Piece Of Mind Podcast
Welcome to Piece of Mind, where we piece together the parts of your mind to help you live a life that’s authentic, unapologetic, and absolutely fulfilling.
I’m your host Ashley Badman, a mindset coach and psychology student, here to guide you through the world of subconscious re-programming, relationships, belief systems, and patterns.
This isn’t your typical mindset podcast. We’re diving deep into the core of who you are, tackling everything from self-sabotage and people-pleasing to attachment styles and beyond. We’ll uncover the deeper shit that makes you who you are, so you can grow, evolve, and build a life you’re obsessed with.
Expect a mix of evidence-based insights, energetic shifts, and a touch of chaos as we explore how to heal, optimize, and re-program your life.
This podcast is for those who refuse to settle, who are committed to living life fully and getting the best for themselves.
Get ready for straight talk, practical strategies, and a few surprises along the way. If you’re ready to stop hiding from yourself and start living unapologetically, you’re in the right place. Tune in and let’s get into it.
Piece Of Mind Podcast
Ep 13: Mindset Reset Series Part 3 - Mental Strength Toolkit
Welcome to Episode 3 of “Mindset Reset for Your Best Year Yet,” a 5-part series designed to help you create lasting change in 2025.
In this episode, we’re unlocking the mental strength toolkit and diving into what it really means to build resilience in the face of life’s challenges.
We’ll explore what resilience is, why it matters, and the tools you need to bounce back, adapt, and thrive, no matter what comes your way.
If you’re ready to strengthen your mindset, stay grounded under pressure, and create a life you’re proud of, this episode is for you.
Let’s build your resilience together.
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Welcome back to the Mindset Reset for your best year yet. I'm Ash and we are up to episode three already. So far, we've already explored letting go of what's holding you back and rewriting the belief systems that shape your life. Today, we've also explored courage, and today we're building on that foundation with one of the most crucial skills for creating a life that you're actually proud of, and that is resilience. Because the thing is, life is super unpredictable. You would know that listening to this, you would know that so many things have occurred in your life that you had no idea were going to happen. No matter how much you plan, there are going to be moments that test you, that it make you question everything and they really leave you wondering if you can even handle it. But this is where resilience comes in. Resilience is what gives you the strength to really just stand back up after every challenge, after every setback, after every hard fucking thing that is thrown your way. This is the thing that allows you to keep going. It's the thing that says this this is not going to break me and I am going to actually grow through this. I'm not just going to get through this. This is going to be the thing that actually helps me grow, and this episode is all about equipping you with the mental strength to face life head on. We are not here to avoid challenges. We're here to learn how to rise through them, and that's really, really important.
Speaker 0:A lot of the time, people think that they're working on their mindset because they want to build this perfect life. They no longer want to have hardships in their life or hard things that have happened and all those different things are reoccurring, and I completely get that. And whilst that can be a really beautiful goal to have and, of course, we all want to live these problem-free lives where nothing ever goes wrong and working on your mindset can prevent a lot of things that go wrong, things that are within our control but the truth is life still happens and problems are still going to pop up. So what we actually want to do is actually learn to be mentally strong. We want to learn to be resilient so that we can actually learn from these tough moments, continue to move through them and not let them ruin or derail our whole life. So in today's episode, we're going to unpack what resilience really is and why it actually matters, the traits that make mentally strong people mentally strong, practical tools to build resilience and handle setbacks when life doesn't go as planned and, most importantly, how.
Speaker 0:Resilience isn't just something you're born with. It is a skill that you can develop, starting right now. By the end of this episode, you're going to feel more empowered and more capable and fully freaking, ready to take on 2025 with a mindset that says no matter what happens, I've got this. And we cannot underestimate the power of that mindset because a lot of the times, the reason people don't do the thing, make the big decisions, go after their dreams, is because they don't trust that they're going to be okay either way. And in life we're going to try things and we're going to go after goals, and they're not always going to work out and we are going to fail. And we are going to have to be really, really resilient people to keep going, to keep trying again, to keep pursuing a new path, whatever it is, to learn the lessons. And it's not about building a life where nothing can possibly go wrong. It's about building a mindset that says, even if this doesn't go to plan, I know I'm going to be okay either way and it's because of that mindset that you will go after so much more.
