EP18: The paradoxical nature of our universe & how we can align with it

  In this episode I share my top 7 paradoxical truths that have changed my life once I surrendered to them. The reason why I wanted to do this is because when you accept the paradoxical nature of reality, you open yourself up to magic. When you can find comfort in the paradox, there's so much magic and so much juiciness, and so much love for life that comes through you. I put my personal spin on by sharing personal experiences, enjoy!

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The reason why I wanted to do this is because when you accept the paradoxical nature of reality, you open yourself up to magic When you can find comfort in the paradox, oh, there's so much magic and so much juiciness, and so much love for life that comes through you, and I'm so excited to talk about my favorite paradoxical truths I wanted to explain my personal spin on them and how they've changed my life and how we can use these to expand and surrender the universe is nothing and everything all at the same time. Oh, guys, I love this topic. so here we go. Hello friends. Welcome back to the Fluidity Podcast. So if you notice that my voice sounds a little different, you are right, it does. I am just getting over being sick. And let me tell you, this cold took me down and it took me down. Good. I am feeling way better, but as you can tell, I'm still congested. Honestly, I was kind of sad that I had to postpone recording this because this podcast. The one you're about to listen to, I have been so fricking excited for. It is such a cool podcast the revelations and the perspective shifts that I've made through what I'm about to talk about today has changed my life and it's changed my life for the better. So. Without further ado, let's talk about what we're gonna talk about. And this is episode 18. It is the paradoxical nature of our universe and how we can align with it, how two things can be true at the same time. Before I get into the chunk of it, I want to share just a little story, that goes into. This podcast episode today it's just crazy how when you start to put your focus on something, uh, the universe starts to show you that you're on the right path. And I already knew that this podcast episode was gonna be power powerful and just. A good podcast. But I've been given so many little synchronicities on just what right path I'm on with the way I'm going and the way I'm letting my podcast episodes come from, excitement and not so much what I think I should be talking about. So last night I was sick and I was watching a podcast on YouTube with, richard Rudd, who is the founder of the Gene Keys, and if you're familiar with the gene keys, it is really all about, it's all about paradoxes. It's all paradoxical in nature if you really get into, the teachings of it. And so I was listening to it last night and everything he was saying, I'm just like, oh, this is exactly what podcast is about. Not really, but like the underlying energy of, the gene keys Every gene key has a shadow gift and city. So in every gift there's always gonna be a shadow. And so when you look at the paradoxical nature of the gene keys, it's like two opposite sides of the spectrum, but actually they compliment each other and that's how you get to the gift and the city. And the enlightenment of that. Gift. So I just wanna give you one example. So Jean Key 27, which is my main key, the shadow of it is selfishness. The gift of Key 27 is altruism and the city, and the highest expression of it is selflessness. So if you look at the two ends of the spectrum, the shadow is selfishness. The city. Also, the highest expression of it is selflessness. So it's like, it, it, I just love the paradoxical nature of the gene keys and I didn't even put two and two together until I watched it last night. So I don't know. That's just a little side note for you, but. Getting right into the episode. The reason why I wanted to do this is because when you accept the paradoxical nature of reality, you open yourself up to magic When you can find comfort in the paradox, oh, there's so much magic and so much juiciness, and so much love for life that comes through you, and I'm so excited to talk about this today. So first things first. What is a paradox? A paradox is a seemingly absurd or self contradictory statement or proposition that when investigated or explained, may prove to be well founded or true. So for example, I was also reading this book while I was preparing for this podcast. And I didn't go out searching for things. They just come to me, which is. Such a cool gift from the universe, like, Hey, this is a good podcast episode. Keep on going. So in this book, they were talking about quantum physics and about, the, particle and a wave. So before quantum physics, the particle and the wave were considered opposite. And what you would call a paradox, right? So the term paradox might be misleading because it implies a contradiction. While wave particle duality describes a complimentary nature of these properties. Also when you look at entanglement