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Conscious But Grounded
Conscious but Grounded is a podcast about spirituality: high vibe living in the real world. I ask questions like: how do we connect to the magic, spirit, source, the universe - but with our feet firmly planted on the ground? How do we show up in a conscious way and harness that to make big paradigm-busting change in the day to day of our lives?
Conscious But Grounded
S1 Ep 22: Closing out S1 - Midlife women need to hear this!
This closing down S1 episode is a feisty one all about midlife - and I will go far as to say all midlife women need to hear this!!
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Hey! I'm Rachel! I am a qualified Holistic Life Coach and Mind Body Practitioner, Embodiment Coach, Yoga 500hrs (plus lots more extra yoga quals). I'm also an award winning content creator and have 20 years' experience in digital. I'm a mum of 3 kids and I live in the Peak District - oh and I have ADHD and I am sober. My passion is helping midlife women turn meltdown into magic!
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Conscious but Grounded is a podcast about spirituality, high vibe living in the real world. I ask questions like, how do we connect to the magic? The spirit, the source, the universe, but with our feet firmly planted on the ground. How do we show up in a conscious way and harness that to make big, paradigm busting change in the day to day of our lives? I'm Rachel Brady, mum of three, yoga teacher and embodiment coach. This is the place where I'll be reflecting and exploring big, deep questions, all with a pinch of self deprecation, a few proper lols, and a lot of real life. Join me.
Hello. Welcome back to Conscious Book Grounded. Today's episode is going to be a closing, but also an opening of sorts. So what I've decided to do is to round up this season, the first season of Conscious Book Grounded, um, and kind of bring it to a natural close because I feel like this first season of Conscious but grounded was very much about me feeling around in the. Dark, you will either resonate with this content or not, obviously. And some people will find like the chatty nature of this, um, podcast attractive and they will resonate with what's on my heart and my mind and my journey. Because the last, oh, since I started this couple of months or whatever, has been very much about me finding myself, uh, and, and my journey into really. My identity as a neurodivergent person in her midlife and also how that weaves into spirituality and my own struggles really. And what has happened is I've been working with my coach who is gonna come on here soon, um, in her program, and really working on, first of all, getting my offers out there and my retreat out there. And second of all. What is my movement? What is my message? And uh, yesterday I had a big realization. Uh, when I went through a, I took myself through a process of asking questions about what, what, what is this for? Who is this for? And really, you know, any book on Dharma, any book on life purpose, anything like that, uh, will always take you back to your own story. That's where the key to your purpose and your soul's journey lies. And it's just an ancient idea that's forever been true, really, which is, um, that we turn back in their wisdom to help those just slightly behind us. That's all the coaches do really, really simply. Uh, and teachers and guides. You know, I don't think you'll find a spiritual teacher or a guide who hasn't been in the shits like. The lotus flower is that the lotus flower only grows in the mud, and that's why it's a spiritual symbol. And I've talked about this before and it's that kind of like the dark night of the soul is something to sit in and, uh, the hard times or something to sit in. And this is what I've been realizing the last few days. I've had a really tumultuous time recently within personal relationships of the greatest importance, um, knowing, uh, battling with. What stays and what goes really, and that has been very aligned with what's happening on a planetary level. I'm not an astrologer, but I keep up with astrology from. Respected sources. Uh, and then there's been another shift today. Um, so what the planets have been asking us and the universe has been asking us is like, consider very carefully what's, what's staying and what's going, and then plant your roots down even. Further, we talked about that before. And then today there's another shift. Uh, don't quote me on what shift it is, but there's another shift that asks us to, uh, further kind of, well to further kind of lean into what lights us up. Um, and all of this is reflected by the work I've been doing with my coach, so, so much to say that I want to close this chapter of my podcast. I've very much been thinking about throwing this all away and then also realizing that like, no, because people are out there. That resonate with your journey and, and, and that kind of constant doubt about your own voice and its importance. I teach that to other people, to, you know, to not have that. So if I have it myself, what type of teacher am I? But I want to honor this phase of my growth by keeping this as my first season, which is very much, I might name it something like exploring, uh, because I feel like the next chapter for me is all about emergence. And emergence is the word that keeps coming up when I'm writing about my business. S because I know now what I want to focus on, who I want to focus on working with, how to describe my work, and I want to do that all very soon. And I just wanted to talk about why, why the shift, why the change? Because what I, I've been doing very much is with yoga, people think it's an exercise program. People go like, oh yeah, flexibility, stretching, da da, da. As you know, if you listen to this, it's so much more than that. It's a, it's walking a yogic