IFYL2GO: Tomato Aroma Therapy; Protect Yourself: Get a Video Doorbell

In this episode we discuss:

Your need for social interaction.

Sisters make you better.

Too many dating choices?

And many more topics.

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Transcript

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Gib, hello and welcome to another episode of the podcast. I'm Gib Gerard here with another ifyl to go episode of the show. That's where we take clips from this week's intelligence for life radio show. We bottle it up, we cut it up, we turn it into a podcast that you can put in your pocket and take it with you wherever you're going. That's why we call it if oil to go intelligence for your life to go. Ladies and gentlemen. Without further ado, here is me and John Tesh. Oh, Gib, we now know how to be happy or just get out in the world and talk to somebody. Oh yeah. Thank you. Researchers at the University of Arizona in Tucson and two universities, Washington University, you also found the happiest people spent 25% less time alone, at a whopping 70% more time engaged in face to face conversations, heartfelt conversations. Dig below the surface to connect with emotions, which helps create closer bonds. Connie says, I talked to everybody. I interview everybody. I don't feel any better but, but the way waiters, the way we do the show, is we spend a lot of time in your studio, and your studio is in your house. And so you see me, you see her. You know, always surprised to see other people. Yeah. What are you doing here? Yeah. So sometimes, when you're interacting with the world at large, you go, Oh my gosh, this is a person. I don't know their name, I don't know about them. You want to learn about them. Why not talk about why wouldn't you be curious? You know? So yes, by all means, go nuts. Do this. We kind of know that interaction, multi generational interaction, but that social interaction is the key to longevity. It gives you a reason to live. So of course, you're going to be healthier and happier. It's just sometimes it's annoying. But, you know, I like to do it too, and that's that, let's talk, let's talk dating. Because when you think dating advice, think of me and Gib. You know, I just did the math, you know, together, we have 54 years of marriage. Yeah, when it comes to first date, you and I, yeah, I think they do. Maybe not a lot of people go for the standard dinner or drinks. But now Professor Gino, somebody, Francesca Gino, found that the best time to go on a date is for breakfast, oh yeah, or meeting for a late morning coffee. He says, your mental resources will be fresher and you'll be more present and pleasant. But you don't eat breakfast. I don't eat breakfast. I understand the concept that, like, look, you're gonna put the best version of yourself together at that time in the morning, a mid morning breakfast, a late coffee. Yes, absolutely. But two things, one is, there is, while you're the best version of yourself, it is not the most romantic time of day. The light is the harshest. You're not likely to end in a little make out, you know. So there are things that, there are things that keep you from from it being an ideal daytime like you guys are going in for a kiss at like, four o'clock, 10am No, has to be kissed at 10am let's get you out of here. I got work to do. So yes, best version of yourself, not the best lighting, not the most romantic. Can you move the briefcase? Please get your train. I could this just in according to Gen Z. That's not like a thing. It's like a whole group of people, according to Gen Z, scrolling on your phone with your index finger is a sign that you're old. Yes, two handed approach. You need more dexterity to get through it. No, if you're Gen Z, you're doing it all with your Oh, the same hand. Oh, drop my phone. I know that's why I got one of these little hands. She does look sort of silly when you're going like this, but also the thing where you you can tell the old person is expanding, doing a little zoom thing to make sure they can read the text. I hate it when people take my phone and they look at photos and they start expanding. Oh yeah, it doesn't look that close. Just look at the photo I wanted to show you and move on. Look. This is one of those things if you're above a certain age, and you're using your index finger to scroll. At that point, you've stopped caring if anybody thinks you look old or not, and you're saying, You know what? This is how I interact my phone. Leave me alone. Yeah, just move two fingers over. And that's for you. All right, Gib, here's the latest from University College of London. We got to start a research firm because, you know, these people are all paid to do this stuff. So now what they're saying the university folks, the mere thought of going to work is enough to increase our stress. Yeah, yeah, thank you. They found that obvious, the slightest thought of work or work related problems was enough to send stress levels climbing in most study subjects, the most common time at which their stress Rose was just after their alarm clock went off in the morning. A horrible life, but look he this is why heart attacks. Yeah, my alarm clock goes off. I go, Oh, I'm alive. I took the eye mask thing off because I applied, no, I'm alive. I love that. Your alarm clock goes off even though you. Actually get out of bed at four o'clock in the morning every day. What's wrong? But regardless, yes, look, we know that our thoughts become our feelings. We know that that's true. So if you start thinking about the stress of the day, whether you love your job or not, if you have a high stress day, that's, that's, that's in front of you, you're going to start stressing out. If you start thinking about it, even thinking about a commute and getting there on time, and then you start to dwell on the negative, all of that is going to take you down and it's going to make you physically stressed out. The key to unpacking this is to instead think about the fact that you're a joyful that you're alive today, which is great. And B, think of the good things you're going to accomplish today. Think of what lies in front of you that's positive, that will help combat the stress. Thank you. Coach. Gib Amen, all right, here's another one of those things from the Pew Research Department. A study shows that the more dating choices you have, the more likely you are to end up alone. Oh, this is the tyranny of choice. I had no choice, okay, but you and you're not alone. You're a loving family. I married the prom queen. I think this is down to this is it gives you decision and fatigue, decision anxiety, all of those things come together. Whereas if you're like, Oh, I finally found somebody that likes me. For me, it's the only person I'm gonna hold on to. This person, you're gonna hold on to them. You're gonna work at the relationship. Because, you know, there's not a lot of people out there for you, and you don't really want to show your true self to anybody else ever again, but people that are kind of milk toast and easy to swallow and have a lot of easy options when it comes to the