Podcast 76: Single. Christian. And Confident.

🎁 SPECIAL EPISODE: The Confidence Call You Didn’t Know You Needed

This week, I’m gifting you something special—straight from my heart.

You’ll be listening in on a live coaching call I hosted called “Single, Christian, and Confident.” It’s unfiltered, faith-filled, and packed with truth bombs that will shift how you see yourself today.

💙 Inside, I walk you through the five pillars of confidence every single woman needs to walk boldly into love—including the biblical truth that will set you free from comparison for good.

My voice might’ve had a frog in it—but the Holy Spirit came through loud and clear.

So if you’ve been feeling stuck, discouraged, or wondering if you’re enough—this episode is your reminder and your reset.

Come listen. It’s my gift to you.

—Michelle 💙
 Your Christian Dating Coach

Transcript

Michelle Joiner (00:03)
Hello, everyone. How are you? Welcome to this call. This call is my free gift to you. I literally think anybody who's watching me talk, anybody who comes to my calls, listens to my lives, is watching the replay, I literally think to myself, I'm your coach. So I am the Christian dating coach. I want you to know, even if you're not interested in dating,

I'm your coach. And for the next 45 minutes, I'm going to drop some truth bombs that are going to make a difference in your life. And I'm so excited to know that you're watching this. Now I do have to apologize. I have a frog in my throat. It's not COVID. It's not, I don't need to feel sick. I just can't talk the way I want to talk. And it's so frustrating. I'm so glad I'm not a pastor.

because no way I could get up on Sunday morning every Sunday. Oh, thank you. Glad I'm a woman. Glad I wasn't called to that. I'm called to coach. And I was committed to making this call today. So what is this call? This call is single, Christian, and confident. The one thing that almost every woman who comes to me says is, how can I have more confidence?

And I'm like, you came to the right place. I am the confidence queen.

I know how to create confidence. And what I want you to walk away today is like fire. It's summertime. I'm going to heat you up. I'm going to bring you some fire because I want to help you walk away from the call. This call, whoever is watching this, this call, feeling more confident. I'm going to drop some truth bombs so that happens, so that you have that experience, so that

Just from this one little call, you can walk into any room with that it factor of confidence, knowing that you are worth a million dollars. I like to say that to my clients. If you had a million dollars and you walked into a room, how would you feel? That's how I want you to feel after this call. Okay. So let me kind of like lay a little bit ground rules.

You can ask any question during this call. You can ask any question at the end of the call. There is an option to ask for live coaching. So if you're on the call and you're like, look, I need a dating coach and I need it now. And I want to talk to Michelle. Can just jump on the call and we can actually have a conversation. But what I want you to know that if you have questions, if you came to the call and you knew that you had a question in your mind,

Make sure that you get it asked. Just drop questions below. If you're watching me on Facebook, you could actually drop a question and I will see your question. So just like keep in mind that I'm here for you today. So we're throwing it all and I'm so sorry. Like, uh, I was like, should I give this call today? Yup. Cause today is the day to drop some truth bombs. Okay. So first let me like back out. Let me back up. Tell you who I am.

Why am the Christian dating coach? My name is Michelle Joyner. I'm the Christian dating coach because I saw I need. I was single myself for what felt like for ever. Forever girls. I was single until I was about 35. I had my first date when I was, I think 30 years old. And I met Caleb, my now husband when I was 35. And

don't know about you, but to me that seems like forever. All my 20s I was alone, all college I was alone, post college into my career I was alone. I was working as an engineer in Michigan and I was just kind of twiddling my thumbs waiting for my life to start. I had busted my butt in engineering school. I was working as an engineer and busting my butt as an engineer. But I wanted a husband. I wanted a family.

And God finally stopped it. And that's happened because I met Caleb on a dating app. I had gotten a dating coach myself. I was working with dating coaches. I had been for a few years. And then when I met Caleb, it was like, boom, like I fell in love instantly. He fell in love instantly. He was living in Oregon at the time. We met on OkCupid and eventually I moved to Oregon. We got married.

We had two twin baby boys and now like our life, we would say we wouldn't trade it for anything. And I decided to become a dating coach myself because I saw a need. I saw my Christian sister slaying it in the fields. They were working so hard and they had such deep longing, such a deep desire for more. And I thought to myself, if I had daughters, what would I want to teach them more than anything else? And it's this.

