The Rebuild
The Rebuild with Dillon Phaneuf
At some point, we all have to rebuild.
Sometimes it’s after everything falls apart, loss, failure, identity collapse.
Sometimes, life is good on paper, but something’s still missing. Either way, the work is the same: look inward, take ownership, and start again, brick by brick.
This show is about that process.
I’ve been coaching full-time for nearly 15 years. I’ve walked people through physical transformation, emotional healing, relapse, addiction, growth, success, and pain that doesn’t show up in check-ins. And right now, I’m walking through my rebuild.
This podcast is where I bring the rawness of that to the surface. You’ll hear conversations with people building something real, solo episodes where I process what I’m learning in real time, and moments that hopefully remind you you’re not alone.
Whether you’re at your best and want to go higher or on the bathroom floor trying to figure out what’s next, this space is for you.
Because even when it feels like checkmate, there’s always a better move.
The Rebuild
Your Plan Didn’t Fail. Your Capacity Did
🔍 Summary:
Most people think they failed because they were lazy or inconsistent. But the truth is, they were already consistent. Just not in the direction they wanted. This episode reframes failure as a capacity issue, not a character flaw.
Dillon walks through the four core capacities that must be trained, tolerance, fortitude, resilience, and adaptability, if you want your goals to hold under pressure.
Most plans don’t collapse on calm days. They collapse when life gets heavy. The difference-maker? Whether or not your internal structure is built to hold the weight.
🧠 What You’ll Learn:
- Why your plan didn’t actually fail, and what did
- How emotional weight, not willpower, determines most behavior
- The 4 internal capacities that predict whether your transformation holds
- Why shame-based self-talk blocks true growth
- How to stop "failing" the plan and start building a stronger container
✅ Apply This Right Now:
- Start tracking where your life applies the most pressure, and where you consistently collapse
- Don’t aim for perfection. Aim to strengthen the part of you that breaks first
- Remember: you don’t need a new plan. You need the internal structure to carry the one you already have
🔁 Identity Close:
“I didn’t fail the plan. I reached the edge of my current capacity. Now I know exactly where to build next.”