S4E6: The Let Them Theory - Overcoming Chronic Pain

Stop comparing. Start playing your hand.

Comparison is exhausting.
But what if it’s not the comparison itself that’s the problem?

In this episode, we dive into Chapters 9 & 10 of The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins and unpack why comparison can either drain you… or drive you forward.

We talk about:

• why comparison often kills motivation and creates self-doubt
• the hard truth: life isn’t fair – and never will be
• the difference between torturing comparison vs teaching comparison
• and how to shift from “why them?” → to “what can I learn?” 

We also get real about what we don’t see:
👉 the full picture behind someone else’s success
👉 how different life conditions shape different outcomes
👉 and why comparing yourself without context will always mislead you

Because someone else being ahead doesn’t take anything away from you.
It shows you what’s possible.

Let them have what they have.
And let me do the work.

This episode is about turning comparison into clarity and using it as fuel instead of friction.

📚 Book: The Let Them Theory

📚 Chapters: Overcoming Chronic Pain

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👯 Hosts: Sofia Stigendal & Marielle Almquist
🎧 Editing: Elmer Hermansson
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Transcript

SPEAKER_00 0:00

I had this conversation with a friend of mine who has um also has three kids and uh her oldest is also also has disabilities. And at one point I said to her that like oh my god, you're such a perfect mom. Like, how do you get this? I mean, you're you you're like there for the siblings, you're there for your oldest kid, and you know what she did? She told me off. Uh and I s I so needed to hear her be really mad at me, because she was really mad at me, uh, for for saying that. Uh, because she was like, Well, don't put me on the fucking pedestal. Uh I'm struggling here in so many ways that you cannot see. And if I might be sort of making it in one sense, well, it you don't see the whole picture.

SPEAKER_01 1:01

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SPEAKER_00 1:29

Welcome to Book Bright, the podcast that goes old school on personal development. We don't just read books, we live them. One chapter at a time. We're Sophia and Marielle, two suites, imperfect English included, balancing kids, dogs, and business life while diving into international bestsellers. And here's the thing: the book on your nightstand won't change your life until you do something with it. That's why we're here. To unpack, apply, and sometimes stumble our way through the ideas together. On the road to making it applicable, this is personal development. Lived out loud.

SPEAKER_01 2:13

Open a page, unlock your mind. Grow a little brighter, one book at a time. Stories that change you, wisdom that sticks. Welcome to Book Bright, your personal growth phase.

SPEAKER_00 2:33

Welcome to another week of Bookbright. And we're reading right now, we're reading The Latin Theory by Mel Robbins, and we're diving in shortly to chapters 9 and 10 with the theme overcoming chronic comparison. But before we do that, let's just check in as we always do and do some wins. Hi Marielle. Hello there, Sophia.

SPEAKER_02 2:59

Do you have any wins that sort of wants to be shared? Yes. I have one win. And the win is that you know, I am really practicing to be as present as I can be through my day-to-day life every day. Yeah. So what I am practicing right now is to do only one thing at a time. And it to not multitasking. Yeah. And to not just like, okay, so I'm doing this and listen to a podcast at the same time, or I am um studying my course at the same time, I'm watching television, or sitting with my phone at the same time when I'm doing I don't know what, you know.

SPEAKER_00 3:44

Yeah, I get it.

SPEAKER_02 3:45

To just okay, one thing at a time. And it it's kind of you you have to really what to say it. Um you have to really concentrate to do that because you do a lot of things without even noticing it. Yeah, right? Yes, but this is so good, and I really, really want to to tell you all that try it out because it's so good, and yes, it's sometimes kind of weird. You know, I am listening to um to books, audiobooks. Uh right now I am listening to Harry Potter because I learned the language, so I just that that's why I'm listening to these books because you're listening to it in English, in English, yes. Uh and to really listen without doing something else. It's so easy that you uh put on an audiobook and then you go and do laundry or whatever and clean the house or taking a walk. But now, no, I'm just sitting and just listening to really really concentrate. And this is so good to be really, really present in the moment and to enjoy the moment.