I'd want to teach them that if you want to find love, there's a way to do that. And this is how you can do it. So that's why I became the Christian dating coach. And as I said, the one thing that trips up so many women is a lack of competence, a lack of believing in their self-worth. So that's why I'm here today to bring you this talk, this conversation about how you can create more competence.

Okay, let's go. All right, first point I wanna make today, confidence is a feeling you create with your thoughts. Now I want you to really just like let that sink in. Confidence is a feeling.

You create with your thoughts. I want you to think about your heart. Like if you're a feeler, you might know what I'm dropping down. But if you're not a feeler, maybe you're a thinker and you're like, huh, what's that mean? I'm about to explain it. See, when you think of the definition of confidence, where do you go? Obviously you go to Google, right? Anything you need, you go to Google.

So let's go to Google, what is confidence? Google says that confidence is a feeling of self assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities. And I wanted to start, I'm gonna break down this definition throughout this whole talk, but I just wanna start by saying confidence is a feeling. It's a feeling ladies.

Now, what I've learned over the years as a life coach is that feelings come from your thoughts. People have cognitions, sentences that run in their brains and thoughts and phrases and sayings and cliches and all these little things that kind of run in your brains and you know what the cliches are. You know, like,

Like just do it. Like that's a big cliche. Like, you know, Mikey makes a lot of money on it. Just do it. What does that even mean? I want you to kind of like think what have the sentences been inside your head? And what I find is the women that I talk to, a lot of them, there's a lot of negative self-talk and it's a lot of disappointment and sometimes shame and embarrassment. And it's just because they're single. And I'm like, no, no.

So I want you to remember that confidence is determined by what you're telling yourself every day. It's a feeling in your heart that starts in your head. I want to give you an example. Okay. So say somebody yells at you. They raise your voice, their voice. They raise their voice at you and they may even be saying things with swear words. So I'm going to see like a really intense

yelling at you.

How do you feel?

Someone's yelling at you. How do you feel?

I know you're thinking, I feel angry. Well, what's the next person? I feel hurt. What's the next person? I feel compassion. That's what I'm talking about, okay? How is it that in the same circumstance, all these different people are feeling different things? One person's feeling anger, one person's feeling hurt, one person's feeling compassion. It's because of what they're choosing to tell themselves in the moment.

the thoughts that are running in your head. So I want you to realize that confidence is one of those types of things. It's a feeling in your heart that is controlled by the thoughts in your head. Now what I want you to remember today, that thoughts generally are choices. It's your decision to think the way that you think. It's your birthright as a human being and as adult.

It's your birthright to be able to think what you want to think. So I think it's very important for you to remember that your thoughts are your responsibility and you want to take a look at your thoughts and take ownership of what's going on in your mind and how you're talking to yourself. Now, I also want you to think about a verse. one of my favorite verses. It's in the book of Seth Corinthians.

And it's where Paul is defending his ministry. Paul was a preacher of the gospel and he was defending his right and his authority to preach. And he said, we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. And I want you to think about that. We take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.

And once you think about the thoughts that go on in your mind, whether or not they're full of self doubt and negativity or whether or not they're uplifting and beautiful and thankful and grateful and happy and confident, your thoughts or your choices. And we create confidence by our thoughts. It's a feeling and we create thoughts. We we create feelings by our thoughts.

Okay, that's my first point. Confidence is a feeling that you create with your thoughts. The next point I want to make to you is that confidence does not require perfection. That's really important, you know? I mean, I want you to think about Hugh Jackman, okay? I'm not sick. Okay, all right, I think he's handsome. Okay, I mean, most people in the world would agree. Okay, yeah, Hugh Jackman.

He's kind of got it going on. All right. He's a famous actor. He can sing. He can dance. Blah, blah, blah. He's a superhero. He's Wolverine. Come on Hugh Jackman. And you would think, ⁓ man, like Hugh Jackman, you he's got a smoking hot wife. You know, she's this, you know, she's that. want you right after the, after my talk, I want you to go on Google and Google Hugh Jackman's wife. And you'll see she's just an ordinary woman. looks

She's a little overweight. She's not too tall. She doesn't look like a supermodel. She just looks like an ordinary woman, but yet. But yet. We as women feel like we have to look like a supermodel. Okay? We have to be the prettiest girl in the whole room. Like, I mean, like sometimes we literally feel like we have to be the prettiest girl in the whole world. And we put this pressure on ourselves.

