey, hey, sis. What does it take to create a date for Valentine's and beyond? A date for Valentine's that becomes your forever Valentine. What does it take to create that? Today I'm going to tell you how to do that by inviting you to a party. It's a Valentine's

Now the only thing is that it is January 14th, 2025. The party is January 14th, 2025, which at the time you are hearing this is tomorrow. So what I want you to do is hop on it and come to this party. I'll give you the instructions of how you can join this party at the end of this podcast.

or you can go to the show notes right now if you just can't wait and click the link and get yourself in the room to this party. This is my annual party where I teach my sisters in Christ how to get a date for Valentine's and beyond. And that's why I call it the Valentine's prep party. Now, one of your sisters, a sister just like you came to the Valentine's prep party last year.

She met a guy online using my proprietary method for finding godly men online. She came to the Valentine's prep party last year, listened to everything I taught her, and created a date for herself for Valentine's Day of last year. She came to the party last year, created a date for herself for Valentine's last year, and got engaged to that same guy around July 4th.

and is getting married to him this month. You heard that right. One of your sisters came to the Valentine's prep party last year, got a date for Valentine's and met her for ever Valentine. She's getting married to the guy she went on a date with on Valentine's Day this month.

Michelle Joiner (02:20.043)
Now, what I want you to know is that this can happen for you too, sis. That's why I'm inviting you to the party. I want you to come to the party and learn everything you can so that you can create a date for yourself for this Valentine's and beyond. Okay, let me tell you, I'm just gonna give you a little bit of a teaser and introduction. Now, if you're listening to this and it's after January 14th, all you need to do is send me an email and I will...

send you the replay for the party because that will be just as powerful. So this is still for you even if you missed the party live, but if you can make the party live, do it. Let me tell you really in essence what it takes to create a date for Valentine's and beyond to create a date for Valentine's that becomes your forever Valentine. This is what it takes. It takes knowing the things that

Get in your way and keep you single. Once you learn the things that are keeping you single, obviously you stop doing them. And so you stop doing the things that keep you single and that is when you find your person. You learn how to fix the things that are keeping you single. Now, I've heard it all. I've heard from so many women.

got an email the other day and a woman was saying, well, I'm single because I can only attract the wrong guy. I keep attracting the wrong guys and that's the reason why I'm single. Here's the thing, that is not why you're still single. Sometimes people say, well, I'm still single because all the good guys are taken. There's only married, all the good guys are already married and that's just, that's why I'm still single because all the good guys are already married.

That's not keeping you single either. That's not why you're still single. And then lastly, my absolute favorite one, I'm sure there's more. I'm sure there's lots of excuses. I often hear, well, I guess God just doesn't want me to be married. I guess this just isn't something that God has for me. know, have you ever heard that it comes from a verse that, you know, I have the gift of singleness. God gave me the gift of singleness. God wants me to stay single.

Michelle Joiner (04:46.864)
And you know, I'm going to say no on that one too. I'm not God, but I do know the Bible really well. And when people tell me God wants me to be single, my question is then why do you think you want to get married? Like if you want to get married, why do you think God wants you to be single? Where do you think those desires are coming from? That's a thought, right?

Where do you think the desires in your heart are coming from? Let's attack that one first. God wants me to say single. Listen, God created marriage. God created marriage. And when he talks to people in the New Testament, so, okay, God created marriage when he created Adam and Eve, right? So he knows a thing or two about how man isn't meant to be alone.

But if you look in the New Testament, anytime God talks to people, he's always talking to husbands and wives. The assumption is that most people in the church are married. That's what most people would be. Now, if you want even more specifics, Paul literally tells the church that it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

And in another passage, I believe it's first Timothy. I believe it's first Timothy. It might be second Timothy, but Paul tells the younger women, the younger widows in the church that have been married before. He tells them to get married again. There are multiple times in the New Testament, even Jesus, even Jesus said, yeah, not everybody can accept not being married. So

When people come to me and they tell me, well, I think that God doesn't want me to get married. I'm like, I don't know what Bible you're reading because as far as I can tell, marriage is for most people. What I actually think is happening in this case, when this is happening to you and you think something is happening with God, I think that God is sending you opportunities that you are not pursuing.

Michelle Joiner (07:04.579)
That's what I think is happening with God. I think that this is kind of like if you wanted to get a job and you told and you weren't getting a job and you told me, well, I think God doesn't want me to get a job. That is so ridiculous. I literally would say, no, you just need to send out more resumes and go on more interviews. What do you mean God doesn't want you to get a job? It is that simple. It is that simple. All right, so let's look at the one where someone says,

that, all the good guys are taken, false, false, false, false. There are so many singles in the world right now. There are so many singles identifying themselves as Christian. And even more importantly than that, I do not believe that the God that I serve has no followers that are not single.

The God that I serve has a church and this church, the gates of hell is not going to prevail against them. And I know that God is strong and powerful and he has faithful followers. And because I know that there's a high percentage of singles in the world, I believe that there's a high percentage of Christian singles because I believe in the power of God and the

the solidarity of his faithful followers. I know that my God has faithful followers. So for you to tell me that all of them are gone is for you to tell me that God doesn't have faithful followers. And I don't believe that.