SPEAKER_00 4:58

Enjoy exactly what I was about to say, like to enjoy the moment, not just sort of in in pursuit of success or being present to achieve something, but to just enjoy it.

SPEAKER_02 5:11

Yes, right, yes, and and when you try to do this, when you're taking the dishes, for example, like really enjoy the thing to take the dishes. Like, oh, I'm standing here right now and and doing the dishes, and that's that's really good. And I'm really present when I'm doing it. So that's my win that I'm sure really, really worked on that, and that's really good, and I love it and want to continue to practicing it. Love it, love it, love it, love it. Yes, that's mine. What's yours?

SPEAKER_00 5:48

Mine is less deep. I mean, like, I have a thing about this, like Marielle is deep and I am not, but maybe that's just in my head, I don't know.

SPEAKER_02 6:00

But yes, I think so.

SPEAKER_00 6:01

For this win, at least, I'm just going to brag because this is like a win that I am super I'm proud of it. Um and as I've said before, like I have several podcasts, and I have another podcast as well that is just newly launched. I launched it uh this week. Yeah. And it's called the War on Paper, sort of. It's I mean it's Papisch Kriegit in Swedish.

unknown 6:31

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 6:31

Yeah. Um and it's it deals with like um the societal um support system uh when you have disabilities, like how it is to live in society when you have disabilities. So I'm talking about this from different angles. And my first episode and my sort of first um presence on social media blew up. So the first episode got like a hundred downloads the first 24 hours. Wow, yeah. Um, and that is huge for like a new podcast, yeah, and not having any followers to talk about and stuff like that. So I was like, I was really, really proud, and also for the feedback that I've gotten that this is the podcast that people have sort of been waiting for and longing for. And um wow, I have uh sent out some invitations to different people that I want to guest the podcast. Um and the response is really, really good. So that is my win that I'm sort of like bragging here that it is going good.

SPEAKER_02 7:52

Yes, that it's huge. Yeah. Congratulations.

SPEAKER_00 7:57

Well, thank you. Well, I'm so happy for you. Well, thank you. No, but it's really, really nice and it's fun.

SPEAKER_02 8:03

And it's such a really important podcast.

SPEAKER_00 8:06

It is really important podcast, and it's really near and dear to my heart. And being like a new uh platform, I have I think I've made like eight posts or something on social media uh on the new Instagram, uh, and also have a lot of followers and a lot of people who sort of um what do you say, share the the episode and come with feedback. So I'm happy for that start. Good. Yeah, I'm glad for you.

SPEAKER_02 8:39

Wow, wow, yeah, yeah. So that that was a much better win than my win.

