A lesson in being human

A lesson in being human and empathy. These thoughts were just afternoon balcony thoughts that as I started speaking of the weather and getting into the swing of things, it became apparent that the topic was going to get a little deeper than that.

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[00:00:00] Hello? Hello, hello. I'm outside and oh my God, today we just had, okay, so our weather here was like in the nineties. Humid feels like 113 type of stuff for the last, like July was just rough, right? And even June and it got hot in May, like it's just been a hot spring and summer today. It is 80 and dry and it's actually almost in the mid seventies right now.

It's like the temperature is dropping 'cause it is six 30 at night. The sun's still out though, and there's a breeze. And the breeze is cool and it's dry. And I'm literally, these are the summers that I pray for. These are the summer. This feels like summer to me growing up in Alaska and on the west coast.

Like the humidity here is not for ru heba. Alas, today was just a gift. A gift from God or something. 'cause I am in heaven. Oh my God. It's amazing. I know, I know. There's people out there that know [00:01:00] exactly what I'm talking about. Um, and can relate. 'cause it's rough, like. And ugh, like I'm just, I feel the, I feel the wind right now.

It really does something physiologically and does something to my subconscious and my nervous system because it's just the comforts of, ugh, what? I dunno. It's just amazing, beautiful experience. Um, alright, so here we are. I am on day. I'd have to look. What's today? Friday, Saturday. Okay. I'm only on day five.

No. Monday is day one, so Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. This is day six of manifesting like dilu shit like delusional manifesting out of 30 days. And let me tell you when, I cannot wait to have this whole recap. There are already five or six things that have been manifested and that happened all in one event.

For one thing, like it's, I'm so excited and honestly there's just magic in the air. Like doing [00:02:00] this has created so much magic for me. It really has made me. Aware too of all the things that are popping up that I really wanted or desired or was like, oh, I wish this would be a thing. And the gratitude and the magic, like, I can't even explain this energy that has existed the last week.

Um, and it's just, it's beautiful. Like I don't. That's the only word I can keep. I keep using that word even on my socials today 'cause it really is just beautiful. And if you guys see, hear background noises, I'm outside. My neighborhood is not quiet. Okay. There is no, no, uh, escape from that. Actually, I think there was one time it was really quiet and I don't remember when or why, and me and my husband were walking, I think, and we thought it was the eeriest thing ever.

Because see, even now if a car goes by, like that makes noise, right? But one day it was just like [00:03:00] nothing. No one was outside. No one was driving. Oh my God. One second. The neighbor may turn on that saw again, but I actually wanted to come on here and talk about being a human and how being a human is this unique experience that we all share and many of us don't realize we share because it's like, oh, I'm having this experience now.

I'm very self-involved. I'm very aware of what I'm experiencing and what I'm feeling and what I'm knowing, and what's happening in the presence of everything. And I think what's amazing about that is when we step out of that and we understand that there are others that have either felt the same, will feel the same, or are currently feeling the same, it takes away that loneliness, right, of the human experience.

And when we, when we take that and we have the ability to then then create more empathy and understanding, right? Like. [00:04:00] Okay. If I can feel this way and someone else can feel this way, then I totally know how it feels like, dang, I understand them. I get it on this soulful human level. And if I sound distracted, it's because I keep looking at my neighbor to see when he's about to turn on that.

Table saw thing as he's measuring. I don't know what he's building. Anyway, welcome to my random as fuck podcast where your A-D-H-D-S host is trying to record outside and refuses to edit anything. Oh my gosh. Okay. So as I was saying, that human experience like, and the empathy that comes along with it. I think the more we build that muscle, like 'cause empathy, you could practice it and you can obtain it and build it, right?

But the more we understand that everyone is having a human experience and everyone is a soul, and everyone is this and that, right? Their own individual self, having their own individual experiences that relate to my own. I, and not every single situation, right, but emotions are all going to be the same.[00:05:00] 

There is a time where someone felt love. Every person, right? There is a time every person has felt afraid. There is a time where everyone has felt sad, angry, happy, elated, joyous, concerned, confused, like This is not a unique experience. Our experiences are unique to us. Yes. But I think when we start thinking more collective and understand that,

I guess understand that the people around you, no matter how different they are, no matter who they are and what they do and what they think and this and that, it is a human experience. But behind all that, their soul is still their soul. Their brain is here soaking in whatever, learning, whatever, limiting beliefs, having ideas, understanding ideology, whatever.

But in the end, when you cut it all down to the raw pieces of it, [00:06:00] we're just people, right? A person filled with anger is still a person. A person filled with sadness is still a person. A person who's confused is still a person. A person who chooses to love someone that's not the societal normal. Norm is still a person.

The serial killer in jail right now, still a person, like people are people. They're, I think when we really understand that to our core, we can understand that the human condition is, um, an escapable and we become more empathetic. Right? Like, it almost becomes this thing where it's like. Okay, so here, here's the thing for me, here's how I look at it.

I easily can see people and see what happens with them and how they react and behave. And because of knowing human behavior and because of doing the work and understanding people, I swear I could have been an anthropologist if not gone into the study of human communication and [00:07:00] psychology. But because of knowing these things and understanding.