And then lastly, when people say that, I only attract, I'm only attracting the wrong guys. Listen, of course you're attracting the wrong guys. Even the wrong guys recognize an amazing woman. Everybody wants an amazing woman, not just the losers. I mean, not just the amazing guys, even losers want an amazing woman. I hate to say it.

Michelle Joiner (09:16.524)
But yeah, you are attracting losers because you're attracting, you're attractive. It's literally like a light bulb, a light bulb outside. And the light bulb says, why am I attracting moths? I only want to attract whatever, whatever, something other than a moth. You're gonna attract everyone. If you are an amazing total package woman, you're going to attract everyone. The good guys, the bad guys, the losers, the winners.

You're gonna attract everyone. And it is not a bad thing that you are attracting the guys you don't want to attract. You just need to get better at finding or putting yourself to be found by the right guys. When you tell me that you're only attracting the wrong guys, that tells me that you're not meeting enough men. Because if you are attracting the wrong guys, you would attract the right guys too, if you were meeting them.

There is nothing wrong with attracting the wrong guys. You're gonna attract everybody. If you're attractive, you're gonna attract everybody. Do see what I'm saying? All right, so now I want you to think about these things that I'm saying. Like these things that you thought were keeping you single are not keeping you single. What is keeping you single? Do you wanna hear it? Like do you wanna hear the real reason why you're still single? Do you, let me know if you wanna hear it. Nod your head. Okay.

Here it is, here's the reasons.

You're not meeting enough compatible men, Christian men. You're not meeting enough compatible Christian men. That is the primary reason. And when I coach my clients, I first teach them how to meet more men in general, then I teach them how to meet compatible Christian men. Where to find them? Where to go? How often to go?

Michelle Joiner (11:17.863)
what to do when you go there. That's the second thing. When you meet for some magical, marvelous miracle, you do meet an amazing guy. You don't know how to create a connection that lasts. So one, you're not meeting the compatible Christian men. You've got to meet more men. You gotta meet more men. When people write into me and talk to me,

and say that they want to work with me. I asked them how many men they've met in the past year. I literally get the answers like one or two or zero. You're not meeting enough men, but more particularly, you're not meeting the kind of man that you want to marry. It's so simple, but so hard because where do you find this guy? That's what I teach you. I want you to come to the Valentine prep party. I will teach you how to find

is Christian compatible men, not only online, because yes, that's a great tool, but also in person. I want you to be doing both because I want you to have all of the options that you can. And then two, you need to know how to talk to them to create chemistry, to create electricity, to create a spark, to have him dying to take you off the market and commit to you. That's what happened when my client who met a guy

last Valentine's and she's getting married this month. She knew because I taught her, she knew how to inspire a guy to pursue and commit. That's what you're missing. It's not because God wants you to stay single. It's because you don't know how to talk to men. It's not because you only attract the wrong men. It's because you're not meeting enough of the good guys. And it's certainly not because God's church has failed.

There are Christian men. I don't believe that God's church has failed somehow. No, there are men that love the Lord. You're just not meeting them.

Michelle Joiner (13:24.848)
and you don't know how to talk to them. And there's a third reason, there's a third reason that's keeping you single.

Michelle Joiner (13:34.011)
I'm gonna dive into this more at the Valentine prep party. But the third reason that's keeping you single is the status of your heart. Your heart is discouraged. Your heart is despondent and defeated.

And you're angry, you're angry at God and you're angry at life because you're tired of being single. And that anger and despondency and discouragement is affecting the way you show up. If you show up, it's affecting everything in your journey. Those are the reasons why you're so single. And those are the things I'm going to address at the Valentine party.

Tomorrow sound good. I know it sounds amazing. Listen, you only have Basically when this podcast comes out you only have literally 24 hours to get into this Valentine's prep party. The cost is $14 $14, you know Valentine's Day is on February 14th. The cost is $14. So I want you to Go to WWW

dot the christiandatingcoach.com slash valentines. If you have any trouble finding it, look in the show notes, it's gonna be there. Sign up for the Valentine's prep party. If you're finding this after Valentine's, go ahead and sign up anyways and you will get the replay. So you can either send me an email at michelle at the christiandatingcoach.com and ask for it and I'll.

hope you pay for it and you can get the replay or you can just sign up for it, pay your $14 and I will send you the replay. If you were hearing this before January 14th, 2025, the party starts at 5 p.m. Pacific time, 5 p.m. Pacific time. If you were hearing this before then go to the website www.thecristiandanacoach.com slash Valentine and sign up.

Michelle Joiner (15:55.085)
You can find me anywhere. I will let you in the doors. If you want to come to the prep party live, that's what happened with my sister, with your sister last year. She came to the prep party, had a date for Valentine's that turned into her forever Valentine. Let's the same thing happen to you. Let's get you married, sis.