SPEAKER_00 8:47

No, we're not comparing wins. No, we're not. Um but I just wanted to share that because yeah, um really, really happy about that. Yes, but you know what? Now, enough about us and our wins. Maybe we should just go into the the theme of the week, yes, let's and discuss that. Yes, okay. So uh I am summarizing this, and the theme of the week is overcoming chronic comparison, and it consists of chapters nine and ten, which is Yes, Life Isn't Fair, chapter nine, and chapter 10, how to make comparison your teacher. Okay, so Mel says that most of us play the comparison game. We look at others to see how we stack up with everything from careers to relationships to money to success and so on. And for many people, comparison becomes draining. It kills your motivation, it creates self-doubt, and it leads to procrastination simply because it feels unfair. It's not fair that your colleague got promoted and you didn't. It's not fair that you're still paying student loans while someone else lives in a home their parents paid for. Some people were just dealt better cards. And here's the hard truth that Mel serves us. She says, life isn't fair. It never has been, and it never will be. Luckily, though, life isn't about the cards you're dealt, it's about how well you play them. So let them have their promotion, house, and awesome relationship, and let me focus on playing my set of cards. Because it's not comparison itself that's the problem, it is how you use it in life. And Mel writes that there are two kinds of comparisons. The first is torturing comparison, and the name itself lets you know that this is not where you want to be, because that's when you're comparing yourself to things you can't change, like looks, background, family wealth, and so on. And that kind of upward comparison destroys self-esteem and it makes you feel powerless. So let them let go of what you can't control. The second is teaching comparison, and this is where growth actually happens. This is when you look at someone's success and ask yourself, what did they do that I could learn to do too? Because most of the things you want out of life are very much possible if you're willing to do the work. Because every success follows patterns, and Mel shares different patterns on how she has succeeded in social media before and how she's talking to her friend who's also she gives her a pattern on how to succeed. So instead of envying someone else who's already where you want to be, let them have it and let me be inspired. Let me see that it is possible. Let me put in the reps, let me put my foot forward and take action. Other people's success doesn't shrink your chances, it expands them. And envy can be your biggest motivator and igniter. And Mel also talks about being consistent, determined, and showing up for years to get where you want. And in her case, it took her 15 years, but she absolutely credits all of these things consistency, determination, and showing up for being where she is today. And that frustration that you feel when you compare yourself to others, that is not proof that you can't do it. It's proof that deep down you know you could. Your life is your responsibility. Nothing is guaranteed, but a lot is available to you. So if someone is ahead of you, let them and let me do the work. Because if you play your hand well, you can also win your version of this game. So that is sort of the summary of these two chapters.

SPEAKER_02 13:28

Really, really good, and that that one that really hit me was like when you how comparison really drains out your energy. Oh yes, it totally does. Yeah, and yes, it so does. Yeah, and she she is so right that you have to really don't compare yourself to others.

SPEAKER_00 13:53

Yeah, at the same time, I'm like, I think I've shared this before. Like, I think it depends on uh how you compare yourself, and I mean that is what literally what she's saying as well. Um, that the teaching comparison, uh what did they do that I could learn to do? And I think that that is something I have always done uh within like sports, for example, always looking at my teammates, like, okay, she's really good at that. How can I also become really good at that? And taking that into the working place, like I had this colleague who was an amazing project manager, like amazing. Everyone just listened to her and she got the results and everything. And I was like, my god, no one listens to me. What am I doing wrong? So I just studied her a lot. Um, and sometimes, I mean, I studied my manager as well, um, because she had this natural sort of authority about her, and I looked at her her and I was like, I want to have that sort of natural authority as well. But at first, she got intimidated, or not intimidated, but she was sort of like, okay, what are you doing, Sophia? Because she noticed that I was sort of looking at her a lot, or I was doing something. Um, sure. So she called me into her office and she was like, Okay, so what's the problem here? And I was like, Well, there's no problem. I just admire how you get things done. So I just want to copy that. Okay, I went on a rant here.

SPEAKER_02 15:34

That's really good because what you're saying right now is that you are a really good follower. Like when you follow others, you study others, other people. And and if you really want to be a good leader, you have to be a good follower. Because if you're not a good follower, you cannot end up as a good leader. Um that that they go hand in hand with each other, so it's so important to just okay, I am not as good as I want to be, and this person is really, really good, and what can I learn? Yeah. So yeah, that is um uh when you're humble and humble to life, humble to others, humble to yourself. And that's really important.

SPEAKER_00 16:21

Yeah, that's a good like add-on to this to be humble to to be humble to others sort of way of making it. Like they didn't just, I mean, she's talking about these different types of things that you're comparing yourself to, like, okay, so you can't change some of the things, like if someone has a an amazing bone structure and you don't, like, okay, you can't change that bone structure of your friend and or your sibling, and you can't change it in yourself. That's just the way it is. Yes. Um, but in all the other things, the the sort of envy that sort of comes shining through sometimes when people have their amazing job or their amazing relationship or whatnot, like be humble to what it actually took for them to get there.

