Fuck You: Success

Anne Karber challenges the current culture of criticizing extreme success and explores why we seem more comfortable with people when they are struggling rather than when they are winning. From the life-changing accessibility of Amazon to the technological leaps of Tesla, Anne discusses why high achievers like Jeff Bezos and Elon Musk are often unfairly targeted by a mob mentality. This episode is a call to action for anyone who has ever felt the need to shrink themselves or apologize for their hard work. We explore the hypocrisy of public complaints versus private habits and the necessity of focusing on your own lane. It is time to stop the comparison game and start celebrating the grit it takes to build something from nothing. 

What You'll Learn: 

• Why society tends to turn against successful individuals once they reach elite status. 
• The psychological impact of downplaying your personal wins for the comfort of others. 
• How to stop participating in groupthink and performative negativity. 
• Why your spending habits are your most powerful form of social voting. 
• The value of having the grit to stay in the arena despite criticism. 

Stop apologizing for your success and start owning your seat at the table. #SuccessMindset #CelebrateWins #Grit #EntrepreneurLife #PersonalGrowth

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Transcript

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Hey everyone. So this morning I have something going on that I wanted to talk about. That is, I was sitting outside and I saw the Amazon delivery guy pull up, and my heart got real full because he was bringing something to me this morning that I needed in caring for a sick kiddo that I have. And I thought, God, what a lovely, amazing, incredible service Amazon is. And it got me thinking about Jeff Bezos, because I think that man takes a lot of heat from a lot of people. And I can guarantee you he doesn't give a fuck, which is awesome, as I wouldn't either. But it made me start wondering why there's so much hate for him. Because that man has done for logistics on our planet what no one else was able to do or had done. And I'm grateful for him every single day that I have packages that show up that make my life run smoother, that I'm able to have easy access to things that I need to keep things moving. And today it just struck me because of the fact that I'm dealing with stuff in my house that is big, big stuff. I've got a kiddo that that had surgery earlier this week, lots of emotions, lots of other things going. And so just feeling relief when I saw that delivery driver. But it got me thinking about why in the world people are so anti-Mr. Bezos. And it kind of ties in with something that I've thought about for a while, which is in America specifically, we do not celebrate success. We get someone to a point where we're comfortable with it, uh, so that when, you know, Jeff was just selling books and was the hippie in his his Birken stocks, that was okay. Um, but then he gets to this point where he's uber successful and he's a billionaire, and then people hate him. Then it's, oh, what an asshole that guy is, and he doesn't deserve that money, and let's eat the rich and all of this stupid shit that people say. And I find that to be completely outrageous. Um, why we would do that, why we would not celebrate someone's success. I guarantee you that Mr. Bezos gives back in ways that are frankly none of any of our business, uh, and also probably in ways that we wouldn't be able to do just because of resources alone. We like to from the outside look at that and say, oh, he should do this or he should do that. And no one really has very many of the facts. You get one nugget and then everyone just kind of piles onto it. It's this whole group think and this whole like everyone trying to be like one another, which just seems so stupid to me. So if you don't really know anything, maybe just keep your opinions to yourself because no one gives a shit. Find the exact same thing with Elon Musk. Um, people are very, oh, look how great this guy is. He's inventing electric cars and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And then he did something that other people don't like, and then all of a sudden it's um, you know, screw him for whatever. And please understand, I don't pay attention to the news, I don't know all of the facts. Maybe he was one of the kids that's eating babies or raping children on the islands. I don't know. Um, but everybody does fucked up stuff, not giving him a pass for that, but I'm pretty sure that wasn't the case. Uh, regardless, he did again for our planet what is just mind-blowing as far as improvements and advancements are concerned. And instead of celebrating him and his success, the majority of people, or at least the majority of people that get loud, um, motherfucker that guy. And I just I don't understand it. It's like we put stickers on our Teslas now that say, I bought this before Elon Musk did whatever it was that Elon Musk did. Why don't you focus on shit in your own lane? Why don't you focus on fixing your own shit? That I just don't understand. Like, again, the the set we don't celebrate success. We don't allow people to uh really rebel in the things that the accomplishments that they made. What a gross, what a gross comparison game happens out there. It ties into, for me, the celebration of success and how I've spent time over my the course of my life kind of like downplaying my success to make other people comfortable. And I think that's really damaging and really dangerous. And I'm done doing that. Uh I I find that yeah, people are not comfortable with that and they don't want to see other people win. And that feels really gross to me. It feels very high school, and uh, I don't play in high school, and so I have zero intentions of downplaying success ever again in front of anybody. I just think that that's absolutely outrageous that I would have even done that. I I it is what it is, it served its purpose, but I've worked really hard to get where I am. Those gentlemen worked really hard to get where they are, and they deserve everything that they have. Um, I great. With do you like a Tesla? Great. Drive a Tesla. Do you not like a Tesla? Great. Don't drive a Tesla. Um, but but keep it moving. And we don't need your shitty comments about stuff, your stupid fucking bumper stickers about why you drive a car. If you don't like fucking Elon Musk or Teslas, then don't drive a fucking Tesla. Don't just put a fucking 50 cent sticker on the back of a $70,000 fucking vehicle. Um that's outrageous. And don't do the whole like, oh, I don't have the, you know, I'm uh up upside down or whatever. Fuck you. Fuck you. Vote with your fucking dollars, right? Like put your money where your fucking mouth is. People that complain about Jeff Bezos and then have the Amazon driver showing up at their fucking door, vote with your dollars. That's fucking absolutely bullshit that people think that they can then just sit and bitch from the sidelines uh and make excuses about why why they do the things that they do, but just motherfucker people to death that are out there doing things, that the men and women that are in the arena actually trying to contribute to things. Are there failures? Absolutely. I don't think any of those men or women that are out there swinging for the fence would say that there aren't failures. I think that's part of creating something from scratch. But the annoying part is the folks that have never created anything, who don't even fucking know what it's like to put your balls hanging in the breeze on the edge of a fucking cliff and just free ball that shit. Uh there's something to that that just is is grit. And and people that from the sidelines don't even have an idea what that's like. So the fact that you think that you can comment on someone else what they're fucking doing and be so negative and just this mob mentality to people, disgusting. Uh, so so today's episode is fuck you to people that don't celebrate one another's success. Uh, I think it's I think it's outrageous that we don't do that. I absolutely will sit here and celebrate their success. So uh, Mr. Bezos, Mr. Musk, kudos to you. Kudos to you for everything that you've uh done to um make our planet a little bit easier to navigate and to and to live on. Um, I think you guys are amazing and uh keep doing what you're doing. That's all I'm gonna say about that.