theory, it shows two seemingly separate things are actually related. They are expressions of the whole, for example. Individuality and oneness. Just like everything behaves like a particle and a wave. We are both individual and all one. I also started to think about, what's the difference between. A paradox in duality. And when you think of paradox, you tend to think of a contradiction, right? Like the particle and the wave. But what if they're actually the key to this reality instead of seeing them as opposing? How about complementary and our biggest teacher? So with that said, I have seven of my favorite paradoxical. Sayings or quotes, but they have a lot of depth to them I guess, seven paradoxical truths I'll say. And I wanted to kind of explain my personal spin on them and how they've changed my life and just my favorite paradoxical truths and how we can really use these to expand and surrender to. The paradox of the universe we live in. And once you accept them, I feel like just so much magic opens up. Before I get into the seven, I wanted to give a little bit more context. So why, why is it hard for us to accept the paradox and why is our brain. Really resistant to it. we suffer really, when we cling to one truth, which is what the ego wants to do. It wants to clinging to right or wrong. It wants to have an absolute right. And when we're rigid, when we fight the paradoxical reality, we live in. We try to logically make sense of the world that is full of magic, and when we want one definite answer, that's just not the world we live in. So we suffer because we deny the truth. It's perfectly imperfect in every way. Think about. And creation, right? Creation is the action or process of bringing something into existence. To create is to burst something new out of nothingness. In the context of the universe, nothing transforms into the concept of boundless potential. So again, nothing less nothingness is really pless potential, which again, paradoxical or paradox. This emptiness is a state from which everything emerges. The universe is nothing and everything all at the same time. Oh, guys, I love this topic. So nothing really is inherently evil. Only the perception and meaning you put on it. So I did wanna give, an example of one big example how this has played out in my life. I wanted to use the example of alcohol because this was a huge hangup for me when I quit drinking almost a year ago, which is almost a year ago. From the time of this recording, I thought alcohol was the reason for my problems. I thought there was nothing good that came from it. I thought alcohol was the root of all my problems, and I was definitely very resistant to alcohol. Anyone that drank alcohol and then over healing and going inward, I realized that it wasn't the alcohol that was my problem, it was the manifestation of my inner world. Once I took the blame away, I was able to heal from within. Lemme just say, when you're blaming something outside of yourself, you cannot heal from it because you're giving away your power. So once I took that responsibility, I was at a point where I could truly see what was going on. Now there is a point to this, yes, alcohol has a negative side that I won't go into, but what I have realized is it has healing powers and I would've had been closed off to it if I didn't open myself up to accepting the paradox of all things that alcohol can. Have two sides to it. so let me explain the backstory and how I got to this conclusion and how alcohol has healing powers. I have been really into herbalism and I have been curating my own apothecary, which involves tinctures. Now, to make a tincture, you need something to extract the medicine from the herb or root. Alcohol is the best at this from extracting the most potent material from the plant. So the thing that once was in my life as the thing that I saw that was killing me is now the thing that is making it possible for me to make potent medicine. It's all in the intention and the vibration you're coming at things with. So again, it wasn't the alcohol that made my life. Terrible. It wasn't the alcohol, it was just the manifestation of my inner world that used alcohol to numb. How beautiful that I can heal my relationship with a substance that I was so angry at. I open myself up to the magic, to the paradox. We call this universe. And really, if you wanna go even deeper, I mean the alcohol. Taught me so many more lessons than, I think I even realized. And, again, it was never the alcohols problem. It was the way I was using it. So now I do wanna get into my seven favorite paradoxes that has catapulted me and flowing with life and really seeing the complementary nature of things in beauty and literally everything, and hopefully give you new a new perspective or better yet. Remind you of what you already know, and I'll probably add some other, you know, personal stuff in there. We'll find out. So here we go. The first paradox that I have on my list is endings are new beginnings. If it has a beginning, it has a end. Now this, uh, this one has so many routes I could take, but one thing that comes