Relationship Realignment: The Truth About Twin Flames, Soulmates, Karmics & Spiritual Illusions

We question the soulmate and twin flame labels that keep people stuck in longing, fantasy, and unhealthy attachment. We bring the focus back to nervous system wisdom, conscious partnership, and practical rituals that help us choose safety, self trust, and aligned love. 
• relationship realignment during spiritual awakening and times of change 
• how soulmate and twin flame language gets distorted online 
• discernment when a connection becomes an energy leak 
• why intensity and synchronicity do not guarantee alignment 
• attachment patterns as nervous system responses and ancestral inheritance 
• what divine union looks like in practice: safety, truth, reciprocity 
• somatic check in prompts for self abandonment and overgiving 
• a simple full moon ritual to pull energy back to self 
• healing attachment wounds through friendships, family, and solitude 
• grief, anger, and ritual after karmic or abusive relationships 
• letting go of the victim story and choosing co-creation going forward 

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Welcome To Body Wisdom Rising

SPEAKER_01 0:16

Welcome to Body Wisdom Rising. I'm your host, Alyssa. We're living at a profound turning point in humanity, a collective choice point where old systems are dissolving, and many of us are being called to wake up, heal, and step into deeper alignment with who we truly are. On this podcast, we explore consciousness, healing, ancestral wisdom, and the initiations that shape our lives. We also explore how to navigate times of great change and what it means when healing begins to open the door to deeper questions. Who am I really? Why am I here? And how am I being called to serve in this moment of history? Here we talk about the collective themes unfolding in our world and how each of us can learn to meet them with greater awareness, embodiment, and courage. Because real transformation doesn't just happen in the mind, it happens through the body. If you're on a path of awakening, healing, remembering, and perhaps stepping into service, you're in the right place. This is Body Wisdom Rising.