Speaker 0:So what is resilience and why does it actually matter? Resilience is, quite literally, your ability to bounce back, it's your ability to adapt and it's your ability to really just grow stronger when life gets hard. But let's be very, very clear Resilience isn't about pretending everything is fine or brushing off the pain. It's about facing challenges head on, feeling the emotions and deciding to move forward anyway. Resilience matters because it shapes how you show up in the world, and without it, every setback feels like a wall that you can't climb. But with it, you see setbacks for what they really are Stepping stones to something better or a redirection. Think about it your ability to handle hard things determines how far you'll go.
Speaker 0:Whether it's reaching that big goal, whether it's navigating a tough relationship or staying committed to your values, resilience is what allows you to keep going when it feels easier to actually give up. So I want you to ask yourself when life gets hard, how do I respond? Do I shut down, do I overthink? Do I avoid the problem altogether, or do I dig deep and look for a way forward? Whatever your answer is, know this resilience is not about being perfect. It's about choosing to try again, even when it feels hard, and the thing about resilience is resilient people aren't any more special than you. They've just developed certain traits that help them navigate life, and these traits aren't exclusive to them. They're things that you can build as well. So we're going to go over each of them, of what I recognize in people who are resilient and the traits that we should be really striving for for ourselves if we want to have the most resilient mindset. The first one is adaptability, and I know I say that wrong adaptability. Adaptability oh my gosh, you guys, I don't know how to say that word, but that is the first one, and what this trait basically means is that when someone is mentally strong, they are able to embrace the fact that life always won't go according to plan. What's possible now?
Speaker 0:Adaptability isn't about giving up on your goals. It's about finding new ways to achieve them when circumstances shift, and this is really, really, really important, because you can have a vision and a goal and you can know the steps to get there, but that doesn't mean that those steps are going to be smooth, sailing or guaranteed or actually going to work. It doesn't mean that you're not going to get to the goal and it doesn't mean that the goal is impossible. It just means that you have to actually take a different route. But if you are not willing to adapt, you are going to sink into the mindset of I knew this wasn't possible, I knew I was going to fail. It's too hard, I can't do it. And that is going to actually be the very thing that derails you from getting to the goal. Not that the step wasn't as perfect as you thought it was going to be. It's the mindset and how you actually react to that. So the ability to adapt is actually extremely powerful in ensuring that you still are able to reach your goals.
Speaker 0:The second trait is grit. Grit is literally just perseverance, and perseverance is extremely, extremely, extremely important. It is the ability to keep showing up, even when things feel hard. It's not glamorous and it's definitely not easy, but grit is what separates those who stop at the first hurdle from those who end up getting to their goal and beyond. The third one is optimism. So resilient people have just kind of like a natural optimistic sense about them, an optimistic way of thinking. They don't go straight to the negative, straight to doom and gloom. They're like cool, this has happened. Like, what did I learn from this? What is the positive out of this. They don't ignore the hard stuff, but they trust that the challenges are temporary and solutions are always within reach. This mindset isn't about wishful thinking. It is about choosing to focus on what's possible instead of what's not possible.
Speaker 0:The next one is self-awareness Knowing yourself, your triggers, your patterns and your limits is a game changer. Resilient people don't push themselves to the point of breaking. They know when to pause, reflect and recharge. And number five is purpose. They have a really strong sense of why, and it really anchors them during the tough times. When you are clear on what you're working toward, it is so much easier to stay steady. Even when the journey feels a little bit rocky, a little bit uncertain, has been a lot harder than maybe you expected it to be.
Speaker 0:So if I was someone who was listening to this and felt maybe I'm not the most resilient person, maybe as soon as things get hard, I give up. Maybe as soon as there's a setback or a challenge, I feel like I'm not going to get there, or I start to spiral into negative self-talk, I would look at these five traits that I've just rattled off to you and I would start to pinpoint in which trait do I lack? In which trait could I start to improve, and how am I actually going to improve on that? Is it adaptability? Do I need to be someone who's a little bit more fluid, instead of stuck and set in stone in how things need to go? Do I need to be more gritty and have more perseverance? Start to really think about the area in which that you can focus on and the area in which you can improve, because that's what we want to be doing right. We want to learn how to be a more resilient person, and these traits are the very thing that is going to get you there. Now, what we're going to look at is how you can start building resilience.