dating world, yeah, eventually people are gonna realize there's not much substance there. And I don't want to be this person. This is like, work as hard. This is like when I have the chicken strip in my left hand and the beef strip in my right hand, and Leroy can't decide. Too many choices, yeah, just just the I just want the iced tea or the Kiwi strawberry, there's the only options. I'm gonna date that beef strip that didn't work. Let's talk heart health for a moment. Gib, you know every we're all talking about longevity and about brain health and stress and everything. Don't forget the heart taking a nice, hot bath at the end of the long day will be good for your heart. This is, according to the journal heart, it found that taking a bath four or five times a day. I mean, four or five times a week, that's hell. I got excited. Help this. That's my whole day. Help to steady blood pressure and flush out inflammation that slowed the aging of blood vessels and organs. Go ahead and draw a nice, hot bath for your health. Back in the day, the medieval days, then there was no there were showers. Yeah, you were lucky to get that happen, or you bathed in a stream, right? Yeah, right. Look, I know that it's not the most, it's not the most masculine of things, to pour some Epsom salts into a bath, heat it up, little bubble bath, and then pour myself a glass of wine, light a candle, I know, and sit there with my book. I know that's not the most masculine of things, but I'll be honest, there's one of the best experiences I've ever had. And you sleep like a baby. So I do that regularly. You better think it's masculine, but it's but that's what royalty did. Oh yeah, I feel, I feel royal in the purple bathtub. It's a game of thrones. That's where they throw in the crocodiles as the end of you or the Marmot you're Oh yeah, that thing. Here's the latest research from Johns Hopkins University. There's an aroma compound called farnesol that triggers the release of The Happy chemical dopamine. So how do you get a dope? What do we have to snort to get to get this, to get this FARC and all you sniff a tomato. I mean, you don't sniff tomatoes. Never sniffed tomato. Maybe that's why I'm having a hard time. By all means, you should start sniffing tomatoes. Look, I'll say this, I've never been I've never been unhappy when I'm eating, you know, a penny marinara or a slice of pizza with tomato sauce on it. There's got to be something to it. It always makes me happy. Researchers say it works as well as Prozac sniffing tomatoes. I mean, look, I'm just gonna go hang out. Yeah, hello, Whole Foods. I'm just here to sniff. I'm on my way, sir, what are you doing here? I'm just browsing and sniffing. Thrown right out of that place. All right, this just in According to experts, single women looking for a happy, secure boyfriend should look for a man who has a sister or sisters. I had two older sisters. Yeah, I don't know. I always wanted a brother, though. I think there's a thing, and when you're the guy that you want the brother. But I think with this is this is kind of sad. But I think one of the things that makes guys that have had that have sisters be better boyfriends is that they view women as as whole people, because they they've seen so when you're if you're a guy growing up, and you don't have sisters, women are a mystery. They are behind a veil. There's your mother, and then every other woman is a huge mystery, and then you cannot comprehend them. And then you go through puberty, and they make even less sense. But if you have a sister, you see, you see the highs and lows. You understand what's behind the mystery. So boom, you're much more confident in understanding how to interact with women. Well. That is my TED talk. I will die on that. Okay, I was six years old when my sisters were 17 and 18 years old, nothing but grossed out all the time. That's fair. You didn't get the benefits. You just had a little bit of the grossing out. I think they were grossed out too. All right, Gib, here we go. People who don't exercise on a regular basis and then have episodes of intense exercise are more likely to experience a heart attack or die suddenly than those who are active on a regular basis. So if you're starting an exercise regime, ease into it and build endurance. We have a lot of smart people who listen to this show, but sometimes we have people who go nuts and do this. It's like, Well, I haven't exercised for two weeks because I've been drinking beer. So why don't I just get in the gym for two hours? And that's what happens. It's absolutely what happens. And basically what has happened is, by the way, that has no relationship to me. I do this too, but look especially, the older we get, the less we exercise. We know that our blood vessels, our cardiovascular health, deteriorates quickly, and if you think you can exercise at the same level that you were exercising even a month ago before you stopped exercising, you are going to run into this problem. You're gonna best case scenario is you like tear a hamstring. Worst case scenario is you have a heart attack because your cardiovascular system is not adapted to that level of exercise. The best thing to do, we say this all the time on the air. We say this all the time on our coaching calls, is to do the exercise that you will do with consistency. So build up to it. Try not to go nuts in one exercise. Do a 10 minute walk and build to a six mile run. Don't just go, you know, I haven't moved in a year. I'm gonna go out and go on a six mile run. You'll die. I have a friend who's gonna hear this. That's it. That's not the excuse you're looking for. All right. This just in according to the most recent data, one in four US homes now has video doorbells. Oh yeah, this is, this would have been bad for me in the day, because me and Eddie, Teddy, shamela and Donnie Holman are the whole thing. Our whole life was, was built around ringing people's doorbells and running now, yeah, now ding dong ditch is gone. Video evidence exactly we got you look. You should have a video doorbell. I love it. It lets me know if somebody's ringing my doorbell. Do I need to run because it's somebody they need to go see? Or do I need to pretend I'm not home, hit the ground, or if I'm out of town, I can pretend to be home if it's if I want. There's so many uses. Oh, you can say, I can respond, oh, no, I didn't know that. Like, sorry, I'm in the back. I'm not interested. So they, you know that they think that somebody's home. They are i They're incredibly versatile. I'm so thankful I have it. I know when my kids are coming and going. I'm so thankful for it. So I Yes, I agree. One in four seems low to me. You I I love mine. Awesome. That's it for the show today. Thank you guys so much for listening. If you like the show, please rate comment and subscribe on Apple podcast. Spotify, wherever you get your podcast. It helps us out a lot. When you do that, we also try to respond to every mention the show, every DM about the show. You can tell us what you think about it, because ultimately, we do the show for you guys. So thank you so much for listening. You.