Piece Of Mind Podcast
Welcome to Piece of Mind, where we piece together the parts of your mind to help you live a life that’s authentic, unapologetic, and absolutely fulfilling.
I’m your host Ashley Badman, a mindset coach and psychology student, here to guide you through the world of subconscious re-programming, relationships, belief systems, and patterns.
This isn’t your typical mindset podcast. We’re diving deep into the core of who you are, tackling everything from self-sabotage and people-pleasing to attachment styles and beyond. We’ll uncover the deeper shit that makes you who you are, so you can grow, evolve, and build a life you’re obsessed with.
Expect a mix of evidence-based insights, energetic shifts, and a touch of chaos as we explore how to heal, optimize, and re-program your life.
This podcast is for those who refuse to settle, who are committed to living life fully and getting the best for themselves.
Get ready for straight talk, practical strategies, and a few surprises along the way. If you’re ready to stop hiding from yourself and start living unapologetically, you’re in the right place. Tune in and let’s get into it.
Piece Of Mind Podcast
Ep 26: Why Most People Don't Reach Their Full Potential
We often limit our potential not because we lack ability, but because we don't understand how truly capable we already are.
• Most people live far below what they could achieve in this lifetime
• Our brain, nervous system and mind have already put limits on us
• Other people achieving big things aren't necessarily smarter or better
• We don't need to remove fear to move forward – we can learn to work through it
• Safety means predictability, making the unknown feel unsafe
• High achievers can be trapped in overworking, perfectionism and burnout
• Your full potential is not a destination but how you show up every day
• Time is passing either way – you decide how to use it
Stop getting in your own way by: getting honest with yourself, becoming comfortable with discomfort, stopping thinking you have time, and not waiting for permission.
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Welcome back to the Peace of Mind podcast, the podcast where we actually dive deep into the mind, the patterns, the bullshit that holds us back and, most importantly, how to actually create real, lasting change in your life. Let's get straight into this one. Most people will never reach their full potential, not because they're not smart enough, not because they don't have the right skills or the right background or the right resources, but because they don't actually understand how capable they are. Please let that fucking land. They do not understand how capable they are. You listening to this land? They do not understand how capable they are. You listening to this right now.
Speaker 1:There are so many people that I have conversations with that I've either coached or that I've just been in their presence and chatted to them because I love deep conversation. So I always like the chances that I have a surface level conversation with anybody that I meet is very rare. But one thing that is so abundantly clear to me is that majority of people are living far below what they are truly capable of achieving. They are living far below what they could actually be achieving in this lifetime, and that, to me, that is an absolute fucking tragedy, because the thing is, you have capabilities inside you right now that you will never, ever tap into unless you start shifting the way that you think and the way, unless you start shifting the way that you think and the way that you behave and the way that you show up in life and I'm not saying this as, like you know, a motivational speaker kind of way. I mean it literally your brain and your nervous system, your mind. That kind of way. The science, the evidence-based things. That's what I want you to really understand because, like for me, and the reason that I do what I do is because I know that I had limited myself so much in my life. I know that I was a thing that was standing in my own way, but I know that to be true for so many people.
Speaker 1:And I also know that when people get out of their own way and they step into their full capabilities and their full potential, the world is a better place. Everyone, everyone around you, benefits from that. And I am here doing exactly what I'm doing every single day because I want to make the world a better place. And I know that sounds so naive and I know most people roll their eyes at that and be like good fucking luck, but if we don't have people out there trying to make the world a better place, then the world will never be a better place. So I believe that I have the capability to make the world a better place and that doesn't mean I think that I have the capability to change the whole fucking world. But I know I have the capability to change myself and if I can work on myself which I am obsessed with mindset and psychology and how the brain works and how the mind works and I'm always curious about my own thoughts and why I do what I do and the trauma that I endured as a child and all those different things and how that impacts me. I'm so curious about that and if I can in some way, shape or form, bring that to whoever will listen and help them actually understand themselves on a deeper level so that they can actually start to get out of their own way.