Speaker 0:So these tools that I'm going to give you, they're not complicated. They are not complicated like anything else to do with mindset. It doesn't have to be over complicated. They are about small, intentional shifts that make a very, very big difference over time. So the first thing is being able to reframe challenges when something hard happens.
Speaker 0:Ask yourself what is this teaching me? What is the gift in this? And it doesn't mean that you have to immediately find a lesson in everything. I've been through some very hard things in my life as well, specifically when my son got really, really sick and I didn't want to fucking know the lesson. I didn't even want to think about that. I felt hurt, I felt upset, and that's okay. These don't have to be immediate things that you ask yourself depending on the severity of the thing that you're going through, but these can be useful tools depending on the circumstance. And even if it's not, I want to know the lesson right now. Or what is this teaching me? Maybe it's just that inner voice that says I may not know what this is teaching me right now and that may not be clear to me what the lesson is, but eventually it will be clear to me and that's kind of what I'm going to focus on and for me, that's really what got me through. I didn't know the lesson, but I knew at some point whether that be a year down the track, two years down the track that I was going to learn something and it was going to build a more resilient me and I just had to trust in that and trust in that process. You can also ask yourself the question like how can this make me stronger? So there's different kind of things that you can ask yourself that are going to help you be able to reframe what is happening to you.
Speaker 0:This is not about sugarcoating the problem. It is about finding meaning in the struggle. Every challenge is able to hold a lesson if you are willing to look at it. The second thing that you're going to do is you're going to practice gratitude. Gratitude doesn't make harder times disappear, but it shifts your focus to what's still good. Even on your worst days, there is something to be grateful for a lesson learned, a moment of kindness or simply the strength to keep going. Maybe you can just be grateful for the fact that you're alive.
Speaker 0:You woke up today. There is someone in your life that loves you, even if it just comes down to the most basic and minor things, like I woke up and I took a breath today. Try to find something each day that you actually feel grateful for. And the thing with gratitude it's not about simply rattling off. I feel grateful for coffee. I feel grateful for my partner. It is actually allowing yourself to sit with the gratitude. Why do you feel grateful for those things? How do they actually make you feel? Because when you're just speaking, it, it's literally just your brain. You're not including your body in this process and to really get the most out of the process, we have to include our body and our brain. So allow yourself to feel it in your body. Allow yourself to really feel the emotion of why you are actually grateful for that thing.
Speaker 0:The third thing is build boundaries and support systems. Resilience does not mean doing everything alone. It doesn't mean that you always have to be the strong one and figure it out on your own and you don't ask for help because you can do it yourself. No, that is not resilience. It's probably just a little bit silly, because we all need support. Everybody needs support, especially when we are going through something really challenging. So don't be afraid to reach out. It means knowing when to ask for help. It means knowing who you can lean on or building that support network for yourself and, at the same time, it's about setting boundaries to protect your energy and focus on what truly matters.
Speaker 0:The fourth thing is really just about embracing self-compassion. Beating yourself up does sweet fuck all. It does not build resilience. This whole like tough love approach and I do believe there is a time for tough love, but we have tough love completely mixed up if we think tough love is just being really brutal to ourselves and that's going to make us a stronger individual. No, it's not going to make you a stronger individual. It's probably going to make you have a really low self-worth and that's not beneficial for anybody. So it's not helping you build resilience. It actually breaks your resilience down. Resilient people treat themselves with kindness. They recognize that setbacks are a part of the process. They are not proof of failure. They do not mean anything about you as an individual person. They do not take away your sense of self-worth or who you are or how valuable you are.
Speaker 0:Number five focus on what you can control. This is something that I say to myself quite often, because I think it is the most important thing. Resilience is about redirecting your energy towards what's within your power. You can't control every outcome. You can't control everything. There are going to be loads of things that you can't control, but you can control your actions, you can control your perspective, you can control your mindset and you can control your actions. You can control your perspective, you can control your mindset and you can control your effort. So you have to make sure, in times of challenge or hardship or setback, to ask yourself the question what is within my control right now and what is not, and how much time and energy and thought is going into the things that I can't even control. That I can actually redirect to the things that I can control. That's actually going to be beneficial to me and useful to me. What's also very important to mention about resilience is it isn't just about surviving tough moments. It's about what happens when you keep showing up day after day with a mindset that says I can handle this. So what we're going to talk about now is just like some long-term rewards of building resilience and why it is one of the most valuable skills that you will ever develop and that you should be focusing on developing.