Discernment And Energy Leaks

Nervous System Attachment And Divine Union

Somatic Prompts And Full Moon Ritual

Grief Rituals After Karmic Love

Letting Go Plus Stay Connected

SPEAKER_00 1:30

Welcome back to a new episode. Welcome to anyone who is new here. My name is Alyssa. And today we are going to talk about relationship realignment, the truth about soulmates, twin flames, and spiritual illusions. And I thought it was a perfect time to speak to this. You know, I asked on Instagram what topics many of you wanted me to speak to more or expand on. And relationships, of course, is one that often comes up. And this twin flame dynamic comes up often with many people that I just meet in general. And it's becoming a pretty popular, um, I guess, topic, you could say, online. And so I want to speak to that today. I think it's a it's a very important one. And it happens to be perfect timing as well, aligned with this full moon in Libra on April 1st, which is all about relationships. So I really want to ground this because honestly, this is one of the most distorted conversations in the spiritual community that I see. You know, often people really get lost in these labels, these terms, and I myself included, I definitely did on my journey as well. And so these terms like soulmate, twin flame, karmic, these labels can actually keep people stuck, stuck in cycles, stuck in attachment, stuck in dynamics that are not actually healthy and supportive. So I went through this myself early in my awakening. You know, it's like you start going through your awakening, you meet someone around that same time, and the signs and the synchronicities are so intense, and it feels like the universe is literally like pulling you together, running into them in super random places. Your awakening is activating during this time, so it feels like it's through this connection. And so, of course, you think this must be my person. And for me personally, I never heard of the twin flame dynamic, but I started researching. So I was like, what is this? I've never felt this before, this connection before with anybody. And I ended up coming across the whole twin flame thing, and it's very convincing. And I'm not saying that, you know, it's false by any means. That's not what I'm trying to say here. I do strongly believe that there are soulmates, that there are karmic contracts, that there is divine union, there's people that we're meant to do work with in this world, that we're meant to be in relationship with, that we, you know, had these agreements before we even came here. I believe in past life connections, believe in all of that. But one thing that I do want to say and speak to is, you know, if you believe that there are benevolent forces on this planet to support us, to guide us, you know, spiritual guides, ancestors, whoever it is that you connect to, you believe in light, then you also have to believe in darkness. They can't exist without each other, right? You do have to also believe that there are also going to be forces here to distract us from our mission, from waking up, from what we're meant to do here. And that's why discernment is so important. And this is not an episode on spiritual discernment. I did a whole podcast episode on that. So definitely go back and listen to this. And this was something that I learned, I would say the hard way. And I'm still learning, still navigating it. But one thing I know is if it distracts me and it pulls me off center and it becomes an energy leak and it pulls me away from the work that I'm actually meant to be doing here, like my mission, my purpose, then either it's not aligned or I'm not ready for that relationship yet. Right. Like I need to pull that energy back to myself. I need to heal some more wounds. And not saying that we can't be in relationships and heal in relationship. Of course we can. It's not about being fully healed before we enter a relationship. But if you're not even in a relationship with this person and you keep waiting for them to come back and you keep looking for certainty or watching the next, you know, video on twin flames or researching twin flames more, how is that serving you? And it can be very painful. You know, these relationships, we can call them catalysts, come into our life to help bring all this unhealed stuff that we need to work through to the surface, bring up all of our unhealed attachment wounds. So these relationships are really beautiful and serving us because I do believe even if we call it, you know, forces here to distract us, they can actually serve us as powerful teachers if we choose to. So we always have the choice. Either we can allow it to come allow it to pull us off center, become an energy leak, and completely distract us from what we're meant to be doing, or we can use it as a mirror, as a catalyst for transformation. We do have that choice. You know, not every relationship that feels divinely guided is actually aligned in one that we're meant to be with forever or long term. You know, some people come into our lives for a brief period, some people come into our lives to help, you know, awaken us to deeper truths within ourselves. It'd be easy to get lost in spiritual fantasy. And understandably so, you know, when we've experienced a lot of trauma in relationships, if you have and you meet and you have meet this person and the connection feels so strong, it's a younger part of you that is just wanting love and connection and to be chosen. And so this topic can be really triggering for people because when you're in it, you're like, no, you don't understand the connection. No one understands this connection. I've heard this from many, many, many people, and I myself was there as well. And I'm not saying that it's false. That's not what I'm trying to say here. I'm just saying in many cases, it's been heavily distorted and hijacked because it can keep people energetically hooked into unavailable, inconsistent, or unhealthy dynamics. It can create this belief that this is my person. So I have to stay, I have to wait, I have to endure. So do I believe in soulmates? Yes. Do I believe in soul contracts? Yes. Do I believe certain people come into our lives as catalysts? Absolutely. But not every intense connection is meant to last. Some are here to activate you, wake you up, and show you your patterns and bring this unconscious material to the surface. And so, what can we do when we're in those dynamics, when we are feeling like we're pulled off center, when we can't stop obsessing and ruminating over this relationship dynamic? This is where we need to bring it back to the body. And because these attachment patterns, if you're familiar with any of that work, anxious, avoidant, disorganized, secure, none of it is fixed, it's actually a lot more nuanced than that. And it's not just psychological, it's physiological. So it lives in our nervous system. So that pull, that obsession, that feeling like you can't let go, that's often our body just recognizing something familiar. And even if that familiarity is not healthy, you know, and a lot of these patterns aren't even ours. These are generational patterns handed down from our ancestors. You know, what we learned about love, about safety, about connection gets carried into our relationships. So it feels like faded love can actually be a familiar wound. And so what divine union actually is, it's it's a real partnership, right? It's a real conscious relationship. It's not about two people coming together who've healed all their wounds, but it's two people willing to come together consciously to navigate and work on healing their own wounds in that container. So it's not built on intensity, it's built on safety, truth, reciprocity. Two whole people coming together, not two wounded parts trying to complete each other. So the work is not about finding the person, the work is becoming someone who can actually hold that kind of relationship. And that means healing your patterns, regulating your nervous system, integrating the parts of you that seek chase or abandon yourself. So if you're feeling activated by this, if you're thinking about someone, if something is coming up for you right now, this is where the work is, right? So if we are triggered by this, it's important to look at it. And so just take a moment, if you are feeling triggered, just to pause wherever you are and place a hand on your chest and one on your lower belly, and just take a slow breath and let your exhale get a little bit longer and just notice who or what is coming to my mind right now. Not the story, but the feeling. Where does it live in your body? Is there tightness? Is there pull, ache, longing? Just noticing it without trying to fix it and just some prompts. Where am I abandoning myself to stay connected? Where am I overgiving, hoping to be chosen? What am I tolerating that doesn't actually feel good in my body? And if I'm honest, do I feel safe in this connection or do I feel