AnneMarie Graham - Mindset and business

My guest in todays episode is the lovely AnneMarie Graham, business coach and mentor, former registered nurse, and experienced businessowner. In todays episode we speak about the importance of a right mindset for your business.

The keys to her success have been Mindset Strength, Laser Focus and Relentless Determination and Persistence, She say to all her clients, “EVERYTHING IS POSSIBLE”, If I can do it, you can do it, anyone can. You just need the right tools and the right Mindset.

Contact AnneMarie
 https://www.linkedin.com/in/annemariegraham/
https://www.mindsetsuccessstrategies.com/site/contact

Jag heter Lis Karin, har skapat House Of Fulfillment, ett utrymme i den digitala världen där vi utforskar sinnet, mindset, transformation och de djupa sanningarna som formar våra liv. Jag kallar mig en själfull strateg, kärleksdriven mentor och livscoach.

Min drivkraft är alltid kärleken till livet, och att få se hur människors liv förändras när de bryter igenom sina invanda tankemönster, som tidigare styrt deras liv mot ohälsa, brist, stress....och kommer ut i friheten att manifestera in ett överflöd av framgång från insidan där effekten blir framgång i sitt företagande, framgång i relationer, framgång i hälsa, ekonomisk frihet och ett liv i överflöd.

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Transcript

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Lis Karin: Hello, Liz Corin! Here in house of fulfillment. Welcome to today's episode.

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Lis Karin: So trained in nursing at Vermont Hospital, Dublin, Ireland, Center of excellence for neuroscience, get her honor degree in health studies from London, Royal College of Nursing.

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Lis Karin: and her masters in occupational health.

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Lis Karin: From very early in her career she knew she wanted to design and have absolute control over her life.

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Lis Karin: She wanted to be able to create a life. That was the way she wanted it to be, not what the professions had mapped

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Lis Karin: out for her, and she wanted to use her 2 areas of passion to do that. The area of health and the area of empowering, motivating, and inspiring people.

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Lis Karin: The keys to her success have been mindset, strength, laser, focus, and relentless determination

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Lis Karin: and persistence, and this led her to setting up health force in 2,004, which offered health and wellbeing service to employees within all types and size of organizations.

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Lis Karin: She acquired Company employee health in 2,012, which allowed her to expand hugely, and the Health Force Group was sold in 2,015, she said to all her clients. Everything is possible. If I can do it, you can do it

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Lis Karin: anyone. Can.

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Lis Karin: You just need the right tools and the right mindset? Welcome Anne Marie Graham.

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Anne Marie Graham: Thank you so much, Liz. Thanks a million for helping me.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, I'm so grateful. You're here, Anne. Marie.

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Anne Marie Graham: So grateful to be here. Thank you so much.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, so we are both. We have both a background in science.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes.

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Lis Karin: Yeah. And how come when did it start your work on your mindset on your mind?

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Lis Karin: Can you remember.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yeah, I guess for me, Liz, like my clinical background, as I said, is neuroscience. So that was a lot around Europe we have. So there was quite a bit of coaching involved in that. We didn't call it coaching and nursing.

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Anne Marie Graham: but there was a lot a lot. There was a big element of the job that was coaching, but I was always fascinated from the earliest days of nursing. Why, some patients behaved a certain way

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Anne Marie Graham: and other, and and didn't do so well from a health and healing perspective. And then other patients, with maybe way more serious things, the odds much worse. But they had a really strong belief and a really strong mindset for success.

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Anne Marie Graham: that they have much better outcomes, so that always fascinated me. Why, some people do the things they do and get the outcomes to get. And other people

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Anne Marie Graham: don't do this. So self development and the the whole study of the mind, the brain.

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Anne Marie Graham: all the neuroscience around us. It was always an area of huge interest for me.

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Anne Marie Graham: And I guess I really started working on my own mindset when I started my 1st business. So I started in 2,004, and by 2,000 and end of 2,006, going into 2,007.

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Anne Marie Graham: I was working really hard, but I wasn't seeing the results in the bank. I wasn't feeling like I was getting more successful. I just felt the business was tough, and I was working really hard and okay. Yes, I I was earning a much better salary than I would have been as a nurse.

