Ep. 83: Kingdom Bride Series: Ruth — Why You Haven’t Met Your Boaz Yet

Ruth didn’t stumble into her love story—she was guided, positioned, and bold enough to move when others stayed behind. In this episode, discover the hidden reason many women never meet their Boaz, and how mentorship and decisive action can shift everything in your love life.

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Transcript

Michelle Joiner (00:00)
Her husband died. Her future looked so bleak. Everyone expected her to go home, settle, play it safe, but she didn't. She moved and her story changed the world. Hey, hey sis, welcome to the Kingdom Bride series. This is a collection of stories about the bold,

feminine strategic women in Scripture whose decisions shaped history and changed their lives forever. These aren't fairy tales. They're blueprints. They're invitations. They're reminders that God sees women, chooses women, and works through women, especially when they move in faith. And today, we begin with Ruth.

Before we talk about what she did, let's pause and remember who Ruth was. Ruth's story is found in the Book of Ruth, just four chapters long, tucked in the Old Testament between Judges and 1 Samuel. But its impact is timeless. Ruth was a Moabite, a woman from a nation historically at odds with Israel.

She did not grow up with Hebrew scripture or Jewish tradition. She was literally an outsider. And after marrying into an Israelite family,

She tragically became a widow, far, far from home with no children, no inheritance, and no clear future. Naomi, her mother-in-law, told her to return to her people to cut ties and start over. But Ruth refused.

And instead, she delivered one of the boldest, most prophetic lines in the Bible. Where you go, I will go. Your people will be my people. Your God will be my God. Ruth 1.16. That one sentence changed the trajectory of her entire life and incidentally, the lives of the rest of the world.

She left behind the familiar and stepped into the unknown with nothing but faith in a woman who had also lost everything. Ruth could have chosen bitterness. She could have chosen ease. She could have stayed where it was more comfortable. But instead, she moved. She took her grief and turned it into grit.

She chose loyalty, she chose faith, she followed Naomi back to Bethlehem. And when they got there, she didn't sit around hoping someone would come rescue them. She said, let me go into the fields. She got up, she worked, she positioned herself. And more than that, she positioned herself under Naomi's guidance.

I want to pause here because this decision Ruth made to go into the fields, it wasn't glamorous, it wasn't even safe, and it certainly wasn't what most women dreamt of doing when they grew up. In that culture, gleaning in the fields meant you were poor, destitute, vulnerable. It was legal.

for the poor to gather what was left behind after the harvest. But it was not dignified. It wasn't comfortable. It was risky. She could have been harassed. She could have been assaulted. She could have been humiliated. And still, her first thought was to go. She wasn't too proud to be seen in poverty. And she wasn't too proud

to be seen in need. For some of you listening, that's exactly what extended singleness has felt like. You're not financially poor, but emotionally. You're running on fumes. You feel depleted, forgotten, sometimes even passed over. You've done the strong woman thing.

built the resume, you've served at church, you've supported everyone else's wedding and baby shower and housewarming party. And still you feel sometimes empty handed. And maybe like Ruth, you feel like you're picking up scraps, like you're out in the field emotionally, spiritually, relationally.

Hoping something good is left behind for you. If you're there today, I want you to know I've been there. I know that feeling. And I want to say gently and prophetically, God sees you there. The field you're in is not a punishment. It's a setup. The field is where Ruth was seen. It's where favor

It's where her future started to shift. And yours will too. Ruth didn't just go alone. She trusted Naomi's wisdom to lead her into the very field where her favor could find her. Boaz noticed Ruth because she carried herself with grace, even in a desperate place, even in the field.

and he responded with favor, not because she was impressive, but because she was faithful. Don't miss this next part. Boaz was not just any man. He was wealthy. He was respected. He was a land owner, a man of means, maturity, influence. Ruth2one says, now Naomi had a relative on her husband's side.

a man of standing from the clan of a milleweck whose name was Boaz. That phrase, a man of standing, literally means a mighty man of wealth. Boaz had resources. He had land. He had employees. He had authority in the community. He was the kind of man women notice, the kind of man women respect.

And he noticed Ruth, not for her beauty, not for her youth, He saw her faith, her story, her quiet loyalty and her strength. And if you ever talked yourself down, if you've ever said men like that don't choose women like me.

because of your age, because of your weight, because of your race, because of your story, hear me, the man of standing chose the woman of faith. God didn't match Ruth with someone average. He matched her with someone abundant. So don't you dare disqualify yourself from the very thing God is trying to give you. Our God isn't just faithful.

He's extravagant when he writes love stories. And notice also too that Ruth's favor came through her willingness to follow Naomi's direction. That guidance positioned her in front of Boaz

and Boaz couldn't look away.

was hot, the kind of heat that bakes your skin and clings it to your clothes. The harvesters were busy men sweating, shouting, stacking grain under the weight of the middle eastern sun. And in the middle of all that noise was Ruth, dust on her sandals, sweat on her brow, edging quietly along the outskirts of the field.

gathering what was left behind. She didn't belong 21, she didn't own anything. She was poor, foreign, unknown. And yet, Boaz saw her. Scripture tells us, Boaz arrived that day from Bethlehem and said to his harvesters, the Lord be with you. And as he looked over the field, he asked one simple question.

Whose young woman is this? It wasn't a line. It wasn't casual interest. It was genuine attention. He noticed her because she stood out, not in flashy clothes or flirtatious glances, but in her quiet dignity, her work ethic, her kindness to Naomi, her courage to show up despite everything.