Speaker 1:I know that you becoming a better person is going to impact your partner. It's going to impact your kids. It's going to impact your friends. It's going to impact people that maybe just meet you in passing and they don't even play a big role in your life. You are going to impact them and then, as a collective, all of us that listen to this share this fucking podcast, share it with your friends, share it with anybody. You get to be a part of that, and that's all I want to do.
Speaker 1:I just see myself as one tiny piece of this puzzle of sharing what I know and what I learn, and why I dedicate my whole life to learning about psychology. I'm doing a degree on psychology that I don't even really love at the moment because I struggle to concentrate and I'm almost certain I have ADHD, but I'm committing to it because I want to learn as much as I can about psychology. I will read every single book about psychology in the mind. I watch countless YouTubes, I watch so many TED Talks, I read so many research papers, because the more that I know, the better I can make myself and the better that I can then help others. So the point of this podcast and this episode is almost it's my way of saying you can fucking do more.
Speaker 1:What you believe that you want to do right now, the goals that you have set for yourself right now, you can probably achieve a hundred times more than that. You are limiting yourself, and if you have goals right now that you haven't even got close to achieving, or you keep getting in your own way, or you keep self-sabotaging, or whatever it is. It's like that's what I want to help people with, because I know when you get out of your own way, you will achieve beyond what you even have planned for yourself right now. So that's what we're talking about. We're talking about this from not only my own personal experience, but from fucking evidence, from the research, from all of the learning and understanding I have about how humans work. Your mind and your, your patterns and your conditioning. They have already put limits on you. And you think, like you truly think, that you're aiming high. You do.
Speaker 1:I come across so many people that tell me their goals and then I'm like what do you mean? Like you could be doing so much more than that. You need to set that bar so much higher. And we do like we set the bar lower because we have all of our own limiting beliefs. We have all of these thoughts that make us think that we're not capable and we're not going to be the person that can do that. We're stuck in comparison. It's not that we don't dream big, it's not that we don't fucking want it. It's that we limit ourselves.
Speaker 1:I remember I had a client come to me actually not that long ago and she was like you know, I'm building an app I won't name who it is because that's her story to tell but she's like I'm building an app and I'll just be happy if, like, five people sign up or 10 people sign up. And I looked her dead in the eye and I was like are you fucking kidding me? Right now? I know you, I know what you're capable of. I know how good this thing is going to be. You can get thousands and thousands and thousands of people signing up.
Speaker 1:Do not limit yourself to just hoping for five people. And you're doing that because you want to play safe, because you want to soothe yourself and you want to lower the expectation in case you don't meet it. But it's like let's stop doing that. Let's learn to set the bar higher for ourselves. Let's learn to see how truly powerful we are and start to actually believe that for one, but act in a way that allows us to reach the things that we want to reach.
Speaker 1:And sometimes, like my whole thing is like. I know I see a lot online where it's like if you don't believe in something and you don't believe in yourself, then you're not going to act in a way that's going to allow you to have that and there is truth to that for sure. Like our beliefs dictate our actions. But I also believe within myself that we don't necessarily have to believe in ourselves to put one foot in front of the other, and if we're waiting for this big belief that we're capable of achieving it, we might never actually take those steps. I think that's really important, because everything that I've achieved in my life right now, there was not a point where I believed that I was capable of this. I didn't believe that I was capable of doing what I'm doing right now, but every single day I just showed up for myself because I was driven and I was ambitious and I was willing to do the work. So even if you have those doubts, even if you have those fears, even if you are riddled with all the reasons why you can't and why not you and why other people, so long as you can keep putting one foot in front of the other, it's okay that you have those thoughts.
