Crazy? It's Not Us... It's Them!

The world wants you to think that YOU'RE the crazy one when truth is, the insane asylums have been opened and the crazy people are in charge and are all around you! It's time to pick a course and tell the world to take a hike. Here's how we're going to do it together. 

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You know what? I finally realized that being the nice guy just isn't cutting it anymore. And here's what I realized. I realized that when you spend the better part of your life trying to please people and make other people happy, and in so many cases they turn around and they don't like you anywhere or they hate your guts or whatever it is, because nobody likes namby-pamby. Nobody looks... at people who are just kind of milquetoast and just kind of sitting there like okay everything's fine everything's just wonderful because it ain't wonderful and it ain't fine and people are going to hate your guts no matter what you do so you might as well be yourself you might as well go after your convictions you might as well figure out what's important to you and just lay it down and say this is what i stand for this is who i am and to heck with the rest of you It happens all the time. Have you ever noticed that people, if you're like codependent or dysfunctional, you've probably spent the better part of your life trying to make other people happier to please them or make them like you or at least make them not like you. And I've got more haters than I can even count because I spent my time trying to be just like, oh, whatever you want. Okay, that's fine. I won't make waves. I've kind of had enough of that. So Maybe you'll want to come along in this journey, and I've kind of boiled it down to a few types of people I think might be interested in this whole concept of being yourself and looking at the world and saying that something's not right, something just isn't right. And you know what? It's not me. It's the weirdos that are around me, okay? So first of all, you may be a person who's tired of being what I call a... a spiritual orphan. Like, you're trying to be Catholic, and whether you want to, you know, again, if you're watching this, and whether you're Catholic, not Catholic, whatever, but my point is, for those who are Catholic, is when you're trying to be a better Catholic, man, does the people come after you. Like, It's like nobody wants you to be a better Catholic. I'll tell you, for our own family, for one. Let's say you go to Mass on Sunday. You're supposed to have a family gathering in the afternoon, and you go to church that morning, and then you go, and it's like, well, we went to church this morning. Oh, my gosh. Other members are like, oh, well, I didn't go. I slept in. I didn't go. We had to get ready for the party. There's almost this seething, like, who do you think you are trying to be better than us? It's like, wait a minute, I went to Mass. That's what Catholics do on Sundays, right? Especially Sundays. It's not a big deal. It's kind of like, it's like telling someone you got up and you ate breakfast and they're seething angry at you that you actually ate breakfast. It is the most ludicrous and crazy thing. So if you're a person who's trying to be a better Catholic, you're trying to pray more and meditate, read about the lives of the saints, you know, grow in virtue, overcome your faults. You're really trying to be a better person. This is the place for you because this is where we're, I want to talk about people who are actually making a difference in their life and to be a better person because most people don't even want to try to be a better person and they get ticked off at you because you're actually doing something to be a better person and especially on Team Catholic. I can't tell you how absolutely crazy it is that people who say they're Catholic don't even seem to want to be Catholic. You know, you've got your Christmas and Easter Catholics. Oh, we'll go just as we've always done. The cultural Catholics. Oh, we don't eat meat on Fridays. It's just what we do. It's how we grew up. All these just limp-wristed, non-committal type Catholics. And it drives me nuts. Like, aren't you even proud of who you are? Aren't you proud to call yourself a Catholic? Like, if you're on a, I don't know, a Super Bowl winning team, pick one, I don't know, San Francisco 49ers or some big team, you tell people, I'm a 49er. I am a, you know, I get up, I go out and practice with my team. I'm part of a big winning team, and we are devoted to winning. Nobody would look... Think twice about it. They wouldn't look at you weird or funny. Like, oh, yeah, well, you want to be on a team. You want to get to the Super Bowl. That's what you have to do. So rah, rah, I'm good for you. I mean, you're not my team, but I really respect that. And if you go to be a Catholic, you're like, hey, I want to go to the Catholic Super Bowl. That's heaven. I want to get there. I'm going to practice and do all the stuff that I know I should be doing, can be doing, and even beyond. I want to go above and beyond. I want to be the Catholic who stays late, you know, arrives really however you want to phrase that kind of thing. And