Naked Psychology with Doug and Kendall
Naked Psychology with Doug and Kendall is a podcast where we explore the connections between psychology and everyday life. With over 30 years of experience in counseling and psychology, we aim to present complex topics in an accessible and relatable way. Our primary goal is to provide insights that help you better understand yourself and the world around you.
Naked Psychology with Doug and Kendall
Naked Psychology with Doug and Kendall: Staying vs. Leaving – Why we can’t let go of toxic relationships
Ever wondered why smart, self-aware people still get stuck in toxic relationships? In this episode, Doug and Kendall pull back the curtain on the psychology of staying vs. leaving.
We break down the science behind why our brains confuse chaos for connection — from attachment theory and intermittent reinforcement to trauma bonds that feel a lot like addiction. You’ll hear why love can mimic withdrawal, how the sunk-cost fallacy keeps us trapped (“I’ve already put too much into this”), and why even unhealthy relationships can feel chemically rewarding. Using real research and real talk, we unpack what makes people stay — and what finally helps them walk away. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I leave?”, this one’s for you.