Cold Hard Feelings
Like the snowflake, no one person's story is the same as another. In mine, you'll find a winding road with twists and turns that led me here; sitting down, talking about it.
Cold Hard Feelings
What is the Truth, and How Can We Use It?
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What if the problems that weigh you down are just specks in the vastness of the universe? Join us on Cold, Hard Feelings as we confront this bold notion and explore how shifting your perspective can transform your life. We unpack the relentless rhythm of the sun rising and setting, a reminder that time marches on regardless of our troubles. By examining our habitual fixation on past events, we challenge you to break free from the cycle of negativity that ties yesterday's burdens to tomorrow's potential. Personal stories of triumph over depression illuminate the power of reframing one's thoughts, urging you to reclaim control over your future through actionable change today.
In this heartfelt and insightful episode, we grapple with the complexities of the human experience and the profound truths often overlooked in our daily lives. We delve into the delicate balance of acknowledging difficulties while choosing not to let them define our future. Listen as we guide you through practical steps to address and resolve issues, emphasizing resilience and growth. With the certainty of the sun's rise and fall as our anchor, we invite you to embrace the opportunity each new day brings—an opportunity to live fully in the present and steer your life towards a more hopeful outlook.
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Welcome back to Cold, hard Feelings, everybody. And today we're going to talk about the truth. The truth is funny because that's just what it is. The truth is funny. Nobody cares about anything that I say, that you say what I think, what you think, Nobody truly cares. And when I say nobody cares, they might listen, they might hear it, they might contemplate it, but nobody truly cares. You know, that's the truth. The truth is big picture.
Speaker 1:Think about the problems that you've got going on in your life right now. All of those problems exist until you die, right, big picture I'm not. I'm not trying to minimize anything going on. I'm not trying to downplay anybody's issues that they're dealing with in life, but the big picture is that the sun comes up and it goes down, that the sun comes up and it goes down, whether or not you're alive today or tomorrow. And it sounds really harsh. But when you really think about it, when you really put your hand on the table and you really think about it, why are you stressing over whatever the problems are? If that's the case, your problems start to seem a little bit smaller when you realize that you're on a little blue marble in the middle of nowhere and that's like the grand scheme of things right. Why are we stressing about what we've got going on if the sun's just going to come up and go down anyways? And the crazy part about the sun coming up and going down is that once it does, it's a whole different day to do something different.
Speaker 1:If you're coping with something that's really difficult at work, you know you messed up big time and you don't know how you're gonna fix it. First of all, start somewhere, make some bullet points. What was the problem? What? What caused the issue? What is the issue? How can the issue be remedied? There are really no problems that cannot be solved. And if there are problems that can't be solved, guess what? The sun is still gonna come up and it's gonna go down, and that's a really hard concept for a lot of people to come to terms with.
Speaker 1:I have had some issues in the past within myself and that led to some really really really tough times, some deep, dark depression, some I mean just it got real bad. But thankfully, one day I realized wait a minute, I feel like this and it's as bad as it is. Why? It's because I'm still going over the things that happened yesterday, two days ago, two weeks ago, two months ago, but I'm going to spend tomorrow doing the same thing. Why, when I could go into tomorrow and simply feel differently? Now, that's crazy what you just. You were depressed one day and then the next day you weren't.
Speaker 1:No, what I'm saying is why am I letting yesterday affect my tomorrow, when I can do something about it today? That's part of the truth. The sun is going to come up and it's going to go down, no matter what you do. Why waste a future year when you can really change it? Nobody knows what's going to happen tomorrow, so why act like you know what's going to happen tomorrow? The main thing that you know is going to happen is the sun is going to come up and it's going to go down. That's like one of the only certainties, other than the fact that you're going to pay taxes and die one day, right?
Speaker 1:So what is the point of being in this bad mood, this dark depression, this, this all is going to end and all this other, all is ending for me and it's over, and all of this stuff? Why feel like that? Why do that to yourself when tomorrow hasn't even happened yet? I've never really understood why we do that to ourselves. We sit there and we mull over it, and we mull over and mull over it and we wallow in our despair. We sit and bathe in it and it hasn't even happened yet. If yesterday has that big of an impact, to the point where it affects your tomorrow and the day after that, well simply it's just not good. I'm not saying that you can't be depressed. I'm not saying you can't be upset, but what I am saying is don't let your tomorrow get altered by what happened yesterday. Start taking today to change what happens tomorrow.
Speaker 1:One of the things that I had a long time problem with depression with was I was just in the impression I was just going to be alone forever. Right, I'm like. Well, I mean, that's it for me, I'm just going to be alone forever. How in the world can a person say that? How can you say you're going to be alone forever in your what? 18, 20, 22, 24, whatever age you are? How are you going to say, oh, you're going to be alone forever, that's it for me. And your forever hasn't even happened yet. Forever hasn't even come around and gone yet. You're still alive. Why feel like that? Why say that the sun is going to? It's the why say that the sun has already gone down and it's still up in the sky. Yeah, it's going to go down eventually, but that doesn't mean that that is the shape of what it looks like.
Speaker 1:Change what you've got going on tomorrow by looking and updating and changing the way you look at it. Today, you're going through a bad breakup. Okay, go through your bad breakup, but guess what it happened? Okay, great, the bad breakup happened yesterday, 10 minutes ago, whenever it happened. But guess what? The sun came up and it's going to go down. Get back up, go back out.
Speaker 1:Don't waste your time wallowing in self-pity and despair and saying, oh, my life is over because that person's not in it anymore. No, you're still in your life. That's what matters. If you are baking or cooking and you fail something miserable and it's just so bad and you just can't stand to look at it, taste it, whatever it is, guess what? Try it again. The truth is that we don't want to know the truth. Nobody really wants to know the truth because it's so much easier to be blind, and I don't know why it is. I love asking the question why and how come? The truth is that the sun comes up and it goes down. A lot of people who know me hear me say that all the time. What it means is that, no matter what you're going through in your life, the sun is going to come up and it's going to go down, and then a new day starts. That's the truth, thank you.