Podcast 53: Angry at God: You're Still Single?

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Transcript

Michelle Joiner (00:01.154)
Hey, hey sis, have you grown weary in your search and desire for a godly husband? Has your heart gotten angry, frustrated, or even resentful toward the Lord because of years of waiting for marriage? If the answer is yes, you're not alone. And today I'm going to speak some truth over you that I hope will encourage you. And sis, I don't just want to encourage you.

This is not going to be another one of those, just be content things. I want to encourage you and help you position your heart and open your heart to receive the blessing that God has for you in this area of married love. Because one thing I can tell you now, anger, frustration and resentment towards God,

is not going to serve you. It's not going to help you. And here's why. Telling yourself that the Lord doesn't love you is an act of unbelief. It defies the thousands of verses in scripture that speak about God's unfailing love, his enduring love, his indescribable love. In scripture, Paul says this to the Ephesians. He says,

I pray that you being rooted and established in love may have power to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ and to know this love that surpasses knowledge. Did you hear that? Like God wants us to know a love that surpasses knowing.

And I want you to imagine how it grieves the Holy Spirit when we think the thought, God doesn't love me. We're essentially calling God a liar. And I know what you're thinking. Like you're thinking this, something like this, I bet. How can this be love to make me endure all this pain in waiting for a husband?

Michelle Joiner (02:26.613)
How can this be love to make me endure this loneliness? And I'm going to direct you to scripture and remind you that we are not called to anything other than picking up our cross and following Christ. Remember, a Christian's calling has always been one of suffering. So,

I know you're waiting for the encouraging part, but listen, you got to start seeing your singleness as part of being on the narrow road that leads to eternal life. You got to start seeing your singleness as a trial you are enduring because you are chosen and set apart. And you're in the world, but not of it. You've got to start seeing your commitment.

to not being unequally yoked as picking up your cross and following your savior. Because we're called to suffer. And here's what I want you to remember. Like if you take nothing away from this podcast, take this away, okay? Here it is. Suffering does not mean that God doesn't love you. I'm gonna say it again. Suffering does not mean that God

doesn't love you.

2 Corinthians 1 says that God is the father of compassion and the God of all comfort who comforts us in all our troubles. So I'm telling you reach out to this God, tell him you're angry, tell him you don't understand, cry out to him. We see all the Psalmists doing this in the Psalms. That's what they are doing. Crying out to the Lord, asking for the comfort.

Michelle Joiner (04:27.15)
Ultimately, we're called to consider it pure joy when we face trials of many kinds. Ultimately, God has made it clear everywhere in scripture that this is this is a hard road and to expect trials. But First Corinthians goes on to say, just as we share abundantly in the sufferings of Christ, so also our comfort abounds through Christ. So now you're asking, OK, well, where do we access this comfort?

How can we feel this love when all we feel is pain? And this is what I truly believe.

If you're feeling anger in your heart right now, your journey starts with repentance. In Mark, a father of a sick child says to Jesus, help my unbelief. And that's the heart we need to have, a heart of prayer, a heart that reaches to scripture for truth and solace, a heart that is willing to suffer for the calling and a heart that repents when we feel unbelief.

And I want to emphasize that having truth, and by truth I mean scripture, by having truth frequently in our minds, like that is the only sort of a spirit that will cut down the enemy's lies that are being planted in your heart that God doesn't love you.

And sis, that's the heart that God's Holy Spirit can work through. That heart displays the fruits of the Spirit that is so beautiful and attractive. That's the heart that is open to the opportunities that God longs to send you, that will get you married. I promise you, having an unbelieving, angry heart cuts off God's power in your life.

Michelle Joiner (06:28.025)
and it's not very attractive. The other thing I wanna say is that we need to obey Jesus when he said to pray, your kingdom come and your will be done. Another thing that we're called to is to set our hearts and our minds on things above, not on earthly things. And we're called to remember that the world and its desires are passing away.

And when first John says that, it just means that we're not to be in love with the things of this world. And we need to remember that knowing Jesus is the greatest gift. And it's not wrong to want the beautiful gifts and blessings here in this world. We just need to remember that scripture tells us to hold lightly to these things. And that posture, that posture of

Holding lightly to the things of this world having your mind set on things above Well at that heart posture will help you a lot. It will help you release the the The preoccupation and the the The true discomfort that you have in wanting something so badly that you haven't received yet and Here, let me give you one final thought

God's ways are not our ways. And I know this. I know this. I didn't get married till I was 37. I didn't have a boyfriend till I was 35 and that boyfriend was Caleb. So I was single as heck, completely alone for 35 years. And I'll tell you what I did all those lonely, sad years. I read tons of scripture.

I listened to tons of worship music. I cried. I went for long walks. I got a dog. And there was a song I played on the piano and sang a lot. And it came from this passage known as the Roman Saxology. I'm gonna read it to you. the depths of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God.

Michelle Joiner (08:49.548)
How unsearchable his judgments and his paths beyond tracing out. Who has known the mind of the Lord or who has been his counselor? Who has ever given to God that God should repay him? For from him and through him and for him are all things. To him be the glory forever. Amen.

Reminds of Jobe, right?

Sis, we don't know what God has planned for our future, but as believers, we must submit to God's wisdom for our lives. This is the calling of being God's child. He is our sovereign Lord. He is our master. And in obedience to Him as our creator, we must accept His will and give Him glory for all things.