Speaker 1:And what I think is super interesting is like I did this the other day. I was talking to someone the other day and we're talking about, like you know, like Andrew Huberman, david Goggins, mel Robbins, all the like they're big name people, right and I was saying like we're talking about my fear of getting hate comments and on TikTok I've received a lot of hate comments and how that makes me feel and all those different things. And as soon as it came out of my mouth I knew like I could catch myself in it straight away and I was like you know, those types of people, they don't care if people fucking hate them. They don't care if people leave hate comments. And the person who I was chatting to which bless him, he's so great, he challenges me so much, he's a friend of ours. And he was like but how do you know that? Because I can guarantee you they do care and I can guarantee you they have cared on their journey, but they've kept going anyway. And it made me have a moment to myself of just like it's so easy to assume that other people are achieving their biggest, wildest goals and dreams without fear, without doubt, without any challenges, without any struggles. We can look at them and they're out there doing the thing and be like, oh, wouldn't it be nice if you just didn't care what people think? Wouldn't it be nice if you could just fully be yourself and that wasn't challenging? But how do we know that that wasn't challenging for them? We can be living in so many assumptions of other people that keep us so small, and I want you to catch yourself in that right now, like I had to catch myself in what I was saying, because now that shifted something in me where I'm like I want to fucking take up more space. I want to talk about this more. I want to put myself out there more, because it's not in the absence of not fearing hate comments, it's knowing that I have the capability to deal with that.
Speaker 1:A lot of the time where people go wrong as well is they think they have to remove fear to be able to keep moving forward, that they need to work through the fear, and a lot of the times that's actually not true. You can't tell someone not to be scared of something. Well, just don't worry about the hate comments, just don't worry if people are fucking horrible to you. We can't tell people not to worry about the thing that they fear, but what we can do is we can help ourselves or we can help other people believe that they are the person that can get through that fear regardless. We might not remove it, but you are courageous and you are brave and you can handle it. And when we say that, it's like, yeah, I do fear that, but I can fucking handle it and I am going to be okay and I am going to put things in place to help myself navigate that when and if it actually happens.
Speaker 1:Don't stay stuck in assumption. Don't assume that people that have achieved what you want to achieve or are much further along than you have got there easy, have made decisions easily, have done it without any fucking fear, worry or challenge, because it's not true. They have, and so can you. So the point of that was that you think that you're aiming high, but you are probably still playing so small compared to what you are actually capable of. I want you to think of like the current goal that you have set for yourself right now and I want you to tell yourself this is a small goal, like the biggest goal that you can think of in your mind, and be like that small, because when we set goals and when we think of the things that we want to achieve, we're thinking about it through the lens of what we know and what we see and what we've experienced in our lifetime, and our environment and the people that we follow on social media and all those different things. But there's bigger and there's more. We need to open our mind to the possibility of more and start to realize our own potential to achieve those things.
Speaker 1:Other people are not more special than you. Other people are not, you know, necessarily better than you, and that's something to really let land as well. The people that are achieving all the things that you want to achieve aren't necessarily smarter. They're not necessarily better, they're not necessarily more confident. They're just putting one foot in front of the other, in front of the other. Did I say that? I did. I'm getting passionate. I start talking fast when I get passionate, but they're just putting one foot in front of the other and they're just doing the fucking thing and it's just like can you have so much acceptance for who you are without trying to change it or remove it? Can you be like, instead of saying I wish that I didn't care if people left hate comments, I wish that you know I was more confident or I was smarter or I was like this person. Can you have radical self-acceptance for who you are and actually use that to your advantage instead of keep seeing it as a disadvantage? So long as you see yourself as your own disadvantage rather than your own advantage in your life, you are going to limit the shit out of yourself. Okay, before we go any deeper, I need to make something very, very clear with this type of conversation, because people get this idea of full potential completely wrong and like you're reaching a full potential. Are you going to reach a full potential? And an interesting thing as well. So I did a form the other day.
