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Better Husband
Better Husband, hosted by Men's Marriage and Relationship Coach Angelo Santiago, is the podcast for married men who want to strengthen and transform their marriages. After 12 years of marriage—including a near-divorce that became the catalyst for profound change—Angelo has dedicated himself to helping men learn the skills to be the husband their spouse deserves.
With a background in facilitating in-person men’s retreats, online men’s communities, and one-on-one coaching, Angelo brings expertise in relational dynamics, men’s issues, and the essential skills for a thriving marriage.
Each week, listeners will gain practical tools, actionable insights, and relatable stories. If you’re ready to communicate better, resolve conflicts effectively, and deepen your intimacy, Better Husband is your guide to answering the question, “How can I be a better husband?”
Better Husband
047|From Better Husband to Better Human: Practicing Full Respect Living Everywhere
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop to learn Angelo's 3 Secrets to Becoming a Better Husband Without Endless Therapy, Hating the Process, or Pretending to Be Someone You Are Not at www.BetterHusbandSecrets.com
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In this episode, we’re talking about Terry Real’s idea of Full Respect Living—a simple, hard standard: no one above you, no one beneath you. Through a story at the gym and practical examples from daily life, you’ll see how the same nervous system that handles strangers, coworkers, and traffic is the one that walks through your front door every night.
You’ll learn why practicing respect in the little arenas “out there” prepares you for the high-stakes moments at home, how to spot when you slide into superiority or collapse, and how to set boundaries that protect you and your marriage.
🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
✅ What Full Respect Living really means—and why it’s harder than it sounds
✅ How to spot the two slides that sabotage connection: one-up superiority and one-down collapse
✅ A simple three-breath reset to get back to center in the moment
✅ Why practicing respect out in the world makes it easier to live it at home
✅ How to set boundaries without blame—protecting yourself and your wife at the same time
✅ Why this principle shows up not only in psychology, but across faith and wisdom traditions
💡 Key Takeaway:
Being a better husband isn’t just about what happens in your marriage. It’s about how you carry yourself everywhere. The more you practice Full Respect Living out there—in traffic, at work, with your kids—the more natural it becomes at home.
🔨 Action Steps This Week:
1️⃣ Install a tripwire. Pick one body cue that tells you you’re sliding. When you feel it, say “Center,” breathe low, and choose a respectful sentence.
2️⃣ Do one rep out there every day. Name tags. Merging in traffic. Holding a door. One small, intentional act of human respect.
3️⃣ Do one rep at home every night. Ask, “Is there anything you need from me tonight?” Then listen for the headline and reflect it back.
4️⃣ Rewind once. The first time you notice yourself go sharp or collapse, stop and call a take-two. Try again, cleaner.
5️⃣ Do a two-minute nightly audit: Where did I stand equal today? Where did I slide? What will I try tomorrow?
🧠 Reflection Questions:
❓ Where do I most often go one-up—and with whom? What story is underneath that, and why do I believe I need to be better than?
❓ Where do I most often go one-down? What fear drives me to shrink back, and what does it cost me when I do?
❓ How would my marriage feel different if I practiced Full Respect Living not just at home, but everywhere in my life?
❓ What’s one boundary I need to set this week that protects both me and the relationship?
Ready to Take Action?
🚨 Watch the FREE Better Husband Workshop → BetterHusbandSecrets.com
Questions?
📩 Email Me → angelo@angelosantiago.com