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Anne Marie Graham: but I thought, there's something missing here. Why am I not feeling

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Anne Marie Graham: the success that I should be feeling? Because I've made the decision to leave nursing? I've made the decision to start my business, and that was a huge decision. And I did that. And after you know, the 1st year

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Anne Marie Graham: I was making enough money to replace my nurses salary, but I I didn't feel that success. I didn't feel like a successful business owner on the inside, so there was a disconnect. And that was when I thought, Okay, I need to look within here. I need to look at my thinking

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Anne Marie Graham: and how that could be holding me back or

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Anne Marie Graham: not, moving me forward as fast as I would like.

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Anne Marie Graham: So that that was that was the start of that journey for me.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, I understand that is really exciting. And what is the difference? What did you do with your thinking?

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Lis Karin: To change the situation, to change.

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Anne Marie Graham: So I mean what I would set up my Clients now is, you know, your your net worth

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Anne Marie Graham: and your self worth go hand in hand. So if I don't believe that I deserve success, if I don't believe that I deserve to work with top clients, if I don't believe that I deserve to earn

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Anne Marie Graham: a nice income and a good income. Then I'm not. I'm holding myself back and putting a barrier in my way.

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Anne Marie Graham: So the 1st thing that I had to look at was.

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Anne Marie Graham: what are beliefs that I hold

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Anne Marie Graham: that have a negative effect on what I'm doing, that are holding me back, that are limiting me in some way.

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Anne Marie Graham: Why, why do I need success in business to validate me? Why do I not have that internal validation already.

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Anne Marie Graham: you know. So I guess that's a lot of work, as we know around our paradigm where that paradigm comes from. And it it took me a number of years to identify that paradigm, and where it came from, and to work through it

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Anne Marie Graham: to be able to use. You know the mindset tools that you and I both teach

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Anne Marie Graham: to be able to overcome those kind of obstacles that could have held me back for longer.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, that's so true that the self image is

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Lis Karin: always the thing that make the limit that set up the limit for us.

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Anne Marie Graham: Jeez.

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Lis Karin: And it can be so hidden behind a lot of things, our belief about money, and that my my belief about myself, how much I'm worthy to to receive.

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Lis Karin: An easy test, is it?

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Lis Karin: How do you react if someone will want to buy you the

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Lis Karin: the lunch? Say, I paid your lunch today I paid both for both of us.

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Lis Karin: Is it easy for you to say yes, yes, or do you immediately say, Okay, I pay tomorrow or or something. You can't just.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yeah, yeah.

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Anne Marie Graham: is it easy? Yeah, it would be easy. If it's somebody that I don't know, and I've invited them to the meeting. I would be more comfortable, and I would normally say, No, look! I invited you to meet with me.

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Anne Marie Graham: Let me get this. If they, if they argue, then I will let them get it, and sometimes in Ireland I think it as well definitely in Ireland. I see it. Men don't like not that they don't like. They don't want the woman to feel she has to pay.

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Anne Marie Graham: So you know I I'm thinking of a lunch that I had last Thursday with a gentleman in Dublin, and I had invited him to the lunch because I wanted to get some advice, but he wouldn't let me pay for it. He said, absolutely not. No, i i i'm the gentleman here. I'm I'm paying for your lunch. But he said, you can treat me again another time, so I will do that. So most of the time I would be comfortable enough, saying, Thank you very much, but I might suggest that the next time we meet

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Anne Marie Graham: the treat would be

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Anne Marie Graham: would be on me.

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Lis Karin: Yeah. Might be a cultural thing, too, but it it's often hard for us to just receive, because.

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Lis Karin: Not because we are. We have done something for it. We just

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Lis Karin: gift a gift. It can be much easier to give.

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Lis Karin: and that can be a block that can be a block if we. If we don't want to receive, we don't. We don't get it. So it's a lot of hidden things. Don't you think?

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes, and and definitely. If if you were to have had this conversation with me 20 years, I was 20 years in business in March

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Anne Marie Graham: and the old me the 20 years ago, Anne, Marie, definitely I would have. I wouldn't have been comfortable asking for help.

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Anne Marie Graham: I wouldn't have been comfortable, you know, having somebody else pay for the lunch, or I would have had I had to do it. But I didn't know anybody anything, and that you know that

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Anne Marie Graham: I I didn't want them to think I was using them, or you know. But that was a self worth that was a self worth block within me.

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Lis Karin: Yeah.

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Anne Marie Graham: And but I now realise that's what it was.