Speaker 1:I'm researching a lot on high achievers how the high achiever mind works. What are the biggest limitations of the high achiever? How they think, what they fear, what propels them forward? What mindset do they have the people that do succeed versus the people that don't succeed? I'm doing a lot on that behind the scenes, a lot of learning on that, and I got people to fill out this form. I've had over 20 people fill out this high achievers form and what I found interesting is a common fear across the board for all of these high achievers, and let me make this clear. I had people on there the treasurer of Westpac filled out that form, the past treasurer of Westpac. I had someone who's about to graduate as a doctor fill out that form. Like there are some impressive people filling out this form, and a lot of fears that people had was I'm not going to reach my full potential. That was a real fear and I want to address something on that in this podcast today.
Speaker 1:People think full potential is some final destination, like one day you're going to arrive and you're going to look around and you're going to be like, oh my God, shit, like I did it, I have reached my full potential and now I can relax. But no, that is not how it works. Your full potential is always moving. It is always expanding as you grow, as you evolve and as you push past your current limits. It's your full potential, is how you show up every single day. That is your full potential.
Speaker 1:Because what is going to happen when you are on the journey, on the path to get to the thing that you want to achieve, this thing that you think is going to be the big achievement, the full potential thing? You were going to learn so many lessons, you were going to face so many challenges. You were going to grow as a person. You were going to learn so much about yourself. You were going to overcome yourself in so many different ways to get to that full potential. And then you're going to achieve the thing, because of fucking course you are right, of course you're going to achieve the thing. You're going to get there. And then what's going to happen? You are now a new person. At that thing that you have achieved, you are no longer the person that started out on this journey. You have grown. You have more wisdom, you have more knowledge, you have more resilience, you have more capabilities. So then, what do you think is going to happen? That person, the person that's now where you are, is going to dream bigger. They're going to realize that they can achieve more. They're going to be more driven and more motivated and more ambitious. So now, what happens to that full potential? Is it now not? It's now not there. It's now at the next goalpost. That is not a way to live.
Speaker 1:Your full potential is simply how you choose to show up every single day. It's what you choose to do every single day. To me, someone living to their full potential is someone who can overcome themselves every day and keep moving forward. Because, no matter who you are, no matter how confident people appear, every single person who has a brain and a mind is having things that pop up in their mind that could limit them. Every single person has fears. Every single person has limiting beliefs. Every single person has conditioning or experiences that have occurred in their life that could potentially stop them in their tracks from getting to where they actually want to be.
Speaker 1:And if you were going to be the person that chooses to show up every single day, regardless of that, even when you have a day where it does defeat you, where you let your fears overcome you, how do you handle it the next day? Do you shame yourself and judge yourself and then say you want to give up and say you're not capable, or do you say, okay, today's a new, fresh day, new, fresh energy, let's go. That is someone to me who is living up to their full potential. They're not a victim to their life. They're not a victim to their circumstances. They're not letting their life overcome them. They are letting life happen. They're experiencing life, and then they are choosing what they do with that in the following days or weeks or however long it takes. You Obviously nuance with this. Please take this with a grain of salt. I know that life can be extremely challenging and there are going to be things that are extremely massive and hard and really knock us down, and maybe it's going to take us a little bit longer to get back up, and that's okay, but are you the person that then chooses to get back up? So that's full potential to me, whereas reaching your true capabilities that's actually achieving what you're already wired to achieve.
Speaker 1:Most people aren't even scratching the surface of what they're capable of. They're sabotaging, they're doubting, they're overthinking, they're distracting themselves, which is so easy to do. Look at your screen time right now. Look at the amount of time you spend on Netflix. Look at the amount of time that you spend maybe gossiping or talking shit about people. All of those are distractions. Look at how much time that you use food to soothe or online shopping to soothe, whatever it is.
Speaker 1:These are all big things, by the way, that people have to learn to work through. They're not bad, they're not negative, and if you've experienced trauma in your lifetime, which a lot of high achievers, most people think that they're problem free. A lot of high achievers have experienced something hard in their life or trauma in their life. And when you've experienced trauma, you are more likely to want to distract yourself. And then you get into a nervous system and you're more likely to be dysregulated. Of course, none of these things are just like forget about it, don't worry about it, just stop doing it.