people look at you like you're some kind of freak, and the ones who look at you like you're the freakiest are the other Catholics. Drives me mental. We even have priests and bishops, and God rest his soul, had a pope, who just, they almost look down on you for trying to be a Catholic. Like, you want to be Catholic. I don't want to be Hindu. I don't want to be Muslim. I don't want to be Protestant. I don't want to be Jewish. I want to be Catholic. It's like, well, that's kind of weird. Why would you want to be Catholic? You're on the team of Catholic, but you want to be Catholic? You know, it's almost like they look shocked. Like you come to the door and you're like, hi, I'd like to be a Catholic. Like, what? You want to be a what? So this is for all the spiritual orphans, for the people who are actually trying, who are striving. You know, and it says in Scripture that the, you know, the violent... bear it away. It's like the faithful do violence to themselves, overcoming their vices, overcoming their faults, overcoming all the things that would keep them from heaven, and they fight and they work on it. So if you're one of those people, I don't care if you're confused. I don't care if you're not really sure what's going on 100%, but if you're trying really hard to be better, man, this is the place for you. Okay, I wrote these down. Second point, Oh, you're dysfunctional. Welcome to the club. God bless you. I'm so happy to have you. Chances are you grew up in a dysfunctional home. Everybody has. There's always some kind of dysfunction. Somebody's not, you know, someone, whatever. They're narcissistic or they were just mean or all these things. You come out of a family unit and you got stuff. You're like, man, this could have been better. It wasn't that good. And for those of you who are the black sheep, the scapegoats, all the people who are looked down on, who just really didn't fit into your family, welcome to the club. This is Dysfunction Depot, baby. This is where it happens. And I'm here to tell you that when you look in the mirror... You're the best dysfunctional person I've ever met. But understand this, you are never as dysfunctional as the folks who got you to be dysfunctional. So keep that in mind. If there's a competition for being the most dysfunctional, it ain't you. All right, got that out of the way. Number three, you've been a self-help junkie for a long time because you're really not big on trusting others. You probably grew up in an environment where it was hard to trust those that you were around or... I don't know, parents, family, brothers, sisters, teachers, something in you just said, man, it's hard to trust other people. People kind of let you down. And you may have a hard time even trusting God as a father if that was an issue for you growing up. So maybe to some degree, you've got a trust issue, right? And that's another badge of honor. It's like, okay, I've got a trust issue. I have a hard time trusting God. So I'm not even going to ask you to trust me. I am going to be your non-guru guru. We're going to talk about stuff and just things that may be on your plate. And you're like, aha, no one ever brought that up before. So welcome to the club. My point number four is you want, if you're the person, if you want the truth, this is the place where, you know, I'm perfectly imperfect. I don't, I'm not a holder of truth. truth, small t, but I'm coming at you from a place of big t truth from what the Catholic Church teaches, how it teaches us to live and breathe and function and to get to heaven. So I base everything on a capital T. And I'm going to throw that truth at you whenever I can. But I'm also going to throw you the small t truth at you. The best I know it, I'm not going to be dishonest with you. I'm not going to lie to you. I'm not going to throw stuff. I'm not going to blow smoke at you and Tell you black is white and white is black because I just, I can't do that. And if you're like me, you've probably had enough of that already. You know, it's like the little boy in The Emperor's New Clothes. He looks at a big old fat guy walking down the street and he's naked and all these people are like, oh, look, he's got the most beautiful clothes. Isn't he amazing? Oh, how beautiful, spectacular. And the kid's looking and you and I are looking and saying, the fat dude is naked. He ain't got no clothes. And then you walk away in confidence because you saw what you saw. You trust your senses. What you don't trust are all the people around you who are lying to you left and right, who are, I don't know why, they're just trying to save their skin, trying to fit in, trying to be part of the crowd, trying to do whatever they're doing. We don't fit in with the crowd. You don't fit in with the crowd. You probably never have and you never will. Thank God for that. So let's be excited about that. Let's be excited that we're kind of wide-eyed. We're kind of looking at the world as it really is instead of people lying to us. And I've been called, what's it, curmudgeon, negative, melancholic, all these horrible things. When I point out things, I was just like, they're in front of me. You know, working at companies where they sit there and