to mind, um. That actually one of my friends sent me a TikTok on this, and it reminds me of love, right? So everything you love, you're gonna lose someday. To love something is to accept that it's gonna break your heart, and yet we do it anyway what what brings to mind in this topic is the quote, is it better to have a good thing and lost it or never had it at all? Charles Dickens and the answer to that, and I guess you can come up with your own answer, but it's always better to have the good thing and lost it because You can't have love without grief and you can't have a beginning without an end. But the awesome thing is, is it's a never ending loop, right? When something ends, something begins, when something ends, something begins. So it's just a never ending cycle. Lemme just use the example of relationship or friendship or someone in your life, and I know this has been really prominent and for me. Is really coming to terms with letting go of needing to have something forever, because that's just the nature of we live in. And to really find like such beauty that things end because we can truly cherish them and we can truly cherish the people in our life because we know that, unfortunately, or maybe not, unfortunately, they're not gonna be in our life forever. But I think grief, Shows us how to love and when we can really soften into endings and know that to end something is really to begin something. And they're one, they're literally one and the same. I love that one. so number two. Is you are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously. This is probably the one that has transformed me the most. I have had a hard time accepting the fact that I won't be the best at everything all at once. I am a recovering perfectionist. My friends, I really wanna break this down a little bit actually. The reason I suffered from burnout, and if you listen to my last podcast, it gives even more context. But the reason why I was suffering in burnout was because I wasn't living by this concept. It's in a deep collective consciousness that we. That what we do and how perfect we are at that thing is where our worth comes from. We are putting our happiness, our worthiness in the future of when we are at the top of our game, when we're making the most money, when we have the most followers, when we have all the answers to all our questions, then that is only when we allow ourselves to be happy and relax. News flash. You'll never get to that place because there is only the now moment. And we need both to know that we're at our core a masterpiece and nothing can add or take away from our worth, but we are on this earth realm to learn and evolve. So that is why we're always a work in progress, because that is the main reason why we're here on this earth, when you have one without the other, it truly falls apart, and I'm gonna let you in on a secret. Life is about the journey and who you be in every moment. The external stuff is just a manifestation of your inner world. If you believe that you aren't worthy till you get the thing, you will be on that hamster wheel. You might get the remote promotion, you might get the car, but it is empty. I wanna give a personal, little touch to this, even more personal, about podcasting and speaking. When I first started this podcast, I was under so much pressure because I thought I had to be perfect at everything. I. I didn't use this paradox. I was on one side of it where I thought I had to be the masterpiece already, and I thought that being the best at something looked a certain way, and that if I wasn't the best right out the bat, then this wasn't for me. But when I let myself truly be a masterpiece already, like nothing can take away from. Who I am, there's always that worthiness at the core, but of course I'm gonna be in work in progress. So that leaves room, it leaves space to play, to mess up, to stutter over my words and truly learn how to speak. This wouldn't be a journey if I came out the gate and knew how to podcast and had the best podcasts in the world right out the gate, it, I wouldn't learn anything. You know, it's all about. Who I become in the process. But when you have the underlying energy of nothing's gonna take away from my inherent worthiness, you have peace, you have a, a playful energy versus when you're coming at it as I need to make this perfect. it puts a hundred pound weight on your shoulders. And it doesn't make any of it fun. And it comes again from not that true, playful, energy. When you allow yourself to be both you guys, masterpiece and a work in progress. I cannot explain to you in words how magical a life becomes to be When you allow yourself to be both, you give yourself space to make those mistakes and not get down on yourself. Have fun with it. Oh my gosh, you guys, I am congested, so hopefully you're sticking with me. Okay, number three is the more you reject it, the more you attract it. Ooh, did this one really throw my mind for a loop? When I first heard it, like, I was like, how do I even understand this? And I wanna start by saying, the more you judge where you are, the