Podcast 48: Why It's OK Not to Have a Date This Valentine's

Falling in love happens in an instant. One day you're single. Next day, and for the rest of your life, you're not. It happens in the blink of an eye. It truly does not matter how long you are single because you'll be spending the entire rest of your life - not single. Your future husband is out there. You just need to meet him... and you will. 

Sis, your handsome, godly man is ready right now to fall in love with you. He's ready to take you home to meet his family, get down on one knee, and propose to you while everyone jumps up and down to cheer you two on.

I can help you meet this guy and show you how to have him crazy about you and dying to take you off the market. 

The main thing single, Christian women struggle with is finding compatible, godly men AND knowing how to talk to them so that they pursue and commit.

Through coaching, I help you with the mindset and strategy you need to combat those two obstacles. You meet more compatible men so you have options. AND you learn how to flirt so that you create chemistry. That's what leads to relationships and marriage.

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Use the link below to make an appointment for a conversation with me on why coaching is just what you need to find the handsome, godly man that God created just for you. I'll help you find him and teach you how to inspire him to commit to you right now.

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Transcript

Michelle Joiner (00:01.542)
Hey, hey sis, Valentine's Day is just around the corner and I wanna tell you today why it's okay that you don't have a date for Valentine's. You heard me, it is okay that you don't have a date for Valentine's. I wanna hit you with some massive encouragement today.

I coach my clients on mindset and strategy because your mindset is going to determine the energy that you have, the energy that you put out into the world. And we all know that your energy determines your impact. And I want to help you with that today. I want to help you with your energy so that you can go into Valentine's Day and know that it is okay.

that you do not have a date for this Valentine's Day. Why? Because it's coming sis. When I was single, I was, I remember being all throughout my twenties, like sis, I had never had a single date in my whole twenties, not one, not one. I did not have a single date until I turned 31. And then I spent a lot of years still

just single. I remember waking up on Christmas morning one year in my condo all by myself. I remember lying in bed on my birthday because I didn't have anyone to celebrate with. remember lots of Valentine's days where I just nothing happened. Literally nothing happened. But I didn't make that mean.

that I was gonna be single forever. I knew down to my core that I was meant to be married and to go a step further, that I was meant to be a mother. I just knew it. I held that energy. And even though the years went by, I held on to that belief. I held on to that certainty. And that's what I help my clients do. I remind them,

Michelle Joiner (02:23.999)
that they are beautiful, that they are smart, that they are godly, and that the chances of them staying single for the rest of their life are like nil. There is zero chance that they are going to stay single. Let me hit you with some facts. I used to be an engineer, so I love me some good numbers. Did you know that the US Census Bureau did a study in, I think it was 2021.

I can't remember the exact year, but it was a few years back. was 2021 or 2022. And they discovered from their statistics and from their polling of the United States that 91 % of American adults get married at least once in their lifetime. 91%. I am telling you that as a dating coach, I feel so assured of my success rate.

because most people are meant to be married. You look in scripture and you see God talking to married women, to talking to married men, talking to older women, to train the younger women, to love their husbands and children. Most people are meant to be married. And as I said, 91 % of people in the United States get married at least once in their lifetime. And the reason why that's significant is because

Sometimes people get married more than once in their lifetime. And the statistics show in the same study that if a marriage ends due to divorce or death, 75 % of Americans remarry. Now I know I have listeners all throughout the world. I literally know that there are people from very, very much more countries than just the United States. But just take...

the United States as a gauge of like modern society, most people are getting married. What does that mean for you? It's Valentine's Day, sis. It is okay. You are going to be spending most of your life with your partner, most of your life. I remember being single and it felt like it was just forever. It felt like a life sentence.

Michelle Joiner (04:49.672)
but it wasn't, I've been married now. Well, let's take it back. I've known Caleb, my husband, I've known him since 2016 and it's 2025 right now. So that's nearly nine years. I've known him for nearly nine years. I promise you that I do not think about any of those Valentine's days that I went alone. Like they are kind of clump.

together blur. I sometimes think about the Valentine's, the Christmas day and my birthday. I think about those days, but they're like a far away memory. Why? Because my life is so full of love now. And I know that all those years that I spent alone brought me here. They brought me to this love I have with Caleb. He's my best friend.

I never spend a day lonely now because I have the love of my life. And all those years, I would say I met Caleb when I turned 35. So 35 years of Valentine's days alone. So what? So what? They brought me to the love that I have right now. So what I'd love for you to do is,

Truly, if you are not celebrating this Valentine's with a guy that you're in love with, don't make it mean that you're going to be single forever. That's not what it means. It might mean that you're single this year. Doesn't mean you're going to be single next year. Doesn't mean you're going to be single. Yeah, you're going to be single on Friday on this February 14th. So what? You're going to get to spend the rest of your life with your amazing husband.

Now, if you can hold on to that certainty, if you can hold on to that confidence, you're gonna show up like a light. I was talking to a client last night and just lit up. Just you're gonna show up lit up. And that is attractive. I want you to think about the mindset of being discouraged and defeated and doubting and.

Michelle Joiner (07:17.848)
Those feelings don't create actions of going out and meeting new people. They create actions of staying home and watching TV. And if you do go out, like I said, your energy determines your impact. I see it all the time, women going out after they spent all week just telling themselves demoralizing, defeated language and...

and discouraged talk and they've been talking to themselves in this downhearted way and then they go out for a date, you're not gonna show up the way, it's not attractive. You know what's attractive? Happiness. You know what's attractive? Confidence. You know what's attractive? Believing that you're desirable. That's what's attractive. So what I want you to do today is something that makes you happy, something that makes you delighted.

something that makes you smile. And I want you to write a letter to your future husband and tell him how you feel and tell him how glad you are you are with him because he's coming, sis. This is what I help my clients to do. I help them take a look at their mindset so that they can show up in a way that is fully attractive. Sometimes we need some coaching. Sometimes we need

Someone like literally I think of myself as a coach for a football team or a cheerleader team or a cheerleader squad or a gymnastic team. Someone not only to help with strategy, because I do. I help you know how to talk to men in that flirty come be with me way that gets them excited and gets them like dying to pursue you and dying.

to commit to you, I teach you how to talk to that man that way. But I also teach you how to get into the right mindset so that you can show up on a date and have that ineffable like spirit that he's like, wow, I just gotta be around this person more. I feel good when I'm around them. They're like a source of pleasure. just, I love being around them. I love their energy. I help you with all of that. What I'm doing right now is coaching clients one-on-one.

Michelle Joiner (09:41.953)
That's what I have available right now. And that's what I'd love to welcome you into. My one-on-one coaching is a luxurious, very special experience because you get me all to yourself and all of the time is focused on your love life. You get my expert brain on your love life. And as you know, my expert brain thinks a little bit differently from most people.

I'm the Christian dating coach. So combine that like Christian dating. Like how do those two work together? Right? Like my concepts, flirt, pure. How do those two concepts work together? I not only teach you my incredible concepts that get women married. I actually have a wedding for one of my clients that I'm going to next weekend. And I just saw wedding photos of a client that got married last month. I have success.

doing this and it's because I combine the beauty of scripture and my knowledge of human interaction and all of my trainings and teachings and experience with my past clients. I've been doing this for five years. So I know how to get this to work for you. I want you to go to my website www.thecristiandanycoach.com and book a call.

Book a call to talk to me about private mentorship, private one-on-one coaching. It's gonna change your year. The year is just getting started, and so is your love story. Let's get you married, sis.