Episode 87 - Men-On-Pause: The Results Are In

Last week, we talked about the need. This week, we're talking about the reality.

After months of dreaming and weeks of planning, the Men-On-Pause event finally happened. Twenty-five men walked through the doors at Nickel 9 Distillery in Toronto—and what happened next exceeded every expectation.

In this episode, I'm breaking down the entire night: the nerves leading up to it, the two and a half minutes on Breakfast Television that helped fill the room, and the moment when grown men started raising their hands, asking questions, and getting vulnerable about something we're told they never talk about—menopause.

I also dive deep into the male experience. Why don't men form communities the way women do? What does the research say about male friendship and emotional isolation? And how does culture and race—especially for Black men—shape the way they show up (or don't show up) for hard conversations?

Plus, I share the powerful moment when our therapist, Rohan Thompson, talked about the importance of scheduling time with your friends—not just to watch the game, but to really talk—and why that message hit so hard.

In This Episode, We Cover:

• How 25 men proved the "men don't talk" narrative wrong
• The Breakfast Television moment that gave us two and a half extra minutes to promote the event
• Why menopause is about more than white women "aging"—it's about all women, all families, and all communities
• The stats: 15% of men report having no close friends (a fivefold increase since 1990)
• How "shoulder-to-shoulder" bonding differs from "face-to-face" bonding
• The cultural weight Black men carry when it comes to vulnerability
• What the men asked, shared, and revealed during the event
• The one question they all asked at the end: "When is the next one?"

Resources & Links:

• Follow us on Instagram: @samcoretrainer
• Learn more about High Heels & Hot Flashes: @highheelsandhotflashes
• SBSC Group Accelerator Coaching Program for Perimenopausal Women WAITLIST. Get early access

Thank you for listening and I would like to remind you that I have 2 amazing announcements!

1. Men-On-Pause - THE Men's ONLY menopause event designed to help educate and support men so they can become better allies to the women in their lives when it comes to menopause and midlife. Details HERE

2. Get on the WAITLIST for the next Flip Flops & Hot Flashes Menopause Retreat HERE.

Thank you for listening.