Wounded Boy, Healed Man
Wounded Boy, Healed Man is a journey into the depths of healing, exploring how personal challenges and past wounds shape who we become. Through honest conversations and insights, this podcast offers a space for reflection, resilience, and growth, especially for those navigating mental and emotional wellness.
Wounded Boy, Healed Man
Ep. 12 - The 7 Toxic Lies You Keep Telling Yourself (And How to Stop)
Episode Teaser
What if the biggest challenges in your life weren’t caused by the world around you, but by your own mind? In this episode, we dive into seven toxic lies your brain keeps telling you—distortions that sabotage your peace, relationships, and self-worth. We'll explore why these mental traps happen, how they affect your life, and what you can do to break free.
[0:00] Introduction
Welcome to the show! I talk about how I created this episode while personally wrestling with some of the same cognitive distortions we’ll discuss today. These struggles remind me (and all of us) that this work is ongoing.
[03:23] What Are Thoughts, Really?
Defining thoughts as mental events, not facts. I explain how biases shape our thinking and introduce the concept of challenging distorted thoughts as part of our mental and spiritual growth.
[04:08] The Work of Dr. Daniel Amen
A quick dive into Dr. Amen’s research on brain health and his ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts) framework. I share how his work has helped me connect brain health, mental health, and cognitive distortions.
[05:47] The 7 Lies Your Brain Tells You
We explore seven common cognitive distortions with relatable stories, including:
- Identity Illusion (“I am what I think I am”).
- Catastrophizing (“If this goes wrong, my life is over”).
- Projection (“It’s all their fault”).
- Black-and-White Thinking (“If I’m not perfect, I’m a failure”).
- Emotional Reasoning (“I’ll feel this way forever”).
- Comparison and Self-Criticism (“I should be further ahead by now”).
- Fixed Mindset (“I’m stuck like this”).
[24:03] The Fox and the Desert Thorns: A Fable
I share a short fable about a fox named Rumi, whose painful journey through the desert leads to unexpected wisdom. This story illustrates how life’s challenges can guide us toward growth.
[26:00] Consequences as a Compass
Reflecting on how struggles are not punishments but signals. I invite listeners to view the consequences of these cognitive distortions as opportunities for healing and growth.
[27:50] Toolkit for Seeing Through the Lies (CLEAR Framework)
Introducing a practical tool based on CBT:
- Catch the thought.
- Label the distortion.
- Examine the evidence.
- Adjust the thought.
- Repeat the process.
I explain how to use this framework to challenge distorted thinking and retrain your brain.
[32:24] Closing Reflection
A personal note about how this work has helped me, even as I continue to face challenges. I review the episode’s key takeaways and encourage listeners to approach their journey with patience and kindness.
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