When Life Blitzes, Call a Mental Timeout S2E14

Ever wondered if the experts, coaches, and mentors we admire have it all figured out? Coach Mikki pulls back the curtain on this misconception with refreshing honesty. Despite years of experience with her  coaching football at extraordinary levels, she reveals that challenges never stop coming, what changes is how we handle them.

4th and 1 Mindset, Life's Playbook for Success

The difference between struggling and thriving isn't the absence of problems but the quality of our responses.
Life's unpredictability means we'll never face identical situations twice. The tools we develop aren't meant to eliminate challenges but to equip us for evolving through them. When someone tests your limits or pushes you to your breaking point, resisting the urge to immediately react can prevent escalation and regret. Instead, taking time to formulate a "precise, accurate, calm and thought through" response empowers you to maintain control and dignity while effectively addressing the situation.

Whether you're coaching a team, leading a business, or navigating personal relationships, this mindset applies universally. As Coach Mikki says, "We're probably going through the same thing, it's just in a different capacity." Ready to transform how you handle life's challenges? Visit www.4thand1Mindset.com to connect with Coach Mikki  directly and share situations where her perspective might help you respond rather than react.

Chapters

• 0:00 Introduction to the Fourth-to-One Mindset
• 1:53 Life's Unpredictable Challenges
• 3:33 Respond vs. React: A Field Example
• 5:02 Taking Control Through Proper Response
• 5:34 Closing Thoughts and Invitation

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:31

Okay, come on, bring it in, bring it in, listen up, listen up. So I've been asked multiple times. You know I've got this fourth to one mindset. I've been living this lifestyle of coaching football. I've been through some of the most extraordinary positions and situations and someone asked me. One of my viewers and listeners asked so is it easy now? Is it something that each and every day you've got it all together? And the answer is no, no, I don't. Each and every day is going to bring something different. It's going to bring on a new challenge. It's going to bring somebody else that's going to test me to see if I really know what I'm doing. It's going to be someone who says something to see if they can push me past the breaking point. There's going to be situations where I'm going to be second guessed. No, I'm always doing something that either one has to prove my ability or I have to be able to stop and go through what's happening and figure out how to deal with the situation.

Speaker 1: 1:41

Now, whether it's football or anything in life, I think we're always going to have these situations transpire. It doesn't matter. You can think you've got it all together, we've got it all worked out and I've got the steps and I've got the motions, but it doesn't stop there just because you have the tools. What makes it livable, extraordinary, growing, is constantly taking the situation, taking what you know and just moving forward from it each and every day. I mean that's all we can do, because no situation is ever going to be cookie cutter. You're not going to go okay, I know how to deal with this, so this is never going to happen. That's not even realistic. It's life, and life is always going to throw you something that you didn't expect. And the tools that you learn and what you do to be able to evolve and grow as a person is everything that you know and learn and take and apply each and every day. And the situation is always going to change. But what's going to make you a better person is always having the ability to stop and think it through prior to reacting to it. And if I could tell you one thing or anything that would help you through each and every one of those moments is learn how to respond, not react.

Speaker 1: 3:02

I had a situation happen this week, actually on the field, and my first reaction was I was mad, I was angry, I had to bite my lip and I said no, this is not the time. This is not the time to do it. Think it through, figure out how you want to deal with it. And I actually came home and I slept on it, thought about it and then the next day I went in and then I dealt with it in a more precise, accurate, calm and thought through way to deal with a situation. And that's what we have to do.

Speaker 1: 3:38

Sometimes. You cannot allow your emotions to overtake something that is transpiring, because you're going to end up blurting out something you don't mean or that you don't want to say, and it's only going to come back and it's only going to escalate the situation. So if I could tell you anything, when everything goes to haywire or something happens that you didn't expect, or even somebody pushes you to your limit or does something that you know you've been through a thousand times, but it's just a different person I can tell you right now, the best thing to do is don't react. Give it time, figure out the proper way to respond, and that way you can deescalate the situation, still be in control and still hold your dignity and also know that you've empowered yourself with the best choice, the best information and the best way to deal with something beyond what was presented to you. So go out there, start strong, finish strong and dominate everything in between.

Speaker 1: 4:36

I'm Coach Mickey, and if you have any other questions for me, leave them down in the comments. You know, send them on my podcast. If you go to my website, fourthinonemindsetcom, you can leave me comments, questions or something you'd like to know that I can help you through a situation that maybe you are dealing with, because I guarantee we're probably going through the same thing, it's just in a different capacity. All right, till then, I'll see you on the field next week, see ya.