SPEAKER_02 17:14

Yeah, exactly.

SPEAKER_00 17:15

I think we forget about that one.

SPEAKER_02 17:18

Exactly.

SPEAKER_00 17:19

And that's what she's saying. Like, you have to show up, you have to have the the repetitions, you have to put in the work. So be humble that someone else has actually done that.

SPEAKER_02 17:28

Yes, and she also talks about that this this can take years. Yeah, it can take years to be at that level as that person that you are following, for example, to do the work. So imagine all the years it has been taking for that person. Yeah, humble it is. That's a really good word. But I I'm kind of curious about myself because when we are talking about this comparison, you you you said in in the summary, these two different, like talking and teaching, and but what I am per automatic in my head thinking about is the negative part because yeah, I don't know why. It just comparison is the negative for me. I am doing the positive thing, so it's not that I am doing it, of course. I also follow other people's, but but when I just talk about the word comparison, it's negative. It's it I only see the part that is okay, you don't compare yourself in a negative way, in this torturing way.

SPEAKER_00 18:36

Yeah. Oh, that's a really good point. I mean, because I always say that most words have some sort of charge in them. Yeah, like yeah, it could be positive, it could be negative. Sometimes they are neutral, but not that often. Um most words have some sort of charge connected to them. I don't think you say charge, but okay. Uh some sort of like positive or negative energy connected to them when you think about them. And it's interesting that you're like, okay, so comparison is has a negative sort of ring to it, uh, per per automatic. Yeah. And well, I I'm sort of thinking, do I have that?

SPEAKER_02 19:21

You did the opposite. That's why, huh? Because when I said it, like uh like okay, the um for me it hits me when uh the energy, uh yeah, it drains energy. Yeah, and I was like, huh, interesting. Because you you just like, yeah, but comparison is a really good, huh? Yeah, that was the part that you took. You you and that's good, and that's really good. That's a good thing, and it's interesting, like, oh, so you can see it, like what's the first thing two different perspectives, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 19:58

What's the first thing you connect with the words? Yes, yeah, because that is so interesting, yeah. That is what I connected to, something positive, yeah. But that's really good also to be aware of in general, like how people react to certain words. Could I mean it you could like want the same things, but if you have a negative connection to that word and I have a positive, we have so different ways of communicating together about this. Yes.

SPEAKER_02 20:34

So that was just a sidetrack now that I got yes, but it is important, it is so important, and as you said, we have so many different words, and how do we connect with them? And maybe that is why I am connecting the negative part comparison, because when I teach other people, when I talk to my clients about this, I always say because they do compare themselves to other entrepreneurs, you know, when they see other people in the Instagram feed and feed, you know, you can compare and like, oh, I'm not good enough. And so it it is a big thing for us to talk about, me and my clients, and that's that's why I think like don't compare yourself. No, don't go in that rabbit hole, don't go in that energy.

SPEAKER_00 21:23

Yeah, um, yes, but you know what? When I'm hearing this and I'm sort of landing into the the words and sort of the the different examples, I'm like, okay, so to be totally honest now, I've had that sort of way of looking at life and looking at things for all areas of my life. Um with with one exception. Oh, okay. Interesting. Oh, let's see. And and I don't have the answer as to why that is. Um, but as with always, like the major part of my life, the Major focus of my life has always been like the parenting, right?