longer you stay there. When you reject something, you are putting attention on it. Trying to push something away creates tension, you are subconsciously telling yourself, alert, this is wrong, my life, et cetera is wrong. Then what happens? You get more of it because you're putting attention on it. Another side to this is the thing you are rejecting a hundred percent of the time. Is there to teach you a lesson. It reminds me of the saying, the only way out is through. We have created a narrative to dance around the fear. Try not to get too close, but our freedom is going into the fear and learning from it. Not going around it just like the movie Finding Emo. If you remember the scene when Dory and Marlon encounter like a dark, seemingly dangerous trench where Dory insists that they. Swim through it, and Marlon is like, oh no, he's like resisting it. He is like, oh, let's just, you know, he's fearing the unknown. He wants to swim over it. And if you watch the movie, you will recall, they swim over it and it turns out catastrophic. It turns out worse than it would have if they went through it. Even though it looks scarier to go through it, it's always the best option. Because it is never as bad as the mind makes it out to be. You are held and protected. Okay, number four. You do the best when you care the least about getting it right. Woo. Does this one hit my friends? Because over caring usually pulls you out of the present moment. We do our best when we are being authentic. To be authentic means to flow with life and let creative inspiration flow without a block in the road without clenching and controlling. When we worry about getting it right, we are trying instead of being so we're trying, instead of being our beautiful, authentic self, again, we're putting attention on getting it wrong by worrying about getting it right, so there's no right way. It's a zero sum game when you worry about getting it right, because there's no right way. There's no right way. I am a believer that we can and are tapped into the infinite, divine, intelligence, and when we allow and let go of needing to get it right, magic unfolds, it always takes a lot of energy to control and need to get it right because when you are saying. If you don't get it right, you won't be okay. When you're saying, oh, I gotta get this right, I gotta get this right, you're in the energy of I won't be okay if I don't get it right. That's just simply not the case. But that is what you were affirming in your subconscious, which controls your nervous system, and then your body's in that fight and flight because you gotta get it right and then you block yourself from the magic that wants to flow through you, because you have to be in a receiving mode. And when you're clenching and controlling, you are not in a receiving mode. You're in a controlling mode. I did this for a long time, and what I realized is that when you are in the vibration of I need to get it right, your creativity stops flowing and joy gets sucked out of your experience. I think back to when I was in the thick of my disordered eating and my exercise when I had ha hypothalmic amenorrhea, when I first started this podcast and healing journey, I was taken on the present moment at all times because I was always worrying about, let's just give an example, worrying about eating right. I thought if I ate something wrong, it would just ruin my progress. And what that did was put so much stress on my body and I was never in the present moment. I was always worrying about doing the right thing and in and in worrying about doing the right thing. I most likely made a lot of mistakes because. All my energy was going into the worry and to, oh, I need to get it right. There's a paradox in that too. When you're focused on getting it right, there's an underlying energy of, I can't get it wrong, And then what happens? You are getting it wrong because that's where your focus is. And even with, you know, the healing journey and my healing journey of putting so much pressure on myself to get it right, you miss all the learning opportunities and you are outta the present moment. So. Yes, you do your best when you care least about getting it right, because you are just flowing with life. There's no objective, there's no I need to do this. You're in the flow of creativity, you're in the flow with the universe, and you're just listening and you're receptive, and that's a beautiful place to be. All right. Number five, the more you let go, the more you gain. I'm gonna say that one more time. The more you let go, the more you gain. When you soften into life, she gives you all you need and more. When you are clenching your fist and saying, no, I need it to be this way, you are going against life, which you are always in co-creation with. And how beautiful is that? You are never alone. Now another side to this is when you let go, you allow the infinite divine intelligence to go to work for you. There's an interesting thing about the way our brain works. We don't, we cannot imagine what the future holds for us. Because we're looking through a limited