Speaker 1:Of course there are going to be things that you have to work through, depending on on who you are and how big of these things are in your life, but most people, they distract themselves from their own capabilities, they're procrastinating or they're hesitating. They're filled with so much doubt and so many what ifs that it takes them far too long to make a decision that they know that they need to make or do or action something that they know that they need to do or action. There's so much hesitation that time is just going by and going by and going by. It's not waiting for you, and then especially for the high achiever they're wondering. Well then, why do I feel unfulfilled? Because deep down, you truly fucking know, whether you consciously realize it or not. Deep down in your core, you know that you are built for more. But knowing isn't enough. It's unfortunately. Knowing isn't enough. You have to fucking act on it.
Speaker 1:So let's chat about why this actually happens, because it's not just about motivation and it's not even just about mindset. It is so much deeper than that. Your brain is literally wired to protect you. Your nervous system is designed to keep you safe and safety. Safety means predictability. It means keeping you where you are and who you are meaning. Every single thing that you think right now, every single behavior that you have right now, all of it, it's like let's stay as this because it feels safe, even though it's not helping you, it's not getting you to where you want to be, it's limiting your ability to live to your full capabilities.
Speaker 1:You have patterns running in the background formed by your childhood, your environment, your past experiences, and they are what are telling you this is how far we go and this is what is possible for us. Like I just am, like I just get so excited by all of this and I really just want that to. Really. Like I keep saying I want that to land, which is such a fucking annoying statement to make, but like I really do want that to like land in your brains, you have things that are already telling you, that are programmed, so we run on programming. You have things that are already telling you, that are programmed. So we run on programming, our brain runs on programming our subconscious programming, that are literally setting the bar for you. They're saying this is how far we go and this is what is possible for us. And if you start pushing beyond that, if you start reaching for something bigger, stepping into unknown territory or breaking the mold of what you were taught was possible, again, let's please keep in mind it's subconscious and conscious.
Speaker 1:You can be taught things subconsciously that you store in your subconscious mind, that you believe to be true, that you don't even know is dictating your decisions and how you show up in the world and how you feel about yourself and how you act in the world, in relationships, your self-worth everything and it-worth everything, and it plays out in everything. It kind of makes me laugh because when we think of our brain and our mind and our nervous system and working on those things, most people think but nothing's wrong with me, like I feel fine, I haven't experienced like a lot of trauma in my life. Like I feel fine, I don't need to work on myself, which is just like. It's so laughable because it's like if you want to achieve anything big in your life, your mind, brain and your nervous system is dictating if you can achieve that or not. So to me, it's just like it makes the most logical sense that that's something we prioritize when we work on ourselves, because it's like it's no matter what you're doing, no matter what strategy you have, no matter, like you know, no matter any of any of that shit outside of yourself, all the external things if you are not making an effort to work on you, the internal you, you will always come across these blocks and these barriers.
Speaker 1:And some people go on to achieve things. They achieve amazing things. But what is important to me in what I achieve and maybe that's important to you as well is like I don't want to just like achieve things feeling empty. I don't want to have no like purpose behind things. I don't want to achieve things at the cost of my happiness or the cost of my relationship, feeling connected, or the cost of me being able to be a connected mom to my kids. I want to achieve big, massive things and feel so fucking fulfilled. I want my relationship to be thriving. I want to be able to parent my kids in a way that feels like I'm actually connected to my children, whilst achieving big amazing things. I don't want to be like a bucket of stress, being like on edge all the time and, you know, having to drink alcohol to soothe myself or escape my own life or whatever it is.
Speaker 1:There are people achieving big amazing things in this world? Of course there are, and they're not working on their mind and they're not working on their nervous system and they don't have to like if they don't want to, but how do they feel when they're doing it? And that's really, really important to me and for a lot of people, they will block themselves from ever achieving it because of their mind, brain and nervous system. So I think it is more rare that people achieve big, amazing things without having ever worked on themselves, having the mental strength and the resilience and the beliefs in their brain and their mind and their regular nervous system to help propel them forward. I think that's more rare and you will find that a lot of people that are very, very successful it's not until after they've reached their success that they actually start to come out and talk about, like all these things that they did and you're like what, what, like I've heard of like really big people being like yeah, I visualize every day. I've done that all of the time and you're like, what the fuck Like? Can more people talk about this on the way up to show people what it takes to actually get to where you want to be?