SPEAKER_02 22:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_00 22:05

So uh I'm not comparing myself to other parents in general, but I am comparing myself to other parents of children with disabilities. All right. Uh or I have been at least. Like, okay, so how can how come she can make that work and I can't? How come she's like okay, making all the different situations? I had this conversation with a friend of mine who has um also has three kids, and um and uh her oldest is also um also has disabilities, not the same, um, but like we go through many of the same we've met with the same doctors, we've met with the same sort of um experts, uh, but dealing with totally different preconditions of our lives. Uh and at one point I said to her that, like, oh my god, you're such a perfect mom. Like, how do you get this? I mean, you're you you're like there for the siblings, you're there for your oldest kid, um, you're there just understanding all this um um, what do you say, like doctor's lingo? That I am sort of like I don't get it at all. I have to focus so hard to be able to understand what they're talking about. Um, and you know what she did? No, she told me off. Uh and I so needed to hear her be really mad at me because because she was really mad at me for for saying that. Uh because she was like, Well, don't put me on the fucking pedestal. Uh I'm struggling here in so many ways that you cannot see. Um and it's not, I mean, when when you are being dealt, like don't take the the societal um the societal sort of um system that is failing on your own shoulders and say that you're failing. That is not a good comparison. And if I might be uh sort of making it in one sense, well, it you don't see the whole picture. And I think that was a great reminder that you don't see the whole picture, you don't see what's behind, as you said, like that Instagram feed and stuff like that. You don't know the intimate details, even though in this case, I mean, this is a friend that I talk to her a lot, right? Uh and even still, I don't have the full picture, right? That's really good. Insight is really good. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And I think sometimes we need to sort of be that brutally honest with each other, also. Like if someone is sort of putting you on that pedestal, being a bit envious, like I was with my friend, she wouldn't have it. Like she was like, get stop it, don't do that.

SPEAKER_02 25:36

It's really good that she did that. Yeah. And we also have have to remind ourselves that we have different conditions. Do you say conditions or knowledge and stuff like that? Uh for example, like, oh, you are really good at leadership, so you can use that in your situations, but your friend maybe has uh maybe she has studied something about I don't know, I just you know what she's a physiotherapist on the lead level.

SPEAKER_00 26:11

Exactly. That's my point.

SPEAKER_02 26:12

There's no, I mean she understands what the doctor is saying, yeah, other conditions, you know. Yes, yeah, um, and that's good for her, but yeah, you don't have that, so you know you cannot like turn yourself down because of that. No, you have other skills, and we have to see our own skills. What skills do we have? It's so important, yes, exactly, and that's why we cannot compare ourselves to other persons and because we have different backgrounds and we we come from different families and grew up in different areas with different environments, and everything is important in the big whole picture, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 26:55

Yeah, yes, and I think it's easy to go down the sort of wrong track here as well, in terms of being exhausted and putting stuff off and stuff like that as well. Because you could say, I mean, Mel, she says that okay, so Marielle, she is this beautiful person, she has these great cheekbones, like yeah, all around just perfect. And she says that I can't do anything about that, so I should just let you be who you are and let me just worry about myself, right? Yeah, yeah. But I think it's also easy to go the other route here, like saying that feeling sorry for myself. No, I'm just taking this as a really crappy example, but I'm not envious of you. But but you could sort of go down and and push that to yourself and just like if I'm looking at you instead of being like, okay, so she's that way, let her. I could be like, okay, so I now I see all the flaws in my face. Now I see all the stuff that is wrong with me, and make it all about pushing myself down, right? So I think there is like a a line here to be uh walked on that is sort of thin in which way you could sort of go uh when it comes to those things that you cannot change, that you actually do sort of put yourself down a lot.

SPEAKER_02 28:32

Yes, a lot. Yeah. And just say, can I it's is this something that I can control? No, it's not. No, then let it go. No, yeah, let it go. I I also um when you did your summary and when we have been talking right now, um if I just in in the comparison thing can be shifting in your life, and I am a pretty strong, I don't want to to brag, but I'm I'm pretty strong. I have been pretty strong, been pretty strong as me, myself as an entrepreneur, and like going through with the mindset that I'm not comparing myself to other people, la la la la. But then as a parent, I'm the opposite, I'm compare myself all the time. I'm not as that good parent as I should be, and blah blah blah. And I have been holding up, holding that one up, like it cannot come through me. But then something happened in my life in the beginning of the the last year, the the year that that was last year, last year, yes, and it just cracked me down with the parenting thing, and I was I hit hit the rock bottom, you know, and my self-esteem just go really, really down. It just I just fell. And when I did that in my role as a parent, I also did that in my role as an entrepreneur.