Boaz's foreman replied, she is the young Moabite woman who returned with Naomi from Moab. And just like that, Ru's reputation preceded her. Not her beauty, not her body, not her background, her character. Boaz walked over and spoke directly to her, stay in my field. I've told the men not to lay a hand on you. I went.

you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the jars the men have filled." Protection, provision, preference, and Ruth overwhelmed, fell on her face and said, why have I found favor in your eyes that you should take notice of me a foreigner? And listen to what Boaz said, I've been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law.

how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with the people you did not know before. May the Lord repay you for what you have done. He doesn't say you're the most beautiful woman I've ever seen. He says, I see you. I know your story and I honor your sacrifice. That's what godly pursuit looks like. Godly's pursuit that was inspired by Ruth.

Boaz noticed her because she carried herself with grace, even in a desperate place. And he responded with favor, not because she was impressive, but because she was faithful.

And she arrived home with so much abundant sustenance that Nomi had to inquire what happened that day in the field. And when Naomi saw what God was doing, she gave Ruth very clear instructions. Wash, put on your best clothes, go down to the threshing floor, but don't let him know you're there.

until he has finished eating and drinking, then go and uncover his feet and lie down. He will tell you what to do. Now, let's pause right here because this moment, it wasn't what we think of as romantic. It also wasn't sexual or seductive. Lying in a man's feet in that culture was a symbolic act of submission and petition.

It was a way of saying, have the power to redeem me. I am asking you to cover me. In ancient Israel, the phrase spread your garment over me was a request for marriage, not a casual flirtation. It meant take me under your wing, redeem me, choose me. So when Ruth uncovered Boaz's feet and lay down, she wasn't being passive.

Michelle Joiner (13:09)
Naomi guided her to do this very specific act.

Ruth was directed to make a

Michelle Joiner (13:16)
courageous covenant level ask. It was bold, was strategic, it was vulnerable. And Boaz did not shame her for it. He blessed her. He said, the Lord bless you, my daughter. You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. And now don't be afraid. I will do all you ask.

He recognized the honor and humility in her act. He saw her intention not to manipulate him, but to align herself with God's redemptive plan. And he responded with covering, with protection, with pursuit. This man will not rest until the matter is settled, is what Naomi later said.

Ruth made her desire known and Boaz met her with action. And here's what's so often missed. Throughout this entire story, Ruth inspired a high caliber man to pursue and to commit. she didn't chase him. She didn't pressure him. She communicated in a language a man understands, honor.

clarity, respect, security, and she didn't do it alone. She listened to Naomi, a mentor, a guide, and her obedience opened the door to a divine outcome. Boaz was moved. His words weren't cold or transactional. They were tender and urgent and deeply stirred. Ruth had reached his heart.

and he was now hers.

Ruth's courage wasn't random. It was mentored. She listened, she obeyed, she trusted Naomi's wisdom. And because she did, she unlocked Boaz's pursuit and commitment. That's the power of guided strategy and love.

That moment could have gone very differently. Ruth could have said, this is too much. She could have let her fear win. She could have said, what if he doesn't return request? But she didn't. She took action. She followed guidance. She let herself be led. And Ruth, this widowed, foreign, grieving woman,

became the wife of Boaz, the great grandmother of King David, and part of the lineage of Jesus Christ. All because she followed wise guidance. All because she let herself be led into a better story.

If you've had hard times, take your power back. If you're worried you're getting older, take your power back. If you long for love, family, marriage, legacy, take your power back. Ruth didn't sit in her feelings and call it faith. She acted. She responded. She moved with wisdom.

And one of the very thing you've been praying for is already in motion waiting for you to move to. Ruth didn't just pray and wait. She prayed and she moved and she took action and she listened to guidance. And you know, sometimes I feel like Naomi. Ruth didn't find Boaz by accident. She followed

Naomi, and sometimes that's exactly what you need. A mentor who knows the path, who has walked it before and who can guide you into the field where your future is waiting. I've coached so many women through this exact story arc from no dates, no hope, to confidence, connection, and a love that honors God.

Just this week, one of my clients was talking about her new boyfriend and she said, he treats me so well and I just love him. And we laughed together in awe of how God works, how she came into the coaching program saying she had never been in a relationship before and now she feels so deeply loved. I've seen it over and over and it starts.

the moment a woman stops doing this alone.

If you've been trying to figure this out with free content, YouTube videos, prayer, guesswork, but you're still in the same place, it's time for something different.

Michelle Joiner (18:25)
Ruth didn't meet Boaz by accident. She was led. She had Naomi showing her the steps. And sis, that is why so many women haven't met their Boaz yet. They're trying to figure this out all alone. But Ruth didn't stay in Moab. She didn't sit in the field forever hoping something would change.

She moved. She listened.

She followed Naomi's specific guidance to lay herself at Boaz's feet. And that opened the door to her love story. And that's what I do as a coach. I'm here to be your Naomi. I'll walk you step by step with a proven strategy that bridges the gap between where you are now and where you want to be married to a godly

high caliber men like Boaz.

Inside my Kingdom Bride Unlocked one-on-one coaching program, you'll build confidence, connection, communication, and chemistry. The four pillars that draw in a godly man and inspire pursuit all the way to marriage. This isn't theory, it's strategy. It's the bridge from single on one side to married

on the other. And remember, the reason you haven't met your Boaz yet isn't because God has forgotten you. It's because you don't have a Naomi guiding you. That's the piece that changes everything. Now, spots inside Kingdom Bride Unlocked are very limited, and every month you delay is another harvest you spend in the field alone.

Don't let another harvest pass you by. Be like Ruth. Move. Apply today using the link in the show notes. Let's get you married, sis.