path, which will I. Always do because I'm a yogi, I'm a household, a yogi. Um, and so, but if you go out into the world and say, oh, I'm a yoga teacher, that brings to mind Don't you teach yoga every day? Well, no, I don't actually. Uh, so I've really been thinking about what is my work about and who do I raid, who do I resonate most with and who do I feel most, um, useful to? And so I want to work going forward, I will be working with midlife women who are going through tough trials. Transitions. So the midlife God is such a, I mean, you know, having been through nce, which is the journey from maidenhood to, uh, motherhood, there must be a word, oh my God, I'm gonna look this up. I should have done it before this podcast. So there must be a word that goes from, you know, premenopausal to per uh, to perimenopausal to menopausal. But I am perimenopausal. I'm 45, coming on for 46, and I've talked before. This podcast about how much, I think for the last five years, I don't wanna say, oh, they've been my downfall. Oh, they've been my struggle. But that's how I kind of go to the doctors. You have to kind of phrase it like that, but they've not been my downfall. I don't say that. What I say is, the last five years I've, you know, been like a liquefy, honestly, like a metamorphosis of me on from one stage to the next. And now because of my spiritual work, I understand that this has been a portal, a huge portal, because I always, always. So followed that up with, but I wouldn't change any of it. I, I'm exactly where I need to be and the pain that I've been through has educated me. Um, and it's humbled me and it's very much shows me what needs to stay, what needs to go, what needs to change, and you just keep coming back to more healing, more healing, more healing. Because what we're taught in Western, and I'm not gonna just bash Western medicine. I mean, if I got a cancer diagnosis tomorrow, which haven't, you know, God forbid, touch wood, I won't, uh, then you better believe that, that I would go and get Western medicine to help. However, that's not to say that I, I do think. Um, the allopathic, is it called, uh, model is, it is time for change. Really. I mean, I'm a holistic person. My re on detri in life is to have a holistic approach to everything, um, and. But the Western approach, right? The western approach is like, oh, are you feeling depressed? Okay, here's a tablet again. I take antidepressants. I'm not knocking it. They've been in my life for five years. I want to come off them. But it is hard because your body gets used to them anyway, that's a whole side issue. Um, what I'm saying is we think, oh God, I've got this thing. It needs to medicate away. Get rid of it now instead of, oh wow, I'm feeling like a shell of a human. What is this telling me? Like our bodies, our mind, body, and soul is this innate, complex, incredible. We don't even understand our capacity and our potential. It's this incredible system that will never, ever lead us astray. Our gut instincts will lead us. You know, our heart will lead us. Our body will show us what is out of whack. I'm reading a book on Aveda at the minute, and your body will show. Show you what is out of work. So bringing yourself into balance in mind, body, and soul. So what we've done in the western world is because we progressed so fast, like so fast, we cannot keep up. Yesterday I was watching Gary Chu say that, you know, our grandchildren will marry AI robots. And like we're laughing about it, watching it, but like we cannot keep up our body, mind, and soul cannot keep up with the pace of progress. We are too clever for our own good. And what's happened is. Is the importance has been placed on the mind and, and the one thing that might lie to you about your body is when you just focus on the mind. The mind will keep you safe. The mind will keep you small, right? The mind will keep you in a box. The ego, we get confused between the mind and the ego. We think it's our mind. It's actually the ego. The ego is keeping us in fair. The ego is keeping us small. The ego is saying this, depression is you. These thoughts are. Real Last night I watched that therapy program. Uh, I had it on with my teenage son, with me. He wasn't watching it, but he kind of caught a bit of it. He was just playing a game on his laptop. But, uh, I like watching those things around him so he can somewhat let some of it sink in and see people talking about mental health and how it's just normal and stuff. And I was just shouting at the tv, not that the therapists weren't great, they were, some of the stuff they were doing, I've done in coaching sessions and I'm not a qualified psychotherapist. She was doing embodiment work. She was doing. In a child work, reparenting work, all these things that I'm trained in. But anyway, I just kept saying to them, they're not saying one, the tv, they're not saying one thing to them, which I would say, which is, you are not your thoughts. So fear, false evidence, appearing real. You know, all these things. We, we suffer depression. And really, instead of listening to it, okay, what is out of whack in my body? What is out of whack in my life? Is this relationship serving me? Is this job killing me? My soul is alcohol tox. You know, really ruining my mental health. Is the home that I live in toxic? Like is my sleeping pattern out of whack? Like is working night shifts creating my depression is on healed child of trauma, making me show up in a depressed way? You know, all of these questions we have to investigate. We have to stand back and witness our depression. We have to stand back and witness our behavior because. Our soul is always gonna be intact. Our soul is who we are. We're having a human experience. Our human parts are having human experiences. Don't get me wrong, it's fucking incredibly hard. I had a terrible dark night of the soul when I was still swimming in