SPEAKER_00 30:04

Ah, were they connected or like no they just sort of influenced each other?

SPEAKER_02 30:11

Yes, because I was so weak in the with this like parenting thing, and it just broke me down, so I couldn't be strong in the other in the other area in my entrepreneurship. Yeah, so that broke me down as well, and that's also something that is good to remind yourself that okay, you have these different conditions, and if something is happening in your life, it can influence other things in your life as well, yeah, for sure, just for sure. Yeah, you are a human being, yeah, and you are not like okay, so I have these different um pillars in my life, and these three pillars is really strong, and they always will be strong. But if you have these other two pillars that are that are weak, you're weak is a wrong word, but you yeah, but they're not up to the same level right now, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 31:12

Exactly. Yeah, they can just break you down in the whole you. Yeah, yeah, because you are a whole person, that's the point. Like, yeah, I think we go through life sometimes and we're like, okay, so I'm shutting this part of me down uh for now because that is a bit. I mean, but you can't do that, you can't say to yourself, or you or okay, you can, but you will pay the price. Like my mother passed away last year, and I think I've said this as well. Like, there's so many people who sort of have said not to me, but around that time were sort of sharing that you know, life life uh goes on like the show must go on, right? And saying that, well, like I behind the scenes, something happened. Uh uh loved one got really sick, and I could have paused everything, I could have blamed my stopping on that, but I didn't. I powered through, and you know what? Do you it's okay, but for me, I think what I have learned with having a child with disabilities and have been powering through, just sort of trying to ignore all the things that at that time was happening. I did so much pay the price later on because the body remembers, the body remembers the trauma, the pain, the sadness, everything. And at some point it will catch up to you. So if you want to power through something, do it with the very certain knowledge that you know what part of yourself are you sort of shutting down, and what will that what does that mean? Yeah, yeah, for you as a person. Yes, yes. That yeah, that's what I'm just want to say when you say that, because like you are a whole person, and yeah, sometimes I don't think we sort of give ourselves the credit of being that. We think that we can just like we are made of five or six different parts, like it's my relationship, Sophia, it's my parenting, Sophia, it's my entrepreneurship, Sophia, it's my friendship, Sophia, and well, the friendships uh Sophia is not doing really well now, so just put her on hold, sort of ignoring all the bad stuff, or whatever it is. And yeah, I think you can do that to some degree, but you cannot just shut it down and think it doesn't affect the rest of you. No, you you have to know that at some point, as you said, it will come back, it will be this turn back and just you you cannot hide for how long that no, so be humble and kind to yourself in every area and and remind that okay, so I'm really good at this, but if I'm if something happens in my life, well, take care of yourself, yeah, because your life is a wholeness, yeah, yeah, and I think that I I really struggled with that becoming an entrepreneur as well, because as I said, I've I've always sort of uh naturally looked for the patterns, like looked for how can I do this? How can I sort of learn from someone else? But at the same time that I got to be an entrepreneur, I also had three kids, and I became an entrepreneur because my oldest kid has disabilities, and I needed and wanted to be more at home because I needed flexibility. Um but you know, that's when my two sort of worlds clashed because on the one hand, I have the recipe, I know how how to make things work. Yeah, on the other hand, I don't have the preconditions to make it work in the same tempo as the people who I'm watching, right? Exactly, exactly, and that was a major clash. And I think that is something to be aware of as well when you're comparing yourself to someone else, even when you're comparing yourself in a positive way, which I have been doing, that it can still have negative sort of side effects. Like I was not comparing myself, thinking like, oh, they are so much more further ahead of me. But I still got like really sort of depressed and down because I could not do it in the same tempo that I wanted to, because I didn't have the preconditions for that.