they're looking for cheerleaders. They're looking for the boss to come down and say, hey, do this. This is the best project that ever happened. And isn't this amazing? And they're like, wait a minute. In my experience, I don't know, man. And here's why. Here's my case and everything. You know what? Just sit down and shut up. We're just going to do it this way. And then you do it like you're told and everything falls apart and it fails. And it's not an I told you so moment. It's a moment of, hey, just... Just come to even the possibility that you may have been wrong and you want to try something, do something different. And you can carry this out in any part of your life where you try to look at things realistically because you're not fooling yourself, because you're not lying to yourself. And you're sick and tired of people who look at you like you're the crazy one because you're looking at the same thing they are It's not making any sense. It doesn't make you negative. It makes you a realist. It makes you a real person. So glorify in that. And number five, the big one, the big one, and I alluded to it in the last one, is just you're sick and tired of pretending that everything is fine. It's not fine. It's not fine. It's not fine when you go to a family get-together and... your family is either ignoring you or they're not talking to you or they're doing stuff that you're just like, you know, again, you're trying to live a better life and they're talking about, you know, I don't know, going out and getting drunk and everything or doing all these crazy things and you're just, man, you don't fit in. You want to call yourself a black sheep? Be a black sheep. You're trying to live a better life based on what you were, well, maybe, hopefully taught or what you've learned is true and See, that's the thing. When you know you found truth and you try to live that truth, we're back to full circle. People don't want you to live that way. They want to live their comfortable lives. But you're going to get in a world of hurt if you don't believe those lies. If you don't fall in and say, everything's fine. So I'm back to my emperor's clothes analogy. You're looking at the obvious. You're like Captain Obvious. This is black. It's not white. The sky is blue. It's not purple. That's a man, not a girl. That's a girl, not a man. Right? You're swept up in society. You're supposed to be part of everything. It's the whole don't make waves. It's the crabs in the bucket thing. You're trying to get out of the bucket because the bucket's filled with crazy crabs. It's like they let the insane asylum out. out and all these people are out there and they're trying to they're trying to drag you back into the bucket of their craziness so rejoice in being individual or rejoice in being yourself i've said it before saint francis sales said it he says be who you are and be that well god created you to be a certain way he created you as you are so be the best you can at that fight vice go for virtue and and when you look at the world do it with with your eyes open Quit falling for the garbage that everyone's throwing at you. It really is. It's like we're living in a time where all the insane asylums have been let out. All the crazy people are in charge. All the crazy people are all around you and living. And they're trying to convince you that their crazy, narcissistic, gaslighting view of the world is the right one and that you're the crazy person. So I've got to... Kind of a note for you. You're not crazy. Keep doing what you're doing. But I just want you to know you have a kindred spirit on this journey. This journey where you're trying to be a better person and you want someone to not lie to you. You want someone to just say, hey, this is what I see. Here's what it is. What do you see? Tell me what you see. Without all the garbage. They call it fake news for a reason. They lie to you. They just lie to you about what is and what's going on in the world. And it's not going on. And the cover ups. You don't have to fall for it. You don't have to go. And there's people out there. I know there's people out there. There's a lot of us out there who aren't falling for it. We're not going for it. And I'm mad about it. I'm mad that people sit there and they try to force their stuff on you. And you've spent a good long time convincing yourself that you're the one who's messed up. That you're the bad person. That you're screwed up. People have done a job on you. They've done a job on us. And it's time to fight back. It's time to say, no, that's not true. No, that's not black, it's white, and on and on and on. So that's the direction I'm heading. If you want to join and stay along, that's great. If you have things you want to talk about, put them on YouTube, put them in the comments. And yeah, let's talk. Let's go on this journey. Let's have some fun because this world is absolutely beyond nutso. So let's fight together. If you want to call it fighting together, at least let's commiserate together. Let's get together and know that we're not crazy, that we're the sane ones, and the rest of the world, you better watch out. So here we go. I'm excited. Hope you are too. See you in the next episode.