You are this way because everything else is out the window. They're a result of a circumstance, the result of their brains and their neuro pathways. Developing them a mindset and a thought pattern and process that brought them here. And now a lot of people will be like, well, they can be self-aware and they can fix it and they can get therapy and they should be able to figure it.

Figure it the fuck out. I had to pause 'cause it's chainsaw Man win again. And, um. Yeah. When we have that a thought though, and it's like, well, I, there's no excuses. You also have to understand there was a time in your life you didn't understand something. You didn't know. You also weren't told how to know.

You didn't know where to look. You didn't even know to ask the question to what was occurring for you. There is a point in our lives where we don't even know we're supposed to be asking a question [00:08:00] to. Whatever it is, we don't even know. I hope that made sense to you, right. Like, oh, when this happens, I, I had to learn, man, I need to regulate my nervous system.

Guess what? There was a time you didn't even know what your nervous system was. There was a time when you didn't even know that you needed to ask the question, how do I regulate my nervous system? Because you didn't even know that was the culprit. You didn't know that was the thing. And so I wanna tell you, and I will reiterate this a million times, your timeline is used as unique as your fingerprint.

Now the sawman is sanding. He's done. So it's as unique as your fingerprint, right? Your timeline. So when you see other people and you say, Hey girl, it's cool you don't have a family yet. That's your own timeline. Like, don't be in a hurry. Don't compare yourself. Hey, it's cool you're not married yet. Or it's fine, you haven't hit like your entrepreneurial goals or you haven't made this much money, or your fitness goals or whatever in life.

Like take your time. Timeline. Okay. Well, as much [00:09:00] as we like to add that into the beautiful things of our lives, we have to remember to add that into the hard, uncomfortable things of our lives. So just like our timeline is to do all the wonderful things, there is a timeline for people on their healing journey and understanding their healing and themselves and self-awareness.

Now, would it be great if we all just got to that point a lot quicker in life? Yeah. 'cause it makes it slightly easier, right? Like I'm sure if they knew what's at the end of this little journey or the growth that they're going through, they would have chosen to do it earlier because it would lessen the suffering.

So that's where you have to have empathy even for that side of things. So I want you to think of a person that just like ticks you off and annoys the crap out of you there. And I already know that you thought of him because there's a lot of people out there who will instantly have this person. I actually can't think of anybody.

Not even joking. Um, I'm actually trying to think why you guys think too, because you already have your person. But I'm over here [00:10:00] like dude. I, I'm, I'm thinking of famous people too, like, I don't know. Um, okay. I could think of a couple people. Like, you know, the person who is allowing a bunch of people to starve, like, and these horrible, horrible, humanitarian issues.

So that person would probably be like, Hey dude, come on now. No. Like, stop. But now think of the person that is doing that for you right now. Think about. What about them annoys the shit out of you? And then I want you to take that and I want you to really dig into that. Like, why are you triggered? Why does that person trigger you?

Why does that, my husband was just trying to call me. Why does that person trigger you? What about them living their life in that way is bugging the grab out of you? And if it is something major, if it is something, well, they're doing this and it's affecting that and it's doing that, okay, but what can you do about it with your anger and frustration?

Is there a better way to [00:11:00] take that emotion, transmute it and find a healthier growth? Inspired, um, prosperous, what's the word I'm looking for? Uh, uh, uh, you know, channeling, like taking that energy and putting it into something better. Right, because I'm gonna tell you right now, I'm kind of, you know, I'm sure this is my own trigger, but like people who complain and complain and complain, and then do not go after a solution or do something about it.

One, I understand it takes time sometimes to repetitively, repetitively say something out loud before your brain starts making certain notices of patterns. So that's okay. But there comes a point where I'm like, if you're not gonna change it. You don't get to talk about it. I mean, you can. 'cause you know, awareness is a whole different thing though.

And, and if you want to do something about something, go do it. So this goes a lot lately. Um, oh, he's sanding [00:12:00] now. Shouldn't be too long. It's a smaller piece of wood. So, for example. What's happening around the world? Everywhere here and there in America. Whatever you think, and I'm not even gonna get political.

This is personal for you. Whatever is happening out there, what I need you to do is to go out and make a difference in some other smaller way. I need you to, instead of being like, I'm gonna share all these posts and I'm just gonna get so pissed, I'm just gonna be upset. I want you to go volunteer once a week for an animal shelter.

I want you to make sandwiches if you're able, and then go hand them out to the unhoused. I want you to ask an elderly neighbor if you can drive them somewhere to any of their appointments. I want you to go out there and do something that you, that will make a difference and that you can control. Right, because you can't control all this shit, but you can control what you do.

You can control the kindness and the effects you have on other people. You can control the, the service that you're putting to humanity. [00:13:00] And then they closed it, and I'll leave it at that. That's what, that's gonna be your action step. That's what I want you to do. Okay. Um, and if anything in this episode did trigger you personally, good, let's explore that too.

In fact, DM me, I'll explore it with you. Shit, I'm here to help you, man. Let's unpack that. It's my favorite thing to say, even when its. Something that has nothing to do. I'll be like, let's unpack that. Like, man, I'm craving chocolate. I'll be like, let's unpack that. It's just a fun saying, but until next time, I love you all so much and I will talk to you soon.

Bye.