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Conscious But Grounded
Conscious but Grounded is a podcast about spirituality: high vibe living in the real world. I ask questions like: how do we connect to the magic, spirit, source, the universe - but with our feet firmly planted on the ground? How do we show up in a conscious way and harness that to make big paradigm-busting change in the day to day of our lives?
Conscious But Grounded
S1: Ep 4: To The Nurturer, You Matter.
I wanted to share today on why self love and REAL self care is so important to me and why I am so passionate about women accessing some kind of nurturing, mind, body and soul respite, retreat and reflection time. For me, this has become my work, and as I sit and do my marketing, it's really helpful for me to tap back into the heart and riff on why it's so important that as the nurturers, we claim our right to rest.
I really hope you enjoy, relate - or that it provokes some food for thought?! Please leave me a review as it makes a big difference! Thanks so much.
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Hey! I'm Rachel! I am a qualified Holistic Life Coach and Mind Body Practitioner, Embodiment Coach, Yoga 500hrs (plus lots more extra yoga quals). I'm also an award winning content creator and have 20 years' experience in digital. I'm a mum of 3 kids and I live in the Peak District - oh and I have ADHD and I am sober. My passion is helping midlife women turn meltdown into magic!
Offerings:
My luxury retreat for midlife women! (free workshop in the pop up too)
Book a coaching taster spot with me half price
Goddess Codes Chakra Masterclass (GODDESS7 to get for £7)
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Hi, everybody. So there's so many things I could talk about right now. And one thing that's on my heart and also in my head in a very practical kind of way is My retreats and the fact that I need to promote them right now. I'm going to be really honest with you. That's my business focus right now. Promoting my retreats and also promoting my yoga classes. But in terms of bringing it into a place where we can discuss these things and the wider themes and why do I do the work I do And why do I think people need to come to yoga? Why do I think women need to come on retreat? I really believe that what I'm doing is important, and I believe that this work is important. And, this morning I was listening to I caught the end of a Radio 4 show, a discussion around women and How we are still doing the majority of unpaid labour and unpaid care work. My sister in law actually sent me the link to listen live and I just popped it on and I caught probably the last 15 minutes of it. And yeah, it made for very interesting listening. Incredibly intelligent women talking about the fact that We are still the emotional load bearers, we are still the carers, we are still the nurturers, we are still doing the domestic work in the home. And it's something that I feel really, it's a big subject to me, which is probably why my sister in law sent it to me, because I've spent years being a stay at home mum. And this has been a subject that's been the biggest subject that's weighed so heavily on my heart and in my head. and made me wrestle with who I am, what I want, what I'm here for. And still to this day, every day, every second of every day, this is at the forefront of my life. When you have three kids, and you also have five animals, and you also have a husband who has a big career, and, gosh, we're really blessed, aren't we? Like, all these amazing things. And also, I've got a decent sized house in the country, in a rainy country that always gets muddy. You hear what I'm going to say, right? You understand what I'm saying, which is my workload is large. I have a big workload domestically before I even think about what I'm putting out into the world as a career. Or even trying to earn money and bring money into the household. I've always been someone who's loved working, I really consider myself to be a very hardworking person and somebody who loves to be lit up and contributing to be contributing effectively to something and to moving the needle forward in a given area that I'm interested in and that helps other people and brings in some money as well. And before I had kids, I worked in digital marketing and I just loved it. And I just thought, gosh, I'm so lucky to work in this. Fields that I just fell into. I didn't fall, you don't fall into anything. The universe took me there, but I loved working and I gave it up because I loved my son so much. And I just thought, I don't want to be without him for a single second. It was just like this intense love affair. And I've really considered in the years that followed, he's 14 now. Did I do the right thing because I've really struggled with the balance between, holding that maternal love for him and practicalities of that, which are also very much based in domestic work. Love isn't all, love is a verb, isn't it? And so it also means cleaning for them, caring for them, feeding them, bathing them, getting them to sleep, loving them, holding space for them. All those different things, taking them to activities, all those different things. So love takes a very practical shape. Especially in parenthood. And then you have two more kids, and then that multiplies. And then you add animals into the mix, and so on and so forth. And I've always had something that I want to bring forward, and it's changed and shapeshifted, but it's been around, it used to be around homemaking, and then more into the well being stuff, and now it's the well being stuff. And also, I still believe the holistic homemaking part is there as well. And I think, my mission and it's always been around a similar type of thing which is helping other women be well through sharing my story and the things that have worked well for me and being honest about the things that I've struggled with and helping to connect to other women through that struggle. And so what I'm trying to say is I've always had this Wrestle between how do I do, how do I live my dharma? How do I live my purpose? How do I show up in the world and do the things I want to do separate to my family? Nothing's ever separate. Everything's interconnected. But how do I do that and show up for my family? And I struggle with rage. I've really, I'm really working on it, but I still have it as a problem. Probably affected by the perimenopause and my, my ADHD and things like that. And I try every day to do better and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. And then sometimes, I've really given myself grace around my rage. And when I've spoken to a therapist about it before, they were like, Yeah, it's okay to be angry about the state of things. It's okay to be angry about how much we have to do as women. And also, there's this protector part of us that rears up her kind of lioness head. And sometimes it's misplaced. Sometimes it might spill out to the kids. They don't know any better, and, but I feel like we do have this rage inside of us. And some of us, it's quiet, and