And you know, I look back on my wedding day and ladies look at me. I've got like a little chunk right here. I've got a little chunk right here. I'm a chunky girl. Okay. And on my wedding day, I was the heaviest I've ever been in my life. I've never weighed more than I did on my wedding day. But I want to tell you the thoughts that were in my mind on my wedding day was

I'm marrying the man of my dreams. This is my dream come true. This is what I've always wanted and I'm finally here. I'm here on my wedding day. So how did I feel? I felt like a million dollars. I felt confident because of the thoughts that I was telling myself and I wasn't requiring myself to be perfect. Okay. And that's kind of what I want to share with you about this whole issue of perfection.

Now the women that I coach, my clients are the total package. Okay. They're the total package. They are killing it with their health. They are killing it with their careers. They have master's degrees. They're doctors. They live in New York city. They live in LA. They live in Paris. They live in London. They like, I'm just like, wow. Every time I coach a woman, she's like this kick.

take it to the curb attorney slaying it. And I'm just like, I've never met a woman who's more amazing than you. I am in awe of my clients. So they're always striving and that's a good thing. That's a beautiful thing. So always be wanting to getting better. I mean, that's what happens when you're a woman of high value. You're always going to be getting better. So, but what you really need to realize is that nobody's perfect.

And you, nobody even wants perfect. Like, can you imagine how annoying it would be to be married to be a perfect man? It would be annoying. It wouldn't be fun. Okay. So nobody wants to marry a perfect woman. And it's like a fool's race. It's a fool's race to chase after perfection. I think it's a beautiful thing to strive to want to be more loving, more kind, more gentle, more obedient to Christ. Yes. You know,

We're constantly improving ourselves and working to serve the Lord more and more. You know, don't consider yourself to attained, but press on towards the mark of the higher calling. Yes, I agree. But I just want you to realize that nobody's perfect and you don't have to be perfect. Okay. What we need to do is learn to love ourselves like as we are today, as though nothing has changed.

Is that possible? I want you to think about the, I want you to think about the fact that use the word, what if, what if I'm good enough, just the way I am. What if I'm pretty enough, just the way I am. What if I don't need to change my hair? What if I don't need to find the perfect makeup?

What if I don't need to have the perfect job? What if I don't need to get out of debt? What if I don't need to make sure all my dishes are washed? What if I don't need to make sure, I don't know, what's another thing? ⁓ like I just get one more degree. Like I just need to do this one more degree. What if like, what if you're enough? Okay.

Like what if you've done enough? What if you've like accomplished enough? What if you could just accept yourself the way you are? I want you to think about the show, The Bachelor. Okay? Okay. Like I know it's trash TV, but it's my vice. I love The Bachelor and I love The Bachelor at Franchise. I want you to think about the perfect women and the perfect men who come to that show.

They all get turned down. Okay. They all get turned down except for one person out of like hundreds and hundreds of people that apply. They all get turned down. Like, okay. All right. You're not alone. You're not the only one that gets rejected. You're not the only one that feels lonely sometimes. Okay. You're enough. I'm here to tell you that.

Your Christian dating coach is here to tell you, you're enough. So that's the second point I want to make. Confidence does not require perfection. And it really truly is a fool's race to try and be perfect. Okay. Let it go. You're good enough. Right. I want to move on to my third point that confidence has two aspects. Confidence because of your accomplishments and confidence as a child of God.

Okay. Remember I told you the definition that Google gave a feeling of self assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities. Okay.

feeling of self-assurance arising from one's appreciation of one's own abilities or qualities. And that's why my third point is that confidence really does have two aspects. There's a confidence that comes from your accomplishments and there's the confidence that comes because you're a child of God. Because for you, your quality, your main quality is that you're a child of God. That's the main thing about you.

Your main quality is that you're a child of God. I don't know what your main accomplishment is. Like I said, the women that I work with are killing it. They're kick, kick it to the curb attorneys. mean, like, I'm just like, Oh my goodness. I could never do that. They're doctors. They're saving people's lives. I'm like, I could never do that. You know?

And even me who was an engineer, like I graduated from Johns Hopkins. I got to MIT and Stanford and Caltech. You know, it's like I was doing everything I could to work as hard as I could and be as successful as I could. And I was successful. And even in my business, I'm successful now. you know, like, I want you to think about what your accomplishments are. Don't discount them.