the mud, um, at the weekend, and I felt incredibly lonely and fear false evidence. Appearing real was telling me you are alone. Nobody likes you. Nobody wants to be with you. Nobody understands you. You, you are wrong. Like you are not enough. Um, and so I reached out to a couple of family members and talked, and I got, I handled it good in some ways, bad in other ways, but like, I let it move through me and I cried a lot and I, I didn't hide it from my daughter. I was like, yeah, I'm struggling with depression at the minute. And then I let it wash through me. I kept my dissertation practice up apart from one day. I think I was just like, oh. Oh, God's not happening today. I've been meditating twice a day and so keeping up that practice, my yoga Asana practice has dropped off a little bit. I'm on the way to the gym now to try and get some exercise in. I realize that I need to balance my mind, body and soul. I'm not getting enough exercise. Um, and so it's really realizing like, why am I feeling like this? What am I not committing to fully and wholly? Where am I projecting my. Shit onto other people and saying, it's your fault, it's your fault, it's your fault. No, it's my fault. I'm the one that needs to do the work. I'm the one that needs to regulate my emotions and get help to do that. And that might look like HRT. It might look like going to the gym. It might look like letting shit go. Like when your partner who is otherwise amazing is a bit messy, like it might look like going, you know what? My rage that I'm experiencing as a midlife woman is affecting this family and I need to get help. Up. You know, it is listening to what is going on in your body and realizing fucking hell, this is actually a lot of this is me. And get out of the victim consciousness because sitting back and going, I'm depressed and nobody cares about me. Nobody ever rings me. Nobody ever checks on me. Where is me? Where is me? Where is me? Do something about it. Stand back and witness what is happening and go, what needs to be fixed here? So I'm very. Good at doing that. I can wall in the ship, but I'm very proactive and I'll be like, right, this is what we're doing. We're resetting tomorrow. We're doing this, we're doing that. Because as a spiritual person, don't believe for a second that I'm getting everything wrong. No way. That's why I do this work, because I'm getting it wrong, but sorry, I'm getting, I'm not getting it right all the time. I'm getting it wrong all the time. And so that's the big misunderstanding. I spoke to my, I've said this several times recently in these episodes, you know, I spoke to my coach about it. I feel like a fraud. I feel like a fraud. I. Lose my temper at my kids. I'm supposed to be a yoga teacher. She was like, are you joking? Don't you think yoga teachers get divorced? Don't you think yoga teachers have mental breakdowns? Don't you think yoga teachers have addiction? They're the worst people for it. Not the worst, but you know what I mean? That they're the people who struggle with those things. That's why they became yoga teachers, because they need this. They're not naturally Vic. They're not naturally people who, you know, seekers are people who need this journey. They need the path. So where am I going with this? So basically realizing all of this yesterday, writing all of this down, like I'm like a fucking expert at going through shit, like hard shit, mental health shit. But I'm also very fucking good. I dusting myself off and going, what needs to be healed? What needs to be healed? What needs to be healed? What needs to be healed? Read a book. Listen to a podcast. Learn, learn. Learn, learn. I will not get stuck in victim consciousness, and I have learned through my. Yogic path that I could step back and witness, like witness, witness, witness, witness. I've also learnt tools and this is the work. The, the free workshop on my website right now, um, is a free embodiment and new parenting workshop that I did with Bel Boron, who's my co-host for my retreat in November. If you can't come to that, go get Goddess Codes. It's on my website at the mo at the moment. It's 22 pounds. It's a seven week chakra chakra balancing course. Just start to fucking listen in what is happening in this chakra, what is happening in this chakra? And if you don't believe in chakras, don't worry about it. Listen to it anyway, and see how grounded in practical advice it is. Even if you see chakras as a metaphor, right? A spiritual metaphor. The root chakra is all about safety and security, finances, sexual trauma, da da, da. These are the things you can do to heal in this area. These are the things you can do right now. Start to heal this part of you. Be proactive in your own healing. Be a self healer. You know, the most prominent people on social media, the most prominent psychologist, the holistic psychologist, her entire community is called the self healer circle. Stop. Let's stop outsourcing all of our shit to the doctors because bless them. Even though I love all the doctors at my local surgery, they're general practitioners have been trained in one mode of medicine, which is sort this thing in the. Like stick a sticking plaster on the thing that you are, that you're telling them about to make the symptoms go away. It's symptom-based. Only you know the full story. You've got 11 minutes with them or whatever it is. If you can get a bloody appointment, don't wait around doing things to self-medicate and doing things to hurt yourself and wallow and. Victimize yourself even further until you've got a doctor's appointment. Don't expect the doctor to solve all your problems. And so specifically here, I'm talking about midlife women because I feel like as midlife women, you know, talking to my mom about her experience in midlife, she actually had a. A surgical menopause'cause she had a hysterectomy and it was brutal. Like she did not