SPEAKER_02 36:09

No, it's so it's so freaking important. I just want the whole world to know, and it's especially when we now are talking about this entrepreneurship. There's so many entrepreneurs out there and coaches that oh, this is going awesome. I'm doing this and I'm earning this and blah blah blah, and living this life. Yeah, but you don't have kids, yeah. You're living a totally different life than I do. Yeah, so I cannot compare an apple to a banana. No, it doesn't work like that. No, no, and we forgot we forgot, we forget that sometimes. Like, yeah, oh okay, so living different life, we are different persons, have different conditionings, and as well, but both you and me have a parents that your mom passed away, and I have my dad with Alzheimer's, and that is also something that affects your life, yeah.

SPEAKER_00 37:05

Like, yeah, it's another condition, yeah, it's okay, and it's okay because I still want to be a part of that as well. Yes, of course. I want to be there for my mom when she was alive. I wanted to, I want to be there for my dad, I want to be there, like I want to be present as you started with your win, like do one thing at a time. Yeah, like we go through life trying to multitask everything, but you know, it's hard to multitask presence, right? Yep, totally um, and being okay with what that actually means then in your results and knowing that your results is not only money coming in, right? Exactly. You can measure results and success in so many different ways. Totally, totally. Wow. Okay. Do we have like anything else here to add? I think we're sort of we're we're on and off the topic from the from the theme of these two chapters, but yeah, but but it is comparison, it it's all connected, and yeah, and that's why we yeah, no, I'm I'm finished and we can talk about this a lot. Yeah. Oh, just a final thing, I just want to say that when I read these chapters, these two chapters, I was like, well, it's almost like reading Ken Honda. Oh yeah, because he also like, okay, so he's talking about um uh money being a game, um, and you have you're responsible for your life, and it isn't fair. And you know, he's talking about kids that learn that in school that that they're coming home, they want all these different stuff and toys and trips and stuff, because you know, my friend gets that, or yeah, and they're saying, like, from a very early age, it's not fair. So we're sort of programmed from a very, very young age to feel and see what is not fair.

SPEAKER_02 39:19

Yes, yeah, that's why I recognize it when you said it when you when you did your summary, like life isn't fair, and I was like, Huh, haven't we already been through this chapter? We have already talking about that, but it's a different book, yes, it can haunt us. Happy Month book.

SPEAKER_00 39:39

Yeah, I know that's good. It was the same when I read the chapters, and I was reading my own summary. I was like, hmm, have I mixed this up with something else? What is this?

SPEAKER_02 39:50

But that's the good part, you know, when you see, like, yes, he is talking about energy, he's talking about he's a sen billionaire, he's talking about money and living your life, and he's talking about energy and how how that book is connected with this book. Yeah, it's all the same, and connect the dots and yeah, see the wholeness in whatever big coaches are saying that it's all about you and everything, what it is. It's so cool, and that's the good part when we are reading like all of these books.

SPEAKER_00 40:26

Yeah, that is like the up of really diving into the books the way we are, yeah, to see the nuances of how it's all the same, but still the nuances of how it differs. Yeah, yeah, and how that lands, and how that lands, yes, yeah.

SPEAKER_02 40:48

Because we have sometimes when when some people when one people say something, maybe I just like no, I don't get it. But if another people say same thing but with different words, it's like yes, it sort of clicks, yeah, yeah, and so that's the beauty of it all.

SPEAKER_00 41:08

Yeah, okay. But to wrap this up, then let's leave um those three questions that we always end up with. Yep. That for you who are listening, what is the one thing that having read these chapters and having listened to this episode, what is the one thing that stands out for you? What is the one thing that lands with you? And why is that important to you right now? And how can you implement that or make it into one action this week? How are you going to act upon that? Okay, so that was all for this week, and we'll see you next week.

SPEAKER_02 41:57

Yes, we do.

SPEAKER_00 41:59

Have a really nice day.

SPEAKER_02 42:00

Bye. Bye.