Don't look at yourself and say, oh, I just need to accomplish one more thing and then I'll be good enough. I want you to think about the success that you've already had in your life. I think what happens is that women and men, but women

They look at this one area of their life where, well, but I'm not married yet. Or, well, I'm divorced. Or, well, but my husband's died, so I'm alone now. And it's like, so what? Like, what else has been going on in your life? What else is going right? I know there's a lot. I know there's a lot that's going right in your life because you talk to me and you tell me, ⁓ yeah.

Just solve that court case, send a murderer to prison. I'm like, can we just stop? Or, you know, like they tell me, yeah, my house is paid off. I don't have a mortgage. I'm like, can we just stop? Okay. You had a paid for house. You're weird. You're weird. Okay. That's my Dave Ramsey coming up. I'm looking at a weird person. You have a paid for house. You're going to enter your marriage with a paid for house.

You know what that's going to do for your kids and your husband? You know what kind of blessing you're going to be to someone? Let's just stop. Let's just stop and look at that success. Let's honor you. Let's give yourself some credits. Okay? You're not giving yourself credit because what? You don't have a date on Friday night? Let's give yourself some credit. And what happens when you start to look at the successes in your life? Here's what happens.

Not only does your confidence go up, but you start to see the patterns like, okay, I paid off my house. How did I do that? I'm talking about one client in particular. I'm so proud of her. paid off her house.

How'd you do that? No, how'd you do that? Let's look at it. Another client just talks about winning a court case. Like, ⁓ how'd you do that? Another client talks about, ⁓ you know the fact that she's traveled all over the world. ⁓ how'd you do that? All those areas are areas of success that you've already created. And you can take credit for it.

and learn from. Okay? So when you start looking at the areas of success in your life, you can start to see patterns and you can start to answer the question, how did I do that? And then you can apply that to other areas in your life. So looking at your accomplishments, you create confidence is a great idea. Now, when I asked my client, you paid off your house. How'd you do that? And what'd she say? Well,

I had a good friend that told me about this house that I could afford and I trusted him and he kind of gave me some advice on how to pay off the house and I just took his advice and I paid off the house. I was like ding, ding, ding, ding, Just a success pattern. You got support from someone else. Success pattern. Let's keep that in mind and apply it to other places.

You like getting support from other people and you're humble enough to accept advice. That's your success pattern. Build confidence on that and start to act more in that way. And then my client who just completed a court case, how'd you do that? well, you know, I just really knew the case. I studied hard. I looked at every piece of evidence. I went back to my law books and I really prepared.

ding, ding, ding, ding, pattern. You know how to create success. How'd you do that? Well, I prepared really hard. Okay. Give yourself confidence for that. Be proud of yourself for that. And also start to see where in your life can you be more prepared? Where in your life can you give more attention to and really just study until you become an expert? Cause that's your success pattern. And then my other client,

who talks about, I travel a lot. How'd you do that? Lots of people want to do that. You're successful at traveling lot. How'd you do that? Well, I just really like to have adventures and it's a part of my personality. I just know myself and I know that no matter what, I've got to be in an adventure. Like ding, ding, ding, ding, ding, That's your success pattern. You know yourself. You know how many people walking around the world trying to understand themselves?

You keep listening to you because you know yourself and that's your success pattern. So how can we apply that to other other places? You know, well, I know myself so I know what I want in a guy. All right. Now we're getting somewhere. See all those three examples how I talked about success patterns and how it grows your confidence and it can be applied to other places. You can learn from your success patterns. So allow yourself to have

confidence because of the things you've accomplished and also go back and analyze the way that you accomplished those things and see if you can apply it somewhere else in your life. Okay All right. Now I kind of want to move on and Not so much talk about leveraging your past successes But I want you to just think about who you are your qualities Who you are and like I said if you're a Christian

The quality that's the most distinct about you is that you're a child of God. The fact that you're a child of God is your most distinctive quality.

because it's so important. It separates you from everyone else in the world for all of eternity. The fact that you're a child of God is the most important thing about you. And I want you to just acknowledge who you are in Christ, okay?

