The Christian Dating Coach
Most single Christian women feel quietly trapped between two unsatisfying extremes.
On one side, silence —
Pray. Wait. Don’t want it too much.
On the other, overexposure —
crude, transactional,
disconnected from God.
This podcast exists because there is a third way —
one that is intelligent, reverent, and real.
And one that actually leads to marriage.
We don’t offer scripts.
We tell the truth.
About singleness and marriage.
About covenant sex and holiness.
About what draws men and women together — spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
We also pull back the curtain on the systems shaping modern dating.
This is for women who are no longer interested in vague advice —
and are ready for wisdom, direction, and marriage.
Michelle Joiner is a Christian dating coach who works privately with women to move from singleness into marriage through high-level positioning and discernment.
If you’re ready to be seen clearly — and marry well —
you’re in the right place.
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The Christian Dating Coach
Ep. 113: There Are Men Who Don’t Look at Other Women
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What if the kind of man you want actually exists?
In this episode, Michelle speaks to the woman who has quietly lowered her expectations because faithfulness, clarity, tenderness, and godly pursuit started to feel unrealistic.
But there are men who do not like other women’s pictures.
There are men who do not look at other women.
There are men who pray, read the Bible, and are waiting for marriage.
And maybe the issue is not that he does not exist.
Maybe the issue is recognition.
Michelle Joiner is a Christian dating strategist for discerning Christian women.
She helps successful single women become unmistakable to the kind of godly, high-caliber man who is ready to choose a wife.
Her clients do not just get dates or attention. They become chosen, cherished, and married well.
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[00:00:00] Whether the kind of man you want enters your story comes down to just one thing: whether he recognizes you as his when he finds you. I am Michelle Joiner, the Christian dating coach. This is a podcast for single Christian women ready to marry well. It's time
There are men who do not like other women's Instagram pictures. There are men who do not look at other women. There are men who take a day off because their wife is exhausted and needs help. There are men who say, "I love you, and will you be my girlfriend?" quickly, clearly, and without games. There are men who go on to say, "Will you marry me?"
There are men who pray, who read the Bible, who are waiting until [00:01:00] marriage. I've met them. I married one of them. And this week, I celebrated with three clients who are now brides to men like this. Their husbands are romantic and faithful and godly men who will bless them for the rest of their lives. Sis, I wanna ask you to do one thing today Dream again.
Believe again. Want again. Because what you want is out there. God is powerful enough for that. Powerful enough to raise up faithful men who follow him and obey him and desire covenant marriage. And men like this have already met you. You have crossed paths with them [00:02:00] on the dating apps, at a party, at a church function, through a friend.
Here's why it didn't feel like it. You didn't recognize him, and he didn't recognize you. You didn't recognize him because kings like this are not announced with trumpets. They do not lead with their resume. They do not immediately tell you that they make the world's best pancakes, or that they would love to take care of you after a hard day, or that they're quietly saving for a wife they plan to have one day.
They're too humble for that. They may be quiet. They may be wearing a shirt they have owned since high school. They probably are not driving the most impressive car because frankly, they're saving for a future family. So you didn't recognize him, [00:03:00] and he didn't recognize you because car selfies do not tell a story.
They don't tell your story. And the vague list of hobbies falls flat. Your saying, "I hope you have a nice weekend," did not indicate your intentions that you like him. The kind of man you want is not looking for perfection. He's not looking for a size zero model with salon hair. He's looking for a feeling, chemistry, warmth, a spark A woman who feels like home.
And sometimes you only have a moment to communicate whether that is you. A moment for recognition to happen. There are women who know how to become recognizable in a moment with a single question that creates [00:04:00] instant chemistry, a smile that reaches her eyes over a flirty shoulder, a picture that tells a story of home, warmth, beauty, and uniqueness.
Sis, this is how he recognizes you. Because he wants to find you. He is looking for a wife. You don't need to become perfect. You need to become recognizable. And get out your list one more time. What are you looking for? What have you stopped hoping for? What have you quietly removed because someone told you you were wanting too much?
Put it back on the list. Because when you meet him, I want you to recognize him. And when he sees you, I want him to know, there she is.
[00:05:00] You don't want to keep waiting. You're ready for something real. I'm Michelle Joiner. Let's get you married well