We have to be able to say this. Listen to this. When peace like a river attendeth my way, when sorrows like sea billows roll, whatever my lot thou has taught me to say, it is well, it is well with my soul.

Michelle Joiner (10:14.59)
I'm sure if you're listening to this podcast, this isn't the only test God has put you through. And after you get married, there will be other tests. I want you to go back to these words.

Trust that all things are working out for the good of those that love God and are called according to his purpose says that in Romans 8 and Trust that God's will is being done for your best one day in heaven or on this side of heaven you'll see why one day you'll understand and I know for me and Caleb we both say it was so hard waiting

But if waiting 35 years meant I got Caleb, then I'm glad I waited. And he says the same about being glad he waited because it meant he got to get me. And our babies, we have babies that, well, they're essentially babies three years old, one years old, twin boys and baby girl. We wouldn't have had them without submitting to God's timing and will.

And there's going to be things just like that for you that you'll look back on when you're married and say God's will was for my good, even though it was hard. There's a beautiful tension that can absolutely exist in our hearts as believers. The tension is between the desires we have and then the submission we have to the Lord's will being done. There's a tension there.

And we can hold them both, the desires of our hearts and the submission to God's will. And is that going to make everything easier? Not, not, not really, not exactly. This is a hard life. You chose to follow the Lord. But listen, if you're going to follow the Lord, follow him. Cast all your cares on him. He cares for you. Don't call him a liar when he says he loves you. Delight yourself in him.

Michelle Joiner (12:27.963)
This is how we know what love is. Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. Now, I told you, I wouldn't just be a just be content voice. I hated that when people said that to me when I was single. I told you I wanted to encourage you and I hope I did. Maybe I said things slightly differently from what you've heard before or maybe you just needed these reminders.

Very practically, here's a suggestion for a line in your heart. I'm gonna break it down, like super specific here. I used to be an engineer, so I'm gonna give you the numbers. Read two or three chapters and work your way through Psalms, Proverbs, and Ecclesiastes. You can do this over and over. These are the wisdom books of the Old Testament. And then on the same day, also read two or three chapters

working your way through the New Testament. And I recommend just trust me, just read one gospel and then skip to the epistles, skip to Romans and finish reading the New Testament. Then when you're done with that, reading through the New Testament that way, go back to the next gospel, just read that one gospel, then skip back to the epistles again, starting with Romans and read the New Testament that way.

Consuming this amount of scripture Repeatedly you're gonna be consuming about four to six chapters of scripture every day this This is what will encourage our hearts and help you Conduct yourself in God's church and I promise you when your heart is aligned with belief in God's love and acceptance of his will

you're able to access his wisdom and guidance. You're able to access his help in finding a spouse. Like this blows my mind that the Lord is guiding you to your spouse, helping you get to your spouse. And I believe that he's using me to help guide you. And

Michelle Joiner (14:50.552)
Because of that, I am so excited to share an opportunity with you. Listen, we're entering an unprecedented time in history. I don't know exactly what's around the corner, but one thing is certain, strong Christ-centered relationships are needed now more than ever because nothing displays God's grace to a world that needs hope and salvation more powerfully.

I know the women who are listening to this. know you. You are daughters of God, full of potential, ready for something real. And now more than ever, your approach to dating matters. We need godly marriages and it starts with godly dating. And if you're tired of confusion and frustrated in dating,

and you're ready to find and attract the right man without compromising your values, I promise you there are incredible, godly men praying for a woman just like you. But you need to know how to meet them, connect with them, and build something real. I'm hosting a free live masterclass. It's called Swipe Match Mary.

I'm hosting it on Sunday, March 23rd, 2025. It's going to show you exactly how to date effectively, create amazing chemistry, and position your heart to receive the man God has for you. And yes, where to find that man. I'm known as the queen of online dating, and I'm going to share powerful tactics to transform your results on the apps. But listen, even if online dating isn't your thing,

This master class will give you the tools to connect and fall in love with a handsome, godly man that God created just for you. Now, this is a real live event. It's not a pre-recorded video. And that shows you how urgent this opportunity is. So if you're serious about stepping into a new season of dating, one that leads to real connection, lasting love, and the relationship you've been praying for, then I don't want you to wait.

Michelle Joiner (17:10.967)
This is your time, register now. The link is in the show notes or you can go to www.thecristiandatingcoach.com slash masterclass. If you're listening to this podcast episode after Sunday, March 23rd, 2025, and you're feeling like you missed out, I want you to go to the link anyways.

There's gonna be instructions for you that will help you either attend a future event like this or how you can get the replay.

Michelle Joiner (17:49.408)
I'm gonna end with my favorite, favorite, favorite prayer.

Michelle Joiner (18:01.182)
My favorite prayer comes from a song that my aunt sent to me when I was single.

She had a son that had autism. Her life was pretty hard. Actually, very hard. Her husband of many, many years left her and it was a hard time. And she knew I was going through a hard time too because of my singleness. And she sent me this beautiful song, Knowing You, Jesus.

Knowing you there is no greater thing. You're the all You're the best. You're my joy and righteousness and I love you Lord So let that let that ring in your heart tonight Let's get you married sis