Speaker 1:Like you look at successful sport athletes and sport psychology and mindset coaches now for elite sport athletes is so common and it's like, if you don't have that, if you're in the elite world and you're an athlete and now you don't have a sport psychologist and you aren't working on your mind, that's going to be the thing that makes you lose, because now your competitor has an edge over you because they have a stronger mind than you and the mind plays such a huge role in whether you can succeed or not succeed, whether you can handle the pressure or not handle the pressure, whether you can show up when it's fucking hard or you can't. Like that is the difference and it's the difference for everyday people. It's the difference for people who are achieving whatever they want to achieve. And it's like now we're understanding this more and more and more and more and it's like, with this understanding, it's like we should use this. I know this sounds dramatic, but it's like we get one life to live right.
Speaker 1:And if you're ambitious and you have things that you want to achieve and you're not achieving them, why would you not tap into the biggest resource that you have, that is, your own fucking brain? Like, why would you not? To me, it's just like because I'm obsessed with it as well, like I'm like everyone should be doing this and that's my mission, right? My mission is to show people like you are capable of more, and the key to unlocking that which I know sounds so cliche and lame but like literally is within yourself. It's not outside of yourself, lane, but like literally is within yourself. It's not outside of yourself. You could achieve so much more in this lifetime, so much more, if you just took it seriously to tap into what's already within you. So that's why it's so important for me to mention that our childhood and our environment, our past experiences, are the thing that tell us. This is how far we go.
Speaker 1:And when we do start to push beyond that, and if you are reaching for something bigger and you are stepping into unknown territory, which is like if you've never done that thing before, you've never achieved that thing before, then that is unknown territory. It's no longer predictable, or you start breaking the mold of what you were taught were possible, the nervous system kicks in, your brain starts throwing up fucking red flags everywhere. You feel resistance, you feel the fear and the anxiety. You start procrastinating and you start that hesitation and doubting yourself. And the thing that like is really important for people to understand is, like, when you start succeeding, for majority of people that doesn't go away, and that's what we seem to think oh, people at the top, they don't have to worry about any of this shit Absolutely not. When you start achieving more, you also take on more pressure and more responsibility. And what do you think happens when you take on more pressure and more responsibility? Your mind becomes more important, your nervous system becomes more important. Those things are things that you want to work on, regardless of where you're at, whether you're a beginner, whether you're the fucking treasurer of Westpac, whatever you know what I mean. Like, whatever it is, we can all benefit from this shit. Because, before you realize it, once all this stuff starts kicking in with your nervous system and your mind and your brain, you start pulling back, not even consciously, and sometimes consciously, and it's not because you were never capable, but because your brain made the unknown, feel unsafe.
Speaker 1:So let's talk about high achievers for a second, because I know some of you are sitting there thinking well, I'm already a high achiever, I already push myself, I already work hard. This isn't my problem. But let me tell you something being a high achiever does not mean you're actually achieving what you're capable of. I love people like I'm a high achiever does not mean you're actually achieving what you're capable of. I love people like I. I'm a high achiever, like I'm going to do great in life.
Speaker 1:Being a high achiever is brilliant. You're driven, all the things you're ambitious, but it doesn't actually mean you are living to your full capability. And I know this because I've I've lived it, and not just lived it. I'm still living it. I don't think that I'm at my fullest potential, and not just lived it, I'm still living it. I don't think that I'm at my fullest potential. I just discovered things about myself this fucking week where I'm like whoa, like that's like a big, like light bulb moment which rarely ever happens of like oh shit, that's like that's the thing that's keeping me stuck for that next level. So cool.