we press it down, and that's okay. What Gabba Maté believes, people like him believe that's the cause of a lot of chronic illness within, with women. And for some of us We let it out, and maybe it's healthy that I let it out sometimes. I wish I didn't let it out to the kids, because I feel like it's not their fault. There's sometimes it feels like there's nowhere to, there's nowhere to vent this out to. And so where is all this going? So in my pragmatic headspace today, I was thinking, I've got to promote these retreats, right? And what I really want to do, and my promoting my work, of course I want to bring some money into my family. That's I'm completely transparent. This is a business, I'm not running a charity. But also, I really believe for in that reciprocity of exchange, in terms of you give my, me money and I give you a ticket to my retreat, or to my yoga class I feel like it is worth every penny. And I feel like the best thing that I've ever done in the last few years. is spend money, and it's the main thing by a long shot that I spend money on myself. It sends me this feedback loop constantly of You are worthy. You are worthy. Why not you? Why shouldn't you go on this yoga retreat and connect with other like minded souls who are also on this sober journey? Why shouldn't you pay for these? It's incredible potent essential oils that are really expensive, but what it does is for me, I would rather spend money on a yoga retreat or an expensive essential oil or a massage or, and so on, a therapy session because it is investing in me and not just because I'm going to be a better wife and a better mother and a better daughter and a better friend and so on, but because I'm. Fucking worth it. There's always this caveat of yeah, come and do this program with me because then you'll be a better mom. Yeah, of course. But also, do it for you. Do it for you. You are enough. You matter. My therapist, actually it was a sober coach, once said to me, you matter. You matter to me, you matter to your partner, you matter to your friends, you matter to your loved ones, you matter to your kids. But you matter, and you matter, and it's enough just to matter for you. I get a lot of women when I've been on these trips and done these things, they're like, Gosh, I really admire you for doing that. I couldn't do it because I want to spend money on the family holiday or like it feels like a lot to spend on myself and to that I say, I get it, I hear you, we're all in different economic positions but what I would say is, I try and offer things around, so there's always like a class or an online retreat or an online yoga class or like a luxury in person retreat, there's something there for everybody. Please start investing in yourself. Please stop buying makeup and clothes and start buying experiential, therapeutic, soul level nourishment for you. Set, get those wheels in motion. Send that precious energy that you're putting out into the world constantly. Unpaid labour. unpaid care work, unpaid domestic work. You are giving out so much that is unpaid, this is your payment. And that's how I view every single thing that I do, even if I've not been earning money, I view it as this is my wage, this is my payment, because I've taken a backseat in my career so that my husband can fly high and he has done amazing. And what I try and remind my kids, especially the older ones and especially my boy, is daddy wouldn't have been able to do that had I not been at home with you guys. So I do envy other couples when I'm like, gosh, you two are a real team. Yeah, we're a team too, but we've just done it differently in that I took a real step back to go into that caring hands on primary care role so that my husband's career could fly high. Now my kids are getting a bit older. I can step into that role a bit more of the working mom. Boy, let me tell you, I have done some hours. I have put in incredible amount of hours and love and effort. Nobody's going to pay me for that. So this is the way I pay myself. And not only am I doing that just for me, I'm doing that. And I said this in a meditation class that I attended today in a course that I'm doing. This is all for me, but it's also for my business, and it's also so I can help my students, but also when I have an embedded meditation practice, when I have an embedded yoga practice, I'm, I am a better mother. Yes, first and foremost, do it for you. But when mom is good, or if you don't have kids, when you are good, that will radiate out. And I was talking to my teenager at the weekend about this. He's really obsessed with like world politics, war, strategy, military history, all these different things. And I really try and just embrace him for who he is. And, but every now and then I try and just drop in a bit of wisdom that's not, that he's not gonna just like I think it's ridiculous and, I just say to him all the time, don't get too worried about the state of the world and things like that, because when it comes down to it, all you can do is look after you and not in a myopic self centered, self obsessed way, but it all starts with you. And if you're a good person, then that really will ripple out. And if we're healed, we can be there for other people. But if we're not healed, if we're not okay, we can't show up in a. in any capacity for anybody else. So I'm going to leave it there. I wanted it to be just a short ish episode to just channel and riff a little bit on where my head is at with me promoting and it can feel like. Like dry work, like marketing your retreats, marketing your classes. And really I want to just tap into like my heart behind all this, the heart centered approach behind all this. And to speak from the heart about why I do this. And also to people, help to encourage other women to just be like, yes, I deserve this. So please, go book something for yourself, even if it isn't with me, go book a massage. Or even better, come onto my website, rachaelbradyyoga. com and have a look. There's a tab there called retreats. If you can't commit to a residential retreat, then I do offer seasonal day retreats as well. And if not those, then please do come to an online yoga class where we really do connect. The next block starts on February the 24th, the week commencing where I do two classes a week, Tuesday and Thursday, midday British at GMT. We do a check in at every, everything I do a check in, and this is a relatively new thing. I was doing a casual check in, but I'm bringing it in because I want to build community. I want to look in somebody's eyes and go, I'm here, tell me, let me hold space for you because that moves the needle forward so much when we have a place to go where we can just sit and speak and people hold space for that with no judgment, no cross talk, no advice. Just listening. And I will leave it there. Okay. I love you. Thanks for listening. Please leave a comment. Please review leave a review. Let me know what you think. Please email me hello at rachelbrady. com. Follow me on Instagram at rachelbradyyoga. Oh, sorry. It's hello at rachelbradyyoga. com. I love you. Bye.