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The Deliberate Exchange - Navigating Stress, Sobriety & Self-Trust — One Deliberate Step at a Time
The Deliberate Exchange is a podcast for women ready to lead themselves through stress, sobriety, and self-trust — one deliberate step at a time.
Hosted by Chelsea — a stress and confidence coach, breathwork facilitator, and Interim Director of She Walks Canada — each episode offers mindset tools, emotional regulation practices, and real conversations that help you reclaim your power and presence.
Whether you're sober, sober-curious, or simply seeking deeper self-leadership, you'll find insights on stress relief, nervous system healing, and the mind-body connection. Expect solo episodes, some guest interviews, and practical guidance to help you stop performing and start becoming who you really are.
This is for women who want to feel calm, clear, and confident — and know their growth isn’t an accident... it’s a choice.
The Deliberate Exchange - Navigating Stress, Sobriety & Self-Trust — One Deliberate Step at a Time
Why You Don’t Actually Want What You Think You Want EP 68
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In this episode, I explore the ideas from Wanting by Luke Burgis and why so many of us feel restless, dissatisfied, or perpetually chasing “the next thing,” even when our lives look good on paper.
I look at the concept of borrowed desire (mimesis), the difference between thin and thick desires, and how stress and nervous system dysregulation make it nearly impossible to know what we truly want.
This episode is especially for women who:
- feel stuck or disoriented after quitting drinking
- are high-achievers who’ve done “everything right” but still feel unfulfilled
- notice themselves chasing relief instead of meaning
- want a slower, more honest relationship with desire
We also explore scapegoating, why removing habits or people doesn’t always bring peace, and how creating safety in the nervous system is often the missing step in clarity, alignment, and real change.
If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why does nothing I want ever feel like enough?” — this conversation will meet you there.
Ways to continue the work:
🔁 Ongoing support: The Deliberate Practice — a steady rhythm of nervous system regulation, breathwork, and integration.
Free: The Complete Guide to Quitting Drinking .. a nervous-system-based guide for understanding cravings, stress, and stop/start cycles.
🧭 Personalized clarity: The Personal Power Map — a personalized nervous system and identity audit with a video walkthrough.
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