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Lis Karin: Hmm, yeah.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, there are a lot of things that

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Lis Karin: that limit of our lives, our lives, so so many things.

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Lis Karin: And what is the have you any main thing your clients

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Lis Karin: have that blocked them from being in their goal?

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Lis Karin: Is there something.

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Anne Marie Graham: The main thing. I guess that blocks them is their belief that they have the ability.

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Anne Marie Graham: So I think fear of failure is huge or fear of judgment. And again, I think this is definitely a cultural piece in Ireland.

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Anne Marie Graham: a fear of being judged. If you're successful, judged, if you're wealthy judged. If you want nice things, you like nice things, there is that there is that fear of judgment.

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Anne Marie Graham: But I think what blocks most people is

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Anne Marie Graham: is that idea of.

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Anne Marie Graham: who am I to want?

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Anne Marie Graham: XY. Or Z. They don't believe they're worthy.

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Anne Marie Graham: and they maybe go, for when they're setting goals they go for what they think they could achieve

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Anne Marie Graham: rather than what they actually really want.

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Lis Karin: Yeah.

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Lis Karin: yeah, that's true. That's really true. And we we are so

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Lis Karin: raised with

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Lis Karin: believe that

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Lis Karin: you should be satisfied with what you have. You shouldn't want more all the time, because that's a greedy way.

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Anne Marie Graham: To think.

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Lis Karin: But it actually is the spirit in us that want

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Lis Karin: more, that make us feel that we want more, because the spirit want always to expand.

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Anne Marie Graham: And.

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Lis Karin: Itself through us. So it's so wrong, this thinking. But we, I think most people have it so deep inside.

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Anne Marie Graham: That's.

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Lis Karin: And be be satisfied with what you have.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes, yes.

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Lis Karin: So they can drop it. Yeah.

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Anne Marie Graham: Definitely.

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Lis Karin: Yeah.

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Lis Karin: So if you, if you should compare yourself and Marie before all this journey, all these things started when you start to work consciously on your mindset.

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Lis Karin: And today.

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Lis Karin: can you see the difference? Can you see the change.

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Anne Marie Graham: Oh, absolutely, yeah, absolutely it is. I mean, this was the biggest belief for me to overcome was was the relationship between hard work and earning.

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Anne Marie Graham: So I mean as a nurse, there's no nurse that doesn't work hard. So I I would still say I'm a hard worker, but I don't feel that I have to be constantly doing, doing, working, working in order to achieve success. So and that's a mistake I made in my 1st business. The business became my life.

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Anne Marie Graham: and I was working on it really 7 days a week. It might be only at the weekend. It might have been only a couple of hours in the office on a Saturday morning

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Anne Marie Graham: or a couple of hours on a Sunday afternoon, because I lived very near my old office.

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Anne Marie Graham: but I realized that I never actually took a full weekend off.

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Anne Marie Graham: and it was that, having feeling I had to work harder

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Anne Marie Graham: to go further, to earn more to get more business to grow the business. And actually, that was a huge mindset block.

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Anne Marie Graham: And now I've completely switched that around.

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Anne Marie Graham: and I work less and I earn more than I did then.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, that's.

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Anne Marie Graham: I know which is brilliant, but I but but the hard lesson in that was that led me in my 1st business to burnout.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, exactly.

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Anne Marie Graham: By the time I sold the business I was very, very burned out, and I only realized

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Anne Marie Graham: a year on after having sold the business just how burnt out I was. So it's the self care piece is a hugely important piece for me in terms of for me with my own work, but also with my clients, and I tend to. I tend to meet a lot of clients

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Anne Marie Graham: who make the same mistakes that I made going back

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Anne Marie Graham: 10 years ago, 15 years ago.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, it's so easy today.

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Anne Marie Graham: Opening.

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Lis Karin: So it's so human to think we have to work harder and harder, and it it ends up in a burnout. It does in the end. If we are driven. If we want much.

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Lis Karin: it it doesn't end up well, and we are on the wrong frequency, and Marie easily. So I know that you know it, because when we are hunting or and

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Lis Karin: forcing and driving in the wrong way, we are in a frequency of lack that we don't have. We have to step up to a frequency of abundance that we have everything.

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Lis Karin: And we start to in that at that frequency we start to create instead of compare ourselves with others or ourselves with ourself. So it become very

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Lis Karin: a calm mind, and it we come to a rest.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes. Yeah.