I want you to think about who you are in Christ. If you don't know because you're a new Christian or you've been away from the Word for a little while, I'm to remind you who you are in Christ. All right. I'm about to remind you. You're a sinner. While you were a sinner, Christ died for you. Okay? As imperfect as you are.

as sinful as you were out of whatever God pulled you out of. You what you are now? His child. Okay? Just as much as the married women in church. Just as much as his child. He loves you just as much.

sent his son to die for you too. And he put the Holy Spirit inside of you too. Single, Christian, and confident. Okay? That's who you are. So let's look at that a little bit more. My fourth point is that confidence as a child of God, who we are in Christ and how he sees us is the most important thing we can do. Okay?

ourselves as a child of God. So let's talk about that. ⁓ One of the verses I want to share with you is a verse from John. He chose us, I'm sorry, a verse from John, yet to all who did receive Him, to those who believed in His name, He gave the rights to be called the children of God. And I keep talking about that because I want you to realize that in Scripture there's a very beautiful relationship that the Christian has to God.

And it's one of a child. You know, when I think about my own two precious little boys, they're my child. They will always be my child. I will always care for them. I'll do anything for them. And God has chosen to talk to us, ⁓ not as a dictator, but as a father. And there's a real tenderness and compassion and gentleness and affection there. Honestly.

There's no, mean, like even in our household, Caleb, the favorite dad's the favorite. Abba father daddy, you know, like that's how God wants us to see him. And that's how I want you to see yourself. There is some, a being that created as all powerful omniscient, omnipotent and all the rest of it that sees you as a child. So.

On those days when you're feeling particularly lonely and the singleness is hitting you particularly hard, you need to rest in who you are in Christ, that you are a child of the Almighty God and that He truly does have a plan for you and that He truly does have a purpose for even this time of your singleness. There's a purpose for it and there's a reason for it and it's to His glory.

for you to be single right now. Do you understand? So I want you to kind of like bask in some of that. The other verse I want to share with you is one of my favorites, and it's from Ephesians, Ephesians 1. For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love, he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ.

in accordance with His pleasure and will. Okay? So when you hear that, that you were chosen before the creation of the world, I want you to remember just how special and unique the love is that God has for you. Because you know, when we meet guys,

we meet guys, you know, we want to feel chosen by Him. We want to feel like out of this whole world, this guy chose me. And it's true. But when men choose us, it's for a finite time. God chose you before time. Because He chose you before the creation of the world, okay? To be holy and blameless in His sight. You're a sinner. I'm sorry, but you're not holy and blameless.

But God sees you that way. God sees you as holy and blameless and he chose you before the creation of the world. You've got to find your significance in this. you honestly, you have the privilege to find significance in this that you were chosen before the creation of the world.

Honestly, if you can't find your significance in that, you're not going to find your significance in anything. Because all the accomplishments that I talked about, it won't be enough. Accomplishments are not enough to give you confidence. You have to believe who you are in Christ. Does that, does that, you got me? You got what I'm dropping down? Okay. Because I do have one more verse, but you actually got a couple more verses for you, but I want you to listen to this one. I thank my God.

Every time I remember you. This is what the apostle Paul wrote to the Philistines. I thank my God every time I remember you. And all my prayers for all of you. I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now. Being confident of this. That he began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ's use.

Yeah.

I know you've heard that one. He began a good work in you and like just rest that. Just rest. Just take pleasure. Just take joy, take comfort, take peace from that. He began a good work in you and he's going to bring it to completion. Okay? Yeah. Okay. So all the striving, all that trying to do better, all the giving, giving, giving.

serving, serving, working out in the gym, going to work, trying to put food on the table, sending money back home to your parents, know, like taking care of your nieces and nephews, all the striving. Listen, God began a good work in you and he's gonna bring it to completion. And his plans and his purposes and his purpose for your life will stand no matter what, honestly.

whether you get married or not, God is going to complete the good work that he's started in you. Okay? And I know you want to get married and it's coming. Okay? It's coming. I actually looked up the U.S. Census Bureau and 91 % of adults get married. honestly, like, I know you're going to get married someday and I may help you get, because I'm a Christian dating coach, so I may help you with that. But the point is that

your marriage and your relationship status isn't as important as the good work that God is doing in your life that he will bring to completion. Yeah. You get what I'm dropping down? Okay. All right. So my last point, okay, my last point, I'm going to go over all the points at the end of my talk. So just let me finish with my last point.

Confidence is a muscle, not a light switch. I got this. It's a quote from one of my favorite dating coaches.