have the awareness that we have today. We have things a lot better. We have awareness now of people talking about these things on Instagram. You know, we are really growing in awareness, but I also feel like this time round, this generation. It's more intense. We are, we've got kids that are all on social media and all the rest of it. We're living in this post COVID post-truth, crazy, nutty world, and it feels like the world is fricking breaking. But is it, or is it recalibrating? Are you breaking or are you recalibrating? Is part of you with the old you dying right now so you can be reborn as the next, always. Stronger. Way wiser, way more radiant wise woman. You know, this is the way we've got to look at it. Once I realized that my mental health struggles, I was told time and ex, the people that I work with regularly, I go back to them. They've known me for years and I would say to them, I'm just really struggling with my mental. Health right now. And then they would say, do you want me to feed something back to you? And I'd be like, yeah, what? And they would say, you're actually going through a spiritual awakening and you are not. You're not dying right now. You're coming alive right now. Well, part of you is dying because another part of you is about to up level. I was like, what? When I realized. That I could sit in the shit and go, this too shall pass. This too shall pass. I'm going through a process. Oh, this is what grading feels like. You know the metaphor of the butterfly liquefying, metamorphosizing. Guys, this is not bullshit. This is for real, and it will change your experience of mental health. It won't suck any less, but there is hope. You know, in the Ram Dapo. Word that I play all the time, and that fucking changed my life about four years ago. He says, you know what was, once, you know, a bright glow, fire, fire, it feels like it's ashes now, but then you spot an ember and all you've got to do is blow on that ember. It gets brighter, and then pretty much you realize that all we're gonna do for the rest of fraternity is sit around the fire. And also what you could add to that is that we're all walking each other home through this process. So the people that make it through life and learn the soul lessons that they're her to learn on this journey, they're not the ones that don't go through shit. They're going through some serious shit, but they are the ones that realize, this too shall pass. This too shall pass. And the shit I'm learning now is gonna be really good for me and it's gonna be gold on the other side of this because I'm gonna be so wise. And I'm going to use it to start this business, or I'm going to use it to help my friend, or I'm going to use it to like be really wise when my daughter comes to me with the same problem, I've been through it. I'm wise, I'm a wise woman now. So we have to realize that these things are happening to us, are actually happening for us. And it's not a problem to be fixed. It's not like, oh fuck this relationship. We keep having ups and downs and that means it's wrong. Let's. Throw it in the dustbin. No, that's life. That's relationships. They are wrong then they're right, then they're wrong. Then they're right. Because guess what? We're all healing in a mirror image of each other. You go into relationships to heal your childhood wounds, so you. Seek out people that are exactly like your parents or the exact opposite, and you're gonna play out that shit with that person. That's what a relationship is. Okay? So you either acknowledge this together and heal together and keep doing the work, or you fucking throw it in the bin and then go and repeat the same things with somebody else. So what I wanted to do today was end this chapter with a bit of a feisty one. Um, and I've made a bold decision today to publish all the ones that I've had on here stacking up and, and let people who need to hear the journey come along with me on the journey. And if you resonate, great. If you don't, it's okay. We're not all here for each other. Some people are gonna love this work. Some people, it's not gonna make sense to them. Um, if you do resonate, go to my website, which is currently Rachel Brady yoga.com. I might be changing it to Rachel Brady because I want people to understand that my work is about more. Than just yoga, although yoga is literally life. Um, so my work now going forward, I'm niching it down because if you're not marketing to somebody, you're marketing to nobody is the old chestnut. Right? Um, and I am specifically working with midlife women who are going through shit. They're going through the hormones, you know, loss. They're going through grief, they're going through divorce, they're going through empty nest, they're going through career meltdowns. They're going through. Everything, everything, everything. And I want to work with you and help you realize that this is not happening to you, is happening for you. You are not in victim mode. You are not gonna be in victim mode when you work with me. But that doesn't mean we spiritually bypass. We sit in the shit together. We feel seen. We feel heard. We use embodiment tools and yoga. To feel this shit and to heal this shit and then release it and then think, how can I express this in a way that's healthy and it's gonna serve the highest good of all? So if you enjoyed this episode, please write to me. Uh, write to me like the episode, leave a comment. Uh, email me, look me up on Instagram. I love you and closing down season one and I'm gonna be calling season one experiment. Season two is all gonna be about emergence and I have some amazing guests coming on as well, so look out for that as well. I love you so much, and God bless you if you're going through the shit right now. And just remember there is light on the other side. There's darkness and there's light. You can't have one without the other. I love you. Bye.