Speaker 0:The first thing is you become more confident in yourself. Every time that you navigate a challenge, you prove to yourself that you are capable. That confidence becomes a part of who you are. You stop doubting your ability to handle hard things because you've seen firsthand what you are truly capable of. The second thing it does is it really strengthens your emotional stability. So resilience doesn't mean you won't feel overwhelmed or upset, but it means those emotions won't control you Over time. Resilience helps you regulate your emotions. It helps you stay grounded and it actually just helps you bounce back faster when life feels really freaking hard or chaotic. The third thing is it helps you build a life of possibility. When you stop fearing challenges and you stop playing so small, resilience allows you to have so many doors of opportunities that you might have actually avoided before. You start taking risks, you start pursuing goals and you start stepping into the life that you've actually always wanted, because you know that you can handle whatever comes your way either way.
Speaker 0:The fourth thing is you create a ripple effect. Resilience it's not just about you. It impacts everyone around you. When you show up with strength and grace, you empower others to do the same, whether it's your family, your friends, your community. Your resilience has the power to create a positive ripple effect in the lives of others, and to me, that's pretty freaking beautiful. So in those moments of hardships, remind yourself this isn't just about me. This is about all of the people around me that I love and care about, and I get to have impact on their lives. What a brilliant and magical opportunity. The fifth thing is you align with your future self. So every act of resilience is really a step toward becoming the person that you want to be, and that's what we're all about here. We're talking about 2025. We're talking about what we're leaving behind in 2024, right, we are talking about our future selves and who we want to become in the year that we want ahead of us. Your future self isn't someone who avoids challenges. There's someone who embraces them, grows through them and comes out stronger on the other side.
Speaker 0:So let's talk about some actual strategies for handling setbacks when life doesn't go as planned. Here are some ways that you can respond. That is, responding from a more resilient mindset. So the first thing you can do is just pause and acknowledge it's okay to feel frustrated or upset. Resilience doesn't mean suppressing emotions. It means honoring them and then choosing to move forward anyway.
Speaker 0:Number two is just ask better questions. Instead of asking why is this happening to me, ask what's the next step that I can take? What's still possible, what can I do at the moment? Number three take small, consistent action. Big challenges can feel super overwhelming, but if you actually allow yourself to think a little bit clearly, you can break them down into small steps and make them a lot more manageable. Progress doesn't have to be perfect. It's just about being consistent. And the fourth thing, which is super important, is to actually reflect and learn. Every setback carries a lesson. Take the time to ask what did this teach me? How can I grow from this?
Speaker 0:Resilient people see every experience, good or bad, as a part of their journey and, like I said before, that doesn't have to be an immediate thing. It doesn't have to be fucking an hour after whatever's happened to you has happened. It can be further down the track, but just actually give yourself the time to reflect. Give yourself the time to learn, otherwise you'll never know what you've actually learned. And again, just to finish up this episode on resilience with some final thoughts Resilience is about showing up for yourself, even when it's hard.
Speaker 0:It's about choosing growth over comfort, strength over fear and possibility over defeat.
Speaker 0:Every time that you choose resilience, you're proving to yourself that you're capable of handling literally anything that life throws your way. So your challenge this week is to think about one area of your life where you've been struggling and what's one small, intentional step that you can take to move forward and start there. Next week, we're going to be talking about future you and how to show up for the life that you actually want. This is where we'll get clear on your vision for 2025 and break down how to embody that version of yourself, starting today. It's going to be a powerful one, so please don't miss it. I hope you guys are loving this. I hope you guys are loving these short, punchy episodes that are actually really freaking powerful in their intention of helping you have a better 2025. Thank you for being here, thank you for committing to your growth, and let's really make 2025 the year that you build a mindset that you actually truly fucking can handle anything, because you can. I'll see you guys in the next one.