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Lis Karin: And we become more effective, and we earn more.

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Anne Marie Graham: We do. And it's I list. I think it's because we have. When we do it that way we have more calmness of mind. We don't have that chaotic mindset, but we're doing doing, running, running, running.

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Anne Marie Graham: you know. I I look back now, and I think, how did I think that was going to be effective. I don't know why I did that.

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Anne Marie Graham: you know.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, I know we do so many strange things.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yeah.

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Lis Karin: Back and see. How could I behave in that way? And.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yeah.

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Lis Karin: Should get other results than I got.

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Anne Marie Graham: Isn't it.

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Lis Karin: So yeah.

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Lis Karin: it's really is. And but it's also this journey of self development. It's a journey of aware of raising your awareness and.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes.

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Lis Karin: And be conscious of things that you weren't conscious of before.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes.

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Lis Karin: And well, it's all about it, because everything is here. Everything is created. We just have to see it.

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Anne Marie Graham: Is, that.

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Lis Karin: I used to say. It's like we have a bank account that we can have billions of money on it.

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Lis Karin: but if we don't know we have that account.

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Anne Marie Graham: It doesn't.

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Lis Karin: This money. We don't know we have them, and that's the same thing. We have everything

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Lis Karin: we can imagine.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yeah, everything's already here.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, so it's an inside world.

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Anne Marie Graham: absolutely. Yeah. And I think, like, I say, it is about going within and

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Anne Marie Graham: you know, I will always say to people, once you become aware, then you have a choice.

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Anne Marie Graham: you have a choice as to whether you stay stuck or you change

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Anne Marie Graham: but until you become aware, so awareness is the key.

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Anne Marie Graham: And it's the key for any change. We have to become aware of what's not working

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Anne Marie Graham: before we can actually change things to work better and work differently and produce different results.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, exactly. Exactly. It's so true.

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Lis Karin: We we both have read this

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Lis Karin: story about the flies on the window.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes.

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Lis Karin: Yes, you square.

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Anne Marie Graham: The blue squares.

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Lis Karin: Book.

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Lis Karin: How the fly just work! Harder and harder and harder

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Lis Karin: because it was want to go out in freedom through.

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Anne Marie Graham: Do we.

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Lis Karin: No, it never works, we know it never works. It ends up dead, dried, and dead on the.

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Anne Marie Graham: Will not.

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Lis Karin: Fame

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Lis Karin: So how did you? Because we have learned to know each other, Anne, Marie and I in Bob Proctor's company we are both consultants for Bob Proctor and work in his amazing material. How did you come in contact with Bob Proctor and his teaching.

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Anne Marie Graham: I love Bob's, you know, way of delivering material I loved. How kind of black and white he was about things. I just I I loved his style of delivery, but I actually didn't end up certifying in terms of consultancy with him until 2,019. It was just it. It wasn't because I I guess I wasn't coaching full time.

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Anne Marie Graham: I would have listened to him for many years on things like Cds and Dvds before say, we had Youtube and Podcasts and things like that, I would have he, he himself, Jack Canfield, and Brian Tracy would have been the 3 that I followed the most.

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Anne Marie Graham: Yes, all 3, absolutely.

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Lis Karin: they many people say money is not important. I say the opposite, because money is super important. In our society. We need money.

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Anne Marie Graham: Thanks, Liz, thank you for having me. It's lovely to be here and speak to you and your audience.

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Lis Karin: Yeah, I I'm very happy that you are here. What? What kind? What is the clients you have today? What is the usually usual? What is the client.

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Anne Marie Graham: Obviously, because my background is health, I tend to attract a lot of health professionals. But I I'm not limited to to health, but it tends to be professional services. So a lot of coaches actually consultants in various areas.

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Anne Marie Graham: or the other type of business owners that I tend to work with are they're at a level of growth. And there's that fear around expanding, maybe taking on more people, or bigger premises or new systems, but they know, if they don't.

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Anne Marie Graham: Hey! Liz!

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Lis Karin: You that have listened to Anne Marie and want to come in contact with her. You have the, the.

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Lis Karin: the ways to come in contact with Amali. You see them under in the in the notes to this episode.

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Lis Karin: I am Liz Corinne, and I am so happy you have listened. Thank you so much.