Permission To Forgive Yourself

Have you ever struggled to believe that Christ's Atonement truly covers your mistakes? While we know intellectually that "infinite means infinite," applying forgiveness to ourselves can feel impossible—especially when our brains convince us that feeling terrible is the only way to prove we've changed.

In this episode, we explore why self-forgiveness feels so difficult and how shame keeps us stuck in a painful cycle. When we can't forgive ourselves, we toggle between crushing shame (believing we're bad people) and defensive blame (pointing fingers at others). Neither approach brings healing, and both prevent us from making genuine restitution.

Through a personal story about a friendship gone wrong in middle school, we examine how shame wants us to hide rather than heal. The breakthrough comes when we ask ourselves a powerful question: "How could it be okay that I did that?" This isn't about excusing our behavior—it's about finding compassion for our imperfect, learning selves.

You'll discover why beating yourself up actually prevents growth, how insecurity fuels poor treatment of others, and what it means to hand your shame over to the Savior. When we stop hiding and start healing, we gain the confidence needed to truly make things right.

No matter how big your mistakes feel, the Atonement is for you. It's time to stop the shame cycle and step into the freedom Christ offers.