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TRIGGERED! Stop Reacting, Start Responding: Navigating Triggers in Relationships (Part 1)

Katie Heeran, LMFT and Yoga Instructor, and Diane Squier, Embodiment Coach and Tantra Healer Season 3 Episode 1

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Why do small moments in relationships sometimes feel so big?

In this episode of We Can Relate, we explore what really happens when you feel emotionally activated in conflict — and how to shift from automatic reactions to grounded, intentional responses.

Triggers aren’t random. They often reflect deeper patterns, past experiences, expectations, and unmet needs. The good news? With awareness, you can interrupt the cycle.

In this conversation, we cover:
 • Why relationship triggers feel intense
 • The difference between reacting and responding
 • How conflict escalates — and how to slow it down
 • The hidden patterns that fuel recurring arguments
 • Practical tools to stay steady during emotional moments
 • How to create more connection, even in disagreement

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “That wasn’t how I wanted to handle that,” this episode is for you.

Learning to pause, reflect, and respond differently doesn’t mean suppressing feelings. It means understanding them — and using them wisely.

Because when one person shifts, the relationship shifts.



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