lens, right? Because all we know is the past and what has happened. when we put an intention out and we let go of it and say, universe, you know better but like, here's where I'm wanting to go, that's beautiful, and you let go of it because the universe can bring you something that you haven't even been able to imagine yet because you've never experienced it. So yeah, when we let this unconditional loving force that is all knowing, guide us and we can let go and truly trust, yes, it is simple, but that doesn't mean it's easy. I want to give you an example of how letting go. I. Gave me the answer to a question that I have had for as long as I can remember,, so the question I was trying to answer for myself for as long as I can remember is what is my purpose? I was holding so tightly onto this concept of what is my purpose? I need to know. Oh gosh, you guys, I was so obsessed with knowing and I felt like I was nothing if I didn't have something on the external that gave me a purpose or like, anyway, I could go down the rabbit hole with that. But when I truly surrendered knowing my purpose, or I just let go of it, I was like, you know, if I never find out, cool, but that's the path for me, you know? And of course I knew that wasn't true, but when I truly just like let go, I was given the answer to what my purpose is. And I, if you listen to the last podcast, I explained it, but my purpose is to be my authentic self in every moment and to express myself freely from a authentic place. And I. Be when I was holding onto the question, what is my purpose? I need to know, I was thinking of an external thing that I did, but that is not purpose. Purpose is who you be and how you bring your authentic expression to the world. Now, it doesn't matter what it looks like on the outside, it all starts from within. So when I let go of that question, it just, I had a, I had a freaking revelation. I had a. Epiphany and I feel at peace with my purpose. And I feel like no matter what I can, I can always be in my purpose because that's expressing myself freely expressing myself in my authentic light. And yeah, when I let go of the grip, I was given the answer number six, you are already that which you seek. You are already that which you seek. You don't need to become enough. You are enough. You don't need to find love. You are love. You don't need to chase freedom. You are already free. Like a flashlight looking for the light. It's not realizing that it's the source that is you, my friend. Anything that you're looking for. Example, what I just gave you the last, the last point about me trying to find my purpose, I. I am my purpose, I am my purpose. Me every day, living my authentic self. That's my purpose. And I was looking for it out in the external, but it was again, like the flashlight. I was the source of it. And I remember when I truly felt the truth of this statement, I was. Getting Reiki by an amazing gentleman. I think he's in Ferndale, and I, for a long time was always looking, looking for someone to tell me the answers. I was looking for someone to heal me. I was looking for someone to tell me what to do. looking for answers outside of myself, even with spirit or trusting something you know, of a higher source to gimme answers. I. I remember going to this reiki session thinking I would get answers from guides or angels or, and it was this deep feeling of, Hannah, you are it. You're that what you seek, you are the oracle. You're the one who knows your higher self isn't out there in the ether. She is here with you always, and she's guiding you even if you don't even feel like she is. She is. And I felt this deep knowing that. I was the one I was looking for. And it's hard to put into words'cause it's really a felt experience, but those of you that know what I'm talking about, you know the feeling. And if you don't yet, you will. And trust me, it is amazing and know that whatever you're looking for, you already have it. So stop searching because you got that shit already. All right. All right. Number seven. Even when it doesn't work out, it always does. Number seven. I love this one and I'm so happy we're ending on it. I saved the best for last. I'm gonna say it one more time. Even when it doesn't work out, it always does. This one has brought me so much peace. I can't even put it into words because I've seen it work out in my life multiple tr multiple times where I just simply trust it. For example, let's look at the most recent experience of this playing out. Some of you may know that I was studying human design. And was even building my business around human design. I invested a good chunk of money and more hours than I can count on human design and the teachings and the, just the learning of it. I thought my main offer for my business would be human design readings, and that is very far from the truth. I remember when I first started to promote human design readings, I felt like. I felt off. It didn't feel right and I wasn't getting any engagement on my posts, and honestly, I didn't really enjoy the content I was putting out, but I felt like human design was my