activated? You know, this work is not about chasing the person. It's about coming back to the part of you that feels like it needs them, the part of you that feels like I need this to feel okay. I need them to choose me. I can't let this go. You know, instead of getting stuck in these narratives and asking ourselves and searching online if they're our soulmate or our twin flame, start asking yourself, can I be the one who stays with myself? You know, a powerful practice that you can do, a little ritual under the full moon, is to sit with yourself with no distractions, light a candle, bring to mind the version of you that feels attached, that feels pulled, that feels like he or she can't let go. And instead of judging him or her, just sit with them, feel them, you know, letting them know that you can see them, that you understand why they feel this way. You know, it's not about judging ourselves. It's really about approaching with curiosity, you know, pulling all of our energy back. The things that we can accomplish when we're not distracted by these types of dynamics. And that was definitely something that I learned when I actually started to pull my energy back, when I actually started to notice that I was like really trapped in this cycle. And all it was was creating more suffering within my own life. When I actually started to pull that energy back, you know, that was when I was really able to step into my purpose and the work that I'm doing here in this world. When I really just focused on, you know, healing those attachment wounds. Of course, we need other relationship dynamics to heal them, but it doesn't have to be a romantic partnership. You know, I've been single for nine years. I have dated, but I haven't been in a serious relationship over the past nine years. But I have a lot of just incredible male friendships, have a lot of incredible, you know, female friendships and have a great relationship with my family. Like this is where we can heal our attachment wounds as well, right? Like it doesn't have to be a romantic partnership. Take yourself on dates. I take myself on dates all the time. I love my own company. I love, you know, taking myself to the spa. I'll go to a movie by myself, I'll go to dinner by myself. I love my own company so much. I've learned to really love being in solitude and then to know when I need, you know, connection and do things with others. You know, go on dates with my girlfriends, go on dates with platonic male friends. Those are really beautiful places to start. You know, if you struggled with unhealthy relationship dynamics in in the past, friendship is a really beautiful place to start healing that and healing our relationship with our family, you know, and for those karmic relationships that many of us have been in that have been also been often our the greatest catalyst for change is those, you know, painful karmic relationships. I've definitely been in many of those, but my most recent long-term relationship was a very much a karmic one. And it's important not to just like over-spiritualize it in the beginning because these relationships can be really painful, especially if they were any type of abuse. You know, leaving them, you know, we often lose that sense of self. We lose our connection to ourselves, we lose that self-trust. And so it's a process of coming back to ourselves, coming home to ourselves, learning to trust ourselves again, learning to trust when we notice those red flags and listen to them, and also trust when we notice the green flags, you know, learning to not chase intensity, but rather safety, security. And it can feel boring at first. You know, I had to reframe rather than looking for like relationships that felt exciting, looking for relationships that felt more safe, stable, but also were spontaneous, were adventurous, still gives you that thrill, but not this like, you know, dangerous, intense, toxic relationship dynamic where you're always creating conflict so you can feel those highs and lows. And like I said, you know, when we leave those dynamics, not to just try and spiritualize it right away and find the meaning right away, because we do have to go through a process often before we find the meaning, right? It's like healing those younger parts of ourselves, allowing ourselves to grieve, even if the relationship was unhealthy, still allowing ourselves to grieve. You know, it can make no sense to our mind why we would be grieving a relationship that was so unhealthy for us, but it doesn't have to make sense to our minds, right? We're grieving what we thought it was, we're grieving what we hoped it would be, we're grieving the parts of ourselves that we lost in that relationship. And so not trying to make sense to your mind of why you might be feeling a certain way if anger is coming up or if grief is coming up, just allowing yourself time to process and move through those emotions in your own time and in your own way. I'm really big on ritual. I love to create ritual around processing, you know, my emotions and creating space for it because often our emotions actually just need space. Often give ourselves space to grieve or space to feel our anger, just looking and seeing them as, you know, deeply sacred emotions. And once we allow ourselves to move through them, then we're creating space for something new to come in. It's not keeping us feeling heavy and bogged down. Then we can allow more of the true parts and the whole parts of ourselves to come online, you know. And when we move through those processes, then we can find meaning on the other side of it. I look at that relationship that I was in, and I have no, there's no pain or anger or resentment towards him anymore. Was there? Of course there was. I'm a human being. Of course there was initially. I moved through all of that, and now it's like I'm deeply grateful for that experience and how it led me to the work that I'm doing today. It was my apprenticeship, not the relationship and the trauma, but the actual healing of it, learn, you know, the lessons. And it didn't actually really go through the tests until I left it, until I started saying no to returning to those types of dynamics, until I actually did the healing work. Like the healing work is the apprenticeship that many of us have to go through in order to, you know, be healers or ourselves or sharing, you know, our stories with others. It's like coming from a place of like, yeah, I went through that and this is who I am on the other side of it now. Now that I've alchemized that and transformed that and letting go of the story, that's a big piece. You know, it's hard for a lot of people because sometimes we can stay attached to the story, whether we're getting something from it. And I had to look at this part of myself, you know, but maybe we're getting some sort of like pleasure, feeling, you know, morally right. Maybe we're getting attention for being, you know, the victim in those types of dynamics. And so fully allowing myself to let go of that story and choosing a different one going forward, one where I'm not a victim. I'm actually a powerful co-creator in my life. I'm actually creating the relationships and the life that I want. I don't feel attached to that story anymore and be willing to let it go. And so I will be going deeper into these topics. I will actually be creating a YouTube channel very shortly. Because I love to share, you know, more practical ways to navigate these times of transition, these dynamics that we end up finding ourselves in, these patterns that we have an opportunity to transmute. And it's really nice, I think, to see faces, co-regulation. I personally, when I was on my path, I loved watching YouTube videos. Longer form content really is truly where it's at. So I invite you, if you feel called to, to, you know, practice some of these rituals over the full moon. Ask yourself these questions, reflect, go inward, connect with those younger parts of you, decide what are you really wanting in your relationships going forward? Who do you want to be in your relationships is the better question. You know, we attract who we are, not what we want. We attract who we are being. If we don't believe that we're worthy to be treated with respect, to be loved, then that's going to be reflected back to us. So all of our relationships start from within and how we feel about ourselves and what we believe about ourselves. So start there. So thank you so much. Hopefully, you know, this episode reached the people who it was meant for. If it resonated with you, please let me know. You can reach out to me on Instagram. And if you aren't already, make sure that you get on my email list. I also just shared the episode that I recorded with Dr. Jesse Hansen in Costa Rica. And that was where I really went deep into my the relationship dynamic that I was in, my healing process after leaving it. So you can find that episode in the show notes. Until next time. Love you all.