Speaker 1:But I have lived it as well, like I was a teen mom at 18. I was literally told you are ruining your life. I grew up watching domestic violence, living in government housing, constantly surrounded by the belief that struggle was just a part of life, and I had two choices. I had a choice to accept that that is my reality and keep playing it small, or refuse to accept it and create something better. And trust me, I was driven as hell, but drive without self-awareness, without doing the real fucking inner work. And I don't mean inner work as in, like you know, most people, when they hear the word inner work, they think it's like very gentle and very like beautiful. No, I mean the real fucking inner work getting to know yourself, getting really honest with yourself, taking action through the fucking fear, understanding your fear, understanding where it's come from, because without any of that it's just running in circles.
Speaker 1:High achievers get trapped in overworking, perfectionism, people pleasing burnout because they think being busy means they're getting closer to their potential, this thing that they're trying to chase. But you can run at full speed in the complete wrong direction and if you don't start clearing out all of that stuff that's blocking you your fears, your patterns, your old beliefs you will never reach what you are actually capable of. You'll keep achieving. Sure, because it's who you are. You're driven, you're ambitious, you're going to keep doing the thing, but you won't achieve what you could have. Okay, so with that, how the fuck do we change this? How do you stop getting in your own way? Obviously, it's going to take time and I prefer to like.
Speaker 1:This is a podcast. You're going to listen to this and I hope you're going to take away a lot from it. But it's like doing the work isn't listening to a podcast. It's literally going out there and doing the work, or getting support, or, you know, putting yourself in spaces where doing the work is normalized, or getting an actual, you know, one-to-one coach who specializes in that performance, in this kind of mindset, in that high achiever mind, to actually help you understand yourself, get to know yourself and really dig deep into who you are and what you are truly capable of. But we'll touch on a little bit because I still want to help you in the podcast how do you stop repeating the same patterns and actually start living to your capabilities?
Speaker 1:Here's where it gets a little bit real for you guys. I'm going to give you four things that you can do. The first one is you need to start getting honest as hell with yourself when are you playing small? And be like, be really honest, I'm getting frustrated. I'm getting frustrated, like I'm actually talking to you, but I'm not frustrated, I'm excited. I'm passionate because, like it truly lights me up if you can't tell. But where are you playing small? What are your goals? Right now that you think that probably is a little small, I probably am aiming pretty low Ask yourself where are you hesitating?
Speaker 1:So this is all part of step one of you getting honest with yourself when are you playing small? Where are you hesitating? And where are you avoiding discomfort? And a lot of people can't answer that one super honestly because they're like, oh, I'm not avoiding discomfort, you are, you are avoiding discomfort. You could be way more uncomfortable. You could be doing way more things that scare the shit out of you or bring up a lot of feet, like if you're not doing something that makes you feel like, oh my God, fuck, I hate this, I'm having a bloody panic attack and I don't want to do it. You're still in your comfort zone, like, where are you still avoiding that real discomfort that you need to face? Two, you need to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable, and I mean every single day, and I mean like actual discomfort, not like oh my God, I posted something on my stories. Like real fucking discomfort, whether you are. You know some of these people that filled out the form are like leaders and executives and you know, like I said, the doctor and like there are so many amazing people and this is for everyone, not just for online coaches, not like it's for fucking everyone who wants to do something amazing with their life. You have to get uncomfortable.
Speaker 1:Growth doesn't feel good, which a lot of people hate to hear. It's why a lot of people join courses, programs, coaching, all the things, and they want it to just feel like easy and the answer and amazing and good and breakthroughs. And it's not. It doesn't always feel good. It feels like resistance, it feels heavy, it feels like uncertainty and fear. Of course it does If you're doing the same as you've always done. Of course it feels comfortable because you know exactly the outcome. It feels uncertain, but you have to learn to recognize that discomfort is a sign that you're on the right track and I know that sounds cliche and I know people like you can't grow in your comfort zone and all the different things. But saying it and actually choosing to live it every single day are two very, very different things.