in. I felt like I needed something to hide behind. I then started to become not interested in human design at all. This was right around the time when I took that six month break from everything podcasting, building my business. I honestly felt like a failure because I was just so not interested in human design anymore. I almost felt like someone just turned the lights off on that part of my excitement. For human design, because I just didn't feel it anymore. And I was, you know, a little bit upset because I spent all this money on, on the human design course, and I saw other people making a beautiful business with human design. And I'm just like, how come I couldn't do it? Like maybe this, maybe this, my own business thing isn't for me. And then over the six months I, when I let everything go, I didn't. Work on my business. I didn't look at human design. I didn't do any of that. I realized I was using human design as a crutch to express myself through. It was easier for me to use human design to express myself. It was a crutch for me, like I wasn't even coaching it yet, but me using it. I was using it to tell me who I was instead of using it for what it's meant for a tool. I was scared that I didn't have enough knowledge or talent to be me with my own signature, touch with my gifts that cannot be taught or read in a book. They are lived experiences. And creative inspiration that just flows through me. Human design was taking me out of that flow. I was flowing in a structure, but my main product is me. Self liberation coach and spiritual mentor is what I call the container, but the product is me in flow with divine intelligence and the gifts I have. Always had within, it just took, you know, dusting the dirt and illusions to see it clearly. So I came that realization and I was like, okay, cool. But I, there was also this penis piece of me, like, did I just have to learn that lesson to never use human design again? Because now my business has taken a turn and human is not, human design is not the main product of my business or my coaching at all. I thought I was just gonna bite the bullet. I was like, fuck it. I lost all the money. But it did teach me this lesson that I was scared to authentically coach and use my, you know, my internal compass and my intuitive gifts. So then a couple weeks ago, human design kept coming into my, awareness and. I realize that human design, yes, it's not the main part of my coaching, but it is an important tool for people to learn a little bit more about themselves and they don't have to get stuck there, but it can be a beautiful tool. And I'm also getting into the gene keys and how it can actually help the coaching that I'm doing. It's not gonna be the main thing, but it's a thing that can help give context to this human experience. And so when I really thought that I fucked up and that I made a really bad investment, but it all worked out, you guys, now my business is making sense. Everything is falling into place and I can see my business for what it is now. that just goes to show you even when it doesn't work out. It works out. So whatever in your life, you're like, oh, this is really not working out. Give it some time.'cause I bet you that it's gonna come back around and you're gonna see why that had to happen for you to get to where you are now. So please self-reflect. Can you think of a time when something didn't work out seemingly in the moment and then months or years later, you see why that had to happen and you're like, shit, man. Thank God that relationship didn't work. Or thank God it didn't. I didn't get that job because look at where I'm at now. What you put attention on grows y'all. So when you see that life is always working out for you, you're gonna see that more and it's gonna expand. Oh my gosh, guys, I cannot breathe outta my nose right now. Hopefully I still sound, you know, good. Or at least you can hear me. But I just wanted to end the podcast with a little bit about why sometimes we have a hard time accepting these paradoxes. And it's a quote, that I would love to read'cause I thought it just pulls this whole podcast together. The mind is very bothered by paradox. Everything needs to be linear and straight and lined up very well. The mind hates paradox, but the eternal self embraces it all. All of it is allowed. All of it is true. All of it is valid. When you say black and someone else says white, both are true. One says good. The other says evil. Both are true. So let go of this need to find the truth, so to speak, because the truth in a way keeps changing. This is by Christine Breeze. Thank you, Christine, for that beautiful quote. All right, Fred. I hope you enjoyed this podcast. I hope it gave you a different perspective on something, and I hope it made you love paradoxes as much as I do. I would love to know your favorite paradox that I said, so please message me on Instagram. Um, leave a comment. Just let me know what your favorite paradox is and please subscribe, like do all the things. I love you all. Thanks for bearing with my colds, and I will see you guys next time. Peace out.