Okay, what does this mean? Confidence is a muscle, it's not a light switch. I think you can probably understand from the analogy, giving an analogy here.

When you walk into a room and you flip on the light, it's flooded in lights. my gosh. You can't sleep because the lights on and it's like all you did was flip switch. Well, here's what I'm here to tell you. Confidence doesn't work that way. Sorry. You know, I did want to pump you up and jazz you up in this talk, in this call right here.

I know I did because I know I dropped some tooth bumps. But if you truly want to be a confident person, you're going to have to go to the gym and work out every day. You're to have to go to the gym with your mind and work out every day. You're going to have to be spending time in the Word, praying, reading scripture, abiding in God. You're going to have to remember that practice makes perfect. Okay. And if

If it's been a while, you've been talking to yourself bad for a while. It take a little bit of time to reverse that. That's one of the reasons why I got a dating coach because I was so down on myself. I couldn't pull myself out. So I got a dating coach because, and what did she teach me? The main thing that she taught me was that I was a high value woman. And it's like, would think like with all my accomplishments, I would have already known that, but I didn't. All I was looking at were all my

my feelings, all my insecurities, that's all I could see. What I want you to see today is that practice makes perfect. It takes time to grow confidence. And we need to be telling ourselves these things repeatedly. But once you have confidence, I am telling you, you are unstoppable because we all instruct people how to treat us.

by the way that we think about ourselves.

If you want people to treat you better.

If you want people to treat you better, ask yourself, how have I been thinking about myself? How I've been treating myself? Have I been talking lovingly to myself? Because if people are not talking lovingly to you, you need to ask yourself, what am I doing to create that? Okay? Because when you wake up and you realize, I'm amazing, I'm worth a ton. I know my value.

Once you wake up and you do that, that's when things really start to happen for you. And, ⁓ I've got one more, I've got two more verses for you. And I really want to share these because of all that they did for me. They're two prayers. Why the apostle Paul, the first one is to Philippians. This is my prayer. That your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight.

so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ. I want you to hear those nuggets. Love abounding more and more in knowledge and depth of insight again with the mind so that you may discern what is best again with choices. Okay? If you want confidence, we need to think thoughts that are responsible

and deliberate and literally choose thoughts that will allow you to feel confident. Yeah. Okay. No matter what the relationship status. Okay. No matter what that guy did to you on Friday night, no matter what that guy did to you in college all those years ago, you need to choose the thoughts and choose that knowledge and depth of insight and discern what is best in your mind. Yeah. Okay.

And the last verse I want to share with you is another prayer, as I said, but this time to the Ephesians. I pray that out of his glorious riches, he may strengthen you with power through your spirit, through his spirit in your inner being.

I'm gonna say that again. I pray that out of His glorious riches, He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being. Mike drop, got nothing else to say. We all want that. We wanna be strengthened by His Spirit in our inner being. That is confidence.

Okay, now I saw there was a question. Let me just take a look.

What do you recommend for a woman who's older and feels like her options are less? Her options aren't less.

That's crazy. Listen to my talk again. Your options aren't less. mean like, you mentioned that you're 40.

Come on, you got so much of your life left to live. Go back and listen to my talk again. The one you need to realize is who you are in Christ. And I want you to think about like Jesus, but Jesus care if you're 40. Does God care if you're 40 is, is 40 like some kind of magic age where God stops working, where God's just, God's just not powerful enough because you're 40. That's crazy.

Your journey is just starting. You've got so much life left with God's got so much planned for you. Okay. There's a lot left for you. And in the area of love, I just want you to know that most people are postponing love because of career and finances and just the reality of modern life. So you're going to actually find that there's a lot of men in that age group. Okay. Once you start looking, once you really.

hone in and figure things out and really realize who you are in Christ and grow your confidence. The most important thing I would tell you is to your confidence and stop seeing your age as what's holding you back. And that's something I didn't talk about, you know, that like sometimes women feel like because they're a certain age, like I coach women in their fifties, they're still looking for love and they're finding it. Okay. So don't, don't feel bad. Yeah.

All right, ladies. Well, thank you so much for joining me today. I am so glad I was able to bring you this talk. Thank you for bearing with my voice being crappy. ⁓ If you have any questions, of course you can send me questions.

Okay, ladies. I love you so much and I can't wait to talk to you. All right, talk to you later.