Speaker 1:Three, you need to stop thinking that you have time. One year from now, you'll either be closer to what you're capable of or you're still stuck, and it's like. I know that sounds so fucking like, oh, so negative, and all the different things we have all the time in the world. We don't. We don't. Time goes so quick. Time is our most precious asset. Use it so wisely. Time is passing either way. You decide how you use it. And four, you need to stop waiting for permission. No one is coming to tell you. Now is the time. This is exactly how you do it. This is exactly the decision that you need to make.
Speaker 1:You need to be willing to make decisions make. You need to be willing to make decisions. You need to be willing to make decisions even if you don't know if they're the right or wrong one, and do it without anyone telling you yes, this is what you need to do, without needing to hear a billion people's opinions. You need to back yourself in the decisions that you're making, regardless of whether you think they're right or wrong. You don't need to sit on decisions for as long as you sit on them.
Speaker 1:You have to decide that you're ready, even when you don't feel ready, and that's the hardest thing. You need to be doing things in your day-to-day, in your life and making decisions. When you don't feel ready, you will tell yourself I'm not the person for this. I need to work on myself more, I need to learn more, I need to be more, and then I'll feel ready. No, it's now. You have to do things before you feel ready. If you don't feel ready for something, it means you're doing the right thing. Okay, now that I feel like I've like literally blasted you, for what? How many minutes? 31 minutes, you guys. I hope you love it. I hope this makes you feel like a hunger in your belly to be like fuck, yeah, I am ready, I am capable and I'm living to about 10% of what I could actually be doing and achieving in this lifetime.
Speaker 1:If you take one thing from this episode, let it be this you are capable of so much more than you believe right now. Your patterns, your conditioning, your fears they do not define you. What defines you is whether you choose to let them win or whether you fucking fight for the life that you know that you were built for, because no one is coming to save you, no one was coming to save me. It's on us. It's like it's literally on us. Guys, we get to be the change by changing ourselves, because the second that you start like really stepping up, the second that you start pushing back against the limits that you have set for yourself, you'll realize that you were never actually limited in the first place. You had all the power. You were the powerful person in your life. No one else outside of you, nothing outside of you. You. You were powerful, you were capable. You can do this.
Speaker 1:So I want you, after this episode, to go and prove yourself right and if this episode hit home, please share it. Share it with me. Just send me a DM and be like how are you feeling after this? What are you feeling after this episode? Dm me. You don't have to share it on your stories if you don't want. If you want to, I mean, it really helps me out. So like, give it a red hot crack, tag me. But if you don't feel comfortable doing that, dm me, let me know, give me feedback, or it doesn't even have to be feedback. Just tell me how you're feeling. It lights me up and, of course, I'll ask at the end of every episode mostly please rate the podcast. We're at like five stars right now. Nine ratings it's fucking brilliant. But let's like really ramp that bitch up. Please Send it to someone who needs to hear it as well. Send it to a friend, family member, send it far and wide. Who needs to hear this? Because the more people in your space, in your environment, that hear shit like this and realize that they could actually fucking be doing more and they're capable of more, you create an environment where you're all doing the fucking thing Like how good is that? And if you do want to dive deeper into this work, follow along, listen to the podcast, follow me on my Built For Better Instagram. Join the Built For Better Academy.
Speaker 1:You guys, the Built For Better Academy is up and running now. I'm posting shit in there every single day Tips, helpful things. There's a course that's running in there, the Identity Shift Framework, which is a framework that I've created that's going to help you shift your whole identity, which our identity is, the thing that actually limits us. That's who we believe we are. That's our brain, our thoughts, our mind, our nervous system. I am taking you through a process, an eight-week framework of how to actually shift that, and it is really cool. The Academy is really cool, so I'm going to put the link for that in the blurb bio. Show notes whatever the fuck you call them show notes Come join us, come hang out, come be better, come work on yourself. It's freaking epic. I'll see you guys in the next podcast episode.